My Best Friend’s Covid Wedding

"I love you, but I'm not risking my health or the health of the people I see every day"

Or..."you're a dumb cunt determined to kill your older relatives"

My mother's BFF just pulled her 60th birthday party with over 100 invitees. I don't know what she was thinking organizing it in the first place. Talk to your friend and ask her if she wants to remember her special day as the reason some of her loved ones got ill and/or died. That was the thought that made my mother's bff finally reconsider about her party.

The decision is easy: send a note wishing the couple well and politely declining. I wouldn't make a big deal out of it; I'd just say "no".

I'd tell her to go fuck herself at least with your inside voice. Just send a present with your regrets. If she doesn't understand, then she truly is a self-absorbed idiot, and not worth your time. I just had to cancel going to my own nieces wedding on Nov 1 in Florida. They booked a huge venue and can not get a refund - so they are basically having it and whomever can come will - they at least seem to be understanding. I called her to explain, and we sent a very generous gift - she seemed ok. It's not worth risking your life or others that you care for. These people who "don't live in fear" are actually morons and we don't have to let them take us with them.

Send a nice present and a lovely card. Maybe even host a party for her whenever we're past COVID. If she drops you because you valued your health over her wedding, I wouldn't consider it a big loss.

You specifically asked for advice from tasteful DLers, so I won’t comment.

If you really like her and want to stay friends, send a present and RSVP that you will not be able to attend large gatherings at the present time. Leave your explanation at that, if she asks tell her that you have concerns about your own health or the health of frail loved ones, but only if asked.

If you're sick of her and don't want to speak to her again, send a harangue about superspreader events instead of a present.

Give her a nice phone call "just to check in" and start screaming that she's a murderous cunt.

Scream "MURDERER!" at the top of your lungs, again and again into the phone until she hangs up.

If she drops you as a friend, her loss!

Dump her immediately . Why would you be besties with someone so self centered ,so selfish , as to throw a fucking wedding in the middle of a pandemic ? Are you an asshole too OP ?