I see these 2 as 2 people: where 1 was really unhappy but couldn’t quite figure out how to escape, & the other 1 wanted to escape the drudgery of being a single actress, wanting more out of life, like starting a family, but not knowing exactly what that looked like because too many men are just too fucked up to commit.
There was something in the other that each recognized when they met: they each wanted to be happy, and wanted to be happy with someone else who was willing to do anything by their side, to be happy.
What I believe blocks many observers from understanding what happened with these two is that:
a) Many assume that being a Prince in a Royal Family or being a woman, any woman, regardless of her lack of aristocratic ancestry or being an aristocrat, who marries a Prince and thereby marries into the Royal Family, is or must be the best thing ever to accomplish, even if the actual Prince doesn’t feel that way, nor does his bride;
b) That due to the aforementioned assumption of how magnificent it is to be a royal or to marry one, the newlyweds MUST not ever question the public assumption, nor must they act in any way that challenges those assumptions, because the observers ‘ assumptions are far more valid & are actually true, just because they say so.
Some people actually DO believe that they’re better off& happier with a life partner. Some people actually DO feel trapped in a life they, themselves wouldn’t choose if the choice was theirs, but made for them by random birth rights, and some people really DO want something other than what we, the general public, perceive and assume to be a “perfect” or “idyllic” life, due to being royalty, and some people really DO fare better together, as a pair, rather than alone, or with who we believe is their appropriate “partner”, and some people really DO know this, and choose to pursue these things, despite the approval of their peers, family, country, or titles, and some people will actually SUCCEED by going against the grain, specifically when going against the grain is an idea or status quo, constructed by birth rights, or by complete strangers, who somehow have appropriated them as their “own”, rather than seeing them for who they truly & actually are: two people who had the balls to say “fuck it” to the establishment, & decided to check out the other side of life, as they, THEMSELVES, envision it, rather than live as proxies for our own “aspirations”, specifically aspirations that we project upon them, being that we aren’t Royalty, & will never actually fulfill, but value as omnipotent, even if it makes those whom we project these things upon, are completely MISERABLE.
Imagine living your entire life with little choice or personal agency, just because you’re expected to, by way of birth, or because a bunch of strangers who claim to see you as their optimal embodiment of life aspirations, which they, themselves, cannot actualize, tear you & your chosen wife, limb from limb, because she isn’t part of someone else’s “vision” or “best choice “ being deemed insufficient, due to her background & race, yet deny this, continuing to wish tou harm, while also wishing you failure on your endeavors, including your marriage, family, & career?
Every single, negative, racist, misogynistic post on the internet, solidify to this couple that they made correct assessments regarding the situation they found themselves in, & undoubtedly crystallizes to them that they were 100% correct in their understanding of what it meant for them to live life via others’ expectations, vs. theirs.
These 2 have balls, & before they met, had a ball, each. Together, they have BALLS, Good on them for using them to play the game called life, TOGETHER,, as a team, leaving behind a stadium filled with people who pretended to be “for” them, until they weren’t, based on personal unhappiness, classism, racism, misogyny, & some of the POOREST sportsmanship displayed by a group of pretty shitty, delusional and entitled people, EVER.