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Do you think the straight guys you've had sex with ever think about it?

I'm not talking about the DL fantasy where some closet case on Grindr claims to be "straight"

Talking about the not all that uncommon experience many of us had as teenagers or shortly thereafter where you fooled around with a friend or classmate who, as far as you know, was otherwise hetero and went on to lead a hetero life.

Sometimes it was a one-tine thing, sometimes it happened multiple times, usually it was oral and not anal.

But I do wonder if these guys ever think about it, if they harbor much guilt about it, if they wonder if they are bi and if they've ever told anyone else about it.

by Anonymousreply 166September 15, 2021 12:52 AM

And let's agree to disagree with the inevitable posters who will show up to assert that any straight person who has ever had a same sex experience and any gay person who has ever had an opposite sex experience is by definition bisexual.

by Anonymousreply 1July 29, 2021 11:32 PM

I know they think about it because they keep coming back for more.

Next dumb question baiting gay men, OP?

by Anonymousreply 2July 29, 2021 11:39 PM

I used to fuck a straight identifying/presenting bisexual. He compartmentalized his closet bisexuality as a "sexual fetish" and "nobody's business." Just something he did every now and then. He remains unmarried, but his last serious relationship was with a woman.

Yes, you can be straight and have had same sex experiences, but this particular guy was bi.

by Anonymousreply 3July 29, 2021 11:39 PM

Oh yeah because I get “you’re the best cocksucker I’ve ever been with” thing from them often enough. I get them trying to cling onto me for more sex too.

by Anonymousreply 4July 29, 2021 11:42 PM

I’ve sucked off but one straight guy in my life and I don’t think he does. I wish it were more.

by Anonymousreply 5July 29, 2021 11:44 PM

Oh well

This is going to devolve into one of those threads where closet cases lie to DLers about not being gay and DLers believe them.

I was talking more about high school/college/post-college experiences with friends who had a one-time experience.

Never mind.

by Anonymousreply 6July 29, 2021 11:44 PM

Delusional faggots

by Anonymousreply 7July 29, 2021 11:45 PM

Somewhat related: I had a very handsome straight friend who, after a couple of drinks, said, "I've always wondered what it would be like to kiss a guy. Would you do it with me?"

We did. His reaction:

"That was nice, but it didn't do anything for me."

by Anonymousreply 8July 29, 2021 11:51 PM

I see a guy on Facebook who I went to college with, and who I gave a blowjob to one night when he was really inebriated. I see his kids have gone off to college now, and I think of what it would be like to tell them, “Hey, I swallowed your father’s load.”

by Anonymousreply 9July 29, 2021 11:52 PM

R7 you’re just jealous

by Anonymousreply 10July 29, 2021 11:55 PM

Hot as fuck r9

by Anonymousreply 11July 29, 2021 11:56 PM

Gay men really do wish they were women, it explains all the misogyny on this site.

by Anonymousreply 12July 29, 2021 11:57 PM

Of course they think about it--even if it's not specifically about you. They think about or look at men in general because they are not totally straight.

by Anonymousreply 13July 29, 2021 11:57 PM

This is why some straight women and men hate you guys.

by Anonymousreply 14July 29, 2021 11:57 PM

Oh cut the crap r12

by Anonymousreply 15July 29, 2021 11:58 PM

Does a vampire deny it craves blood? So why should we be ashamed that we crave straight man cum?

by Anonymousreply 16July 30, 2021 12:00 AM

R12 just the straight man addicted bottom sluts.

by Anonymousreply 17July 30, 2021 12:01 AM

I blew Richard Speck!

by Anonymousreply 18July 30, 2021 12:02 AM

My friend and I messed around from middle school until senior year, eventually leading into blowing each other. He was also having sex with girls during some of that time. I haven’t seen him since I went off to college and he joined the military. I’ve heard from others over the years he’s been married a couple of times and has some kids. I have never looked for him on social media. I do wonder if he thinks about it all.

I have been with my fair share of men since him, and his is still the biggest cock I’ve ever experienced. I could barely get the head in my mouth. Of course, I am more experienced now. I’d probably be able handle it. :-)

by Anonymousreply 19July 30, 2021 12:13 AM

They're not straight!

by Anonymousreply 20July 30, 2021 12:14 AM

Oh shut up r20

by Anonymousreply 21July 30, 2021 12:17 AM

R19 he blew you = gay gay gay. Not hot.

by Anonymousreply 22July 30, 2021 12:18 AM

R21 mentally ill gay man

by Anonymousreply 23July 30, 2021 12:18 AM

Then there's the corollary to R6, the DL trolls who subscribe to the myth of the "Total Top" a curious form of self-hatred.

I was thinking situations more like the ones R9 and R19 related.

Carry on.

by Anonymousreply 24July 30, 2021 12:26 AM

As far as I know, I've never had sex with a straight guy. I suppose some of those guys at the bathhouse might have been "straight." I didn't ask. I tend to assume that if someone is sucking my cock, or taking my dick up their ass that they aren't straight.

by Anonymousreply 25July 30, 2021 12:29 AM

What about the guys who only want to be serviced before they go back home to their wife and kids?

by Anonymousreply 26July 30, 2021 12:33 AM

R22, I am as gay as gay can be. I had sex with my girlfriend in high school. Does that make me straight?

by Anonymousreply 27July 30, 2021 1:48 AM

r26 send them all to me please.

by Anonymousreply 28July 30, 2021 3:56 AM

R7/R12 was posted by a hostile heterosexual trollsock, probably paid to be here.

by Anonymousreply 29July 30, 2021 8:55 AM
by Anonymousreply 30July 30, 2021 11:18 AM

I had sex with a female before as a young questioning person. I now realize that I'm 100% gay. Does that make me self loathing? No. Does that make me "straight?" No.

