What do you do when you realize that no one really cares about you?

You celebrate! Because it means you don;t have to give a shit about anyone else either! See a therapist about depression though.

I know no one cares about me at all, but I don’t find it depressing at all, really. I have many acquaintances and that’s enough. I just live my life.

You’re supposed to learn to love yourself—if you can achieve that you don’t need the constant affirmation of others.

When you have that sense of self, and lose the desperate need for approval, then you actually attract the affection of others.

R3 Very wise advice that i have found to be true.

Once upon a time Empty Nest Moms of all persuasions embraced this:

Including law enforcement? Good!

Every single time I visit The Data Lounge.

I guess you could start with looking at what your definition of love is.

Seriously, what is it that’s encompassed by that?

[quote] What do you do when you realize that no one really cares about you?

Fortunately, we aren't you. It sounds like your own self realization.

Oh. And stop trolling.

R9, fuck you and the horse you rode up on.

True freedom and wisdom comes from realizing you are completely unimportant. Being just another speck in the universe is incredibly freeing. No reason to be depressed about it.

This was something I dealt with most of my life. In my early forties, I started an anti-depressant and worked with a therapist. I was able to stop worrying about it and became able to focus on making myself happy. I was then in the right mind set to attract good people into my life (some of them were already there, but I was too depressed to be able to appreciate them the way I can now). It took a few years but I'm really happy I put in the work.

I myself have had tons of sex, but never had a boyfriend... or even been on many conventional dates. (I clearly have intimacy issues!) (Don’t get me started on my childhood!)

But this week I had a very vivid dream that my late best friend from college (a really cool lesbian) was riding in a car with her wife and me. I was so thrilled to be with her again and that she’d somehow found a way to visit from beyond the grave! At the end of the dream I was cradling her head to my chest and weeping, saying “I love you” over and over.

On the topic of love, what made me love this close friend was a mixture of things - she was smart, funny, creative, a little wild, which are all enjoyable, entertaining things. But maybe the strongest pull was that she was completely accepting and enthusiastic about me, too. She was really open and affectionate. And we had a long shared history (doing our junior year abroad together, both being in the Theater Department, etc.)

I don’t know where I’m going with this. It’s just funny to see this thread when I had an intense dream recently about being reunited with a true loved one.

My cats are always glad to see me.

I realized that I was just like the other billion-plus people who have no one who really cares about them.

Look around you. Pay attention. A substantial percentage of humanity have unsatisfactory to downright abusive personal relationships, or no relationships at all.

The notion that everyone else has/are in stable, happy relationships is actually a delusion.

Plan for the future, live for today. As cheesy as it sounds, that makes it easier to deal with facts like R11's. You're just a little blip here anyway. Do what you can do now, try to save just in case you live longer.