For me, it's the possibility of being confined to a nursing home, with a minimum wage staffer having to wipe my bottom.
What Do You Fear Most About Getting Old?
by Anonymous | reply 189 | June 20, 2020 12:01 PM |
and then getting covid and dying
by Anonymous | reply 1 | June 3, 2020 10:04 PM |
I HATE when I hear eldergays move into housing for the aged and having to deal with homophobia from other residents.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | June 3, 2020 10:04 PM |
I worry I will die before my husband. I can handle being alone but I get sad thinking about him being that old lonely guy in the nursing home.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | June 3, 2020 10:06 PM |
Loss of dignity. Being a gray, stooped-over, doddering thing in faded clothes, maneuvering around the whippersnappers at the grocery store.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | June 3, 2020 10:06 PM |
What if the CNA knows you're gay and fingerbangs you while wiping your rosebud?
Abuse or act of charity?
by Anonymous | reply 5 | June 3, 2020 10:07 PM |
Impacted, Mr. Bottom?
by Anonymous | reply 6 | June 3, 2020 10:08 PM |
I worry my dog will be sent to a shelter and wonder why I abandoned him š¢
by Anonymous | reply 7 | June 3, 2020 10:08 PM |
^^^speaking of, my stupid 79-year old father just adopted a PUPPY. Who the fuck does that???
by Anonymous | reply 8 | June 3, 2020 10:10 PM |
being alone.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | June 3, 2020 10:15 PM |
Getting dementia.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | June 3, 2020 10:23 PM |
R8, I donāt blame your father at all. Maybe heāll live another 10 years, who knows? Regardless, especially if heās a widower, a puppy can keep him occupied and will provide entertainment.
My grandmother did this at a similar age because she was a widow who sat home alone all day. When she eventually had to go into a home, her son took the dog. Those four years, though, she got a huge kick out of him and had something to do like walk him, feed him, have him on her lap, etc.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | June 3, 2020 10:25 PM |
Getting dementia.
Did I just post that?
by Anonymous | reply 12 | June 3, 2020 10:25 PM |
Lack of independence
by Anonymous | reply 13 | June 3, 2020 10:26 PM |
R10, if you do get dementia you have to look on the bright side: you get to meet new people every day.
by Anonymous | reply 14 | June 3, 2020 10:26 PM |
dying
by Anonymous | reply 15 | June 3, 2020 10:26 PM |
R3, single men are rare, and thereās a lot of fucking happening in old-age homes. If your husband wants it, thereās plenty of old-people sex on offer.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | June 3, 2020 10:30 PM |
he gay though, r16!
by Anonymous | reply 17 | June 3, 2020 10:34 PM |
Dementiaās horrible. My mom has had it for much longer than we knew and was really conniving and stealthy about hiding it. I tell her all the time, āitās ok if you forget, itās not ok to pretend that you rememberā. This seems to help. Sheās become sort of a robot now in that you have to phrase a question very specifically to get a proper answer and sheāll interrogate your anyway with dozens of questions.
My brother is convinced she is playing games and making all of it up for attention, but she really has gone downhill since. It really tore out family apart because she made horrible financial decisions and it took years to bail her out. From what we can piece together sheās had it for thirty years now, twenty undetected because she kept impeccable records and journals. Some of them were dry and emotionless, like a scientist writing about a subject- what she ate, what was happening, etc. it was NOT a ādiaryā.
I find it terrifying.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | June 3, 2020 10:37 PM |
Being broke and having to share a room with someone I don't like in a nursing home.
And considering what little I've saved for retirement, that's seeming more and more likely.
by Anonymous | reply 19 | June 3, 2020 10:42 PM |
I am one of the youngest in a family of nine children. They all have terrible habits -- heavy smokers, most drink way too much too frequently, some are overweight, and only my oldest sister does any exercise. I have never smoked, don't drink to excess, exercise (though not "work out" as such). We are all extremely close. It's becoming apparent to me, however, that after two have had major health scares in the past month (non-Covid), I may be the last one. It scares me because the sadness will be overwhelming. I know I can step in front of a bus tomorrow, but I have come to believe that I'll be one of the last to go.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | June 3, 2020 11:01 PM |
I am not wasting away in some home for oldsters. If voluntary euthanasia isn't available by then, then I'll take matters into my own hands.
My 83-yr. old uncle has Covid-19 right now in a Veteran's home and he's on a respirator, etc. (he was a lifelong smoker). He will not 'get better' so why not let him go? Keeping him alive is cruel. He's helpless!
by Anonymous | reply 21 | June 3, 2020 11:02 PM |
OP - I believe you meant "... getting even older?"
by Anonymous | reply 22 | June 3, 2020 11:16 PM |
Being dependent on tubes and machines. Being in a persistent vegetative state. Dementia. There are many other things, but those are the big onesā¦
by Anonymous | reply 23 | June 3, 2020 11:37 PM |
Realizing my caftan collection will be donated to -- GASP -- Goodwill
by Anonymous | reply 24 | June 3, 2020 11:42 PM |
I AM old (67) and alone (no family.) The future is scary. But at least I don't have money problems and my health is OK for now. The problem is that things have changed so much an no one knows when or if it's going to get back to normal. So for right now, I'm housebound and afraid to go anywhere.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | June 3, 2020 11:45 PM |
That I will be forced to share a room in a nursing home with r22
by Anonymous | reply 26 | June 3, 2020 11:54 PM |
When I turn 30 I'll let you know.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | June 4, 2020 12:24 AM |
dying in pain
by Anonymous | reply 28 | June 4, 2020 12:24 AM |
Not having the wherewithal (physically or mentally) to kill myself when it all becomes too much.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | June 4, 2020 1:04 AM |
My heart breaks for all of you. I wish I could provide you with some kind of comfort. Seriously. This is all so scary.
Dying alone is at the top of my list. I'm in my early 40s with almost no close family, and I'm single. I'm not even sure I want or need a romantic partner, but I'd do anything to have one true friend with whom I can grow old. Not having that and faced with the possibility that when I die I won't have anyone near is terrifying to me.