Just because a straight male has wandered or explored in his past, does not make him gay. Quit being stupid.

The only self hating / self loathing (what a stupid phrase) ones are the ones who are obsessing over claiming these guys are OMG THEY ARE GAY NO MATTER WHAT. Please read above. I AM NOT STRAIGHT, yet I've had sex with females in the past.

by Anonymousreply 31July 30, 2021 11:48 AM

I don't think they do - I think they found their way.

I only recall 2 guys that I hooked up with and they are both straight for sure. In one case we were just young and dumb. The other we were both drunk and had been to a straight strip club, so we came home drunk and horny. I blew him, we jerked each other a bit, then fell asleep. Next morning we caught about it, and went on our way. He's now very happily married, and we're still great friends.

I also once ate live squid just to see if it was for me or not. It was not.

by Anonymousreply 32July 30, 2021 11:56 AM

[quote]I see a guy on Facebook who I went to college with, and who I gave a blowjob to one night when he was really inebriated

Friend him on FB and ask him if he remembers you from college and let us know what he says! Report back!😁

by Anonymousreply 33July 30, 2021 11:58 AM

Is live squid a euphemism?

by Anonymousreply 34July 30, 2021 12:00 PM

[quote]This is why some straight women and men hate you guys.

The fact that you say “you guys” makes it obvious you’re a fat frau that is angry your man is getting his back blown out by multiple guys on a regular basis.

by Anonymousreply 35July 30, 2021 12:01 PM

I think any straight man who gave in and got a blowjob from a guy will fondly remember that as the best blowjob of their lives. Even watching porn and seeing women, for whom this is their profession, it’s appalling what they do giving head and calling that a blowjob.

by Anonymousreply 36July 30, 2021 12:12 PM

Yeah baby

I can't quit thinking about your sweet pink bussy

by Anonymousreply 37July 30, 2021 12:36 PM

I go over the tiniest details every night as I pray. Then I jerk off. Set the alarm. Sleep.

by Anonymousreply 38July 30, 2021 12:50 PM

We get these threads from time to time. They tend to be by and mostly for the guys with fantasies or sex with straight men. Like Trumpsters they tend to think up is down. Bisexuality is not uncommon folks.

by Anonymousreply 39July 30, 2021 12:59 PM

The “straight guys” all later came out and flamed up and gayed themselves into gaydom- so maybe, maybe not

by Anonymousreply 40July 30, 2021 1:01 PM

R39 I feel so bad for you that you are so obsessed with politics that you can’t think of something as beautiful and pure as sex with a straight guy other than in terms of how much so-called Trumpsters like it.

by Anonymousreply 41July 30, 2021 1:18 PM

R33 he has no reason to admit he remembers, though we all know he does.

by Anonymousreply 42July 30, 2021 1:26 PM

R32 he jerked you off = gay gay gay. Not hot.

by Anonymousreply 43July 30, 2021 1:26 PM

There are two versions of this R39

There is the youthful experimentation some straight guys go through with a friend they don't realize is gay and then they go on to lead traditional hetero lives. Most all of these are between friends, guys who already know each other pretty well.

Then there is the situation you speak of where a closeted gay guy tells himself it's not "gay" if he only gets head from another guy or (more common) a gay guy pretends to be straight and married on an anonymous app because he understands that will allow him to pull much hotter guys, or a closet case pretends to be bisexual because he occasionally dates women...

That's where delusional DLers convince themselves they're sexing straight guys.

by Anonymousreply 44July 30, 2021 1:40 PM

R42 Go away.

by Anonymousreply 45July 30, 2021 1:42 PM

Interesting question, OP.

I think one good litmus test as to whether they are straight, bi, etc. as the DL always argues is whether they think about it.

For some guys, being blown by a gay guy would be very one off, transactional, any port in a storm. Those guys probably aren't thinking about it much.

by Anonymousreply 46July 30, 2021 1:51 PM

Straight guys don't even remember the fat and ugly girls that they have fucked. Why do you think they'll remember you?

by Anonymousreply 47July 30, 2021 2:24 PM

Yes. Thr reason they didn't remember the fat and ugly girls was that they had no interest in them. But they have always been chasing male approval.

by Anonymousreply 48July 30, 2021 2:33 PM

Before I tell my story: gay men can sleep with women, straight men with other men. The need to label straight men gay is not about self-hate. That idea gives more credibility to the “ call what they are” thought, and the lashing out but it’s not about that. Too many gay men can’t let go of the desire to out any man who even thinks about same sex relationships because they were shamed in some way by desire, or experience by a straight person. They really hate straight men, and hate the idea that one could step so easily back and forth and not be shamed. They are jealous, and myopic. That’s middle school bullshit.

As for remembering the sex: I am sure the few straight men who I have had sex with must think about it just once. I always kissed a straight guy during sex so he would remember it. No one forgets a real kiss. But that aside, I found men who are straight and experiment- which I think OP was trying to say- are usually men who don’t feel bullied by the thought. But when they meet the right guy they jump on it. Some are afraid of women, some are taking a break. But what makes them straight is their habits, and where they go for emotional reinforcements.

by Anonymousreply 49July 30, 2021 3:23 PM

[quote] I used to fuck a straight identifying/presenting bisexual. He compartmentalized his closet bisexuality as a "sexual fetish" and "nobody's business." Just something he did every now and then. He remains unmarried, but his last serious relationship was with a woman.

