Gay Dress?

A man wearing a dress: that's a good start, OP.

Seriously, though. Things have changed as younger men have become increasingly conscious of style and grooming, but even in NYC, I can pick out gay boys vs their straight counterparts from 40 feet. Even now, there are garments that most straight dudes simply will not wear: leggings. Midriff-exposing shirts. Certain colors: hot pink, lavender. Most jewelry.

A start

Would it have killed you to have at least posted a picture or link OP? Would it? I mean would that have really been so hard? Would it? Why don’t you try to think more of others next time before you post? What's your problem? I mean really, what's your damn problem? How are you going to answer us? How?

Silk crepe and flowers

White jeans for sure

Lots of designer labels. Most straight men don’t care that much about labels. They might have one designer thing, but not head to toe.

Bright colors and a jauntily worm scarf are signs too.

Everything's a bit tighter that usual

Colors no one else would wear.

pointy dressy shoes

tight trousers and shirts

sunglasses

bikini briefs in all colors

Gays wear clothes one size too small because they think it makes them look muscular but instead, they look like sausages.

Deep-V tees.

I know this is also a guido/Jersey Shore thing, but it’s a clue.

Scarves

r9 I started deliberately wearing clothes a size too small (especially jeans) when i was about 14. I also switched to tighter dress shirts and sweaters, sneakers and ankle socks. I always wore plain white briefs though, the regular kind (I still do). The only thing is that if anybody my age suspected I was gay they didn't say anything.

Gay couples arriving at a party, both with untucked dress shirts with insane colors and patterns. They're often short in stature, making them look like silly court jesters standing beside one another. I ha ve never understood this sartorial prevalence among gay couples..

Mostly it's clothes that draw too much attention or show too much skin, often both at the same time.

Gay dresses = Gone with the Wind costume; The Wizard of Oz (Dorrtthayy)

Wow, you lot must be Americans. You got stuck in 1962.

Details used to have a section called "Gay or Guido" and "Gay or Eurotrash" so that gives you a sense of what "dressing gay" is about.

For a lot of guys, it's overly fussy and fashionable [italic] especially [/italic] when they either don't have the body type to pull it off or they're way too old to pull it off.) Bascially clothes that wear you versus the other way around.

So, as per the above, white collar ProMos often have that Hitler Youth/Macklemore haircut favored by blue collar types (versus the standard businessman haircut or whatever you'd call what Mayor Pete's haircut is called.)

The Hells Kitchen ProMos are also all about tight highwaters, no socks even in winter, patterned shirts (often buttoned up to the neck) and tight cardigans. And great big scarves. Or at least that's what they were wearing last time I bothered to check.

On DL I learned that for some of you, pink shirts were considered gay, but that's more Northeastern/Southern preppy than gay.

Too many accessories. Ascots. Caftans. Earrings. Jewelry (other than a nice watch or a gold crucifix chain).

Anything green on Thursdays.

I live in West Hollywood - I won't wear the same clothing outside of the city. I think it is fine but other people will think it is over the top and can scream gay - ie pink shorts/slacks/jeans.

I dont'want to deal with other peoples homophobia so just don't outside of coast metro areas.

Bold pattern statements.

Older dudes can show a more dramatic flare.

Fashionable gays shop here

Modest winter wear

[quote]other people will think it is over the top and can scream gay - ie pink shorts/slacks/jeans.

Scream gay? That's a fucking air raid siren!

Seriously-has not one person mentioned the defining garment - the CAFTAN? I am disappointed, gentlemen. Deeply, deeply disappointed.

Another type of ProMo will wear clothes that are popular with JAPpy teenage girls, so Canada Goose, Aviator Nation, Golden Goose. (With matching Hydroflask, of course.)

Tube top and daisy dukes...

[quote]The only thing is that if anybody my age suspected I was gay they didn't say anything.

Oh honey, they didn't have to 'suspect' because they knew.

Think Mr Brady's wardrobe before and after the Hawaii episodes.

HK mo’s are still wearing the huge blanket-like scarves.

They’re also still wearing the Hitler Youth/Macklemore hair and beards. They can’t let that combo go, they think it’s manly. Half of them are on meth.

HK = Hong Kong?

This dress is pretty gay:

Bright neon head to toe. Even the hair is colored in bright green, blue or pink. Screams gay. Sometimes they even walk gay.

I must agree with the people who say scarves. Even many of the hardest closet cases have a weird affair with neckwear. I wish someone did research on this because I need to know why!

BTW, Russian actor Oleg Menshikov is an excellent study case for what a closet queen wears. Just google him, DL won't allow me to post a link.

HK = Hell's Kitchen - NYCs gay district.

And thanks for the update R32

Mesh anything.

There are some things I see gay guys wearing that women or straight men don't seem to wear.

Some were mentioned above: (a) Shirts and pants one size too small. (b) Dress shoes with no socks (c) Big round eyeglass frames that take up half of a guy's face (d) Summer shorts that are short enough to be boxer briefs (See above ^ R40) (e) Lilac / lavender (f) Cuffed ironed jeans (g) Anything pink or rose colored, other than a shirt or tie (h) Vests with no tie

THE gay uniform: tank top and tight, tight short shorts.

There are professional dress shirts in pink and purple. There are professional dark purple sweaters and dark purple shirts, but there are also the gay pinks and purples which are too attention-seeking and too loud. Not just pink or purple, FUCSHIA and LAVENDER.

No socks with dress shoes

Ascots and mufflers.

r44 He looks like me at that age!

