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Thrice Divorced by 29??!

I met this gorgeous woman. She is drop dead gorgeous, has a degree in finance from Vanderbilt, and grew up in an upper class family. However, she is 29 and been divorced three times!! At first she told me she had two divorces, but there was one super young in college she just confessed about.

This is a major red flag for me, but her smile makes me melt. My heart says go for it, but my mind says NOOOO! What Would You Do?

PS- I know this is a gay site ha, I'm bisexual and in my early twenties.

by Anonymousreply 108May 23, 2020 2:51 PM

Are you planning to marry her? Jeez.

by Anonymousreply 1May 13, 2020 6:27 PM

Run.

by Anonymousreply 2May 13, 2020 6:28 PM

Anderson Cooper.

by Anonymousreply 3May 13, 2020 6:28 PM

Unless she has a huge cock hidden under her skirt nobody here cares.

by Anonymousreply 4May 13, 2020 6:28 PM

Go for it, OP! Make sure to have a couple of kids with her too.

by Anonymousreply 5May 13, 2020 6:28 PM

Sounds fine to me.

by Anonymousreply 6May 13, 2020 6:29 PM

She is so beautiful though! Definitely see her life turning out like Liz Taylor's- a train wreck

by Anonymousreply 7May 13, 2020 6:30 PM

This is either BS or you don't have the sense god gave paste.

Looks fade.

by Anonymousreply 8May 13, 2020 6:31 PM

OP = Rose.

by Anonymousreply 9May 13, 2020 6:34 PM

If you're a fan of behavioral disorders go for it! A woman with little to no impulse control is going to be a handful and a half.

by Anonymousreply 10May 13, 2020 6:35 PM

Thanks lol I am also a virgin, there is this underlying sexiness tho of her being three different guys "sex toy" ... this that bad? lol

by Anonymousreply 11May 13, 2020 6:46 PM

R11, you're all kinds of a hot mess.

by Anonymousreply 12May 13, 2020 6:48 PM

EST.

by Anonymousreply 13May 13, 2020 6:49 PM

0/10

by Anonymousreply 14May 13, 2020 6:50 PM

She probably leaves her interuterine devices all over the place. Why you might even find one betwixt you and her on the couch.

by Anonymousreply 15May 13, 2020 6:53 PM

Romantic idealist. Just make sure the prenup gives her nothing. If she got cash from those divorces, she may just be a very effective goldigger. As a finance major she should know it is the easiest way to riches for women.

by Anonymousreply 16May 13, 2020 6:53 PM

Prenup, R16? OP is in his early 20s. What are the chances he'll have much to lose monetarily by marrying this bimbo he's so smitten by?

by Anonymousreply 17May 13, 2020 6:54 PM

Especially when she's prone to divorce every few years or so.

by Anonymousreply 18May 13, 2020 6:55 PM

The first marriage was when she was 18. She eloped with her high school bf. Obviously, it did not work out.

by Anonymousreply 19May 13, 2020 6:56 PM

Getting an incel vibe from the OP.

by Anonymousreply 20May 13, 2020 6:56 PM

Why would you ask us this. Yes, marry her and then give her half your money. It’s your karmic fine for being dumb.

by Anonymousreply 21May 13, 2020 7:16 PM

OP = Harry

by Anonymousreply 22May 13, 2020 7:17 PM

I married a lesbian! And then a British bitch! I win.

by Anonymousreply 23May 13, 2020 7:20 PM

Why would you need to marry her? I don't get thinking people's obsession with marriage...what is the possible point? The statistics are against you, so stick with each other until it doesn't work, and get the hell on with life.

by Anonymousreply 24May 13, 2020 7:21 PM

Weddings make good social media content...and they're a great way to get gifts. I hope she keeps her pets for their full life span.

by Anonymousreply 25May 13, 2020 7:23 PM

You said it yourself- red flag. She's obviously crazy- stay away.

by Anonymousreply 26May 13, 2020 7:26 PM

If you have to ask then your gut is telling you to be careful.

Other than the divorces are there other things that are giving you red flags? Or don't you know her well enough yet?

by Anonymousreply 27May 13, 2020 7:27 PM

Stop masturbating all over the thread, virgin OP. I'm assuming you met this girl in a pornhub video.

by Anonymousreply 28May 13, 2020 7:28 PM

OP's comment at R11 basically gives it away that he's a gay man pretending to be bi and that this is a troll thread. Straight men don't view their wives as "sex toys." Their one-night stands, fuckbuddies, and (non-serious) girlfriends, yes. But for straight men their wives are basically Mom 2.0.

