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I’m 57 & Suddenly Find Myself Attracted to College Guys My Son’s Age

I am a 57-year-old guy, a widower for the past four years. I am successful and still considered good looking for my age. I have had no problem finding attractive women to date and bed. I have no intention of getting remarried at present, mostly because I adore my three kids and do not want to change our lives with a stepmother just as they are setting up to fledge their wings and take off. My time with my kids is very precious to me. This has led to the occasional acrimonious breakup with the women I date, but I have always been upfront with them about my intention to keep it casual at present.

A few months after my beloved wife died, I discovered online porn, and that was my only sexual outlet for about two years till my kids felt comfortable at the thought of me dating again. The problem is that I got addicted to porn during that period, and my tastes gradually evolved in a very specific direction—namely gay porn between older masculine hairy guys and younger smooth men (twinks). I honestly don’t know who I identify with more, the daddy or the twink, when I look at these videos, and in my more analytical moments I think it is linked to my teenage years in an all-male boarding school when I was quite sexually active with other similarly aged boys. I never felt any same-sex desire once I left school and had access to women. These days, however, it’s about all I fantasize about, though I have managed to kick the porn habit.

I don’t know what to do about this. I find myself attracted to young, skinny, smooth (college-age) guys, and this bothers me quite a lot. My son often brings home his college buddies, and I am afraid to hang out with them in case I develop fantasies about any of them. It doesn’t help that at least a couple of his gay friends have given me every indication that they are attracted to me. At my darkest, I am deathly afraid that my tastes might evolve even further and suddenly I might find myself attracted to teenage guys and I might turn into one of those perverts. And as you can imagine, this makes it even harder to form committed relationships with the women I date. I have considered marriage just to help deal with this, but I am honest enough to know it won’t solve the problem since it does not arise from a lack of sex. Sex with women remains satisfactory but less compelling. A therapist should probably be my next option, but I want to have a sense of what to aim for before I see one.

What do you advise?

by Daddy Issues reply 4206/30/2020

Fuck em all!

by Daddy Issues reply 106/29/2020

Fuck your son and record it and post it here.

by Daddy Issues reply 206/29/2020

Rent boys. Hotel, no real names, cash. Just scratch the itch, don't get caught.

by Daddy Issues reply 306/29/2020

[quote] a widower for the past four years

[quote] A few months after my beloved wife died, I discovered online porn

You didn't discover online porn until four years ago? LIES!

by Daddy Issues reply 406/29/2020

What a NIFTY predicament

by Daddy Issues reply 506/29/2020

OP, I'm glad you posted. Now it can be revealed that I am fucking your son, as are R 1-5. He has a great ass and can't get enough.

by Daddy Issues reply 606/29/2020

Lean into it, OP. If you’re not a fit daddy, work on it. You’ll be swimming in tight smooth College guys.

by Daddy Issues reply 706/29/2020

Inevitable reply: 2/10.

Just find a 24 year old who looks 18 into daddies.

by Daddy Issues reply 806/29/2020

Post this on a bisexual board for some more relevant advice and see a therapist.

by Daddy Issues reply 906/29/2020

There is nothing wrong with being attracted to younger guys. In fact, it's perfectly natural, you just have to make sure they are of legal age, if you want to go further.

by Daddy Issues reply 1006/29/2020

[quote] What do you advise?

Sorry I was not here on time but the answer to your question is: Kill Yourself.

by Daddy Issues reply 1106/29/2020

[quote]I’m 57 & Suddenly Find Myself Attracted to College Guys My Son’s Age

A tale as old as time

by Daddy Issues reply 1206/29/2020

There's nothing wrong with being attracted to younger legal guys. I can see how it would be awkward to be dating someone close in age to your son, especially if you have other younger children, but you don't seem to be looking for anything serious. So try it out with someone who isn't your son's friend and see if you're really into it or if it's just a porn fantasy. Find a young-looking recent college grad. Or as R3 suggested, a rent boy is probably your safest option. Lets you know if you really like that with no risk of exposure or emotional commitment.

by Daddy Issues reply 1306/29/2020

Yeah, check ID at the door. Think wit yo head...not yo dick head.

by Daddy Issues reply 1406/29/2020

On another thread op was part of a twenty something couple. EST

My Partner Has Been Going PNP Parties Behind My Back My partner has admitted going to sex and drugs parties while I was at work. I had no idea.