Alzheimer's runs in my family, though, so there's a very strong chance that I won't even be aware of this loneliness.
by Anonymous | reply 31 | June 4, 2020 1:30 AM |
Wow, so it sounds like being alone is the common theme here.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | June 4, 2020 1:55 AM |
I'm coming up on my "threescore and ten," so this birthday has me in a somber mood. It's prompting the question "Will I make it to my 80th?" I'm fairly healthy, not on any prescription drugs, I guess it's possible-knock wood. Milestone birthdays never meant anything to me, but this one does. I live alone now, my husband died not quite three years ago, and I find myself getting lazy. Putting off things that need to be done, it sometimes happens when you retire. You always think you'll have time to get stuff done, until the day comes when you decide that it really didn't need to get done(or so I tell myself)
Nursing homes don't make me sad, I've been to several, for extended periods as a visitor, over the past 20 years, and I could easily live in some of them, if I had a private room. I know I wouldn't be able to take a lot of my stuff, and that would hurt at first, but I imagine I'd get used to it. At that point, I'd have to. Once you sign your house over, there's no backsies. All our lives we have to make decisions, but the older you get the more they become irreversible.
My brother jokes, "When you go, we'll just back up the dumpster." I always reply, "At that point, I won't care." I tell myself I should just go through a box a day, but even that seems like "Why bother?". Actually did it a few times, but the novelty wore off. Put a lot of stuff out on the front step with a FREE sign on it, and it all got taken. Would people do that now considering the pandemic?
The funeral is already paid for, my will has been revised and is secure, and final. A lot of people don't like to do these things because they feel they're tempting fate. I say DO them, it's great to scratch them off that long list you need to get at. YMMV.
The indignities of old age are never easy to get used to, whether they're major or a lot at once, or they creep up on you one at a time when you're not looking. I was "gifted" with one the other day-floaters in one eye. I know, I know, not life threatening, more an annoyance. But then you think "What's next? Is this the beginning of the slippery slope? My luck's run out?" Won't know until the end, I guess?
Was it Miss Davis who told us "Old age ain't for sissies."? Or would her more famous line from "All About Eve" be more apropos: "Fasten your seatbelts, it's going to be a bumpy night."
by Anonymous | reply 33 | June 4, 2020 2:15 AM |
I will not be going to a nursing home or even assisted living, I will take care of that before it happens.
by Anonymous | reply 34 | June 4, 2020 2:15 AM |
R33 what do you mean by signing over your house for assisted living?
by Anonymous | reply 35 | June 4, 2020 2:17 AM |
R5- In all my years I NEVER heard finger bang. It's FINGER FUCKING.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | June 4, 2020 2:48 AM |
R19 my father just passed away in January. Today would have been his 85th birthday. He remarried but had no money. None of us really do. I helped pay fro a lawyer who got him on Medicaid and he, when he couldnāt walk anymore, ended up at a nursing home. It was a good place, and if that happens to me, I could deal. He did indeed have a roommate he hated. But he dealt with it. And in the end, Iām glad he died when he did. I heard the really nice nursing home he was in was filled with covid19
by Anonymous | reply 37 | June 4, 2020 2:52 AM |
There's always euthanasia in Switzerland for foreigners, gays. I will go to Dignitas before I go to a nursing home. Support Dignitas.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | June 4, 2020 2:56 AM |
r36- it's a het term since at least the 50's.
by Anonymous | reply 39 | June 4, 2020 2:58 AM |
Having to accept that I didn't accomplish a lot of what I dreamed about doing when I was younger.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | June 4, 2020 3:02 AM |
āWe live as we dream - alone. While the dream disappears, the life continues painfully.ā
by Anonymous | reply 41 | June 4, 2020 3:02 AM |
R38 Dignitas is expensive - over $10,000. Not including flights to Switzerland.
Cheaper to create a stash of opiates - wash a lot down with strong alcohol and benzos if you have them. Lose consciousness, slip into respiratory depression then the heart stops.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | June 4, 2020 3:05 AM |
r35 It's a way a lot of people can afford to go to a nursing home. Others sign over pensions, SS checks, etc. It ain't pretty and it ain't right, but if no one can take care of grandma at home, she's got to go SOMEwhere. Nursing homes; unfortunately, do not operate for free.
The facility gets the value of the house upfront, and guarantees to care for the individual until their end. If grandma kicks early, they make out. If she lives a long time, their profit is less, or non-existent.
What a deal, huh?
by Anonymous | reply 43 | June 4, 2020 3:05 AM |
I can't think about it too much or else I'll get depressed, but knowing that -- unless we both die at the same time in an accident or catastrophe -- my husband and I will have to endure the death of the other. I honestly think if he goes first I will die shortly after, of a broken heart.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | June 4, 2020 3:06 AM |
Do not go gentle into that good night, Old age should burn and rave at close of day; Rage, rage against the dying of the light.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | June 4, 2020 3:08 AM |
R43 so would that ensure you at least get a private room? I guess it depends on the value of the property.
Doesn't sound like a bad idea to me, for those of us who don't plan on leaving anything to family.
Sounds similar to a reverse mortgage? I suppose that could be an option for a couple, if one needs to go into assisted living but the other is still able-bodied and can continue living at the reverse-mortgaged house.
God this is depressing realizing these are decisions in my near (10ish years) future.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | June 4, 2020 3:11 AM |
r44 That does sometime happen to couples of longstanding, whether they are still in their home or in a care facility. Although it's not too common that a married couple are in a nursing home at the same time, still it occurs. The famous quote from Robert Browning "Grow old along with me, the best is yet to be" is actually bittersweet in reality, but you can't appreciate it until it happens to you.
by Anonymous | reply 47 | June 4, 2020 3:17 AM |
You know what's the best way to deal with these fears? Plan ahead. Make a will (not forgetting to provide for your pets!) and advanced directives. Tell the people closest to you what you want in terms of end of life care, funeral arrangements, etc. Then you don't have to fucking think about it anymore.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | June 4, 2020 3:17 AM |
Shittin me knickers on the daily...and nightly
by Anonymous | reply 49 | June 4, 2020 3:18 AM |
Dignitas is not expensive. There is a sliding scale and financial waivers when necessary. Stop talking out your ass and familiarise yourself with their work.
by Anonymous | reply 50 | June 4, 2020 3:22 AM |
Dying and have no one turn up at my funeral.
by Anonymous | reply 51 | June 4, 2020 3:30 AM |
Running out of money. The only thing Iām afraid of. Other than working too long - and dying right after retiring having never lived a free life. Exactly contradictory fears - which I havenāt reconciled in 30+ years. Wish I had a pension.