Gay men should never try pretending to be straight or bi, it just NEVER works.

by Anonymousreply 29May 13, 2020 7:28 PM

OP should have reversed his scenario to three years old and divorced 29 times. It would have been a more entertaining read.

by Anonymousreply 30May 13, 2020 7:29 PM

OP's gorgeous woman.

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by Anonymousreply 31May 13, 2020 7:32 PM

Divorced three times by 29 is a big fucking, red flag. It means three things: stupidity (Vanderbilt degree doesn't mean shit), personality issues, and poor judgement. Stupidity in that the dumb ho didn't learn from divorce #1 and divorce #2, proceeded to make mistakes that resulted in divorce #3. She may have problems with her personality, usually shitty people can find other shitty people to be shitty with, but she may be so shitty that others of similar ilk find her to be impossible to be with once the charm wears off and sex loses its sparks. Poor judgement may be related to stupidity, but also speaks to willful ignorance, these are the people you want to stay away from because they have the tendency to justify bad choices by blaming you.

Ask her about the reasons why she thinks the past marriages failed, if it's all blaming others instead of self-reflection, then RUN AWAY. She may be borderline or sociopathic if she blames others for her mistakes. That or she's extremely dumb though presents as smart, rich family bought her a place at Vanderbilt and she majored in shitty liberal arts degree.

by Anonymousreply 32May 13, 2020 7:32 PM

R30 or OP should have dropped the bi shit and pretended to be a goldstar dyke falling for a bi chick who's been thrice married men

by Anonymousreply 33May 13, 2020 7:33 PM

[quote]At first she told me she had two divorces, but there was one super young in college she just confessed about.

If you lack the common sense to avoid an obviously messy and dishonest person like this, we can't help you.

by Anonymousreply 34May 13, 2020 7:34 PM

I will give anyone a pass for their 1st divorce, things happen. But 3 divorces by 29 is prima facie evidence of "cray cray". But you already know that. it's the old: "the crazier she is the better the sex" trope. Don't marry or knock her up.

by Anonymousreply 35May 13, 2020 7:37 PM

R32 She has a finance degree, not a liberal arts degree.

She is a little controlling, but I do not mind it. Her ex husbands were all kind of screw ups who had issues- first was too young, second got into a ton of credit card debt, and third liked other women. I feel bad for her and she has my heart. We have an emotional connection, but these are the flags. I hate when the brain and the heart don't align.

by Anonymousreply 36May 13, 2020 7:38 PM

Marry her, OP! She sounds like a catch!

by Anonymousreply 37May 13, 2020 7:40 PM

I will put you on my metal "I told you so" list for later use.

by Anonymousreply 38May 13, 2020 7:47 PM

OP, there are all kinds of problems with your scenario. Should have said you are a transgender man who is falling for a beautiful 29 year old woman, who has been widowed three times. You met her when you were welders on a Navy ship stationed in Honolulu. All of her husbands died in tragic accidents. One died of a heart attack when she was fucking him, the second died in a car accident whilst she was blowing him, the third died like Chris Burros in a motel room with a dust up his ass and poppers in a mask.

by Anonymousreply 39May 13, 2020 7:50 PM

*fist up his ass

by Anonymousreply 40May 13, 2020 7:51 PM

R39 That is really really tacky to Chris Burrous family. He is dead. Have class.

by Anonymousreply 41May 13, 2020 7:54 PM

OP tacky? You know this is Datalounge, right? You must be a fucking noob.

by Anonymousreply 42May 13, 2020 7:57 PM

This will end in tears.

by Anonymousreply 43May 13, 2020 8:01 PM

R42 Just because this is an anonymous thread does not mean you can talk poorly of good people who are dead. it ain't right.

by Anonymousreply 44May 13, 2020 8:10 PM

R44 T'ain't right.

by Anonymousreply 45May 13, 2020 8:14 PM

R44 he wasn’t very good to his poor wife. Going to motels and getting strange cock on Grindr.

by Anonymousreply 46May 13, 2020 8:18 PM

3 divorces? 2 are bad enough through your 40s and 50s, but by 29, there’s definitely a problem, and a common denominator: her.

She’s beautiful and she’s nuts. Plenty of gorgeous women are like this. They get hit on 20 times more than other women at school, work and at bars. They get charmed, THINK they fall because they’re having amazing sex, and the guy can’t resist a beautiful face and a great lay, and then they marry, and it immediately falls apart, because relationships don’t survive on being gorgeous, smart, impulsive, good in bed, sexual chemistry, and hard ons. And that’s the FIRST marriage. Most walk away, realizing they both made a mistake, learn, and become VERY picky about who they pick next, and what they share in common, and how well they communicate and resolve conflict, BEFORE even making the relationship exclusive, much less moving in together, or getting married.