We’re two gay men in our 20s and we were together two years. I knew he did drugs but with my help he managed to quit – or so I thought. We split up because we started to row every day.

I had managed to get back on track on my own when he called me and said he’d been fired from his job and needed a flatmate to help pay his bills.

Like a fool I agreed to move back in.

He’s now admitted he was sleeping around and taking drugs throughout our relationship.

I’m angry that I let him back into my life but feel guilty as well.

I know he’s been through some difficult stuff.

He’s in a dark place and I’m thinking, “Perhaps I’m to blame?”

by Daddy Issues reply 1506/29/2020

You're 57, that ship sailed decades ago.

by Daddy Issues reply 1606/29/2020

r8, that was my first thought. I gave it a 3/10, because I thought it was the nephew troll becoming more creative.

by Daddy Issues reply 1706/29/2020

Fail

by Daddy Issues reply 1806/29/2020

No one bothered to Google and find the link that OP neglected to post? It's from Slate.com.

Offsite Link
by Daddy Issues reply 1906/29/2020

Had a wife and now goes for college aged guys.

by Daddy Issues reply 2006/29/2020

What an Extraordinarily Special Time in your life.

by Daddy Issues reply 2106/29/2020

Once again, the senile old DL tradition of addressing the OP as if this is his own story rather than a dull copy-paste job.

by Daddy Issues reply 2206/29/2020

We DLers know someone named Joel who might help you out.

by Daddy Issues reply 2306/29/2020

What a drama queen. Middle aged men attracted to 20somethings is literally every middle aged men. Get over it and just fuck whatever college twink you want who gives a shit?

by Daddy Issues reply 2406/30/2020

He's not even middle-aged anymore (roughly, 38-55). He's.... elderly!

by Daddy Issues reply 2506/30/2020

[quote]I don’t know what to do about this.

Fuck a nephew.

by Daddy Issues reply 2606/30/2020

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Offsite Link
by Daddy Issues reply 2706/30/2020

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Offsite Link
by Daddy Issues reply 2806/30/2020

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by Daddy Issues reply 2906/30/2020

2/10

by Daddy Issues reply 3006/30/2020

My favorite porn is amateur 50 something fit daddy with young 20ish college boy. Make some, OP.

by Daddy Issues reply 3106/30/2020

I like watching porn with guys in their 20s, but want nothing to do with them IRL.

by Daddy Issues reply 3206/30/2020

anyone else?

by Daddy Issues reply 3306/30/2020

The fact that it's a link from Slate isn't bad in and of itself.

But OP is not prefacing the post to say "As seen on Slate" so OP is, thus, a pile of shit.

by Daddy Issues reply 3406/30/2020

Which boarding school OP?

by Daddy Issues reply 3506/30/2020

When I was in college I used to regularly hook up with guys in their 50s.

Daddy dick was so hot to me, then AND now.

by Daddy Issues reply 3606/30/2020

“Suddenly find myself attracted college age guys my son’s age.”

Suddenly?

Sure, Jan.

by Daddy Issues reply 3706/30/2020

Here's a Slate letter to the same column - the title sounds like it could have been written by a DL'er

Offsite Link
by Daddy Issues reply 3806/30/2020

" I find myself attracted to young, skinny, smooth (college-age) guys, and this bothers me quite a lot."

OP finds himself attracted to copying stories about someone else's attraction to young, skinny, smooth (college-age) guys, and his lying bothers us quite a lot.

Fixed it for you, OP. Now go fuck yourself.

by Daddy Issues reply 3906/30/2020

Go to some Third World country and let your fantasies run amok and then run back where you belong!

by Daddy Issues reply 4006/30/2020

This reads like a homophobic frau testing the gays for confirmation that gay men are pedophiles and have no problem betraying female lovers.

If you're for real, OP, all you have to do is get over your shame of loving twinks. Society is ageist and it imposes notions of "age appropriateness" and "heterosexuality" that nature could give a shit less about.

Many gay twinks want a "daddy" type, especially if you have money. Follow your passion if nobody's getting hurt.

I encourage you to date a couple of twinks. Maybe you'll find out you don't relate to them, your craving is satisfied and you go back to older women. Maybe you find the love of your life.

But your hangups are misguided, like society half the time.

by Daddy Issues reply 4106/30/2020

R41 What part of "this was copied from an advice column on Slate.com" didn't you understand from the previous posts?

by Daddy Issues reply 4206/30/2020
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