by Anonymous | reply 52 | June 4, 2020 3:32 AM |
So what, you'll be dead.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | June 4, 2020 3:32 AM |
Living in pain
by Anonymous | reply 54 | June 4, 2020 3:50 AM |
It's important, when you're in your 50's to start cultivating relationships based on friendship and interests with kind, decent people. Who are younger than you. You need to build trusting relationships. Maybe it'll be cousins or neices and nephews, or a sibling or neighbors. But the thing is you need someone you can trust to Overrsee your care. In our family, my younger sister is successful and has a place for me. We are twelve years apart. I don't want her wiping my ass. But I do want her to keep an eye on the person who does. I will live in her house, with my own room and bathroom, and she ca use my monthly income to pay for my care. But It won't even be an issue until I'm in my 80's. I intend to eat healthy, exercise, and take my vitamins so I can be productive for a long time.
by Anonymous | reply 55 | June 4, 2020 3:57 AM |
That I will not have the wherewithal, the energy to do see all of the things I want to see, travel to all of the places I want to experience. That I will not be able to meet the Angel of Death as my late Father did at 91 years and 10 months; on shaky legs, but erect, resolute and fearless.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | June 4, 2020 4:03 AM |
As everyone in my family dies of cancer before 68, getting old is nothing but a luxury which I will never have in my mind. These people who worry about losing their minds when they are 90 annoy me.
by Anonymous | reply 57 | June 4, 2020 4:47 AM |
Where's the Darfur Orphan? He should have some inspiring words here. Did covid-19 get him?
by Anonymous | reply 58 | June 4, 2020 5:06 AM |
Money
by Anonymous | reply 59 | June 4, 2020 7:17 AM |
Will be concerned I may never have the chance to eat those green bananas I bought yesterday.
by Anonymous | reply 60 | June 4, 2020 8:35 AM |
It is hard to say what the near future will hold, so it's hard to make any plans. All of these cataclysmic events are happening too quickly for me to take and I wonder if we'll be delegated to living in the streets. It's too much to think about now. I'm still trying to get a gun just in case.
by Anonymous | reply 61 | June 4, 2020 8:55 AM |
I worry about being poor. I want to be one of the people who have money saved or they can at least support themselves. Being poor and elderly is a fucking nightmare.
by Anonymous | reply 62 | June 4, 2020 1:49 PM |
If you're living in an area controlled by Democrats, you'll want to rethink that now while you still can because if you don't get out you'll be getting old and feeble in chaos.
by Anonymous | reply 63 | June 4, 2020 2:10 PM |
[quote] Dying and have no one turn up at my funeral.
Donāt worry, r51, Iāll be the first one on line.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | June 4, 2020 2:26 PM |
Loss of a drivers license. I've seen even relatively young adults go into a rapid downward spiral after losing access to a car or license. In America you're pretty much fucked without a vehicle unless you live in NYC.
by Anonymous | reply 65 | June 4, 2020 2:31 PM |
Having no control over my bowels
by Anonymous | reply 66 | June 4, 2020 4:49 PM |
I am old. So far, so good.
by Anonymous | reply 67 | June 4, 2020 4:58 PM |
Me too, R57. Just came in from my morning walk, beautiful sunny day. Making myself a cheese omelette and some freshly ground coffee. I'll top it off with fresh strawberries, greek yogurt and a nice glass of chardonnay, then a nap.
by Anonymous | reply 68 | June 4, 2020 5:08 PM |
All four of my grandparents lived to a ripe old age -- the oldest was 105 at death -- with minimal health problems and died peacefully, 3 of them in their own home, only one was in nursing and she actually preferred it because she was socially isolated in her home. Hopefully that's genetic.
by Anonymous | reply 69 | June 4, 2020 5:13 PM |
Depends...
by Anonymous | reply 70 | June 4, 2020 5:19 PM |
Surprised how few are afraid of running out of money. Does everyone have pensions or a million in the bank? DL is so weird - disproportionate number of wealthy people compared to most of US. Or maybe people just donāt worry about money?
by Anonymous | reply 71 | June 4, 2020 6:26 PM |
r71, the cost of living, medical care and medications are rising at an alarming rate. Most Americans do not own homes and have a solid savings/pension plan.
I don't care about being alone, I care about being ambulatory, healthy and having a sane mind.
by Anonymous | reply 72 | June 4, 2020 6:32 PM |
r65 This is much less of an issue than it used to be. There are now so many other options for getting around: public transportation is more extensive than it ever was, and is much cheaper than owning a car. We now have services like Uber and Lyft. And pretty much everything can be delivered.
by Anonymous | reply 73 | June 4, 2020 6:38 PM |
I worry about dying and having someone find my extensive porn collection.
by Anonymous | reply 74 | June 4, 2020 6:39 PM |
If R68 meant to reply to r67 instead of r57, then it's the most ironic post ever.
by Anonymous | reply 75 | June 4, 2020 6:57 PM |
R19 and R21 I agree with you both!
I don't want to end up wearing tennis shoes with Velcro closures. That bums me out.
Seriously though, for the "euthanasia" minded (myself included):
(CNN) Physician-assisted suicide is legal in nine US states and the District of Columbia. It is an option given to individuals by law in the District of Columbia, Hawaii, Maine, New Jersey, Oregon, Vermont and Washington. It is an option given to individuals in Montana and California via court decision.
by Anonymous | reply 76 | June 4, 2020 7:12 PM |
I worry about who will take care of my Lhasa Aposo, Mitzi, what will become of my break front and all the beloved but discontinued china patterns it contains, and my booth at the antique mall full of treasures.
by Anonymous | reply 77 | June 4, 2020 7:17 PM |
[quote] I was "gifted" with one the other day-floaters in one eye.
R33, is the floater always there? I've had floaters since I was in my 20s or so. (But only on occasion.) Point is, don't feel like it's just an old person thing.
by Anonymous | reply 78 | June 4, 2020 7:25 PM |
I used to have floaters in my eyes when I was a kid, but not as an adult. But now am getting that stupid older person's inability to read ingredient listings or menu items.
by Anonymous | reply 79 | June 4, 2020 8:36 PM |
Cataracts, R79? You can get rid of cataracts (surgically) and, at the same, put in a lens. A friend did that and was really happy. I asked my doctor if I could do just the lens part. Doctor said you have to be a certain age to do that. Point is: you might be too young for that surgery.
by Anonymous | reply 80 | June 4, 2020 8:44 PM |
I don't fear going into a nursing home.
I have MS and can't take heat. Nursing facilities are notoriously hot and if I am in one without control of a thermostat and a system that works - or a window that opens in cooler weather without a complaining roommate, I'll be bonkers through my end time. I pass out, slur my words, can't move, get confused, and it's all from the temperature I'm in.
I can deal with what happens with me. I can't deal with knowing my needs will be ignored and the quality of my life will be miserable.