This reply, and this thread, are triggering for me. These are the only kinds of guys I’m attracted to. 😪

by Anonymousreply 50July 30, 2021 3:38 PM

[quote] As for remembering the sex: I am sure the few straight men who I have had sex with must think about it just once. I always kissed a straight guy during sex so he would remember it. No one forgets a real kiss.

That’s diabolical.

by Anonymousreply 51July 30, 2021 3:45 PM

[quote] I found men who are straight and experiment- which I think OP was trying to say

Sort of, but not in the way you seem to be describing R49

I'm thinking more of guys who experiment with friends when they're younger whereas you (I think) are describing guys who intentionally go out of their way to meet another guy for sex.

In the former case, alcohol or drugs are usually involved, but there's an emotional bond of sorts between the guys which is why I think they may remember it.

by Anonymousreply 52July 30, 2021 4:07 PM

^^Also, for a lot of gay guys, especially guys who mostly hung out with other guys in adolescence, their first experience is with a straight friend.

by Anonymousreply 53July 30, 2021 4:10 PM

R9 pretend we’re the kids and tell us the story of taking daddy’s sperm.

by Anonymousreply 54July 30, 2021 8:52 PM

R52 every single person on this forum knew that’s what you meant. For some reason, there are a few dedicated trolls who constantly feel the need to conflate those two things as if there is no distinction between them, one the rarest but most delightful conquest and the other two craven whores mashing their bodies together like it’s going out of style. It’s the most curious thing that a certain group of trolls descends on each DL thread dedicated to this topic to conflate one with the other. I feel quite sorry for these joyless cunts.

by Anonymousreply 55July 31, 2021 4:22 AM

If they had sex with me, then they ain’t straight.

by Anonymousreply 56July 31, 2021 4:26 AM

I had a straight boyfriend once. I dumped him because he was to big of a wimp to come out of the closet.

by Anonymousreply 57July 31, 2021 4:36 AM

When I was in high school I sucked off one straight guy. I’m getting hard thinking about it. He was cute and in the heat of the moment said something about me sucking his dick and I said OK. He tried to turn it down but I wouldn’t let go of it and I think he got horny so I did. My first sexual contact of any kind. I still remember the taste of him and how he tried to suppress his moans as his mother slept down the hall to the room where I hungrily slurped up her tall, cute, tan son.

I would have liked to have made this a regular thing but I didn’t know how to ask. We stayed friends for a few years but I only got to suck him one other time.

I don’t know what became of him, but I doubt he thinks about it.

by Anonymousreply 58July 31, 2021 4:44 AM

R58 Why don’t you friend him on Facebook? Not to say “Hey! Remember me? I sucked your six years ago!” But just say something like, “Remember me? We went to school together.” And see how the conversation goes.

Others on here need to do the same to liven this thread up!

by Anonymousreply 59July 31, 2021 5:04 AM

I'd say 99% of all sex is not even memorable enough to wank about it later. So, no way "straight" men remember sex with most loose bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 60July 31, 2021 5:11 AM

R60– If it’s a sexual encounter that’s out of the ordinary—and for most “mostly straight” men, it would be—of course the guy is going to remember it. He might not remember it *fondly*, if it was really bad, but he’ll remember it.

by Anonymousreply 61July 31, 2021 6:23 AM

LOL. Only if he was a loser incel who couldn't get pussy from the SPCA.

by Anonymousreply 62July 31, 2021 6:32 AM

Well, I did a little digging and found my old friend on Facebook. Couldn’t see anything but his profile and cover photos which didn’t give many clues to his current appearance or situation. I’ll have to think about opening that can of worms.

by Anonymousreply 63July 31, 2021 9:50 AM

"They really hate straight men, and hate the idea that one could step so easily back and forth and not be shamed. They are jealous, and myopic. That’s middle school bullshit."

This is internalized homophobia, moron, and these "straight guys" are so full of it for them to act on their desires they are usually 85% gay at the low end.

by Anonymousreply 64July 31, 2021 10:10 AM

Broadly speaking, this obsessive need to specifically and exactly classify the sexual orientation of men is stupid.

by Anonymousreply 65July 31, 2021 10:47 AM

R65 Why are you bringing broads into this?

by Anonymousreply 66July 31, 2021 1:35 PM

R59 I still have his number but I don’t necessarily want to be in contact. I want to remember him as he was.

R66 such people are miserable and want the rest of us to be as miserable as they are.

by Anonymousreply 67July 31, 2021 2:04 PM

R66 Wasn't trying to bring "broads' into at all. When I wrote it I was thinking of gay men.

by Anonymousreply 68July 31, 2021 2:50 PM

^^^^I am gay, BTW. Totally gay.

by Anonymousreply 69July 31, 2021 2:51 PM

R69 YOU ARE A BI CUNT AND GOT EXPOSED. You were thinking of females! Fuck off from our gay website bi cunt!

by Anonymousreply 70July 31, 2021 2:55 PM

R65, it is these men who obsess over it. As a late boomer I know men who are still trying to prove to me 40 years later they are straight. They've been married to women for 30 years but can't tell me their eye color or middle names, because these women aren't part of their mental universe. But they still remember me from one or a couple encounters 40 years ago, know that I think they are gay, and are literally hysterical trying to prove to me that they aren't -- which is of course my proof that they are. If they were really straight, they wouldn't care what I think.

