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What do you use to “fill the void?”

I’m not talking about dildos, cucumbers, and fists you silly geese. Rather the things you do that help you cope. Examples would be things like alcohol, shopping, organization/OCD, Facebook, travel, etc. Mine are puzzles, card games, tending to my rather large container garden, and a glass of wine or three. It used to be running and the gym when I was a young buck, but those days are behind me.

by Anonymousreply 66Last Wednesday at 3:55 PM

Reading, exercising, the DL, and copious amounts of pot, silly.

by Anonymousreply 103/31/2021

books, music, exercise, weed, microdosing, languages

I miss fucking

by Anonymousreply 203/31/2021

Walking and caring for my bonsai and orchids.

by Anonymousreply 303/31/2021

My boyfriend's ample dick.

by Anonymousreply 403/31/2021

@R2-- I have started microdosing as well, this is day 3. I can not put my phone down, at all. I must read 24/7. I would be reading books 24/7 if I had no internet or phone. I am sure there are others doing the same, but I have not seen or read about them talking about this. If I am reading I am not thinking about my life and problems. I suppose it is an escape, like drugs or food is for others. It is truly a problem that I do not know how to deal with right now.

by Anonymousreply 503/31/2021

I DO use dildoes, thankyouverymuch.

Also pizza and fries things.

by Anonymousreply 603/31/2021

How do you use Facebook to fill your hungry hole? I don't understand.

by Anonymousreply 703/31/2021

donating low hanging fruit to the poor and marginalized, and participating in the patriachal gaytrification of the internet while cockworshiping the ultimate patriarch alan turing. (he has some nudes out there.)

r7 set your notifications to on and set your device on vibrate.

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by Anonymousreply 803/31/2021

I’m so detached, can one of your explain what “micro-dosing” entails? I know I could Google but I’d rather hear from one of you whores who can describe on my level.

by Anonymousreply 903/31/2021

R9- Low dose of mushrooms. Many have had success treating depression with them when all other medications/ therapy have failed.

by Anonymousreply 1003/31/2021

Obsessively making playlists in a blind trance. And just general lists. I rarely go over them or use them.

Asperger’s, always a wild time.

by Anonymousreply 1103/31/2021

Porn, internet chat, IRL streams online, online shopping. Nothing ever fills the void, the void never gets full.

by Anonymousreply 1203/31/2021

R9 a subperceptual dose of mushrooms (I take it in capsule form) doesn't give me any discernible high or trip. Instead, it lifts and subtracts all sorts of bullshit in my mind and attitude. I'm not ruminating nearly as much, I feel less hopeless, I feel happier, maybe the right description is, I've revived some of my delight in how I see things and react to things. For example, I love my job, and yet I have tons of anxiety about it. Lately I've remembered that they're paying me to be creative, so fucking focus on that, and stop worrying!

It's working well for me. For reference I don't take any prescribed meds. If you do, I would check with someone else who's mixing with Rx.

I love it, and I couldn't have gotten through this shit year without microdosing.

Also I'm smoking weed way less, more for listening to music, and I resolved the unprecedented snacking habit that I picked up this year.

by Anonymousreply 1303/31/2021

1h of brisk walking in the woods daily.

by Anonymousreply 1403/31/2021

Walking. Zoom yoga classes with a favorite teacher. Taking care of long-neglected clutter and problem areas in the house (amazing how therapeutic THAT can be!). I've smoked pot consistently throughout the pandemic: it motivates me to take on projects and keep busy, instead of being glued to CNN or social media. Only problem with that is that it interferes with my love of reading: hard to retain anything or stay focused when you're stoned, ha ha. I just save reading, now, for later in the day when I'm not stoned. Obviously I favor Sativa as my flower of choice!

by Anonymousreply 1503/31/2021

Where are people getting these shr00m caps?

AFAF, who doesn’t want to go on antidepressants again...

by Anonymousreply 1603/31/2021

R16---- Here.

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by Anonymousreply 1903/31/2021

Gym, sex, walking, books, TV & film, gaming (video and board), travelling, eating out, spending time with friends and family. I don't really see it as filling a void, just things that I like doing in my non-work time. Of course, many of those things are on hold at the moment but I'm pretty lucky in that the majority of my main interests I can do just as well at home.

I haven't studied for anything for a while and that is something that from time to time I do feel like I'd like to get back to, and I'm making some plans to potentially do so later this year, but I'm definitely not one of those people who always has to be busy or surrounded by other people to feel fulfilled - in fact usually the opposite!

by Anonymousreply 2003/31/2021

R9 Can you tell me more about these mushrooms? What are they exactly? Is it legal? Where can I get them? Maybe I should be microdosing too.

by Anonymousreply 2103/31/2021

Here , R21. This is an excellent thread on mushrooms.

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by Anonymousreply 2203/31/2021

Another psilocybin microdoser here.

by Anonymousreply 2303/31/2021

No void here. Just calm abiding and watching Republicans do this.

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by Anonymousreply 2403/31/2021

The shroom thing just got legalized here in Oregon but I heard it’s a few years out before shroom clinics open. I wish we could just buy it and take it home, as we do with weed.