(I worked in a nursing home so the rest doesn't really bother me - except if it's not kept clean and everything smells of piss and shit.)
by Anonymous | reply 81 | June 4, 2020 8:49 PM |
Was examined the other day by three ophthalmologists and all were unsure about the source of my floater(it's possible it was from a retinal tear, but couldn't be determined 100%). I'm going back for a follow-up visit mid-July, perhaps then they can make a decision as to whether or not I'll need laser surgery. I'll have to give up riding in a centrifuge, but I'll bear up under the strain.
I was told that once you have floaters they will always be in the eye, but after awhile the brain tunes them out so you don't notice them. Fingers crossed. It was very odd, during the exams I felt stressed out and wasn't even aware of the floater, I guess my brain was otherwise occupied. Three cheers for the little gray cells.
r78 Floaters certainly are not just for old-timers, and may be produced in different ways at any age.
Saw a video the other day that was promoting the eating of fresh pineapple to do away with floaters(it has to do with the enzyme called BROMELAIN, which digests proteins) I'm going to mention it at my next exam, I'm sure the eye doctors will be giving me the 'O God, 360,' and tell me it's all nonsense.
by Anonymous | reply 82 | June 4, 2020 9:36 PM |
Illness
by Anonymous | reply 83 | June 4, 2020 9:41 PM |
Being dependent on the kindness of strangers.
by Anonymous | reply 84 | June 4, 2020 9:46 PM |
R82, I used to have chronic sinus problems and took bromelain pills, which helped. Certainly did not harm. Point is: maybe you don't need to eat fresh pineapple, you can just use the pill, which is not expensive.
by Anonymous | reply 85 | June 4, 2020 10:00 PM |
To be clear assisted suicide in the US states that allow it is a mess. One has to endure an expensive six month nightmare of procedures and piles of paperwork to determine that the patient is terminally. Its bullshit. Don't even bother.
by Anonymous | reply 86 | June 4, 2020 10:06 PM |
R86 - no you can sign a DNR in case you become unable to decide and they need to keep one alive on machines. There are even ways to sign a "do not admit" (to the hospital) after a point. I had a friend who was relatively young, non-smoker (unlike me, unfortunately) who ended up being diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer. He was told what the options would be and he signed a DNR. Soon thereafter, he fell into a coma and theyet him go by providing a morphine drip as his body was having spasms though he was comatose.
I am working on stopping the smoking but also remember his last days and I will also sign a DNR.
by Anonymous | reply 87 | June 4, 2020 10:21 PM |
nobody cares if you die!
hospice is assisted suicide being unsaid...that "dose" in the 'fridge!
by Anonymous | reply 88 | June 4, 2020 10:27 PM |
I'm soon to be 67. The only real fear I have is of becoming mentally incapable of handling my day to day affairs. Even though there is a very good legal plan in place for my care if that day comes it still scares me to think I could ever get to that point. My independence is one of the most important things to me. I don't like the thought of anyone having to do anything for me.
by Anonymous | reply 89 | June 4, 2020 10:30 PM |
I watched my mom and another woman, a close friend, go through being a widow. All the things that the husband used to do are now things that the woman has to do. What I observed is that, you find people who know how to do what the husband used to do, and pay them to do it.
Point is: as you lose your ability to do certain things, you can pay someone to do it. It's not a huge deal and somebody else can make some money.
by Anonymous | reply 90 | June 4, 2020 11:04 PM |
I've taken care of my mother for the past ten years, after my dad died. She's 93 now and very frail, yet is as sharp as a knife. I credit that to having her watching Rachel Maddow and Nicole Wallace on a daily basis. Seriously, she was a Nixon Republican and now hates the Republicans as much as I do. In fact, she wants to talk about how horrible the Republicans are more than I do. But over the past ten years her eyesight has deteriorated to the point of virtual blindness. She can barely walk anymore and is in constant pain. She's on so many pain narcotics that would kill me, and yet she prevails. And in good humor. So if I get to be that old, that infirm I can only hope that I cope with life with as much grace as she does.
by Anonymous | reply 91 | June 4, 2020 11:18 PM |
Losing my eyesight and therefore not being able to read.
by Anonymous | reply 92 | June 4, 2020 11:39 PM |
R92 - as a writer me too.
by Anonymous | reply 93 | June 4, 2020 11:41 PM |
Dememtia perhaps.
by Anonymous | reply 95 | June 5, 2020 12:28 AM |
r82: I am oldish and had my first floaters 2 or 3 years ago and it kept on for about a week. Then again about a year later, and not again for years. My eyes are actually quite good--no glaucoma, no cataracts, just need over-the-counter reading glasses in the last 5 years or so. So maybe I do keep getting the floaters and don't notice, but anyway, maybe yours will go away like mine did.
To whoever mentioned cataracts--I don't know a single person who wasn't thrilled by the results of cataract surgery--suddenly seeing colors again, right after the surgery, etc. I've never heard of anybody having a problem. Doesn't take long, you go home the same day (am pretty sure)., etc.
by Anonymous | reply 96 | June 5, 2020 12:29 AM |
If floaters are my worst problem, Iāll be a happy man. Just donāt want to be a homeless, poor and left to rot.
by Anonymous | reply 97 | June 5, 2020 12:44 AM |
Sharting
by Anonymous | reply 98 | June 5, 2020 12:57 AM |
Floaters? Really? I had those when I was 9. They can come and go throughout your life, they are not age related. Most people dont even know they have them. I think it's just dead cells in the fluid layer much like dry flaky shin.
by Anonymous | reply 99 | June 5, 2020 1:34 AM |
Dementia, poverty, pain.
But most of all, losing friends and family.
If anyone wants to see a beautiful, pensive, sorrowful look at aging, watch Diane with Mary Kay Place, which is currently streaming on Hulu.
Itās my favorite film since 45 Years with Charlotte Rampling that stares down old age, mortality, and and coping with a lifetimeās accumulation of trouble and doubt as the light in the tunnel narrows.
by Anonymous | reply 100 | June 5, 2020 1:51 AM |
I turned 43 this year, and started genuinely feeling sad but hopeful about this. My husband is 7 years older than me. Statistics say he will die first. I worry about being unable to drive or get around. I am incredibly independent right now.
by Anonymous | reply 101 | June 5, 2020 2:03 AM |
[quote]Dememtia perhaps.