by Anonymousreply 71July 31, 2021 3:48 PM

The main thing I remember

is how you moaned and whimpered like a girl while I fucked you

then you crawled up in my arms and wanted me to hold you all night

by Anonymousreply 72July 31, 2021 4:23 PM

R71 hot. How do they overcompensate and can you tell us about one of these encounters?

by Anonymousreply 73July 31, 2021 8:21 PM

R72 you fucked him = gay gay gay. Not hot.

by Anonymousreply 74July 31, 2021 8:21 PM

yes I fooled around with straight friends in middle and high school but that doesn't really count because you're still exploring and experimenting.

by Anonymousreply 75July 31, 2021 8:23 PM

R63 nobody cares. What you’re writing about is indistinguishable from a Grindr hookup. He blew you. Dude is gay.

by Anonymousreply 76July 31, 2021 8:33 PM

R49, I've seen straight women enforce the "gay label" onto these types of straight men who've had same-sex experiences more than I have ever seen gay men doing this. They seem to think if a man isn't 110 % heterosexual then he must be gay. 🙄

by Anonymousreply 77July 31, 2021 10:02 PM

R63 Oh please do it for DL! You can send him a friend request saying “Hey there! I don’t know if you remember me but we went to school together.” Obviously don’t say anything about the encounter but just keep it light and fun and see how he responds. It’ll be fun to catch up if he remembers.🙂

by Anonymousreply 78August 1, 2021 12:37 AM

I often wonder if all those straight marines that Bobby Garcia sucked off in those ultra-low-budget videos he did in the Eighties worry about popping up all over the internet 40 years later.

by Anonymousreply 79August 1, 2021 1:22 AM

Sad that DLers don't distinguish between a situation like R75 describes and closet cases you found on gay apps as an adult where the fiction that one of you was "straight" seemed to somehow make the sex hotter.

by Anonymousreply 80August 1, 2021 1:28 AM

R80 we do. Ignore the trolls.

by Anonymousreply 81August 1, 2021 4:26 AM

For about 6 months i used to mess around with a straight married guy in the army (he was stationed in the city where I live). I know he used to think about it because he told me that he did, and he was starting to have feelings for me. I knew he had young kids, and was going to be transferred to another state in a few months, so I kind of backed away as I didn't want to break up a family. I just wanted to have sex with a VERY hot and VERY hairy straight married guy in the army.

by Anonymousreply 82August 1, 2021 4:52 AM

HOT r82

by Anonymousreply 83August 1, 2021 5:03 AM

I was friends with a football player in college named Jeff. He was a total sweetheart and couldn't help flirting with everyone, including me. I desperately wanted something to happen with him, but it never did. He was just definitely straight. I hung out in his dorm room a lot. His roommate Dave was also a football player, but he was just the opposite. He never said more than two words to me. I got the impression that he didn't much care for me or gay people in general. But one day out of the blue he was extremely talkative and when Jeff left to go to the bathroom he cornered me in the room and made out with me! It was fucking hot and I could feel that his dick was hard. But that was it. He never said more than two words to me again and I always saw him around campus with a string of dumb blonde women. I sometimes wondered if I dreamed it because while he never acknowledged it, it also didn't seem like he was actively avoiding me. He was just seemingly frustratingly unaware of my existence altogether. I always wondered what brought that on and if he remembered it and thought about it. If only he knew how many times I replayed that moment in my mind (even when having sex with other men.)

by Anonymousreply 84August 1, 2021 6:06 AM

No, because no men has ever had sex with a straight guy. Since they are, you know, straight.

by Anonymousreply 85August 1, 2021 6:17 AM

R85 the exact same applies to "gay men" having sex with females, but so many of you dishonest cunts still defend the position to the death that "gay men" have sex with women.

What is occurring with these "straight" men and "gay" men is bisexuality. THEY ARE BISEXUAL, PERIOD. But most on here are fucking low intellect, dishonest, narcissistic, drug addicted bi cunts using "gay" and "straight" identity.

by Anonymousreply 86August 1, 2021 11:29 AM

I just don't understand the obsession and fixation so many gay people have on wanting to "convert" straight people or to reveal them to be secretly gay. It's really deranged to me. It seems at least 70 percent of gay porn scenes are about reluctant straight guys being converted or coerced into sex with gay guys. What in the world is the appeal of that?

On this site, most out gay men (choose any: Neil Patrick Harris, Gus Kenworthy, RuPaul, Anderson Cooper, Andy Cohen, Cheyenne Jackson, Ryan Murphy, Bowen Yang, Don Lemon, Dan Levy, Chris Colfer, Andrew Rannells, any drag queen, any porn star and on and on) are criticized ad nauseam to the point of being loathed, while all the lust is directed at straight men with speculation that they're actually gay.

I can never decide whether this is internalized homophobia or guys getting off on the thrill of the hunt.

I imagine people will say I named gay men who are particularly loathsome, but I honestly can't think of any who are not spoken of in totally disparaging ways except those who are deemed hot (Matt Bomer et al.).

It's no wonder that people like David Muir remain closeted even in 2021. I'm sure he gets a hell of a lot more dick and respect from gay guys as someone who isn't open about his sexuality.

by Anonymousreply 87August 1, 2021 11:52 AM

Blah blah blah I’m in deep denial I’m a dumbass

by Anonymousreply 88August 1, 2021 2:58 PM

A “straight” friend came to my house last month. We started drinking. About 2 in the morning he basically asked me to blow him. I quit after about 5 minutes. He got up, went home and has ghosted me ever since.

by Anonymousreply 89August 1, 2021 3:58 PM

No. Kids experiment. See the Boy Scouts.

