Wow, it's been two years since I've hooked up with someone

I’m in my 40s and no longer want hook ups.

I haven’t had sex in at least 6 years. I don’t miss it.

Please have some sex. It’s part of being human and can make you a more balanced person

I am 61 and hooked up today with a hot Latin kid that cruised me at a dollar tree. Being a very hairy daddy type I am a magnet to them . He is 24 with a 3 kids and a frigid overweight wife. Had a lady of Guadalupe tattoo on his calve. Something told me to take a Cialis this morning , He texted me that he is still sore . We are hooking up a gain next week .

Haven't had sex in 4-5 years. I'd be lying if I said I don't sometimes miss the fun and intimacy, but at 29 I feel like I no longer have the motivation to go out of my way for it.

R5 Wait--you haven't had sex since you were 24? And you already have lost the motivation to seek it out? Maybe you typo'd?

You must have some amazingly fulfilling hobbies!!!

R6 well I'm also majorly depressed so I guess that factors into it.

OMG I'm 60 and still have sex a few times a month, sometimes more often and no, I don't pay for it or do all the other things that DL will accuse me of. You guys in your 40's should get out there. I completely understand if you don't want to or feel you're not ready etc. I just don't want you to have any regrets down the road.

I had a boyfriend until we broke up this summer. Not interested in hookups

I haven't had sex in a couple months, but it feels like its been a year. And I'm kind of into it!

I stayed with my previous partner wayyyy past the expiration date, simply because he had a tight little bod and the sex was extremely satisfying. After the first six months, his mask started to slip, and the person beneath it was an entitled, lazy, lying loser. I became extremely turned off by his personality and his lifestyle. We were semi-living together so it was tricky, because he had no job and no money (d'oh!). I desperately wanted to break it off but then we'd have sex and I'd think "omg how will I live without this intimacy and touch? And the orgasms??" But he HAD to go. Finally, circumstances forced my hand, and a family member came over and literally kicked him out of my house.

I really admire folks who construct their lives in a thoughtful, deliberate way. The patience and the dedication to self is inspiring. And I'm noticing now that I'm truly, TRULY single, that I don't really miss sex or companionship. It's not been easy but it's unlocking parts of me that I'd been neglecting my whole life. And I'm not walking around dickmatized, I am able to enjoy the nuance of moments like how the fresh air smells, how my coffee tastes, and just quiet moments alone. Walking in the forest. Working on my hobbies. I'm not preoccupied by thinking about that other person, wondering when we are going to be able to see each other. I'm just living in the present moment now.

I'm realizing that I haven't been alone hardly at all in my whole adult life. Even since high school, I've had casual-to-serious relationships almost the entire time, with very little downtime. Being single left me feeling restless, like something was missing. I needed the attention and sex to make me feel complete. I am learning how to out how to nurture myself now. Of course, I still hope that some time in the future I'll find someone that I can share the sensual part of myself with, but I am fine with waiting for years if need be for that to happen.

[bold] Never thought I'd ever be able to say that! [bold]

I have one of those motorized fuck machines that fucks my ass on cam

I haven’t had sex since December. I wasnt really scared about the pandemic until April but I was busy with other stuff. I got a kitten in January and he was all I cared about. I felt like it would be wrong having random men over when he was so young and innocent.

R7 Are you doing anything about your depression? You're too young to stop living your life! I know its hard because of Covid, but please seek some resources to help you. Or get to the root of what is depressing you. Please. You're just so young.

Won’t somebody think of the pussy?!

I am young and don't need sex as much. It's actually very liberating. I feel like those who just hookup constantly are just listening to their primal urges and nothing more. We are better than that, we are human. Pornhub is all I need. A lot easier and less drama.

It's been a couple of years for me. I realized the sex wasn't any better with another person than what I can do to myself, and there's no awkward morning after.

I'm 53 and my last hookup was from Grindr (yes I know) in June. He was a hot 31 Arab, muscular, great cocksucker, loved poppers and had an ass to die for. I thought we clicked but again, this being Grindr, I was wrong. He ignored me after that first time. I was getting turned off by the online apps to begin with (should have done it sooner). With the second or third wave of the pandemic hitting, I can't see myself meeting anyone for quite a while. I doubt I'll miss it. I can't even remember my last meaningful sexual encounter.

If you didn't care, there wouldn't be this bleating thread, OP.

I am 25 and had sex 2 weeks ago. He only lasted 10 minutes. I was not satisfied. I am hoping to find myself a daddy for regular fun session.

15 years.

I'm 40 and haven't had sex since the summer. I can be content so long as I know I always have the option of sex, I just choose not to. When I can no longer get hot guys or have the option, then I think I'll be bummed. Right now, I think I'm more interested in attempting to look for a datable guy, take things slow. I find connected sex so much hotter than hookups.

Never been in love. Never had a satisfying sexual experience. Afraid of std's. Lack of self-esteem. Body Issues...