Looks like it may be starting already.
by Anonymous | reply 102 | June 5, 2020 3:04 AM |
Losing my parents. š¢
by Anonymous | reply 103 | June 5, 2020 3:07 AM |
Just turned 65. You realize that youāre basically invisible - which is freeing. What is scary are 6 month doctor check-ups. Moving forward the news is never going to be good.
by Anonymous | reply 104 | June 5, 2020 3:40 AM |
I hear that phrase so often on DL - and by middle aged women - āyou become invisibleā. It seems so narcisstic - it assumes you were important and the center of attention before. Maybe itās the result of being so looks-based.
by Anonymous | reply 105 | June 5, 2020 3:53 AM |
No hon, it means nobody wants to fuck you any more.
by Anonymous | reply 106 | June 5, 2020 8:29 AM |
Iām a chub in his late fifties and my buttox have begun to sag. I love wearing thongs and I now feel aged out of them.
by Anonymous | reply 107 | June 5, 2020 8:42 AM |
R105, IMO, once you reach a certain age, you do become largely invisible. Even if you were not the "center of attention" or in the top 10% (or whatever), looks-wise, you do notice the difference. The little friendly gestures and acknowledgments that you took for granted disappear, to some degree. Maybe.
by Anonymous | reply 108 | June 5, 2020 8:44 AM |
(R21) You just can't opt for euthanasia if you are not in a state that allows euthanasia. My state, Washington, has a pro euthanasia law, but you must have a terminal disease and a doctor has to sign off. You can opt for checking out before you have go through the agonizing end stages of cancer. Most medical professionals do not opt for "life saving" medications for known terminal diseases, because all it does it make you miserable while you are dying. I plan on taking advantage of the service when it is needed.
by Anonymous | reply 109 | June 5, 2020 9:19 AM |
I come from a family (parents and grandparents) where the females have incredible longevity, ranging from 84 up to 98. However, the males range from 65 to 76. The good news is that there is absolutely no senility on either side of the family. I don't mind the idea of getting old, and I'm not afraid to die. I just wouldn't want to become somebody's helpless burden. More important than that, I would want my pets looked after. My partner is nine years younger than I am, so hopefully he will outlive me.
by Anonymous | reply 110 | June 5, 2020 12:13 PM |
[quote] I come from a family (parents and grandparents) where the females have incredible longevity, ranging from 84 up to 98. However, the males range from 65 to 76.
Same here, Lucy, except the males die much, much younger than in your family.
30s, 40s, and 50s.
by Anonymous | reply 111 | June 5, 2020 1:32 PM |
earrings
by Anonymous | reply 112 | June 5, 2020 1:33 PM |
Caftans!
by Anonymous | reply 113 | June 5, 2020 1:33 PM |
[quote] Cheaper to create a stash of opiates - wash a lot down with strong alcohol and benzos if you have them. Lose consciousness, slip into respiratory depression then the heart stops.
Unfortunately you will throw up well before this happens. Safer to inject...
by Anonymous | reply 114 | June 5, 2020 1:59 PM |
But first you have to learn how to inject r114.
What about reverse order ā how about you FIRST get drunk and THEN take the opiates and benzos ?
(Purely hypothetical for me, since I donāt have the self-control not to take the opiates for recreational purposes)
by Anonymous | reply 115 | June 5, 2020 2:44 PM |
I'm 68, in incredibly good health, and come from a family who all lived very long lives without taking any care of themselves (drank, smoked, never exercised). My fear is that given how well I take care of myself, and my genetics, I may live to be 105, meaning I will outlive everyone I know and probably end up lying in some filthy, low-level nursing home being abused by the staff, alone, while doctors 1/4 my age are keeping me alive because they are required to.
Some of us are going to live much longer than any other generation. It won't be pretty.
by Anonymous | reply 116 | June 5, 2020 3:12 PM |
My Ma is sensible. She has her Social Security and a pension that also provides supplemental health insurance. Her pension is modest, but she is managing on $3,000 a month. She sold the family home which was way too big and there was always some kind of problem with the HVAC, the Roof, the plumbing the electrical grid, etc. Even had a f looded family room afew times when we had bad storms. So she invested about $18,000 to fix it up, made a modest profit, and now she has a small emergency fund she can dip into if she must. She'll be 80 in September. Still drives her 8 yr old car, just to her local haunts, the museum, the supermarket and her beauty shop. She goes to church twice a month. But she is fine. I worry but she eats well, has gasoline in the car, and a nice little Condo. With the HOA & a small mortgage, she pays $900 a month. Utilities are about $300. So she has about$1800 a month to live off of.
Right now, anyone who is worried about finances ought to sit down and do a serious budget. How much will it cost you to live right now? Rent, mortgage, insurance, utilities, and expenses. Don't forget to budget realistically for your food and entertainment and other miscellaneous costs. Also plan on putting aside a modest savings account for emergencies. This budget tells you what you need to live on right now. But if you add 10% or 15% to it, you can pretty much estimate what you'll need in 20-30 yrs. Housing and healthcare are always the biggest chunks. And the things you spend on now, like expensive dinners or clubs or travel or clothes, are things you won't spend on when your old. So plan your "fixed costs" wisely, and reduce your other costs, and try to save something. Paying off a house is smart. But if you factor in the preventive maintenance costs and the rising property taxes, it may not be smartest thing to plan on staying put.
I wish I had a dollar for every friend who said how much money they were saving because of the quarantine. Some are ging to continue to work from home. It's important to save right now. They're not commuting to work, they're not eating out or going out drinking or clubbing, and they aren't buying a lot of clothes. They are spending on electronics (laptops, TVs,etc) and they're subscribing to more entertainment streaming services too.
by Anonymous | reply 117 | June 5, 2020 3:34 PM |
[quote] Losing my parents.
I lost my mother 28 years ago when I was 39. I said then, "I have survived the worst thing that could ever happen to me". I still believe that to this day. While I may be concerned mental decline and the inability to take care of myself at some point, even that is nothing even near the pain of losing my mother. That's a pain I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.
by Anonymous | reply 118 | June 5, 2020 3:43 PM |
Nursing homes pay CNA's more than minimum wage.
The real problem is that there are not enough nursing assistants on staff to come in and wipe your ass as needed.
Don't expect an RN's to lower themselves, and help out. Most RN's are working in nursing homes because they're too lazy to work in a real hospital where they would actually have to do the job they were hired for.
by Anonymous | reply 119 | June 5, 2020 3:53 PM |
My dad passed away in his early 90's, as did all of his brothers. Never sick a day in his life. Took good care of himself. My mom died early 80's of Alzheimers and heart disease, as did all her sisters. She drank a lot and smoked her whole life and never exercised. My oldest brother (10 years older) recently passed away from dementia in his early 70's. He never took care of himself, drank and smoked his whole life, and had an unhealthy "meat and potato" diet.