If you had no same sex friends to at least circle jerk with, that's on you.

by Anonymousreply 90August 1, 2021 4:02 PM

HOT, R89!

by Anonymousreply 91August 1, 2021 4:05 PM

The best blowjob I ever got was from a guy and I do think about from time to time. I've gotten some good ones from women but less than a handful of times have they been really into it. It's almost always more transactional and rarely do they make me cum unless I fuck them (and I hate wearing condoms). Every now and then I would hop on Craigslist to find an eager guy to suck me off.

by Anonymousreply 92August 1, 2021 4:11 PM

How do you identify, R92? Mostly straight? Bi?

by Anonymousreply 93August 1, 2021 4:17 PM

I identify as a borderline sex addict.

by Anonymousreply 94August 1, 2021 4:31 PM

Cool, R94, I do too, but I meant in terms of orientation.

by Anonymousreply 95August 1, 2021 4:51 PM

First guy I ever fell in love with at the age of about 7-9 was straight. We were neighbors, classmates, close enough that we considered each other family (and I remained on good terms with his family for the longest time, even through some of the events I'll be talking about shortly), but I could tell my feelings were something more, especially when I began admiring his physical form (specifically his ass) during sleep-overs, though what that "something" was I couldn't define until I was a little older.

Over time, "stuff" started happening at sleepovers with him. And it continued, growing increasingly sexual by the time we were in junior year of high school. I'm not gonna say it happened every time he slept over, I'm sure there were times it didn't, but most of the time, and "mild contact" gradually spilled into our waking hours as well. (I'd be rich if I had a dollar for every hand job I gave him sitting at my computer.) Sexually speaking, I had a good time once I knew what I was doing, and more important, [italic]he[/italic] had a good time once I knew what I was doing.

He never once complained or gave any indication that he didn't want to hook up, for lack of a better way of putting it, or that he was uncomfortable with guy on guy stuff, and it didn't affect our friendship. So, in my naivete I believed that this meant if I was gay, then he must be gay too. (In retrospect, and today, I respect and accept his self-identification as straight, but honestly, my vote's in the "bi" category. Nobody enters a massive crisis period like what I'm about to describe if they weren't frightened by what our encounters might mean about them.) Turned out my mistake was in thinking we were on the same page.

When you're a careless, clueless, and horny teenager, shit happens. During a sleep-over, assuming everyone else was out like a light, he and I got down to what we usually did. Well, you know what happens when you assume... turned out someone in my family saw some stuff they shouldn't have. More than that, it was someone who wasn't known to exaggerate, so if they told others, I couldn't get out of it by saying what they saw didn't happen without being utterly disbelieved by everyone, or, worse, without the story getting back to adults (and as a teen, though some of my family knew about my orientation, I didn't consider my escapades their business). So when this relative raised the issue to mutual friends because who the hell else could they talk to, and these friends asked me about it, bearing the above in mind, I decided not to deny what was going on.

Evidently, this was a big mistake. Neighbor boy was not interested in confirming any of this. My once-constant friend went completely berserk for a few years --distanced himself from me for a long time for "trying to bring [him] down with [my] shit," became a substance abuser, a thief, and a klepto (in no particular order), and had a series of increasingly unsuccessful relationships with women. Joining the military straightened him out some -- no pun intended -- and he's now married with two kids, one of whom I was supposed to be the godfather. I remained close to his family for a long time, at least until political differences drove a deep fissure into our relationship, and reestablishing contact was probably easier than being awkward around me. We don't talk about back then, and we're not nearly as close as we used to be, because time and distance wound all heels, as John Lennon once put it.

I wish we'd at least been able to talk about it, un-pack how we both felt, and proceed from there; I feel like the friendship could/would have been a lot stronger as a result. But, aside from occasionally wondering what might've been had he been a little more secure about being bi, that's my only regret. I hope he thinks about it. I know I do from time to time.

by Anonymousreply 96August 1, 2021 5:05 PM

R89 here. I think the reason my friend freaked out is he liked it and hates himself for it. 48 years old, single hasn’t had sex in 6 years and has the cock of a 8 year old.

by Anonymousreply 97August 1, 2021 5:05 PM

[quote]I quit after about 5 minutes

You lazy drunk whore!!

by Anonymousreply 98August 1, 2021 5:07 PM

R95, mostly straight.

by Anonymousreply 99August 1, 2021 5:09 PM

Well, I still am thinking about contacting the old friend on Facebook, but thought I’d share some more. A few years ago, this young kid was interning at my work. A few days into his stint, he approached me and said “Hey, my mom said you used to be good friends with my Uncle —— when you were younger.” I’m pretty sure I got flustered, because I always suspected she knew what was up between us. She was a few years older than us. She almost caught us one night, and I never thought she believed our bullshit story about what we were doing. I don’t care really…I’m out and don’t give a shit what anyone thinks about it, but I didn’t really want this intern kid knowing I used to blow his uncle. Anyway, this intern was the one who shared some of the details about my former friend’s life. It sounds like he has gotten really weird and I don’t really know if it would be worth it to contact him, but if I do, I will certainly report!

by Anonymousreply 100August 1, 2021 9:33 PM

R100 -1478902456/ 100

by Anonymousreply 101August 2, 2021 1:05 AM

R96, what sex act did your family catch you in with your friend? It’s okay, you can be explicit here—you’re among friends.

by Anonymousreply 102August 2, 2021 2:36 AM

Remember that the average straight guy has far fewer sexual encounters than the average gay guy. He is more likely to remember, because he has fewer hookups to keep track of.

by Anonymousreply 103August 2, 2021 9:31 AM

Storytime! I had sex once with a guy in one of those places people go for casual encounters. He said to me he was a sub so I fucked him. As I did it, he just lay there. I was a little put off by this and was wondering if he was enjoying it at all. Then he asked me to come while fucking him and (unusually for me) I was able to make myself do it on demand, and he suddenly got *really* into it and *really* loud.