I’ve had friends like this woman you describe, OP. Get ready for infidelity, theft, substance abuse, domestic violence, real or falsely accused of, police men who show up at her house to take you in, who are fucking her on the side, and all other kinds of madness. Make sure you have good homeowners’ insurance, lock down your valuables, and get full coverage on the car insurance, because eventually you will also come home to find your door kicked down, your watches missing, your nice suits ALL gone, or she will “borrow” your car and have a “small fender bender”. That means she totaled your ride. LMAO!

Have fun! And if this isn’t an EST, save this post, because every prediction is highly probable. Good family and education makes ZERO difference. 3 divorces by 29 is an obvious major personality disorder, (likely Borderline Personality Disorder) and/or mental illness, usually accompanied by drug/alcohol addiction and sometimes, an eating disorder. You think: she can’t be, she looks good and healthy. At 29, and some money, we all look great at 29. So don’t let her looks, education, job, etc., be the tip off, because normal and mentally healthy, emotionally well adjusted women just DO NOT marry and divorce 3x, by 29.

p.s. Don’t tell her where you work, or where your kids go to school, if you have any. And if you tell her you’re bi, she will accuse you of attempting to infect her with HIV, tell all your coworkers and boss, and that cop she’s fucking on the side will beat the living shit out of you with his pals one night, when you least expect.

by Anonymousreply 47May 13, 2020 8:20 PM

Get real you nut job OP!! That woman is only after you for caftan collection! Which is odd, because you don’t have a caftan in the bunch that’s not Dacron.

by Anonymousreply 48May 13, 2020 8:23 PM

If you can’t figure this out on your own then you are a dummy who is beyond Data Lounge’s help.

by Anonymousreply 49May 13, 2020 8:27 PM

Trollin' trollin' trollin' ...

by Anonymousreply 50May 13, 2020 8:27 PM

May we interview the first three husbands?

by Anonymousreply 51May 13, 2020 8:34 PM

R50, maybe not. You’d be surprised how many men are suckers for these types of chicks. And I’m talking smart guys, who have their shit together and are handsome and get laid, plenty.

Straight men are idiots. They claim it’s an emotional connection, when they haven’t a clue what that really means. An emotional connection is when your wife of 15 years gets diagnosed with breast cancer, and you stay at that shitty job you were about to quit, to open up your own business with her, because that shitty job offers great insurance and she’s gonna need it.

👆🏽 That’s an emotional connection. It does not magically appear, within a few weeks or months. It’s something that shows up and tests the strength of that relationship, and helps you both pass that test, with an A+, despite the times you thought you wouldn’t.

by Anonymousreply 52May 13, 2020 8:40 PM

Definitely issues. However, I'd worry a lot more if she were thrice widowed by 29.

by Anonymousreply 53May 13, 2020 8:43 PM

Finance degree doesn't take brains, look at Jared and his FIL. The woman sounds like a loon and the finance degree actually make her even nuttier.

by Anonymousreply 54May 13, 2020 9:33 PM

OP how do you define emotional connection?

by Anonymousreply 55May 13, 2020 9:34 PM

Actress Marcy Walker was divorced 3 times before she reached the age of 30

by Anonymousreply 56May 13, 2020 9:36 PM

[quote]Would You Do?

First, I'd find people who actually care.

Next, I would acquire some basic life skills, especially focused on decision making and how to evaluate situations.

Finally, I would get a blog to, again, find people who actually care.

by Anonymousreply 57May 13, 2020 9:41 PM

Jesus! All these nelly queens screaming at you to run the other way?

Darling, marry her! That way you can walk away with half her stuff!!!

You'll be laughing all the way to the bank!!!

by Anonymousreply 58May 13, 2020 9:42 PM

[quote] Definitely see her life turning out like Liz Taylor's- a train wreck

I can definitely see OP's life turning into a train wreck.

by Anonymousreply 59May 13, 2020 9:45 PM

Just remember this if you marry her: you’re a virgin fucking three different men’s leftovers. That puss is well used if she’s “drop dead gorgeous.”

by Anonymousreply 60May 13, 2020 10:05 PM

A bisexual virgin just sounds sad and pathetic.

by Anonymousreply 61May 13, 2020 10:07 PM

I am a gay man in quarantine with a woman and tbh I haven't lived with ANY woman since my mom and my sis (who went away to college at 18 and then married and moved to another state). I am still gay but I actually am enjoying living with her. I don't think I could be as attracted to her as to a man, but she is pretty awesome and it's been interesting to have a woman around. She is incredibly nurturing and adorable in so many ways we men are just not.

