Women talking about their periods or hot flashes or menopause in the workplace.
Can I complain about it? Is it sexual harassment?
Because I'm sick of it.
I'm one of the few males in a female dominated office setting.
The women range from about 30 to 65, and they are CONSTANTLY talking about their periods, their boyfriends/husbands, their hot flashes, menopause, and all sorts of other female things.
I'm not only grossed out by it, but it truly does make me uncomfortable. I don't want to hear it any more.
Can I complain to HR?
I want it to stop.
|by Anonymous||reply 83||16 hours ago|
Women are always talking about their gashes and I’m sick of it.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||Last Tuesday at 4:11 PM|
Um, no one needs to hear about that. 🤮
|by Anonymous||reply 2||Last Tuesday at 4:13 PM|
OP, just chime in and start talking about your prostate problems. Equal rights!
|by Anonymous||reply 3||Last Tuesday at 4:32 PM|
Oh you poor, wilting flowers. If any one of you had to deal with a monthly period and all that comes with it, you would had offed yourselves by now.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||Last Tuesday at 4:52 PM|
[quote] Oh you poor, wilting flowers. If any one of you had to deal with a monthly period and all that comes with it, you would had offed yourselves by now.
Talk about it all you want.
Just do it in PRIVATE. I don't want to hear about it, and I don't care about it either.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||Last Tuesday at 4:58 PM|
Yeah it's gross. Bodily functions are not workplace talk.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||Last Tuesday at 4:59 PM|
I work with guys who talk about their farts and shits.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||Last Tuesday at 5:06 PM|
[quote]Can I complain to HR?
|by Anonymous||reply 8||Last Tuesday at 5:07 PM|
Why are you using the word women? Men can have periods and hot flashes at work too. Do better and maybe say people.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||Last Tuesday at 5:09 PM|
"men can have periods" lolololololololololololololololllllll
|by Anonymous||reply 10||Last Tuesday at 5:10 PM|
I WANT YOU TO GO TO HR, OP. Try it.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||Last Tuesday at 5:15 PM|
Once some chick got out of work duties by using PMS as an excuse. And yet when I complained about blue balls I got a warning about appropriate language.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||Last Tuesday at 5:24 PM|
R9 how does that work. Does like a female just like pull it out and give it to the guy?
|by Anonymous||reply 13||Last Tuesday at 5:25 PM|
[quote] Can I complain about it?
[quote] Is it sexual harassment?
[quote] I'm not only grossed out by it
You’re totally immature therefore unfit to work anywhere.
[quote] but it truly does make me uncomfortable
Get a therapist.
[quote] Can I complain to HR?
No - you’re the one with the problem.
[quote] I want it to stop.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||Last Tuesday at 5:31 PM|
You're right, R14.
I'll just jerk off, and cum into the office coffee pot.
Then I can just sit back and have a good laugh, while they talk about their hot flashes.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||Last Tuesday at 5:33 PM|
R15 get yourself arrested have fun x - maybe actually ask HR to schedule a course on what constitutes sexual harassment since you don’t understand it and need to learn. That’s what they’re there for ;)
|by Anonymous||reply 16||Last Tuesday at 5:34 PM|
It must be awful when they’re all on the rag at the same time.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||Last Tuesday at 5:44 PM|
R16 only if you get a basic class on what genitalia can produce menstral blood - it's a vagina, which women possess.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||Last Tuesday at 5:51 PM|
'it's a vagina, which women possess.'
This is exclusionary.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||Last Tuesday at 5:54 PM|
I am a woman and rarely talk about anything like that. TMI.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||Last Tuesday at 5:54 PM|
R19 well I see you already passed your high school bio well done you 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
|by Anonymous||reply 22||Last Tuesday at 5:54 PM|
This is evolutionary. Women have vaginas. Men have penises.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||Last Tuesday at 5:54 PM|
Not all. Don’t make blanket statements.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||Last Tuesday at 5:56 PM|
Start talking about your bleeding anus, hemmies, and that burning sensation when you pee.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||Last Tuesday at 5:56 PM|
I was gonna ask how this is turning into an anti trans thread but I suppose the ATLs are never too far away from the misogynists (and often one and the same).
|by Anonymous||reply 26||Last Tuesday at 5:56 PM|
[quote]only if you get a basic class on what genitalia can produce menstral blood - it's a vagina, which women possess.