This was very odd, and the thought came into my head 'he's straight'. So I asked him, and he said he was. We actually had quite a long chat about it. He told me that when he saw a very attractive man walking down the street he never got the same 'gut-punch' feeling of attraction he got with a very attractive woman. But he had come to recognise he needed to be fucked in the ass, as a kind of extreme version of being dominated. It was like he had developed a kind of psychological need for dick, without being attracted to the man it was attached to. I found it all fascinating but I'm not sure what category you'd put this guy into: straight or bi.

I hear too in the kink community some straight guys into extreme stuff (like being kicked hard in the balls) will agree with each other to kick each other hard in the balls, as a way of actually doing it. For what that's worth. In the end it is a form of sexual play with each other.

'Homosexual' and 'Heterosexual' are 19th century concepts: before that instead of putting people into categories, people just talked about behaviour. Maybe we need to move back in that direction.

by Anonymousreply 104August 2, 2021 9:38 AM

Well, the straight guys certainly remember my fat 9 inch cock and the huge loads I fed them. I'm sure it would be impossible to forget the experience of being with me since I was kind of famous too. OK maybe the straight West Point football player I hooked up with doesn't think about me because he had 11 inches and fucked me and didn't say or do anything about my dick during our half dozen encounters one summer when we were both modeling in Europe.

by Anonymousreply 105August 2, 2021 9:43 AM

Delusional homos. If a guy wants another man's penis then he is not straight. He is either closeted gay or bi.

by Anonymousreply 106August 2, 2021 10:10 AM

i just connected with a mid 30s wm on doublelist / the ad stated jo action only / he hosted in a hotel / i whipped it out and made conversation / he did the same / he really enjoyed frotting, placing our dicks together and rubbing / he said he'd been with a guy once or twice in the past / i stated i'd been married to a woman, had kids but enjoyed sex with men now / he said he was engaged to a woman / i said congrats and wished him well / that relaxed him more / at one point we were both jacking laying next to each other / i then straddled him frotting / and that was too much for him / he got up and stood over me / i came and then he came / he was comfortable and relaxed throughout / i mentioned something about how the internet was opening up options for guys to enjoy each other in ways that didn't exist 20 years ago. he agreed and said another one to check off his bucket list. i emailed him a few weeks later to see if he wanted a repeat / didn't hear back. feeling another hard dick really appealed to him / what does marriage hold for him, DL?

by Anonymousreply 107August 2, 2021 10:50 AM

what kind of mind types such weirdness / I have never seen this particular eccentricity in a troll / i find it creepy / and you DL?

by Anonymousreply 108August 2, 2021 10:57 AM

R108, I think R107 used to work for Western Union sending telegrams.

by Anonymousreply 109August 2, 2021 11:05 AM

yeah that's the ticket

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by Anonymousreply 110August 2, 2021 11:07 AM

Pre-teens/teens (for r108) experiment to see what you do like.

I'm no psychologist but I'm sure it's normal.

by Anonymousreply 111August 2, 2021 2:40 PM

r102: It was a garden variety BJ. I honestly should have thought better of it, but small house, I shared a room with this relative at the time, neighbor boy and I assumed he was asleep and that was the only way to get down. Imagine my surprise when the mutual friends said, and I'm paraphrasing for comic effect, "So [name redacted] caught you with [neighbor boy]'s cock in your mouth. Care to explain that?" I lied about it for a little while, but none of 'em believed me, and I didn't see a point in hiding it anymore, given that. In retrospect, I should have pulled neighbor aside and said, "Hey, listen, So-and-so caught us a few nights ago, and he's talking to people. How do we play this?" But the trouble with youth is it's wasted on the young, and hindsight is the only eyesight that's 20/20.

by Anonymousreply 112August 2, 2021 6:26 PM

Thanks, Steinman-Insider. It’s too bad it happened back in the time when people had the gall to confront someone over a garden variety sex act. Can you imagine anyone saying that to a hetero person? Jesus Christ.

As much as I’m consumed by nostalgia for the 80s-90s (when I was a kid/teen having sex with my friends and neighbors like you), I don’t miss the stigma and the quasi-prurient interest/horror of people like my mother, who found a note I’d written to my high school sex buddy and then confronted me about it like she’d just uncovered evidence that I’d killed someone, or something. Fucking bitch.

by Anonymousreply 113August 2, 2021 7:32 PM

R107 / / / / / /

Is the period key broken on your device?

by Anonymousreply 114August 3, 2021 2:46 PM

Yuck r105. You’re a fucking perv. Take that shit elsewhere.

by Anonymousreply 115August 3, 2021 2:55 PM

what's so perverted about r105?

by Anonymousreply 116August 3, 2021 8:58 PM

I've been told by a couple of straight men that I've blown that they jerk off to thinking about how could it felt or used that memory to cum with their girl friends.

by Anonymousreply 117August 3, 2021 9:02 PM

I think R105 sounds HOT and semi-famous, and I would hook up with him just based on his reply. “Dejure”, you’re nuts.

by Anonymousreply 118August 4, 2021 3:10 AM

[quote] I've been told by a couple of straight men that I've blown that they jerk off to thinking about how could it felt or used that memory to cum with their girl friends.