Meanwhile, I read DL, draw a lot, smoke weed and listen to music (evening activity which often leads to hot sex with husband) and putter around my house, cleaning and tackling small projects. I take walks around my neighborhood. Eat a lot of food.

by Anonymousreply 2503/31/2021

I have chronic pain from MS and have to be drug tested every month. I had to give up weed because of this and I miss it so badly that I am thinking of giving up my pain medication instead. It isn't fair. As far as microdosing, I just doubled my low dose cap and still feel nothing. I understand this isn't about getting high, but feeling different and I do not. Even double the dose I feel absolutely nothing. Do not know if I am doing this correctly.

by Anonymousreply 2603/31/2021

If I were to make a difference between 'filling the void' and 'passing the time' or 'engaging myself with a hobby', I'd have to say it is free to play mobile games. I do a bunch of other things, but this is the one that makes me superficially feel that I've done something for myself, when I mostly haven't.

by Anonymousreply 2703/31/2021

Food, unfortunately. Mostly unhealthy stuff like chocolate etc.

by Anonymousreply 2803/31/2021

R22 Thankz. But I didn’t see it.

by Anonymousreply 2903/31/2021

Way way way to much time on DL. I need to cut back.

by Anonymousreply 3003/31/2021

R22-Sorry, try this.

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by Anonymousreply 3103/31/2021

Writing, cooking, making my household cozier ... (no, I'm not cradling mugs and there are no Live Love Laugh plaques in my house).

[quote] Obsessively making playlists in a blind trance. And just general lists. I rarely go over them or use them.

I'm sort of like R11, making lists & spreadsheets. The spreadsheets actually helped me a lot with saving money, figuring out what I was spending money on.

by Anonymousreply 3203/31/2021

Walk a lot, take a zillion pictures in part to learn more about my camera and its capabilities, spend time going through 'em all, trying different things w. editing. Focusing -- ha ha -- on trying to get a good image and/or the editing does well to take my mind away from ruminations, stress and such.

And the occasional low-dose edible calms my mind. Part of me wants to enjoy 'em more often, but I don't want to build up a tolerance, have it become less of a treat, more normal.

by Anonymousreply 3303/31/2021

There is no void. Not in my constitution. This seems to be a genetic trait paired w/upbringing

Neglected children raised by lazy/absentee parents who become narcissists suffer the 'void'. Empty vessels. However, once free from toxic parents/people/family their innate genetic traits (if favorable) override the trauma. They eventually bloom. Water seeks its own level

Selfish, lazy & unmotivated people can't be fixed or repaired. Even under the best circumstances they manage to bring everyone in their orbit down. Especially those altruistic, naive but better specimens cut from a FINER FABRIC

by Anonymousreply 3403/31/2021

Writing, reading, music, watching TV, and sex

by Anonymousreply 3503/31/2021

[quote] organization/OCD

Avoid like the plague.

by Anonymousreply 3604/01/2021

Chase Klan Grannies around DL and vent my fury upon their wretched asses

No guilt... No remorse

by Anonymousreply 3704/01/2021

I spend WAY too much time trying to become as fucking superior as R34. I'm not even close.

by Anonymousreply 3804/01/2021

R34 - You’re coming across as very condescending. Are you being serious or just facetious?

by Anonymousreply 3904/01/2021

Good grief OP. You just now discovered hallucinogens'? Quit spamming this site about tripping.

by Anonymousreply 4004/01/2021

Mindless sex with strangers

by Anonymousreply 4104/01/2021

R32 never compare yourself to me! Ever!

by Anonymousreply 4204/01/2021

Reading, perusing DL, wine, 1-2 edibles in the evening, swimming, watching Dateline and Jeopardy. As I have gotten older I don't listen to music as much

by Anonymousreply 4304/01/2021

R43 - very much the same here! I do find myself watching old videos of Judy performing at Carnegie Hall when I have a little too much wine....and Barbra at The Concert 1994. And I never miss Jeopardy! When I was young I thought it was such an old person show.” Now Im their demographic.

by Anonymousreply 4404/01/2021

People who don’t listen to music (ever, or anymore) just bewilder me. Like, what do you do? What do you think about? If I’m not mentally stimming a song on repeat then I’m probably unconscious or dead.

Been this way since I was a little kid, so for better or worse I think I must be a music junkie, as I struggle to be out of the vicinity of some headphones or a speaker or a radio for more than a day. I get anxious without secure access to some type of music playing, whether streaming or older physical media. I just feel weird, exposed and alone without tunes. Yet I’m not one of those people who has to have the tv and the lights on in the house all the time, or anything—just music, and I’m fine. Don’t know why I’m like this. Maybe it’s because my parents always had music on in (and out of) the house when I was growing up.