by Anonymousreply 62May 13, 2020 10:38 PM

I think I have an emotional connection to and want to marry R57

by Anonymousreply 63May 13, 2020 11:06 PM

This is a gay male board, we don't care about your relationship with a women.

by Anonymousreply 64May 13, 2020 11:11 PM

Run.

by Anonymousreply 65May 13, 2020 11:15 PM

r62 Men aren't meant to be nurturing. Men are meant to have sex. Men are wired for sex not love. Therefore, sex will always be your priority and driving force in life!

by Anonymousreply 66May 13, 2020 11:19 PM

R64 - maybe the OP is a bisexual man? I am gay and I do have other things going on in my life BESIDES my sexuality. Not all gay men and women live in the proverbial "gay ghetto". We have actual interaction, at home and work with other people (R62 is an example), hobbies and subjects that are not all about just being gay. We define ourselves as men first..then whether we are gay, bi, hetero is just one facet of our personality. Let the OP post. If he's asking gay men, it means he thinks enough of the LGBTQ community to seek their opinion. Do you prefer a Trump-tard?

by Anonymousreply 67May 13, 2020 11:30 PM

Scenario trolls are bored with writing gay fiction now. They have switched it up to “bisexual” bullshit.

by Anonymousreply 68May 13, 2020 11:32 PM

R66 - this is true about sex being a primary driving force, which is why I am still gay and, unfortunately, can't do anything about this woman. The only thing is hope I meet fellow like her.

As for men not being nurturing, I beg to differ. During my years in the medical field I have seen men as exceptional nurses and doctors. What is MOST interesting to me was how many men are far better with kids and pregnant women than female nurses and doctors. Gay men are no exception here because in the 3 hospitals I worked quite a few gay doctors were highly recommended as "caring, sympathetic, etc." while women often got much more scathing reviews from female patients.

by Anonymousreply 69May 13, 2020 11:46 PM

R69 I read what you wrote, but was distracted by intrusive thoughts about 69ing with you! Now I'm headed to Pornhub!

by Anonymousreply 70May 13, 2020 11:56 PM

R70 - just wait until you ARE 69...by the time you find a video you want on Pornhub you will have dozed off.

by Anonymousreply 71May 14, 2020 12:28 AM

R70 - you know she wants the earrings too

by Anonymousreply 72May 14, 2020 1:44 AM

R70 - 20 years ago I would have obliged but even tops have an expiration date and I honestly have very little interest in sex anymore. Had enough for one life.

by Anonymousreply 73May 14, 2020 1:45 AM

Op.. congratulations.. you’ve met the only gorgeous 29 year old in the US. Well done. She’s 3 times divorced cause there’s so many men around her age to fuck, and I guess she “doesn’t give the milk away for free”. Seriously, there are a million beautiful fish in the sea... find one who isn’t Liz Taylor...

by Anonymousreply 74May 14, 2020 2:24 AM

I don't get a bi male vibe from OP. I get an adolescent teen girl vibe

by Anonymousreply 75May 14, 2020 2:26 AM

R75 exactly. This isn’t a dude. It’s Tina Belcher.

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by Anonymousreply 76May 14, 2020 5:27 AM

"Nurturing" reminds me of a guy I met on gay.com twenty years ago. He was seeking someone who would beat the shit out of him, then tend to his wounds, nurse him back to health, repeat. Simpler times.

by Anonymousreply 77May 14, 2020 5:46 AM

OP, have you become husband number four yet? Or maybe husband number five? Perhaps she disclosed another former spouse to you during lunch.

by Anonymousreply 78May 14, 2020 12:47 PM

LOL she was also a former professional cheerleader for an NFL team.

by Anonymousreply 79May 14, 2020 1:39 PM

She is also an engineer for NASA, she used to be in Vaudeville, and she is working on the vaccine for Covid.

by Anonymousreply 80May 14, 2020 1:45 PM

3 divorces and she's not yet 30? Dear non-existent deity that's pretty bad. Consider if she started at 18 in 11 years 3 divorces, so on average every 3.6 years. So that means you could hit and quit it for 18 months.

by Anonymousreply 81May 14, 2020 2:03 PM

She also competed at the 2016 Olympics in Rio. I don’t know why but it turns me on to think about how much cock she got at the Olympic Village that summer! LOL!

by Anonymousreply 82May 14, 2020 3:27 PM

Did I mention she has lovely blonde hair, ample perky breasts, and Malibu dream house? She is a model, a doctor, a teacher, an astronaut, a policewoman, she even ran for president! She even has a cute name, Barbie!!