Did they mention that in their thank you notes on personalized stationery?

by Anonymousreply 119August 4, 2021 3:16 AM

R116 I want to hear about hot straight guys topping or getting sucked, not some grindr trick who probably fucked five other fat old bottoms that day.

by Anonymousreply 120August 4, 2021 4:34 AM

The straight guy I blew has blocked me from his social media. I guess it’s guilt. He asked me to do it and asked me to keep going twice.

by Anonymousreply 121August 4, 2021 4:57 AM

HOT R121. He definitely thinks about it.

by Anonymousreply 122August 4, 2021 5:02 AM

Straight guys who do it in the moment usually regret it or act awkward after, if they don’t ghost you completely overnight or little by little. It’s not necessarily something they can anticipate, so it’s best to know you are dealing with that reality and think twice before you let it happen. A guy may think he’s down when he’s horny, under the influence, or cool with it, but post orgasm, things change.

by Anonymousreply 123August 4, 2021 5:42 AM

R123 without a doubt. Here’s an example. Dude is totally down but freaks out and backtracks after cumming.

But tbh this is part of the appeal 😭

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by Anonymousreply 124August 4, 2021 1:36 PM

The delusion on here is fascinating.

Plenty of straight guys experiment in high school and college, usually a one-time thing with a friend.

Same way plenty of gay guys will have sex with a woman.

It's the ones who actively seek it out via Craigslist, Grindr or a bathhouse once they are older who are not straight.

They are bi or, more likely, closet cases who can't admit to themselves that they are actually gay

by Anonymousreply 125August 4, 2021 1:47 PM

Correct r125.

by Anonymousreply 126August 4, 2021 1:49 PM

I now stay away from it with a guy I know—sometimes in the moment they think you are “safe” or “cool” to try things with—so they push until they get it, but then they get weird. This isn’t the case always, but it’s not worth risking losing a friend over. It’s best if closet cases hook up anonymously. That way there’s no one to remind them of something they regret afterwards.

by Anonymousreply 127August 4, 2021 1:54 PM

[quote] I now stay away from it with a guy I know—sometimes in the moment they think you are “safe” or “cool” to try things with—so they push until they get it, but then they get weird. This isn’t the case always, but it’s not worth risking losing a friend over.

IMO the weirdness after is part of what makes it hot. I remember with my sole straight conquest he tried to text me the next day saying he was so drunk and act like he didn’t remember. Bitch please.

by Anonymousreply 128August 4, 2021 9:23 PM

I had sex a few times with a friend. This was years ago and he was between girlfriends. I’ve written about this before. Each time we’d been drinking and alcohol helps to lower that drawbridge! We weren’t so drunk that we didn’t know what we were doing because we talked through it. There was no embarrassment the next time we got together but we didn’t exactly talk about it! We did that smize thing to each other that Tyra Banks is all about. I don’t see him anymore. He’s out of the area and married but we’re on FB. I’ve been with my partner for close to thirty years and happy.

by Anonymousreply 129August 4, 2021 9:58 PM

Smize?

by Anonymousreply 130August 5, 2021 1:06 AM

What’s the smize thing? I have a straight-ish (actually down-lowish bisexual) friend I want to do this with.

by Anonymousreply 131August 5, 2021 1:43 AM

Smize = Smile with your eyes.

by Anonymousreply 132August 5, 2021 1:44 AM

I see, I see ^^^

by Anonymousreply 133August 5, 2021 1:45 AM

I consider myself something of an expert on bisexuality and how common it is among "straight" men, many of whom have probably never actually done anything with a guy because of stigma. A few years ago I was sharing a bed with an old friend who I'm certain is completely straight, but also completely deprived of sex due to social ineptitude/mental issues, and he ended up asking me for a handjob. I ended up sucking him which he was kind of uncomfortable with but he came pretty quickly. To answer OP's question, every time we've talked since then (we live in different cities) he's done the "You haven't told anyone about that have you?" routine. So yes, I guess he does think about it, in the sense that he regrets it and is paranoid about anyone ever finding out about it. I think about it a lot too, when I wank. He's super hairy and tanned and has always had a very manly physique for someone in their 20s. His dad is an absolute beast of a caveman who I would do anything to suck off 😩

I happen to be quite hot so it's funny to me that my friend is anguished about getting a blowjob from me when a lot of people would kill for it

by Anonymousreply 134August 5, 2021 2:51 AM

That is funny, R134. And good for you. We won’t let it get back to him that you told all of us you blew your retarded friend.

by Anonymousreply 135August 5, 2021 2:55 AM

Hot r134

by Anonymousreply 136August 5, 2021 2:57 AM

That's the thing R135, I'd be equally mortified if any of our mutual friends found out about it, I'm actually worried that he might end up telling someone just to get it off his chest. It would spread like wildfire since he's kind of the laughing stock among our circle and I'm a bit closeted

by Anonymousreply 137August 5, 2021 3:06 AM

I had a recent experience where I think a friend was trying to initiate something at a urinal when we used the bathroom together before leaving and were alone in the office. I wasn’t even thinking about it, but straight guys aren’t used to being direct, so it didn’t even register, but afterwards when we were talking outside, I got a vibe I was being come onto, but he didn’t want to make the first move. I wish I had realized and gone for it, because I have a major crush on him. I also don’t know for sure, so if I had and was wrong, ir would have been awkward. Some straight guys like to flirt with gay guys for the ego boost and then pretend they weren’t when you respond.

by Anonymousreply 138August 5, 2021 5:26 AM

[quote] Some straight guys like to flirt with gay guys for the ego boost and then pretend they weren’t when you respond.

