Dumb things I’ve heard about death:
I called my cousin to tell he my father, her, uncle, had died. She has a chronic disease and lives 2000 miles away, so I didn’t expect that she would come for the funeral, but the conversation was going so well, I thought to ask, and she said, “oh, no, not on such short notice.” (Haha, dad should have planned ahead).
My brother in law was a football coach, and I remarked to my sister that, while there were a lot of students and former students to at his wake, I was surprised that there was only one Black guy there. Ok, that’s my dumb comment, but my sister’s comment was worse. She replied, “yes, and he’s very well behaved”. Haha again, did she expect him to be stealing packets of sweet-and-low, or what? We constantly use that line to tease her.
You really have to be as gracious as you can stand to be to put up with stuff.
My niece dressed like a whore at my Dad’s funeral. I didn’t mention it to her or her dad, but she’s lucky the Church even allowed her to attend.
My nephew has a lot of problems. He lives, maybe 4 hours away and skipped his grandfather and nieces funerals. Then my sister learned that he was actually 39 minutes away during her daughter’s funeral, gambling at an Indian; casino. That stuck with her for at least a decade, if she ever let it go at all.
You only have one opportunity to die, so don’t screw it up by leaving the world a worse place by poor planning and score settling.