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Have you ever visited anyone in prison?

How was it?

(I tried to find a gays in prison photo - but they're all pornographic - but I'm not asking about anything sexual).

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by Anonymousreply 48a day ago

Yes. Rahway State Prison, NJ. It was in the early 90s as part of an elective course for law school. There were many other prisoners and guests in a big gymnasium that had picnic tables and benches a few feet apart from each other. There were women dropping their panties around their ankles sitting on hard dicks with no embarrassment of who was watching. One heavy set black woman was bouncing up and down and sweating as her young child sat a few feets nearby. Prison guards stationed in different spots and also walking around did nothing. No cock sucking that I saw, only clandestine fucking. When someone talks about seeing something you can never burn out of your imagination, this is what they mean. It was quite amazing and the man I was there to see thought it more funny how shocked I was. It was a great experience and made me stay far away from criminal law and the wrong side of the law.

by Anonymousreply 1Last Saturday at 3:25 PM

Yes. A bunch of friends got busted selling meth so I used to go visit them in prison. A current friend is serving 25 years for trying to shoot a cop so I visited him until Covid hit and when he wasn’t in solitary.

by Anonymousreply 2Last Saturday at 3:41 PM

Only when I stopped by their cells after being let out of mine.

by Anonymousreply 3Last Saturday at 3:52 PM

Yeah it sucks. I went to visit somebody at Utah State prison. You can only go at certain times. Had to sit in the small room with a bunch of people just to get in. For a 45 minute visit. Watched the entire time by guards. They Want to make it as miserable as possible.

by Anonymousreply 4Last Saturday at 3:57 PM

My deceased brother's wife, she got a 10 year sentence for selling drugs. She was still out in a little over a year I think, it was quite a while ago. Only reason I visited was to take her kids to see her.

Depressing place, depressing people, three hour drive to get there, they didn't search us and we would meet in person not behind some glass barrier, I am sure they searched her when we left. No exciting stories, it was all very boring and depressing.

by Anonymousreply 5Last Saturday at 4:42 PM

I have never associated with anyone who has been to prison.

by Anonymousreply 6Last Saturday at 4:45 PM

Prison shows how inhumane we still are no matter how “modern” we consider ourselves. Treating people like animals. Whether they sold drugs, shoplifted - or killed someone. It’s insanely cruel treatment that can only be rationalized by never experiencing it. Even leftists still believe in locking people up in these horrific dog pens. We are only one step away from primitives.

by Anonymousreply 7Last Saturday at 5:30 PM

More clandestine fucking stories, please and thank you!

by Anonymousreply 8Last Saturday at 5:52 PM

I taught in a prison. It's a lot like the prison in The Wire, if crossed with an airport. People are moving around all the time, except when there's a lockdown obviously.

by Anonymousreply 9Last Saturday at 5:54 PM

No. But I'm fascinated by prison culture, & watch documentaries on the subject all the time.

by Anonymousreply 10Last Saturday at 5:54 PM

You're kidding, right?

by Anonymousreply 11Last Saturday at 7:06 PM

Yes, I've visited people in prison. Did not see any sexual stuff going on like what R1 described. I never, ever ... ever want to end up in a jail or a prison. Even when I did used to drink, I stopped drinking and driving completely. (Although I have driven drunk in the past.)

Guys in prison are happy for any kind of visitor.

by Anonymousreply 12Last Saturday at 7:18 PM

Yes I’ve bailed some of my paramours out . Expensive and stinky, just like them.

by Anonymousreply 13Last Saturday at 10:07 PM

I adopted a prison dog a few years ago, i had to drive about an hour and a half to pick him up. I sat outside the prison watching moms go in and come out from visiting their sons, some would walk to their cars barely able to contain themselves until they could get into their cars and cry. It was a sad place. I was bummed for days.

I had to return the dog the same day because it grabbed me by the wrist three times, it had no inhibitions about putting it's teeth on a person which I thought was dangerous since it had a very strong prey drive and an alpha personality. It's handler obviously allowed it to play rough..

by Anonymousreply 14Last Saturday at 10:55 PM

I worked in a prison as a correctional psychologist (in a rich European country).