Yeah, they eat that shit up.

by Anonymousreply 139August 5, 2021 5:30 AM

I think the key r138 is that you have to flirt back but in a way that lets them make the first move.

by Anonymousreply 140August 5, 2021 5:33 AM

I'm a frau looking for my soulmate, k?

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by Anonymousreply 141August 5, 2021 6:17 AM

R141 well she definitely came to the right place.

by Anonymousreply 142August 5, 2021 6:26 AM

I once was on a night out with a what I assumed to be straight guy and some other people, and he spent the majority of the night flirting with women but also being pretty playful with me but in a jokey way. I wasn't planning on staying out late but he persuaded me to share his hotel room with him and when I came out of the shower he came on to me (both figuratively, and after a while literally). We were both drunk, I asked to fuck him but he said no.

I chalked it up to drunkenness but in the morning we had a round two, I said to him "I didn't think you were gay" and he said "I'm not".

Never really interacted with him much after that, so I don't know if he actually ended up living a straight life, he was actually fully bi, or he ended up embracing being gay.

by Anonymousreply 143August 5, 2021 8:05 AM

r49 Gay men have sex with women because they are closeted and pretending to like women, if a straight man have gay sex is because he is attracted to men, so he is bi or gay, but never straight.

by Anonymousreply 144August 5, 2021 12:51 PM

I should have added to my comment, it wasn't a particularly great encounter - 'straight' guys don't know how to suck dick.

by Anonymousreply 145August 5, 2021 2:07 PM

maybe about as often as I think about those two girls I had sex with and the one I fingered?

In other words, not often.

by Anonymousreply 146August 5, 2021 2:10 PM

I'm a gay man who's had sex with several women and just a handful of guys. I have never initiated sex with a woman, they've always come on to me, some very aggressively. And no, DL. I'm not bi. I'm overwhelmingly attracted to men even though I notice when a girl is attractive.

I've also felt (subtly) come on to by a couple of straight guys in my circle. One I didn't notice until later, and the other did it multiple times until one day he just made a move and I had to turn him down because he was dating (now engaged) to my best female friend. I will never tell her.

by Anonymousreply 147August 5, 2021 2:23 PM

Fantasies, fantasies.

by Anonymousreply 148August 5, 2021 2:37 PM

Calories, calories.

by Anonymousreply 149August 5, 2021 2:49 PM

There is nothing more beautiful than a straight man using a gay one for gratification.

by Anonymousreply 150August 5, 2021 3:00 PM

Poor things. In you imaginations everything is possible. Replace straight men with straight men with vaginas and maybe we'll believe you.

by Anonymousreply 151August 5, 2021 3:32 PM

Oh DEAR r151

by Anonymousreply 152August 5, 2021 5:13 PM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 153August 6, 2021 1:18 PM

Trans envy women, gay men envy women... it's so sweet to witness how jealous you are!

by Anonymousreply 154August 6, 2021 1:53 PM

r113, actually I'm a literal Nineties kid. I graduated class of '08, so this was assuredly the year before. Teenagers don't always have their heads screwed on too tight.

by Anonymousreply 155August 7, 2021 3:26 AM

Off topic but, since R141 posted it — what is that… pool… that that woman is standing next to?

by Anonymousreply 156August 7, 2021 3:35 AM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 157August 16, 2021 12:25 AM

R9 more details, you lucky bitch.

by Anonymousreply 158September 14, 2021 4:23 AM

I usually have some good contributions to this thread but I was blowing older men and really didn't have an idea of gay or straight at that time, just that these guys wanted to be sucked off.

Later on, when I was in my 20s, I tended to attract more of the married men/bi types. Sometimes they would tell me they were straight but loved oral attention. Other times it wasn't mentioned.

But more to the point, it was usually a random hookup. Never really happened with someone I knew, not then, not till I was older.

by Anonymousreply 159September 14, 2021 4:58 AM

Of course they think about it. You become a permanent part of their memories and life.

by Anonymousreply 160September 14, 2021 5:10 AM

R159 So they were all gay dudes who probably fucked 5 other dudes that day, got it. Next.

by Anonymousreply 161September 14, 2021 5:23 AM

I've never had sex with straight guys. They were all gay or bi.

by Anonymousreply 162September 14, 2021 5:37 AM

The first guy i ever did anything with was a cousin. We were friends, classmates. We were kids.

I went to his house and we played and all that stuff, and them i layed in bed with my shorts off, he layed on top of me and put his penis on my ass but not inside of it, it was like a anal frottage. Lol we never kissed and never talked about what we did, it was all spontaneous, which is incredible.

Now, i don't think he thinks about it. He's a straight dude, married some classmate we had.

I think about it sometimes and just thank God he was my first, because it was all inoccent. I was lucky!

by Anonymousreply 163September 14, 2021 5:38 AM

I've never told this to anyone with such detail.

Goddamn, it feels like psychoanalysis.

by Anonymousreply 164September 14, 2021 5:44 AM

DL seems to build up the fantasy of the straight male in their minds. In reality they are usually lazy in bed and not the most hygienic. I am embarassed for the gays who will suck a straight guy's cock and get nothing in return, you are being used.

by Anonymousreply 165September 14, 2021 6:24 AM

R165 I am one of those who likes to be used by straight men, and I want nothing in return (other than sucking them off). If they did anything in return to me, then they wouldn't be straight. Would they?

by Anonymousreply 166September 15, 2021 12:52 AM
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