My Partner Has Been Going PNP Parties Behind My Back

Then hate yourself for his actions. Get an hiv test. It’s broken & you bought it. Also: time to grow up. You’re an adult.

Move out and get away from him, now.

[quote]He’s in a dark place and I’m thinking, “Perhaps I’m to blame?”

Please immediately seek therapy.

You are an adult and so is he. YOU are not responsible for HIS choices or his actions.

And?

Dump him. Check your health status. Make it clear it's over and he's out. As in on the street. Never let him in again.

He's not your partner. He's a grifter.

And if you don't, please do not return and tell us about it with a big boo hoo.

Now stop bothering us with your fucked up life.

[quote]He's not your partner. He's a grifter.

If I read the OP correctly, he's not his partner, he's his flatmate.

Not sure about the drama? Oh, just wait.

Why did he decide to spill his guts now?

[Quote]he's out. As in on the street. Never let him in again.

Not OP's apartment, remember? The ex needed a flatmate.

What's British for doormat?

Burn the flat down and move without a forwarding address.

Girl, welcome to day dating.

Been there, done that. Both sides.

Girl, move on.

Does one row or does one have a row?

Meth makes people into monsters.

OP - get a hepatitis ,herpes, syphilis , etc test. You know he was playing bareback. I’ve shared your story with my friends here in the usa. Everyone agrees you need to get help for your self loathing & the above mentioned tests & tell your next sex partners about you’re ex. Peeps have a right to say no to your potentially diseased body & troubled mind. Thanks!!

You're a fool. You know, I had a dog that liked to go back and eat their own poop, why would you do the same?

[quote] We split up because we started to row every day.

Were you rowing in opposite directions? That’ll get you nowhere fast!

Row = fight, argument (British slang)

We know R18

OP, you’re young and probably wanted to believe. Most of us have been there.

His problems are not your fault, but if you go down with him, that will be. Please end the relationship, for good this time, and get tested as everyone above has said. I’m so sorry, I know it hurts.

Baby, you need to wise-up, take a lesson from this guy's bullshit and move on. He will be worse as a "flatmate" than partner. He now owes you nothing, not even a decent lie or the guise of affection. He's only there to use you, for you to absorb half his expenses so he still has money to play. And soon, he'll start to renege on his half. This is bad news. Your ex has turned into a lamprey eel and he's glad to have found himself a big fish. Cut him loose, take care of yourself. Now.

he's a whore, darlin'

Move out ASAP, OP. Meth makes you completely immoral. There is a way out but it takes years. Unless you deeply love him - the way he was before addiction- it’s not worth the collateral damage you will sustain.

Dump him IMMEDIATELY. Associating yourself with scum is probably worse than actually being scum.

He’s putting your life at risk. You didn’t consent to that. If you stay, you will be consenting to Russian roulette. He is a drug addict and a sex addict and he’s not going to stop being addicted because he says he loves you. If you don’t want to be sucked into a black hole, get out now and don’t look back.

R11, “day dating” is this British slang for Chemsex after sunrise?

Review the definition of co-dependency on your way out the door. You might want to see a professional.

OP, it is really hard for people to come back from the PNP life. Meth is the worst. You've been warned by everyone.

If you can’t beat em join em.

[quote] What's British for doormat?

R9, it's "Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex"

How much has he stolen from you since regaining access to your assets, OP?

Kinda having a similar situation OP. An ex and I drifted apart but never really had a breakup breakup. We kinda each just moved away so it wasn't a very strong bf relationship. Now he's going through a lot of stress in the city and wants to come visit, maybe live together again, in the country.

Life is messy.

Have some self respect, OP. Or else you'll be on R32's hamster wheel. Messy is right.

I not only believe that you are to blame, but that unconsciously this is what you wanted. There's not much health danger for you. But you must ask yourself why you aren't good enough to inspire your partner to do better. Are you cold, uncommunicative, dull and a bad fuck? Your lack of sexual compatibility can't be ignored any longer. You're quite a let down is my guess. Your partner is having the kind of fun we're meant to do in our twenties. I suspect he has gone a bit absurd with it all, but if you look at yourself closely OP, can you blame him? You should move on, but you won't. Some people have to be pushed out. PNP parties are pretty normal. But nobody calls it PNP anymore. It's very drug specific, as are the activities. Grow up and stop whining, Two bottoms won't be happy together. Not in THE end.

^^^SOCIOPATH IN DA HOUSE!!!

When a man enters the house, R35 reaches for the CAPS!!! Old fag ain't seen a dick in 40 years.

OP, arrange a meeting with charmer R34 and your delightful flatmate so that they can live happily ever after.

What does PNP stand for?

OP, I bet he dumped you and now you are hoping that he will give you another chance because you can't get anyone else.

R38 party and play. Drugs.

R38 Specifically crystal meth in most cases and sometimes crack. “PNP” is not usually just casual drug use but often days-long benders gay men go on in which they invite a series of other drug users over to get high and have sex on and off, sometimes staying awake for 24 hours or longer fueled by stimulants.

sluts and skanks

I’ll add to the chorus telling you to find a good therapist. If you do, you could come out of this feeling much better about yourself than you ever did in this relationship.

Good luck!

OP, you are codependent.

He's too good for you OP. You know you went to the parties too. But you're just too small and soft. Unpopular. Let him have his fun. He's a man with a plan. Not such a great one but he's just not into you sexually. So you're doomed anyway.

Maybe get a cat.

I’ve been on both sides too. Cut him loose, get him into recovery, but he’s got to go of his own volition. I’ll be honest, meth is the toughest thing to quit but well worth getting sober from. Anyone that says they dabble or use meth recreationally, once in awhile is LYING. It’s not like cigars or scotch, Rose.

that’s what you get for getting involved with crystal meth

I’m so sorry, Jada. I have a friend named August who is single and attractive.

Further confirming that meth is evil. All those “parTy” profiles on Grindr make me think it’s common and maybe not as bad as it’s made out to be. But I have never heard anything good about it. One of those drugs like heroin - you just don’t EVER try it.

People still have pee and poop parties?

[QUOTE] People still have pee and poop parties?

Vhy yes, ve do. Vhy don’t you kum und visit?

OP, nothing changes for your ex until he bottoms out and chooses to change everything in his life.

Right now, you are standing between him and the bottom. You're not helping him. You are helping yourself because you don't like to see him struggling and in pain. But you're not helping him.

Why would OP think OP is to blame?

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