I can't vouch for this person. I don't trust them. What do I say, diplomatically, to turn them down?
I was asked to be a reference for someone applying for a job
|by Anonymous||reply 27||10/16/2020|
I'm actually already a reference for someone I know much better, for the same position. Would that be a decent excuse?
|by Anonymous||reply 1||10/15/2020|
Just say you don’t feel comfortable being a reference. End of story.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||10/15/2020|
Say X already got to you about being a reference for the same job and you do not want to be a reference twice for the same place.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||10/15/2020|
Agree with R3. That would be the best tactic.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||10/15/2020|
Say you will and then don't, OP.
Don't you guys know how to lie??
|by Anonymous||reply 5||10/15/2020|
Just say that there are probably people who know them better who might be a better reference.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||10/15/2020|
Tell them you have a conflict of interest and can't give a reference. They don't need to know what it is. The less information you give, the better.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||10/15/2020|
Poison this person with a little known Russian death agent. The world doesn't need another shitty worker. You'd be doing us all a favor. Problem solved.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||10/15/2020|
“Are you fucking kidding me?”
|by Anonymous||reply 9||10/15/2020|
Tell them sure, then don’t answer the call.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||10/15/2020|
Say yes. Be honest with the hiring representative. They need to know that this person likes Hellman’s mayonnaise.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||10/15/2020|
"It's gonna cost you a blow job."
|by Anonymous||reply 12||10/15/2020|
I was once asked for my opinion of a former coworker by a current boss. The former coworker was a universe of shit. I told the truth.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||10/15/2020|
OP someday someone is going to get you and they are going to get you good. I hope when you are down you get kicked good and hard while you are down there. You deserve it. You associate with someone so that they think that they "could" actually use you for a reference instead of ending the relationship with them then you want to do them dirty. OP you're the shit stain. You can't be honest with this person and say, I don't like you as a person and I don't want to associate with your type like you should have done in the first place. Quit using people shit head.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||10/15/2020|
When asked for a reference I always manage to say something nice because not every person is right for every job, and just because someone wasn't a good fit with my company doesn't mean s/he won't be a good fit somewhere else. In that case I usually just keep it to the job duties and dates of employment rather than praising the candidate.
But I would not provide a recommendation for two people vying for the same job, especially if I had a preference. I like R3 's advice.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||10/15/2020|
Can you say that you are notoriously bad at that kind of thing?
|by Anonymous||reply 16||10/15/2020|
This is what I would tell my students regarding asking a professor to write them a recommendation: if the professor hesitates for even a brief moment when asked, go ask someone else.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||10/16/2020|
"I have sufficient"
|by Anonymous||reply 18||10/16/2020|
I'd also say "sure" and give your actual opinions to the employer.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||10/16/2020|
I'm pretty sure R14 is the person who asked me for the reference.
For the record, we are in a professional group together, she asked to meet me once a few months ago for a one on one meeting, and it went very poorly. She complained about other people in the group and claimed people didn't respect her sufficiently given her level of experience and training. Her reputation for being difficult is well known, and she has atrocious social habits (she's rude as hell). She has some issues, to put it mildly.
I know the folks doing the hiring and they know her, too, so this whole thing is a joke. I could never recommend her to them, and they would think I had lost my mind if I did. I was just looking for a polite way to decline.
Thanks for the suggestions, I did just tell her I was already a reference for another candidate. She didn't respond but I'm sure she's seething. Oh well.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||10/16/2020|
I'm the OP at R20.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||10/16/2020|
Do you need references to move from one store to another in the dying mall?
|by Anonymous||reply 22||10/16/2020|
Me, to the potential employer: “I have nothing bad to say but I barely know this person and they asked me to be a reference. You can draw your own conclusions from that.”
|by Anonymous||reply 23||10/16/2020|
[quote] I was asked to be a reference for [bold] someone [/bold] applying for a job. I can't vouch for [bold] this person[/bold]. I don't trust [italic]them [/italic]. What do I say, diplomatically, to turn them down?
Oh dear, oh dear.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||10/16/2020|
“You will be fortunate if you can get this person to work for you”.
“I can’t express how highly I regard this person.”
|by Anonymous||reply 25||10/16/2020|
Say something truthful but neutral, like "He's good at circulating his blood and drawing air into his lungs" or "If you're looking for a candidate whose body temperature is 98.6 degrees, she could be a good fit."
|by Anonymous||reply 26||10/16/2020|
Just keep saying “WHO!?”
|by Anonymous||reply 27||10/16/2020|