Some men have vaginas. Try to be more woke.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||Last Tuesday at 6:00 PM|
If men had vaginas tampons would be free and abortion unregulated.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||Last Tuesday at 6:05 PM|
R27 whatever you think of trans people, posting a nude video of someone as a way to make fun of them or remark how you think they look weird or different or whatever is extremely childish.
F&F this thread it’s been taken over by the anti trans trolls.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||Last Tuesday at 6:06 PM|
Op is a duplicitous fake nelly who pretends to be one of the girls, and secretly resents them
|by Anonymous||reply 30||Last Tuesday at 6:15 PM|
Well this thread has turned gross beyond imagination.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||Last Tuesday at 6:35 PM|
I identify as a flying unicorn!
|by Anonymous||reply 32||Last Tuesday at 7:42 PM|
I don’t see anything gross about hot flashes or menopause but period talk seems inappropriate
|by Anonymous||reply 33||Last Tuesday at 7:56 PM|
R33 think of it like someone saying they have a headache. Just because there’s a vagina involved it doesn’t mean you have to get upset by it. If you think women’s bodies are inherently inappropriate then you should do some soul searching. Have you never asked a woman in your life about their period? It’s extremely normal, unremarkable, usual.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||Last Tuesday at 8:17 PM|
So is taking a shit R34. But it doesn'tean it's appropriate for work.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||Last Tuesday at 8:34 PM|
The fastest way to shut them up about it without getting yourself in trouble with HR is the Miss Manners approach to people who overshare: you interrupt them and say pointedly (and unsnidely),
"I'm very sorry, but I really don't understand why you're telling me all this. What does this have to do with me?"
|by Anonymous||reply 36||Last Tuesday at 8:41 PM|
Poor OP, just a dinghy sloshing about in a raging sea of estrogen.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||Last Tuesday at 8:48 PM|
"Well, as long as we're talking about our bodily processes, let me tell you all about my terrible diarrhea episode over the weekend..."
|by Anonymous||reply 38||Last Tuesday at 8:57 PM|
I work in a whole building full of women and I have only very rarely overheard this shit.
Just tell them you don't want to hear it so could they talk more quietly.
|by Anonymous||reply 39||Last Tuesday at 9:59 PM|
[quote]they are CONSTANTLY talking about their periods,
Yes I'm so totally sure. CONSTANTLY, without stopping. Nothing else exists except their LIDERULLY nonstop gabbing. Is this exciting for you, you bitchy, sour, tattle-tale misogynist? 👍😘
|by Anonymous||reply 40||Last Tuesday at 10:40 PM|
I don’t think it is harassment, OP, just inappropriate topics of conversation for the workplace.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||Last Wednesday at 1:04 AM|
You bitches need to stop replying to OBVIOUS trolls.
OP knew this post would bring out both DL's resident sexists and anti-trans trolls.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||Last Wednesday at 1:08 AM|
I'm a woman and I think you should complain to HR about it. It is disgusting, rude, and inappropriate behavior in the workplace.
|by Anonymous||reply 43||Last Wednesday at 1:14 AM|
I don’t care. I would rather listen to that then my straight male coworkers talk about hockey and basketball.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||Last Wednesday at 1:44 AM|
Personally I think it's inappropriate to talk about anything that personal in a mixed-sex group setting, but that's just me. I'm not a prude, but you have to draw the line somewhere to maintain a decently professional atmosphere.
Would I complain? I'd probably be regarded as an uptight prude, which I am not, so I'd likely shut up and ignore.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||Last Wednesday at 1:47 AM|
Is it sexual harassment? Strictly speaking, yes.
Problem is, you're going to look like a bit of a pussy if you complain. Fraus gonna Frau especially in a female-dominated workplace.
I'd get a new job if you really are bothered by it.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||Last Wednesday at 1:59 AM|
Given OP's posting history I'm suspecting this was intended as a stealth anti trans troll thread. Still, it seems like maybe he should have thought his strategy through, because a lot of his anti trans troll pals ARE women who frequently talk about periods on DL.