I've always taken care of myself, exercise, watch what I eat, etc. So the question becomes - do lifestyle choices outweigh genetics? Will I take after my dad and continue to live a long healthy life? Or will the genes from my mom's side of the family doom me regardless of the choices I make? In my mid 60's, my physical health is fine but I am constantly on the alert for any signs of dementia.
by Anonymous | reply 120 | June 5, 2020 4:00 PM |
Last year I brought in a woman to do some cleaning for me in a summer house. She used to work as a CNA in one of the local nursing homes. She said it was a horrible job that paid her $8.25/hour. She was making $25.00/hour cleaning houses and had more work than she could handle. Where I live most nursing home CNAs are people (mainly females) who took a trade school course using one of the several grants the government offers, to get the certification. She also said one of the local nursing homes paid even less than the one she worked in.
by Anonymous | reply 121 | June 5, 2020 4:02 PM |
I've learned through life experience that some people who take fantastic care of themselves die early, and others who eat like pigs, never exercise, smoke and drink will live well into their 90s. Little you do guarantees you a long life. It's just the luck of the draw IMO.
by Anonymous | reply 122 | June 5, 2020 4:05 PM |
I'm 57. What I fear most about getting old is already happening -- the deaths of family and friends. I've experienced the deaths of older relatives and friends since childhood. But it's different now. The first death in the family was when I was in the third grade -- an elderly great aunt. It really did not phase me. In sixth grade, a beloved nanny/babysitter died and I remember feeling devastating. Some guys I knew in high school and college died (one was murdered), and I can remember their deaths being sad. And I mourned, but then got over it. And other older relatives in those years passed away, but when my grandmother died, it felt different. She was the only grandparent I had known. I was 28, and she had always been a part of my life. My sense of her loss was different. It was a sense that a chapter had closed. I would never see her again. That sense of loss increased, after the deaths of my parents. Now, I don't want to see my brothers, their spouses, or my friends die. Life is so different now without my parents, especially my Mom. That's what I dread about getting old..the deaths of those I love. I don't fear my own...but a world without those who have been or are part of my life is something I dread.
by Anonymous | reply 123 | June 5, 2020 4:26 PM |
Everything- the one thing I have is money. And right now pretty healthy. But aging is mostly about surprises that essentially are nothing more than evidence of decline. Iām trying very very hard to accept the process because I have no other choice.
by Anonymous | reply 124 | June 5, 2020 4:30 PM |
I worry I will die unexpectedly early, leaving my husband with less on which to retire. And I'm currently unemployed, so no employer-covered life insurance policy.
by Anonymous | reply 125 | June 5, 2020 4:34 PM |
[quote] Will I take after my dad and continue to live a long healthy life? Or will the genes from my mom's side of the family doom me regardless of the choices I make?
R120, be sure to come back here and let us know when you find out.
by Anonymous | reply 126 | June 5, 2020 5:09 PM |
I'm already in my 60s, and what bothers me most is how quickly the years seem to pass at this age. I never expected to get here as fast as I did. I realize that, at my age, I have a limited number of "good" years left, and knowing how quickly those years will come and go is pretty depressing. I've had a pretty good life, but I still regret the many things I never quite got around to when I was younger and had more energy.
by Anonymous | reply 127 | June 5, 2020 5:43 PM |
This thread is depressing as fuck
by Anonymous | reply 128 | June 5, 2020 6:11 PM |
Well, you young'uns need to learn that life is not all roses. Too many of you go through life thinking you're invincible and nothing bad will ever happen to you, and you never prepare for the bad things. We're just trying to give you a glimpse into the realities of a long life.
by Anonymous | reply 129 | June 5, 2020 7:20 PM |
R127, Iām almost 20 years younger than you are and I feel the same regarding the time flying by.
As r129 said, take heed young āuns, it goes by in a flash. Suddenly you wake up and say āholy shit! How am I fifty years old? FIFTY! I remember when 30 was āold.āā
by Anonymous | reply 130 | June 5, 2020 7:46 PM |
[quote]Iām a chub in his late fifties and my buttox have begun to sag. I love wearing thongs and I now feel aged out of them.
YOU NEVER AGE OUT OF A THONG!!!
BLESS ...
by Anonymous | reply 131 | June 5, 2020 7:50 PM |
R130 I just turned 50 and I remember my 21st birthday like it was yesterday. It's still so fresh in my mind, how could it possibly be 29 years ago?
In the same span of time, I'll be 79, in what feels like a recent memory.
FUCK.
by Anonymous | reply 132 | June 5, 2020 7:50 PM |
Yes, this is why when one hits 50 just do it. Whatever it is you long to do/see do it Time is short and health issues will arise.
by Anonymous | reply 133 | June 5, 2020 8:16 PM |
R132, when you're 79, you'll be thinking, "Wow, I was so young (50)."
by Anonymous | reply 134 | June 5, 2020 8:52 PM |
Losing my "facilities"
Shit I hate when I dribble a bit on myself at the urinal at times. Imagine having to go in a bedpan!
by Anonymous | reply 135 | June 5, 2020 8:56 PM |
Falling down! Balance issues! I'm 42 and I slipped in some water on my tile floor six weeks ago and sprained my knee and it still fucking hurts. It gets so stiff if I don't move it every thirty minutes. I stand up and wince and have to hobble the first few steps, then it feels fine. I'm jealous of Elizabeth Warren's spryness.
by Anonymous | reply 136 | June 5, 2020 9:01 PM |
[quote] It gets so stiff if I don't move it every thirty minutes.
I had this problem as a teenager.
by Anonymous | reply 137 | June 5, 2020 9:04 PM |
[quote]It gets so stiff if I don't move it every thirty minutes.
You'll have the opposite problem soon.
by Anonymous | reply 138 | June 5, 2020 9:30 PM |
Weak health and poverty. I have type l diabetes and a private pension saving. But still it is one of my biggest fear to be in bad health and poor.
by Anonymous | reply 139 | June 5, 2020 9:36 PM |
[quote]Just turned 65. You realize that youāre basically invisible
Cough, cough, bull shit! Stop cruising guys half your age. I am so tired of you silly queens with this "invisible" excuse. Hang out with other people your age and tada! You are visible!
by Anonymous | reply 140 | June 5, 2020 9:59 PM |
[quote]Yes, this is why when one hits 50 just do it. Whatever it is you long to do/see do it Time is short and health issues will arise.