And now I'm past the age where anybody's interested.

Just never happened for me, whatever.

Same. I haven’t had sex since April of 2019 and I’m not bothered by it. Sometimes I start to think I’m asexual. I was so horny in my teens and twenties. Am I wanted to do was go on a date, have a couple of drinks and go back to my place to fuck. Now in my early forties I couldn’t care less. I’d rather use my energy to work out, do some cooking or find a fun home project to get finished. I rarely think about sex the way I used to.

Last time I had sex was 2014.

It's not that clear to me whether this is by choice or not?

Since I became sexually active the longest I've ever been without has been a couple of months, post break-up blues-induced, I can't imagine going without for a couple of years. Perhaps you're on the asexual spectrum? If you are, that's cool, and as long as you're happy with it then what's the problem?

If you want sex but you're missing out for whatever reason, you'll need to help us identify the reason if you'd like us to help you. Are you unsuccessful in finding compatible sexual partners? Are you suffering from any medical or psychological issue that might prevent you from hooking up?

Do blowjobs count.

I have had a few suck my dick but no all out sex.

I haven't met anyone I wanted to fuck. I go on dating apps and no one seems appealing. I also don't feel attractive enough to just go meet someone and fuck them and in this pandemic, you can't go out really. Sex has to have some build up for me. I want the tension...the meeting of the minds, the build up to the act. I've never understood the hooking up without there being intimacy.

R27 can't you have that build up online though? Get chatting to someone you click with, get each other going, send sexy photos or have a webcam session - you could get to know them quite well before ever meeting, and really get each other frothing with anticipation before you ever met in person.

I can't believe that you guys are actively choosing to hook up during a pandemic -- and I'm a friendly whore of the first order! I'm waiting for a vaccine. But I'm also in my late 40s and I remember feeling invincible when younger, so... I understand. Just try to stay healthy, guys.

Sex is anomalistic and wrong during this time. Resist the temptations and be higher than an animal!

R6 I haven’t had sex ever, at 27. I don’t care to seek it, and don’t feel there’s a gaping hole in my soul without it, either. I occasionally feel curious or like I’m missing a cosmic joke, but that’s all.

I come with a history of unfulfilling relationships, and of depression like R5. I also don’t like strangers touching me or being in my personal space (ASD, possibly?), and I’m female with fairly janky menstraul issues, so maybe that’s what’s up.

It’s not uncommon for teens and twenty-somethings nowadays to be virgins, fwiw.

[quote] And now I'm past the age where anybody's interested.

At age 52 my then-partner flat out told me he no longer found me attractive. Since I'm an AWG who owns a mirror, I understood. Luckily we'd never moved in together so that was that. I was convinced I'd spend the rest of my life single. I wasn't despondent, just resigned to it.

Not long after, I decided to drop into a bar. I wasn't trying to drown my sorrows, just get them a little wet. In walked a very handsome young man (38) who flashed me a dazzling smile. I summoned up my courage and went over to talk to him. An hour later I asked him home. Ten years later, he's still here, and I've never been happier.

It's bad for your prostate, mental health and attitude. Have some sex or we're going to kick you out of the GLBTQRST group.

R12 please tell us about your darling kitten!

I’m sure the little furball wants you to be happy, whether that means sex or celibacy. Do animals have a concept of innocence?

It's been five years for me, and I paid for it.

Not paying for it? It's been a dozen years.

Please list how often you masturbate to balance out these sexual deserts🏜

In my thirties....I haven’t even kissed in almost 4 years. It was fine until the past few months. I really miss intimacy, I am even looking at sex cinemas in my area(with good reviews.) Does anyone have any positive experiences? I’m bi but I am not expecting many women at a place like that which is ok.

Y'all must be watching loads of porn

[R7],former 20 something guy here who squandered a portion of his 20s to depression and the “superiority” of not having sex. Start working out, get the testosterone and dopamine pumping. You will regret having passed up these opportunities. This state you’re living in isn’t superior, it’s sad. I wish the best.

I haven’t had sex in quite some time, and I’m ok with it, but anyone who says masturbating is just as good sex has absolutely no fucking clue about what good sex is.

[Quote] [R6] I haven’t had sex ever, at 27. I don’t care to seek it, and don’t feel there’s a gaping hole in my soul without it, either

You get the gaping hole after you've been penetrated.

R39 ...it's odd to assume I have a "superiority" complex about not having sex. To me it's just whatever, I don't feel like it's superior nor sad.

Does Tim Teabow mean no masturbating when he trumpets 🎺 the purity of NO SEX?

I'm quite puzzled because I don't feel like I have a particularly high sex drive at all but I rarely go for longer than a week without sex - and by that point I am super horny to the point it is distracting, and I am eye-fucking every remotely attractive man I encounter in the outside world.

Does it just get to the point where when you go without for a certain length of time, your desire just dies? Is 'use it or lose it' an actual thing? Don't you end up getting wet dreams constantly?