by Anonymousreply 83May 14, 2020 6:50 PM

R83 Is NOT OP.

by Anonymousreply 84May 14, 2020 7:28 PM

R84 is not OP

by Anonymousreply 85May 14, 2020 7:35 PM

OP, listen to your mind and it's saying NOOOO!

by Anonymousreply 86May 14, 2020 7:39 PM

OP, let me break this down for your dumb ass: if only three of these things are true ( she is gorgeous, a former NFL cheerleader, and a former Olympian) she is already way out of your league. I’m guessing at least two of her last three husbands were hot, affluent and hung. Attractive women don’t hook up with bisexual virgins. Especially, bisexual virgins who sound like pervy obsessive nerds! If your silly ass has any self respect, just move on. This sexy bitch don’t want broke, virgin, dorks.

by Anonymousreply 87May 14, 2020 7:44 PM

[quote]LOL she was also a former professional cheerleader for an NFL team.

So is my bartender.

by Anonymousreply 88May 14, 2020 8:09 PM

Go ahead and marry her OP! Then when you finally come out to your truth, you can be number 4.

by Anonymousreply 89May 14, 2020 9:34 PM

So she has a history of picking losers and you think she is the one for you?

by Anonymousreply 90May 14, 2020 11:38 PM

R90, Some people don’t take well to having the obvious pointed out to them....

by Anonymousreply 91May 14, 2020 11:49 PM

I am not even sure the OP is bi. I think he is just a gay man who finds a woman interesting and beautiful. EVERYONE is intrigued by beautiful and interesting people. I even said I would marry my roommate I am in quarantine with IF I wasn't gay but I can't...if you even need to ask on a gay site, you are gay.

by Anonymousreply 92May 16, 2020 12:45 AM

OP = Bozoid Trollerina

by Anonymousreply 93May 16, 2020 12:46 AM

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by Anonymousreply 94May 16, 2020 12:48 AM

[quote] I am also a virgin

Most retarded people are

by Anonymousreply 95May 16, 2020 12:49 AM

Model turned actress Jennifer O’Neill married four times before she was 30 - then proceeded to go through five more marriages.

Today she’s a born again Christian who speaks out against abortion... even though she had at least one, herself.

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by Anonymousreply 96May 16, 2020 1:00 AM

[quote]R16 Just make sure the prenup gives her nothing. If she got cash from those divorces, she may just be a very effective goldigger.

I think OP should REFUSE to sign a prenup! He’s a decade younger than her, and writes like someone with a GED.

Maybe she’ll put him through college?

by Anonymousreply 97May 16, 2020 1:05 AM

I love the word "thrice."

From a Funny Thing happened on the Way to the Forum:

"He raped Thrace! He raped Thrace three times!!!"

"He raped Thrace thrice?!?!?!"

by Anonymousreply 98May 16, 2020 1:07 AM

Oh the joys of a cluster b relationship. Look into a mirror, You are a cluster b too. No children for you. No pets. Okay.

by Anonymousreply 99May 16, 2020 1:21 AM

Horrible

by Anonymousreply 100May 16, 2020 1:27 AM

SHE'S A CRAZY WHORE! WELL USED

by Anonymousreply 101May 22, 2020 10:31 PM

That ain’t a vagina, that’s a tunnel !!

by Anonymousreply 102May 23, 2020 12:17 AM

I am gay, prefer to have sex only with men, but when I did try to have sex with a woman, the only thing I did enjoy was eating her out and nothing else. Just giving an orgasm is pretty cool. Granted, she was clean down there and didn't smell. Call me weird...

by Anonymousreply 103May 23, 2020 6:41 AM

People are so judgemental and always quick to slut-shame a woman. Nobody on here knows the full story about her past marriages. Maybe she's really a level-headed, good-natured girl who had bad luck with the men she picked. Don't listen to the bitter naysayers, OP. Listen to your heart.

by Anonymousreply 104May 23, 2020 1:13 PM

Divorced people are failures. So, she is a failure three times over.

by Anonymousreply 105May 23, 2020 1:29 PM

R105 - really? Right wing much?

by Anonymousreply 106May 23, 2020 1:42 PM

Knock her up! Knock her up! Knock her up! Knock her up!

by Anonymousreply 107May 23, 2020 1:52 PM

R107 is correct. Fuckin put an 18 year anchor on the bitch...will at least make her less likely to marry #5 (assuming op is number 4).

by Anonymousreply 108May 23, 2020 2:51 PM
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