The 55 Year Old Checking Grindr at the Gym Everyday

What is the point of this diary?

Once I couldn't sell it I certainly wasn't tempted to start giving it away.

Such people have a disorder.

Quality, not quantity, when there are no transactions involved.

I'm 56 and stopped looking for sex years ago. I'm more passive, so maybe this is why.

I sought sex quite readily between 15 and 30.

I really think a man who is over 40 should have different priorities.

That's the saddest thing I've read in years. Horribly unaware sex-addict without a glimmer of self-understanding but much worse, a crappy writer.

He just makes it sound so cold and businesslike. I doubt he even knows these guys’ names or cares to. I just couldn’t do it.

If I’m doing this at 55, kill me.

This is one of the problems humans have. They find something that makes them feel good so they keep doing it until it doesn't. This can take a very long time with the usual host of consequences along the way.

Why are people so invested in what lonely, older gay men do? Why are they constantly cut down?

He sounds tedious

She was the belle of the ball at one time, and is now frozen in amber, trying to relive those moments every day

The most embarrassing part is a 55 year old recognising an influencer.

You just know he's shaved and it makes him look even more weathered and leathery than he already did

Another old queen trying to have both sides of his bread buttered: the constant sex from hookups, and the non-existent sex life with the "husband" of many years, even though they basically have nothing to do with one another. And bonus points for the partner being a clueless moron.

So now you have two old queens morbidly afraid of being single and have to stand alone but quite content to put up a faux front of domestic bliss to the outside world.

1) A number of commenters on the article have called bullshit in that London gyms have been shut down for most of the pandemic.

2) He's putting himself and his partner at risk for Covid meeting with these random guys

3) We have no sense of quality--the guys he is meeting up with could be fat and ugly. It's part of the DL Conventional Wisdom that the 20something guys who hook up with 50 year olds are often chubby or otherwise unattractive to men their own age.

[quote] A number of commenters on the article have called bullshit in that London gyms have been shut down for most of the pandemic.

I just don’t get the obsession on DL and elsewhere to prove something in an EST didn’t really happen. What difference does it make whether it actually happened or not? It’s more interesting if it happened, I’m never going to actually meet this guy, so who cares?

"Why are people so invested in what lonely, older gay men do? Why are they constantly cut down?"

I think it's more a fascination with the emotionally stunted growth of some people.

It seems kind of normal for a horny guy, and why not

Can you not understand the difference between an EST on Datalounge and one that's published in NY Magazine, OP?

[quote] more a fascination with the emotionally stunted growth of some people

This is 90% of the allure of Datalounge.

call the police Mary

[quote] If I’m doing this at 55, kill me.

OK, we will

This is the worst part:

"I don’t know what my partner knows about my sex life but when we last discussed it (high on ecstasy a few years ago), he told me he doesn’t want to know about what I get up to sexually."

At his age (even a few years ago), doing ecstasy!

Despite his occasional charity work, his life seems meaningless. But it’s nice he feels great about himself.

That 55 year old is living his best life. Good on him.

Not like he majority of posters in this thread, who weren’t fuckable when they were 21.

Right? He's got at least 5 more years to whore around. Get it while you can!

Take him out back and shoot him but be sure to wear proper biohazard disposal gear.

It is not an unreasonable assumption that the majority of DL would prefer men's genitals to just fall off after 50 as no one who is anyone would even want to ponder what an active sex life anyone that old could have that isn't either gross or trashy.

[quote]A number of commenters on the article have called bullshit in that London gyms have been shut down for most of the pandemic.

I picked up on that too, however they were open over the summer, and later in the piece he talks about stopping hook ups because the news is reporting an uptick in cases, which sounds like the autumn/winter increase which caused them to close again. Does seem odd that it would've taken them 6 months to publish though.

I'm 41 and his sex life sounds absolutely exhausting. I'm very sex positive and still love fucking, but it feels like a full time job for him.

Thanks OP The article took me back to those days. Nice to remember but nothing I miss. I didn't finish the article but I've pretty much done all he writes about.

No, R22, I think this is the worst part:

[quote]6 p.m. I watch some porn alone in bed before having a lovely evening with my partner on the sofa watching Netflix and eating good food.

That just seems pathetic.

R29 and everyone else this dude sounds like an OVER THE HILL- SCENE QUEEN,

The majority of seroconversions happen this way r13. It's very unfortunate and quite shitty.