This is what I keep telling friends who say "oh cant wait until I retire, going to travel the world or _____" Do it now Mary. Lots of people die right after they retire. Even if you don't, there is a good chance you will too weak psychically to do a lot of things you could have done at 50. Dont wait, hike that mountain, swim in the lake, visit that other country, take that cruise even if its not the one you were holding out for and money is really tight. Better to see the world on a shoe string than to be tolling the world through Google Earth in wet diapers.
by Anonymous | reply 141 | June 5, 2020 10:09 PM |
R141 my mom retired at 60, excited about a new life of leisure. She died a year later š¢
by Anonymous | reply 142 | June 5, 2020 10:16 PM |
[quote] Better to see the world on a shoe string than to be tolling the world through Google Earth in wet diapers.
R141, I agree. Further, some people (not yet retired) can afford to travel, now, *not* on a shoestring. Yet, they still delay.
by Anonymous | reply 143 | June 5, 2020 10:25 PM |
Mother's china and, well, all of Mother's precious things.
by Anonymous | reply 144 | June 5, 2020 10:30 PM |
I'm sorry for your loss, R142. Sadly, that's a pretty common occurrence. A beloved aunt of mine died at 62, not long after she retired.
by Anonymous | reply 145 | June 5, 2020 10:46 PM |
From a lower middle class family, I don't make much money. The one good thing I ever did was take my mother on a vacation to a place she always wanted to see. It was about 2 years before she was to retire. I didn't want to wait, bought the tickets and surprised her. She had the time of her life. She died 2 years later in a car accident before actual retirement. So glad I didn't wait, one of my siblings was still in fighting mode with her, now she is wrapped in guilt 10 years later.
by Anonymous | reply 146 | June 5, 2020 11:16 PM |
[quote] too weak psychically
So they wonāt be able to see into the future?
by Anonymous | reply 147 | June 5, 2020 11:17 PM |
Hey, people, especially younger ones, getting older is a bitch. Esp. If you tried to live life to its fullest and managed to have a really good time, many lovers, many crazy scenes, sampled many foods, drinks, drugs, cuisines, countries, climes, modes of thought, and ways of being as I have. Certes, my pecker doesnāt respond on cue as it once did, but my lifelong (29 years and counting) doesnāt mind; my bowels, liver, heart, lungs and bladder are rebelling at times too, but I am alive! After triple bypass, pacemaker, and several daily medications, I still enjoy food immensely, I love seeing the green life and birds returning in the spring, the crisp fall, the icy winter. Life goes on, BECAUSE IT NEEDS TO. just like me.
by Anonymous | reply 148 | June 6, 2020 5:51 AM |
A few weeks ago I was out running in the evening and tripped and sprained my ankle. Although it was an ultimately minor injury, I was immobile for 3 days and had limited mobility for a couple weeks after, which was just awful. I am in my mid-30s, in good shape and active, but that sprain really gave me a scare and was a real wake up call to take better care of myself and not do stupid things (like running in low light, unable to see the terrain). So for me, that triggered a major fear of getting older, injuring myself and limiting my mobility.
by Anonymous | reply 149 | June 9, 2020 12:59 PM |
Sharting my Caftan .
by Anonymous | reply 150 | June 9, 2020 1:05 PM |
My mom lives independently but my brother and I help her out a lot. We are both childless and though I'm very independent, I fear not having someone to advocate for me when I'm old and vulnerable. I fear being taken advantage of and abused.
by Anonymous | reply 151 | June 9, 2020 1:28 PM |
My cousin...2nd or something was a CEO of some NYC located company. City apartment. House in Conn...yacht even! But I think that was the company's. Anyway...built his dream house back home down south to retire with his wife..
House built. Things moved in...he had a heart attack when they pulled into the driveway. True story.
by Anonymous | reply 152 | June 9, 2020 1:40 PM |
[quote] but that sprain really gave me a scare and was a real wake up call to take better care of myself and not do stupid things (like running)
Fixed that for you.
Unless somebodyās chasing ya.
by Anonymous | reply 153 | June 9, 2020 1:44 PM |
R149, I'm 47 and started feeling the same way the last 2-3 years. Just a number of nagging injuries and aches. Now understand my mom when she complains about leg and feet aching when she walks. I'm currently nursing a sore foot that I jammed last Christmas. Two doctor visits before Covid hit and no improvement. It doesn't hurt enough to stop me from walking but I go around everywhere with it aching.
It's really different from when you were younger and aching from going to a rave or biked 80 miles. Then you knew it was going to be a day or two and you would get right back into it.
by Anonymous | reply 154 | June 9, 2020 1:53 PM |
R152, mom's uncle is getting ready to move into a new house. Even has relatives visiting from overseas to stay in the new house. Uncle is diabetic and gets his insulin shot wrong--he was trying to time it with going to the airport. Dies a day before moving into the new house.
by Anonymous | reply 155 | June 9, 2020 1:56 PM |
I was running 6 miles a day. I started getting ankle pain. It was not a good kind of pain so I stopped. Decades later no hip, knee. or ankle problems. An uncle who was an avid runner running everyday, all sorts of marathons is now in a wheel chair at 80. I really think the running had a lot to do with it.
by Anonymous | reply 156 | June 9, 2020 2:10 PM |
R10. I forgot what you posted.
by Anonymous | reply 157 | June 9, 2020 2:29 PM |
[quote] I was running 6 miles a day.
And he doesnāt know where the hell he is now!
*rim shot*
by Anonymous | reply 158 | June 9, 2020 2:46 PM |
Tomorrow is my birthday, so all the fears associated with OP's question do cross my mind. Still better than the alternative, though, so I'm not complaining.
by Anonymous | reply 159 | June 9, 2020 2:49 PM |
R159,- youāve got the right perspective. Iām not afraid of death, but I donāt want to run towards it either.
by Anonymous | reply 160 | June 12, 2020 2:35 AM |
Shitting in a diaper as an old man. That would be humiliating
by Anonymous | reply 161 | June 12, 2020 2:37 AM |
Chronic pain.
Being discounted - not being able to make myself heard or taken seriously.
by Anonymous | reply 162 | June 12, 2020 7:06 AM |
One piece of advice here - don't let yourself get caught out by things that you could have managed if you hadn't stuck your head in the sand. By this I mean, have yearly blood tests for glycemia, cholesterol, triglycerides, PSA, liver and kidney enzymes. Quit smoking and moderate your drinking if you have to. Keep your weight under control. Right now, follow the protocols for avoiding covid-19.