Don't forget the urban lumbersexual. City men from Manhattan, Brooklyn, DC, Chicago, Philadelphia, Boston and Chicago (I don't know if there are urban lumbersexuals in the Pacific Northwest or the south or in Canada), but the lumbersexual dress code includes:

plaid flannel shirts (one size too small), big long beard, suspenders!, white t-shirt, lace-up boots, tight skinny jeans or tight dark dress pants.

Ha R40! That is perfect and illustrates what I was talking about re: not having the body type to pull it off (and being too old.)

That might look hot on a well built 22 year old (slutty and a bit ridiculous, but hot nonetheless) but the guy in the photo just looks pathetic.

Too many gay guys fall into that trap and I'm never sure why.

Do they not own mirrors?

Like this:

Or like this:

Glitter Scarves Leggings V-neck t-shirts Ugg boots

Every third straight guy under 30 looks like that R48 and the only thing gay about the guy in R49 is the saying on his t-shirt.

R40 nailed it.

Leave well enough alone.

Caftans. Earrings.

Sunglasses? Really?

He had his hair cut above his collar, his shirt was tucked in and he had shoes on! He MUST be gay

coochie cutters!

R48 is posting from 1983.

I'm from Boston and have worn pink oxford cloth shirts my entire life. I dont think pink shirts -- or go to hell wear -- are gay at all if the wearer is on the preppy/old family side.' ai still wear pink shirts and bright green pants. a

Being told by one of the prettiest girls in 10th grade "you dress rally nice for a guy". Lol

A hundred million miracles are happening every day!

[quote]i still wear pink shirts and bright green pants

And everyone in a five-mile radius knows you're a homo

[quote]ai still wear pink shirts and bright green pants.

That's not preppy, it's a clothing style my ex from Montreal would have called "vrai clown" (pronounced as kloon).

agree that everything a little too tight.. too "fitted" to self consciously a "look" reads not so much gay but desperation for a certain kind of admiration or attention to your body. That's fine though, no judgement. It does get a little strained over 30 though.

r57, exactly. My late FIL was a tall, dignified man who wore pink shirts, seersucker suits, pocket squares, etc. It would never occur to anyone that he was the least bit “faggy”.

Tight clothes that show skin, dead giveaway.

Caftan and pearls, R52, caftan and pearls.

OP, are you headless?

Who asks such a stupid question???

An over-weight, 50-something acquaintance still subscribes to the stereotypically gay “tight, form-fitting and LOUD” aesthetic. Loud colors, plaids and patterns, clashing colors, all stretched and straining over his love handles and paunch. It’s embarrassing. Wear clothes that fit your body and flatter your looks. Aging is never helped by blind devotion to clothes that don’t suit you anymore.

No one has said a thing about MOI?!

^ Sorry, doofus me. Here’s the correct link location.

Men who wear leather caps and aren't police officers.

I'm in Chicago and spend equal amount of time with straight and gay friends. It never fails after a night at SideTrack I always get the once over from my friends because my straight legged jeans aren't tight enough. I should be wearing the skinny cut like everyone else! Well, I've got big caves and an ass (I'm black), I have little interest in squeezing what I've got into some skinny jeans. No, I am not at all fat, I just know how to consult a fitting room mirror before purchasing clothes. With my straight friends, it's no problem. I agree, gays do like things to be about a size tighter than straight people. But, when a 20 something fit guy walks buy in tight fitted clothes it can be hot as fuck. Unfortunately, 80% of the guys can't pull off the look to the same degree.

Op, tight polos. Always skin tight polos are another stable in the gay work dress code.

A guy can be wearing perfectly "straight" gym clothes, but walks in carrying his gym bag in the crook of his elbow like Queen Elizabeth, and everyone knows he's gay.

Scarves. Only fem, European, old, or snooty Dudes wear scarves in America.

Most dudes wearing compression pants today are nongay. It’s a gym bro thing. However, it has to be a jock bro brand, not a gay or girly one like Andrew Christian.

While gym bros Wear form fitting clothes, they try to wear them in a way that says “jock,” not “gurl.”

Nongay gym guys dress skimpy, but it’s to show off upper body strength, to look like an Alpha.

Effeminate gay men dress skimpy to show off their butts and to attract masculine men’s attention and desire. They also tend to wear shirts that suggest submissive availability and sturdiness.

Slutiness, not sturdiness

I find it interesting when fem guys dress masculine and jockish. Not “gay jock,” but mainstream dudebro

These hats. Typically accompanied by a scarf or neckless.

British don’t count

Jewelry - necklaces and bracelets. Younger straight guys wear these too - but it's a good indicator for men over 40.

Briefs and speedos

Leather shorts.

Any plunging shirt, unless Latino

A sweater draped perfectly over the shoulders even when it's 90 degrees out

There is a group of older gay guys that I know who are all fastidiously dressed in expensive, well tailored age appropriate clothes, but everything is just too pressed, to immaculate and too perfect. It drives me nuts.

Yeah, most guys are laid back about clothing and stile, so it Really sticks out when you have a guy that is very focused and meticulous about his clothing.

Style

Skinny but masculine

Ms. Grande.

R6, that only applies to white dude bros. Italian and black men will often be dripped in designer shit.

True, as usual DL, has a Lilly white focus

[quote]True, as usual DL, has a Lilly white focus

Wrong. A Trans Woman of Color is featured at R59.

You’re kidding, right?

Rompers

Leather jeans anyone? Is that gay?

[quote]There are some things I see gay guys wearing that women or straight men don't seem to wear. Some were mentioned above: (a) Shirts and pants one size too small.

You must not know any Latinas.