Maybe he's trying to play both sides and just cause fights. Who even knows.
|by Anonymous||reply 47||Last Wednesday at 2:02 AM|
Tranny, you are on a GAY website. People are fed up with you and your Trans tears, you fake so-called victim. You are the one who came to say men can have their period. Such a heresy can be cured. Go get treated and leave us the fuck alone R47
|by Anonymous||reply 48||Last Wednesday at 2:11 AM|
If they’re in actual pain or having symptoms it’s appropriate if they’re talking shop just because they’re bored that’s inappropriate. Period pain can be as bad as a heart attack. If a person sitting next to you at their desk was having a heart attack you wouldn’t complain about them saying something would you? Hot flash symptoms come on suddenly and are also pretty extreme they can also cause someone to need to suddenly change the temperature in the room or change clothing.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||Last Wednesday at 2:31 AM|
Here’s the correct link for the article
|by Anonymous||reply 50||Last Wednesday at 2:33 AM|
It depends. If they are using medical terms like menopause and hot flashes and not talking to you, going to HR will make you look like an idiot and HR absolutely WILL let your superiors know it was you who complained and you'll be seen as liability (a person on the lookout for a lawsuit or trouble who can't work well around others...I assume you are outnumbered). Sure, they may have an online meaningless module sent to the fraus, but EVERYONE will know you complained and they WILL call you a "fag" behind your back. I doubt the other males know, or even care, what the frau are chatting about among themselves. If they are talking about explicit sexual things, then you have a case. Otherwise, move on and don't engage. Especially if they aren't talking to you. Also, talking about spouses and kids is never gonna be a problem.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||Last Wednesday at 2:54 AM|
Also, don't you DARE even think about talking about your sex life or using inappropriate terms like "blue balls" or something. You can say "my partner" or "husband" but any talk about your genitalia and you better tread with care.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||Last Wednesday at 2:57 AM|
Yes, you complain to HR, OP.
But who runs HR? Persons who have hot flushes. And we don't mean trans, luv.
You will paint yourself as a problem and an oppresser.
Of course, if you started talking about nocturnal emissions you'd be out on your ear. But fraus now rule corporate life, and if you don't take the knee, your career is over.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||Last Wednesday at 3:01 AM|
I complained (lightly) to HR about a secretary’s joke about “pansies,” and all I got was “I’m sure she didn’t mean anything by it.”
|by Anonymous||reply 54||Last Wednesday at 3:50 AM|
Sure OP, please come to HR to complain about this. We’ll make sure this backfires on you and will make your life hell until you leave the company!
|by Anonymous||reply 55||Last Wednesday at 3:58 AM|
I'm one of the few males in a female dominated office setting.
GET OUT NOW!
|by Anonymous||reply 56||Last Wednesday at 4:11 AM|
Just tell HR that this talk is offensive to women who do not cis-menstruate, and that you’ll contact Salon.com if they don’t take action.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||Last Wednesday at 4:19 AM|
R57 is the wisest reply here so far. Good one.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||Last Wednesday at 4:26 AM|
If I got a job and found out that I was the only male in an otherwise all female workplace, I'd quit that very day. You're ostracized before you even walk in the door. I'd rather be unemployed.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||Last Wednesday at 4:28 AM|
[Quote]If men had vaginas tampons would be free and abortion unregulated.
You gotta love how radfems think men want women to shit out kids all the time. Nobody has a poorer grasp of sex differences than they do.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||Last Wednesday at 4:29 AM|
all those bitches periods are going to align and OPs life will become a fuckin misery! GET THE FUCK OUT MAN, or take every fourth week off work!
|by Anonymous||reply 61||Last Wednesday at 4:34 AM|
A few years ago I went to a new dentist and she and the female hygienist talked about their periods and cramps while I was sandwiched between them in the chair. I didn’t ask them to stop because they were putting sharp objects in my mouth but I never went back.