Take charge, don't be a victim. You're not helpless.
by Anonymous | reply 163 | June 12, 2020 7:19 AM |
Whatās that, r162?
I didnāt hear ya.
by Anonymous | reply 164 | June 12, 2020 2:50 PM |
If you live in a elder-unfriendly home, like one with a lot of stairs, be mindful that you should plan on moving before you get too old and moving becomes too much of a chore. Plus, you want to move when itās not too late to get acclimated to a new place, so you can remember where you keep your meds, for example, lol. That age would be different for everybody, health depending. My folks lived in a split level home, so there was a set of stairs to go from any one room to another. It was tough for my Dad as he was in a walker towards the end. But, by the time it became a problem it was too late for them to move.
Iām 60 and spent the last few weeks cleaning things that I donāt routinely clean, like the curtains, and inside the closets, and it was a lot harder than when I did it last 15 years ago. Itās three flights up to my living space, so I know Iāll have to move. I think in 5 years, because I want to get it done before Iām 70.
by Anonymous | reply 165 | June 13, 2020 2:05 AM |
not having enough money to hire a hot young guy to take care of me, so i can die i home
by Anonymous | reply 166 | June 13, 2020 2:13 AM |
That I will get alzheimer's or dementia without realizing its happening, and that my friends will not tell me in time for me to be able to commit suicide before I become a pathetic vegetable, sitting, drooling on myself all day in a wheelchair in the depressing lobby of a nursing home which is sucking thousands of dollars of my savings each month for something I never wanted.
by Anonymous | reply 167 | June 13, 2020 2:17 AM |
Nothing to fear at all! I embraced being single no hetero normative my whole life!
by Anonymous | reply 168 | June 13, 2020 6:15 AM |
Great pic R168. I love the cat on the upper left - like āGet me outta hereā.
by Anonymous | reply 169 | June 13, 2020 1:57 PM |
R168 - I never got how two women living in such a large house completely trashed it. I get that they thought they were above cleaning, but didnāt they have a garbage can? Both of the Eddies were dirty ass bitches.
by Anonymous | reply 170 | June 17, 2020 1:55 AM |
I have Long Term Care which has the premium increases over 150% since I was 45. I hope I can continue to pay for it. Might not. I am 66. That was my plan but that doesn't seem to be working...
by Anonymous | reply 171 | June 17, 2020 2:28 AM |
Cheer up OP. For about $16,000 you can be euthanized in Switzerland at a Dignitas clinic.
by Anonymous | reply 172 | June 17, 2020 2:35 AM |
In my mid 50's I started researching and planning to "age in place". I sold my wonderful third floor walkup and moved to a less wonderful elevator building with an extra bedroom and bath for an eventual live-in caretaker. In addition to making one of the bathrooms ADA-compliant (sink, shower and toilet handicap accessible), I made doorways wider and removed the thresholds between rooms. I'm glad I did it in my 50's and didn't wait until I was in need. And if Covid-19 is something that's going to be around for the foreseeable future, I really don't want to end up in an assisted care facility until there's no other option.
by Anonymous | reply 173 | June 17, 2020 2:51 AM |
My arrested development has worked in my favor since Iāve formed extremely close friendships with people 20 years younger than myself. So I wonāt be worrying about where Iāll live when I can no longer take care of myself (Iāve had the conversations so Iām pretty confident about this)
. My biggest fear is dementia, especially Alzheimerās. Scares me to death.
by Anonymous | reply 174 | June 17, 2020 3:07 AM |
Walking down ramps.
by Anonymous | reply 175 | June 17, 2020 4:36 AM |
When I was younger I could get a night's rest and my face would clear right up. When you get old it doesn't matter how much you sleep, you still look tired. Also if I bruise myself it takes FOREVER to heal.
by Anonymous | reply 176 | June 17, 2020 9:44 AM |
Lol R176 is he classic gay man response - my greatest fear is LOOKING old.
by Anonymous | reply 177 | June 17, 2020 9:57 AM |
I could go tomorrow and not care. I've had a great life. Do your traveling, etc, while you're able. I now have RA and If someone offers me an all paid trip to a fabulous place, I simply could not do it. What if I had a flare and had to lay around for a couple of weeks. I don't think the Covid is going to be cleared up for at least 3 years. I'm definitely immunocompromised and it won't change. I really don't fear a nursing home. After my 3 orthopedic surgeries I was lucky to stay for 60 days in a fabulous nursing home and I would go there again in a heartbeat. Many of the staff aides were from Ethiopia and Eritrea and they were fabulous. The place has a 100% rating. The place accepted my insurance gladly.
by Anonymous | reply 178 | June 17, 2020 11:05 AM |
[quote]people 20 years younger than myself.
*eyeroll*
by Anonymous | reply 179 | June 17, 2020 2:14 PM |
All the medical appointments you have to attend. Yuck - I hate going to the doctor at the best of times.
by Anonymous | reply 180 | June 17, 2020 2:49 PM |
[quote] Shitting in a diaper as an old man. That would be humiliating
Youāre tellin me!
by Anonymous | reply 181 | June 20, 2020 1:19 AM |
R178, where is this Shangri-La of nursing homes?
by Anonymous | reply 182 | June 20, 2020 1:27 AM |
That I'll be put in a nursing home where the only entertainment is the Sex & the City movies.
by Anonymous | reply 183 | June 20, 2020 1:31 AM |
There's no way I'm giving those necrophiliacs $16,000 to sodomize my poor corpse on TikTok.
by Anonymous | reply 184 | June 20, 2020 1:32 AM |
[quote]Being a gray, stooped-over, doddering thing in faded clothes, maneuvering around the whippersnappers...
Miss Lindzey, it's just a dry spell for you. You need a fresh slate of gentleman callers to reinvigorate yourself.
by Anonymous | reply 185 | June 20, 2020 1:40 AM |
Dying.
Hold me David. I'm scared.
by Anonymous | reply 186 | June 20, 2020 6:16 AM |
Dying and not a single person who cared. All of my family and friends are my age or older. One of my neighbors died a couple of months ago and no one even noticed he was dead for 3 weeks! The guard of the building was so traumatized by the rotting corps when they finally entered his unit to see if he was ok, she had to take a month off for PTSD.
by Anonymous | reply 187 | June 20, 2020 8:27 AM |
Did you get any of his stuff, r187?
by Anonymous | reply 188 | June 20, 2020 10:06 AM |
[quote]the rotting corps
Is this anything like the Peace Corps?
by Anonymous | reply 189 | June 20, 2020 12:01 PM |