I find DL's fascination with 'prison meat' quite amusing...

by Anonymousreply 15Last Saturday at 11:00 PM

I actually am going to retire in 4 years and was thinking of volunteering to help with GED prep or some other kind of life skills to non violents.

by Anonymousreply 16Yesterday at 2:33 AM

Here ya go OP

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by Anonymousreply 17Yesterday at 2:36 AM

Don't forget the guards

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by Anonymousreply 18Yesterday at 2:37 AM

My favorite

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by Anonymousreply 19Yesterday at 2:38 AM

I've bailed a couple of people out of jail. One out of city jail, one out of county jail. The longest, slowest motherfucking process in the known universe. It took me longer to spring them than it took the cops to process them in.

It's so much easier in 2nd and 3rd world shitholes, where arrest/incarceration and release from incarceration are dependent solely on the size of the bribe. Much more civilized.

by Anonymousreply 20Yesterday at 2:53 AM

I visited as part of a high school social studies class. The men would line up and bang on the bars and yell crazy things as we walked by. It was so loud.

It was then that I understood that the amount of mental illness in there was staggering

by Anonymousreply 21Yesterday at 3:36 AM

"Have you ever visited anyone in prison?"

Certainly not!

by Anonymousreply 22Yesterday at 3:38 AM

I went to visit my cute boyfriend in a Turkish prison. He was busted trying to smuggle a brick of hash out of the country. He got four years, and then the Turkish Supreme Court added 30 on to his sentence because he was American.

The warden was sadistic. I put several hundred US dollars in a photo album and gave it to him. He killed the warden and stole his keys and uniform to make his escape.

by Anonymousreply 23Yesterday at 3:53 AM

OP’s pic set up unrealistic expectations for this thread that were hardly fulfilled. 😔

by Anonymousreply 24Yesterday at 3:59 AM

This is interesting thread. R1, are you being serious? If so, it's surprising that goes on in the open. And R14, is adopting a prison dog a organized thing?

by Anonymousreply 25Yesterday at 4:15 AM

It's dirty, depressing, it smells. As a visitor you are almost treated like a prisoner, no matter who you are. The amount of rules is maddening. Yes, you get searched, etc. It reeks of a place that hasn't seen fresh air in decades. The prisoners hang on to the faintest thread of hope. Some are hardened criminals, including organised crime, others clearly suffer from mental illnesses, lacking in education, more than their share of bad luck. The women visiting hardened criminals are horrible. They think they own the place. You have to wait for hours for a 40-minute visit. Some guards are assholes, others are human. I'm guessing those don't last long in prison. The whole thing takes an inordinate amount of time, of course the gigantic facilities are out of town. You feel like washing from head to toe the minute you step out, and this includes sending your coat to the cleaners. The clothes you wore there you may also wish to burn afterwards, so think about it beforehand. For you, as a visitor, it feels like being in prison. For the prisoner, this is the only breath of fresh air they'll have all week.

All in all, I wouldn't recommend it and it's an experience one can very well do without. However, if you need to realise what life is like for a portion of the population, then go. It won't be a fun time and will make you realise how lucky you are, in case you didn't know it already.

Again, it smells, and this is everywhere in the prison. These are not happy places. The unhappiness sticks to you, seeps through your pores, gets stuck on your clothes and your hair.

by Anonymousreply 26Yesterday at 4:21 AM

Yes R25

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by Anonymousreply 27Yesterday at 11:55 AM

[quote]I worked in a prison as a correctional psychologist (in a rich European country).

What can you tell us about it? I would love to read a book by someone who had your job.

by Anonymousreply 28Yesterday at 12:12 PM

The inmate with the biggest dong gets the best blow jobs.

by Anonymousreply 29Yesterday at 12:21 PM

[quote]What can you tell us about it? I would love to read a book by someone who had your job.

Well, what do you want to know?

In general, working in prison can be very exciting, but it can also be a very sobering experience. You're confronted with a lot of difficult people there--mostly the prisoners, but sometimes also the staff. Learning about the suffering the prisoners have caused, but also learning how much suffering, trauma, and neglect many of them have lived through themselves, it tends to give you a more cynical view of human nature.

by Anonymousreply 30Yesterday at 12:22 PM

I knew a guy who was a librarian in a prison. He talked about having to be real careful and not allowing anyone to run off with a pencil or anything (or stab you with one). Could not do it myself.