|by Anonymous||reply 62||Last Wednesday at 4:37 AM|
r62 if two men with prostate problems did this to a woman patient, it would be an outrage, we all know there are different rules for men and women.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||Last Wednesday at 4:40 AM|
As part of its DEI initiative, our company just launched #MenopauseMondays in which "we'll be sharing information, busting myths, and breaking down the stigma that still surrounds menopause." And to cover the I in DEI, we provide this clarification: [italic]*those who are non-binary and transmasculine will also go through menopause.[/italic]
I feeling trolling HR and asking when we're launching #ErectileDysfunctionFridays
|by Anonymous||reply 65||Last Wednesday at 4:50 AM|
I made the mistake of mentioning that "There's nothing like the smell of menstruation in the morning" because the office stank. On of the trashy fatsos went home "sick" after that and I heard her husband threatened to beat me up. I said no one has the right to stink up the office because of bad hygiene, especially since it was a repeat offense.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||Last Wednesday at 5:14 AM|
I can just imagine you walking into the office, saying that on a Monday morning.
I'd be cracking up. But I'm sure the FRAUS would be fuming!
|by Anonymous||reply 67||Last Wednesday at 7:16 AM|
Why do posters keep conflating menstrual periods with erectile dysfunction? Periods are not sexual. The only thing comparable is a prostate.
|by Anonymous||reply 68||Last Wednesday at 9:06 AM|
R68; both are physical phenomena restricted to one sex (I'll pretend there's no such thing as trans for a moment) that are somewhat stagmatized and considered "inappropriate" to discuss in polite company. They do not need to be exact parallels in order to be compared.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||Last Wednesday at 9:20 AM|
You are missing an opportunity, OP. The HR witch where I work breaks into nuclear hot flashes, sweat rolling out of her makes it look like she has a transdermal sprinkler system.
I would not wish ill-health on her, but she's a real pain in the ass for everyone. So it delights me to see her wiping sweat and resembling a malaria victim.
|by Anonymous||reply 70||Last Wednesday at 9:25 AM|
I work in an all male workplace. We don't have an HR department, there's no need because there's no FUCKIN WOMEN!
|by Anonymous||reply 72||Last Wednesday at 10:52 PM|
I worked in an almost entirely all female workplace, Pat Catan's which is now owned by Michaels. I was one of only 5 guys working there at the time, at least 3 of us were gay. There wasn't even a separate men's bathroom. There was a fucking pail with bloody tampons next to the toilet.
For what its worth, the General Manager got fired for sexual harassment. She kept making sexual advances towards us. I didn't think complaining about her would even amount to anything, but one of the others guys reported her to corporate and she got canned.
|by Anonymous||reply 73||Last Wednesday at 11:25 PM|
[quote] I worked in an almost entirely all female workplace, Pat Catan's which is now owned by Michaels.
For a second, I thought the name of the store was "Pete's Caftans."
Which would make sense that a Datalounger would work there.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||Last Thursday at 8:37 AM|
R60, you’re not making any sense. Try a Midol.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||Last Thursday at 9:13 AM|
I long for the days when people had manners and class and common sense and kept things to themselves, when there was no need to be running to HR like little school girls telling the teacher on someone.
|by Anonymous||reply 76||Last Thursday at 9:22 PM|
Bizarre. I was raised to believe it was unladylike to discuss "female issues" in the presence of men. I honestly have no idea how some women are so free with that. It's inappropriate. Especially in a professional environment.
That said, make an anonymous complaint to HR OP, because if you do so as a male, you'll likely be ridiculed as a misogynist and forced to attend a "sensitivity workshop" or some shit.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||Yesterday at 12:56 AM|
My co-worker revealed to me that she flows like a water Buffalo
|by Anonymous||reply 78||17 hours ago|
Have you thought about joining their conversation? Tell them that you don't get periods but you do get gonorrhea on a regular basis and have to deal with the ooze and discomfort when it happens.
|by Anonymous||reply 79||17 hours ago|
I like to talk about tampons and the best products on the market to fight odor and wetness.
|by Anonymous||reply 80||17 hours ago|
R77 yes and they should always wear dresses! And bonnets! And what are they even doing in the workplace? How did they get there - did their husbands drive them?
|by Anonymous||reply 81||17 hours ago|
Can a mtf claim to have periods and pms? Do ftm stop having them? Is Caitlyn menopausal? Someone get Tommy please.
|by Anonymous||reply 82||17 hours ago|
Op join in and say you’re getting pms too and ask if they think you’re transitioning.
|by Anonymous||reply 83||16 hours ago|