R44, stop kidding yourself, you have an extremely high sex drive.

Yes I didn't use it and I lost it.

15 years for me. I’m 65.

15 yrs no sex or no spanking it?

I'm 55 and haven't had sex since December, so coming up on a year for me. While jacking off certainly helps gets you through the moments when you're about ready to climb the walls, I do agree with R40 that it's no substitute for sex with another person. I love being with and sharing intimacy with another man. There is just nothing better or more fulfilling in my opinion.

Not since February, and it's as if I've forgotten what sex is like. Watching porn is not the same but a whole different thing, not a substitute.

The other morning I dreamt that I was sucking my trainer/masseur. Which I did and have. I vividly felt and tasted his uncut cock and foreskin. That is one memory of sex and what it feels like that I retain.

Haven't seen my 45-year-old BF since March 1, 2020--that was his last weekend with me. I'm 73 and my husband's older; and he was diagnosed with Parkinson's last February, and with that diagnosis, he's especially vulnerable to covid. He will not allow anyone in the apartments until there's a vaccine. I miss the BF terribly and our beautiful intimacy.

So why not bang the husband like crazy before he kicks it? Stick a wallet in his mouth and go to town.

R32 I love your story!

I'm almost 41 too. I'm in good shape. Still (relatively) good looking. But have ZERO interest in sex. None. My drive just disappeared about a year ago.

I was never exactly a fiend, but still...

where do u live? ILL FUCK YOU

No sex since February. It's annoying, but the last few times I had sex pre-Covid it was as satisfying as having potato chips for dinner.

OP, we are similar down to every word. Same age, same amount of time since hooking up and same attitude toward it.

I went through a 2-3 year span in my early-40s where I was kind of ambivalent about sex. Began masturbating more frequently to kinda prime the pump as it were and that actually seemed to increase my drive. Seemed to be a temporary phase as i'm 53 now and getting (and wanting) puh-lenty of dick.

So start a' wanking boys and see if that helps.

If you wait much longer to get laid I hear your wiener could fall off. Careful there.

It's been years, maybe 5 or 6. But I still jerk off every day, 2 hours long no interruptions. I'm 56.

I’m not very sexually active, although I did have sex on the weekend. I’m 29 and my sex drive has really diminished over the years, which I’ve chalked up to watching too much porn and not using my imagination enough, or spending enough time having sex. It’s like I’ve messed with my brain’s idea of what it means to be horny, and replaced my sex drive with a porn drive. I’m also much lazier in bed than I was as a youngster, and can’t be bothered with much other than kissing and fucking. I used to suck and rim guys for hours.

Access to free porn has made everyone more lazy. Not complaining though.

55 no sex in years. My boyfriend lost interest and so did I. My sex drive has been up and down based on many factors on my life. Right now I think about being with someone and not just jerking off by myself ( which I hardly ever do anyway). I have a feeling that my sex life is over and what's left of my sex drive will follow. For the record I'm just an average guy, I'm not bringing anything special to the table.

It's a relief not to have a diminished sex drive. How much time I have wasted!

I used to have a very low sex drive during my twenties when I was with my ex. When we broke up I didn’t miss sex or dating for 3 years or so but now after nearly 5 years I do very much miss it. Even when the physiotherapist massages my back I feel so grateful for just being touched by another human being. Yes pathetic I know.

I have had crushes but I never got either of them. I thought entering the gay community would be the beginning of the rest of my life; I would find love, happiness, togetherness, everything, but none of it ever happened.

Sex has been disappointing. I hate bottoming, but I don't want to top. Well, to be more accurate, bottoming has been a painful, tedious,. or boring experience with most of the guys not even knowing what they were doing. Never had a good or great sexual experience. Never had a fun date. HIV/AIDS scared the shit out of me. I could have been out there, at least trying to find love or a decent hook up, but I was too afraid of what would happen to me if I got infected (and people found out). I just stopped trying after a while.

I was almost cute in my 30s; I'm in my 50s, now. The party-that-never-was is over.

It's all disappointing. I don't watch gay films, TV, anymore because watching pretty people live the ideal gay life is depressing. I will never have it; I don't get any joy from watching other people live it.

It doesn't happen for everybody. Some of us just live and die alone. That fabulous sexy gay life we were sold is just romantic fiction.

^ Yes I agree that fabulous sexy gay life we are sold is just romantic fiction for 90% of us.

But I reckon 90% of the western world exist on romantic fiction— including the churches who sell hope as a means of coping with existence.

No. I have never. I get 'thirsty' and 'hungry.'

Sometimes.

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Crosswords*

Netflix*

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Straight guy @ R70? Is that a joke? Never in all my life would I think that a straight man would come to the DL. There's nothing for them here!

Pornhub is better than any kind of sex and more safe! Twinkle these days have all the diseases!!

64 and married to a 70 year old man. It's been almost 2 years since we had sex. The medications I take for my health problems totally destroyed my libido.