Underrated human qualities
Self doubt - In America we are bombarded with messages that self doubt is holding us back, that we need to just be ourselves, but I find people who don't have filters or the ability to have regrets boorish. Some self doubt is good, it helps us be better people. Too much and it becomes crippling but for a majority of Americans, paucity of self doubt is a problem.
What are some other underrated human qualities?
|by Anonymous||reply 54||September 15, 2021 4:25 AM
Following through with commitments.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||September 13, 2021 10:19 PM
Thoughtful awareness about population control for the good of the planet.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||September 13, 2021 10:23 PM
I don’t know what it is but being conscious of yours surroundings.
Being gay made me conscious of homophobia so I developed a strong sense of social cures and awareness of what’s around me. I look at every stranger walking down the street around me, I know who’s in the room, etc. It also helped me develop strong eye contact and being able to read people easily.
There are too many people who are not like this. There could be a fight or danger behind them or in front of them and they wouldn’t notice. So many times I’ve been out with friends and I can spot suspicious things or people fighting or upset on the street and my friends have no idea until it becomes insanely obvious. I notice people walking down the street have no awareness of who’s in front of them or behind them they just walk looking down or straight ahead. It’s insane to me because that makes you oblivious and that’s how crazy shit happens.
People don’t pay attention.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||September 13, 2021 10:23 PM
Quietness. Quiet. Peaceful. Solitary. Whatever you wish to call it. The opposite of talkative, outgoing, loud, and energetic.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||September 13, 2021 10:24 PM
What are human qualities?
|by Anonymous||reply 12||September 13, 2021 10:24 PM
And hold on part 2 lol
It’s not even about danger,
My former boss would talk to people and not be able to read when they wanted to stop talking and leave. She would keep going and was totally unaware when to stop talking or when people didn’t want to be bothered. She couldn’t read people’s emotions or body language at all.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||September 13, 2021 10:26 PM
R10 I know what you're talking about. Some people have no spatial awareness. It's most noticeable with groups of people(usually teenagers) walking down the street. They will clog the whole sidewalk and not let anyone through or move to the side when others are walking in the opposite direction.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||September 13, 2021 10:29 PM
R14 Yes, or like when you’re taking your time at a cash register at the grocery store or convenient store and there’s a whole line of people waiting for you and you’re oblivious to it or don’t care. To act like they’re the only person in the room.
Stuff like that. I don’t understand how people can behave that way.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||September 13, 2021 10:39 PM
Manners - holding a door, saying thank you and you're welcome, excusing yourself
|by Anonymous||reply 17||September 13, 2021 10:41 PM
Empathy. Being able to imagine yourself in someone else's shoes can help in a variety of situations.
Also, a sense of a humor. I've discovered it's a lot more rare than you'd think. Most people take life so seriously and can never laugh at anything.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||September 13, 2021 10:48 PM
Definitely being comfortable alone. So few are able to spend a quiet evening in by themselves. This is why they get into so many lousy relationships and friendships. They think it's better being with a shitty person than being by themselves.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||September 13, 2021 10:54 PM
R18, Empathy is way over rated. You have been watching too much Oprah.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||September 13, 2021 10:57 PM
The ability to understand grey areas and complexity. America is sort of a bpd culture and has been for a while. The world is not divided into Wonderful Good and Decent People vs Bad Irredeemable and Wicked People. Though both groups exist most of us are in between.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||September 13, 2021 11:09 PM
Caring about people who have nothing to offer to you.
Loving and accepting people as they truly are, not trying to change them into who you want to be or wishing they were something else. But truly loving them as their authentic self, even with all the flaws.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||September 13, 2021 11:31 PM
Being respectful on dating/hookup acts even to people you don't want to fuck. I think people forget there is an actual human behind the screen and so they think it's okay to treat them like shit.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||September 13, 2021 11:33 PM
Walking at a reasonable pace if there are people walking behind you. I'm so sick of young or youngish adults who walk at the pace of 85 year olds, despite having no obvious physical disability. Pick up the pace you turtle!
|by Anonymous||reply 28||September 13, 2021 11:57 PM
I love soft spoken people. Being soft spoken is considered odd these days. It feels like every one is trying to be so loud and constantly noticed. When someone is soft spoken it makes me notice them more and pay closer attention. I’m sick of all the loud buffoonery.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||September 14, 2021 12:17 AM
R10 and R14 are referring to what is known as "situational awareness".
|by Anonymous||reply 30||September 14, 2021 12:25 AM
Kindness, gentleness and integrity.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||September 14, 2021 12:35 AM
The ability to forgive and let things go
|by Anonymous||reply 32||September 14, 2021 12:59 AM
[quote] The ability to forgive and let things go
The ability to give an unequivocal apology.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||September 14, 2021 2:57 AM
[quote] What are human qualities?—Most of DL, here to hide behind the pointless bitchery defense
Thy name is kettle.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||September 14, 2021 3:10 AM
Yes, r37! Intellectual curiosity.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||September 14, 2021 3:13 AM
The ability to remember what happened last time.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||September 14, 2021 6:17 AM
"Drama-free." Everybody says they want someone who is "drama-free," yet, the crazy people are the ones who go out on dates all the time.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||September 14, 2021 6:46 AM
That they eventually die.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||September 14, 2021 6:47 AM
The ability of a God Emporer to turn into a Sand Worm
|by Anonymous||reply 47||September 14, 2021 6:48 AM
Someone pushing a problem or issue on you and then generously offering the solution for said problem or issue for a price (money, your unwavering loyalty, your sanity, etc.)? Fuck off.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||September 14, 2021 11:13 AM
You can't wait around for an apology that might never happen to forgive and move on with your life, R35. You can't wait forever. If a sincere apology comes, that's wonderful, but learning to forgive and put things behind you is a precious gift to yourself.
Resentment and bitterness will ruin your life if you let it.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||September 14, 2021 2:35 PM
Understanding mathematics - especially statistics. Many people, including a frustratingly number of posters here have trouble wrapping their heads around statistical concepts like 'per capita' or that the relative irrelevance of averages without auxiliary data like standard deviation.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||September 15, 2021 4:21 AM
An inner locus of control.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||September 15, 2021 4:25 AM