by Anonymousreply 31Yesterday at 12:26 PM

I visited one of my brother’s childhood best friends in prison in the mid 90’s. He was in for dealing drugs, manslaughter, and gang activity. It was sad and terrifying. He really was a nice kid when he was younger, and got involved in gangs because he had no family (he lived with his stripper mother and his dad was in prison). He almost lived at our house when he was growing up. He ended up stealing money from my dad’s wallet in high school, and was never allowed back in our house. The gangs came next, along with a 15 year prison sentence. He was shot and paralyzed shortly after getting out of prison. Some people just don’t stand a chance in life.

by Anonymousreply 32Yesterday at 12:31 PM

R32 It's a horrible story, and reflects probably a good half of the prison population, if not more.

by Anonymousreply 33Yesterday at 12:35 PM

Many, many years ago I taught in LA county jail (jail and prison are different). The subgroups of prisoners were dressed in different color overalls... so guards could keep them apart. Regular population in orange. The young "soft" prisoners were in sky blue. The "stoolies" in red - had to be most careful with them - they would get stabbed if mixed with other prisoners. The trustees were in white and ran the show. The "queens" were in dark blue and they ripped me apart verbally - they mistook kindness for weakness, ha.

Much later in life I visited a prison to accredit it. I remember the different wings also "segregated" - one wing was a convalescent hospital for elderly prisoners. Lifers in wheelchairs and walkers. I vividly remember being out on "the yard" and one guard of bodybuilder shape and size running out and yelling at prisoners with a baton slapping in his hand - what was odd was that his pants were unnaturally cinched high with a large leather belt, and it pulled his pants up tight on his bulge - which was enormous. He may well have had his crotch stuffed, but it looked like two tennis balls under an impossibly thick kielbasa. It was obvious he was intentionally showing off... his yelling and energy was all angry and alpha. And no, it wasn't erotic, it was evil in a disturbing way.

[quote]Hebrews 13:3 Remember the prisoners, as though you were in prison with them, and the mistreated, as though you yourselves were suffering bodily.

by Anonymousreply 34Yesterday at 12:59 PM

Jared Kushner visited his Daddy many times in Fed prison, so maybe he could weigh in and tell us a few stories.

by Anonymousreply 35Yesterday at 1:29 PM

R27, your link was to dogs that are paired with paroles, I don't think R14 was an ex-con.

by Anonymousreply 36Yesterday at 2:01 PM

[quote] It took me longer to spring them than it took the cops to process them in.

They have to check for any outstanding warrants before releasing anyone. These days it shouldn't take that much time but sometimes it's not a priority for them.

by Anonymousreply 37Yesterday at 2:41 PM

My cousin just got sent to jail for 20 years. I don't know him, but he looks nice - maybe I'll go visit.

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by Anonymousreply 38Yesterday at 2:53 PM

Yikes, r38, what did he do? He looks tragic.

by Anonymousreply 39Yesterday at 2:55 PM

R39 - he drove a car trunk load of drugs across state lines - but he said he didn't know they were in there. :)

by Anonymousreply 40Yesterday at 2:58 PM

My ex at Rikers. I swore I would never do that again, no one is worth that. It’s in the middle of no where and they make you check everything . They keep the waiting area cold and you don’t get to eat. They have drug sniffing dogs . They also pat you down and look under your clothes . Like I said never again. There were woman who go do that every week. That was 14 years ago I was at a low point. I also had a friend who went to see her boyfriend at Rikers and she passed contraband to him and they arrested her right there in front of her kid.

by Anonymousreply 41Yesterday at 3:02 PM

OP has been watching Oz. It’s a t.v. show.

by Anonymousreply 42a day ago

The classic book about this is "Conversations With the Dead" by Danny Lyon (1971).

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by Anonymousreply 43a day ago

r43, Wow, that's intense.

by Anonymousreply 44a day ago

Yes, I visited three tramps (well, that's what the cops thought they were...what a joke!).

by Anonymousreply 45a day ago

I love this website where they give prisoners 50 bucks if they write something worth publishing. This is my favourite piece, about the culture of openly masturbating in prison. The writer has another interesting biographical piece about his life pre-prison, picking up guys and beating/robbing them after having sex with them.

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by Anonymousreply 46a day ago

It is horrific. Like all ugliness, people want to just ignore it. Everyone should have to spend time there. It’s sadistic we throw people in there to be rested like animals and just ignore them.

by Anonymousreply 47a day ago

R23 you forgot to mention the part where you put your titties up against the glass

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