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by Anonymousreply 4604/01/2021

R45--- Oh, me too. Music has calmed me all of my life. I also can not fathom my life without it. I only get OTA TV, so the old film noirs and Andy Griffith on MeTV soothe me as well and remind me of happier times in this now very disturbing world. I draw the fucking line at Green Acres though, yuck! Soooo unfunny and silly. Jmo

by Anonymousreply 4704/01/2021

Vodka, TCM, old documentaries, fried food.

by Anonymousreply 4804/01/2021

Indian leg wrestling

by Anonymousreply 4904/01/2021

And quite honestly having “a void” is quite a luxury. I have friends that complain about unappreciative and neglectful children and grand children, struggling to pay off crushing debt, multiple doctor appointments, and parental caretaking commitments. I’ll often times wake up with an open schedule for the entire day and absolutely revel in the calmness of it all. Maybe I’ll take in a solo matinee, have lunch at 2pm at a favorite spot, take a walk in the park, enjoy a happy hour cocktail, tend to my herb garden and flowers, or talk with the neighbors.

by Anonymousreply 5004/01/2021

Painting, micro dosing, watching old comfort tv shows, cooking, reading, working out.

by Anonymousreply 5104/01/2021

R45 same here! I listen to spotify and try to find new artists all the time. Couldn't survive without music!

by Anonymousreply 5204/01/2021

R5 R2 what are you micro dosing? I've been using shrooms as of late.

by Anonymousreply 5304/01/2021

R53-- Yes, I am on my fourth day. Fingers crossed!

by Anonymousreply 5404/01/2021

In LA it was really the gym because I splurged on an expensive one and made a group of friends. I also enjoyed dining out with one or two friends or meeting for coffee or a drink and maybe sex with some of the older nelly bottoms (2 have died since I left the country which means less friends for me and I miss them). Went to museums or other parts of LA, sometimes with a pal, sometimes alone. Reading. Weekend nights a few Corona Lights. Hanging out with my parents and sister (my family isn't perfect, but they are super progressive and read a lot) one lunch per weekend and a long nap afterwards and some films or playing with my niece and nephew. Cooking.

Now that I am in Eastern Europe, I am more isolated. I go for long walks as my project is almost over and there is less work. I go out to restaurants and a few distanced events with my roommate. Mainly, I enjoy walking around about 6 hours a day aimlessly and watching life...strolling in bookstores and coming home to post on DL. Looking forward to the end of my project to get some medical tests and just relax 3 months before I go home.

by Anonymousreply 5504/01/2021

Hooping, OP?

by Anonymousreply 5604/01/2021

R45 you just taught me the term for what I do all the time:

"If I’m not mentally stimming a song on repeat then I’m probably unconscious or dead."

It could be a snippet of a song that I play on repeat in my head. Stimming, you say. I guess I'm off to learn a bit more about myself.

by Anonymousreply 57Last Tuesday at 4:57 PM

I like long walks in the park. Many young men are taking their shirts off so I get a free show. I wear dark sunglasses to see them without embarrassing myself!

by Anonymousreply 58Last Tuesday at 6:52 PM

I love this thread! I was just ruminating today how my company is probably never going to require us to come back to the office full time. My job is easy breezy to begin with. I have a mostly absent boss who checks in with me maybe once every two weeks. I am 40 years old but living the life of a retiree. Most days I don't get out of bed until 9a. I make breakfast, work out. By the time I'm showered and dressed it's already noon. Husband and I have been doing some home renovation projects, so that's kept me occupied. Some days I'll go shopping and just spend a few hours at stores. Evenings I'll cook dinner, smoke some weed and catch up on tv or do some writing or music production. I am so looking forward to this summer and moving about in the world again, socializing and being in crowds. No Trump. No constantly doomscrolling Twitter because of Trump. Life feels like it's about to get good again .

by Anonymousreply 59Last Tuesday at 6:57 PM

Weed and puttering around. I'm so ready to be doing more. I need to be around people and feel some kind of community. Even if it's just sitting around the bar at my local spot for a few.

by Anonymousreply 60Last Tuesday at 7:22 PM

R60 - I get you. I feel an instant jolt when I go to the farmer's market or bookstore or terraces here. I don't particularly like people much but the sound of life happening is energizing.

by Anonymousreply 61Last Tuesday at 11:50 PM

dismembering bodies

by Anonymousreply 62Last Wednesday at 2:28 AM

I like to eat pancakes in the woods

by Anonymousreply 63Last Wednesday at 3:00 PM

I bought a jigsaw puzzle for the first time since I was a child today. I feel like I'm giving up.

by Anonymousreply 64Last Wednesday at 3:02 PM

Puttering around, walking, tending houseplants (during covid they have multiplied, watering and repotting ). Now that I have gotten both vax doses and waited the 14 days after, I have enjoyed wearing a mask and browsing about Home Sense, other shops which are not necessary but have been missed. Bookstores. I live not far from the shore, so enjoy walking on the boardwalk and the small towns. so I am around people, but still able to keep some distance.

I am not ready to dine indoors yet, or be in large groups indoors. But I plan to attend some outside events as the weather warms up. Masked, of course. It will take a long time until I feel relaxed around large groups.

by Anonymousreply 65Last Wednesday at 3:08 PM

I like to play with my legs

by Anonymousreply 66Last Wednesday at 3:55 PM
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