I have family members who are part of the Ex-Gay movement. I am very close to some of them, they know I'm gay. We often are able to manage fun and interesting discussions without getting into sexual politics, but not always....and I'm not the one to bring it up. I'm happily partnered for several years, and I don't try to wedge that into their lives, because I don't want to stoop to that. But they sometimes do...
I have watched their FB feeds, and have listened to them talk, have met some of their friends, and tried to keep an open mind.
But the bottom line here is, they don't keep their sexual conflict to themselves, and are very much proselytizers. They will look for any opportunity to try and talk you out of your sexuality, whether it be pitiful online screeds or showing up at Pride marches with picket signs (my cousins do this).
One cousin of mine, an ex-lesbian named Linda, tries on an annual basis to see 'how I'm doing', and how are things with my partner. I keep it peaceful and everything, but when she starts talking about Jesus, and how he needs to fill my heart and bring me to the path of salvation, and that it's wrong for me to lay with another man like I do with my partner, I tell her that's none of her business and she needs to stop, and she does. Linda's story is that she was a bull dyke on a bike, and did the whole Pride thing, was a wild one, and had a really fun time, lots of friends, and a few girlfriends over the years. Then her mother (a Born Again) got to her around the same time a girl broke her heart. She bottomed out, and 'found herself in Jesus' and now travels as an ex-gay preacher....no motorcycle either.
Linda succeeded in convincing my cousin Penelope, who had a kid with a black guy (scandal), then she started dating a girl (bigger scandal), and was much happier during that time. She used to talk back to Linda and others in our family, and shut her down on her FB feed - even bigger scandal. I always supported this in my mind, but I never joined in that bitch fest. Linda got to Penelope eventually. She wore her down and now they are both tooting the same message on the internet. They write articles on it, and publish little newsletters for their community, and it is a pretty big community.
Every single one of them, make no mistake, is very much invested in telling the world that they are happily Ex-Gay, AND that this definitively means that all gay people need to become Ex-Gay too.
So no, I'm not going to join the Ex-Gay sympathy tour started by some in this thread (who I doubt are really that close to the issue themselves). I have my own demons in my family to deal with, and I have a good handle on the issue. Sympathy is not what I need. I just need to stay tolerant, and keep my contact with them minimal. That's my big contribution.