I know a lot of damaging secrets of a lot of family members.

Go back to bed, Harry.

Do it. Cause chaos.

OP Just do it...you know you want to.....

OP, is there ever a thread you start where you are not a victim?

There are no secrets. Everyone in the family already knows everything.

So all you accomplish is making yourself look like a jerk. Or worse.

Do it! The truth is always welcomed. You might save a few relatives from these assholes and everyone will probably have their worst thoughts confirmed.

OP = Did it ever occur to you that your family treat you badly because you are annoying, not because you are gay? My sister had a fling with a guy (while married to her idiot husband) and got knocked up. I don't think her hubby is her daughters father. I could tell my 25 year old niece the truth, because her fake daddy has not always been very nice to me---but why would I want to inflict pain on an innocent person?

If a related and relevant matter comes up, I share what I know. I don’t lookout for asshole relatives and cover up for them. But I do it matter of factly. Just as FYI and part of the conversation. How they take the truth is up to them.

I know a few home truths that certain members of my family would not appreciate my revealing to others. However, I won't stoop to their level, remembering how it hurt when they told all and sundry about my shortcomings. That's how I live with myself with no guilt or drama and as far away from the family as I could get.

OP was birthed and promptly placed in foster care. His propensity to maim non-white children and kill small animals kept him bouncing from one family to the next. He was ultimately raised by the Klan.

He has no secrets on anyone. He's trolling.

I'd do it - burn them down. You're estranged from most of them anyway. Revenge is very satisfying.

Still undecided? Ask yourself how the family members you want to protect reacted when you were treated badly.

OP why do you care about these people? Move on!

OP will no longer live in the House of Lies!

Is there an inheritance involved? If so, hold your fire.

Ever heard of karma, OP? Not their karma, but yours.

Let go of your resentment and move on. Living well is the best revenge.

Forget vengeance, forget karma, move on and lead your own life. And for fuck's sake, fill it with something better than bitterness toward people from whom you've already distanced yourself and those that you haven't, yet.

You can cut them out like a cancer by walking away and not looking back. Or is that insufficiently dramatic for you? Or maybe you have nothing better with which to occupy yourself?

Because you're better than them and because all it does is betray how attached you are to them/it. Move on, why be on the same level as them?

Know when to take the high road and when not to.

Behavior like this usually rebounds on you.

That said, I certainly wouldn't lie or cover up another family members shitty behavior.