So I have (well had) a 23-year friendship go up in smoke over a facebook comment. Here is the long story as short as possible. My friend and I lived in the same city and would do everything together, go out clubbing, etc, dinner, movies,. He was friends with both me and my now-husband. We would even go on vacations together. He never had a lot of money so most times I would pay for him. Drinks, dinner, even the trips I would buy his plane ticket. I took a job in another city but we remained friends. We would constantly go back and visit him. Once he graduated college (he was on the 10-year plan lol) he got a decent job, a house all that. His house caught fire one night (he was not home) but he lost a lot of his things so we drove down that weekend to bring him everything he needed, a TV, pots, pans, dishes, silverware. I should mention at this point we are the kind of friends who take the piss out of each other. Good-natured but very deep shade. He gives as good as he gets. When he went through a really hard break up, he would email me what his ex was emailing and have me type the responses because he could not deal. I thought we were really good friends
So - on to what had happened. Facebook, he would post pics and I would comment, some nice, some snarky. same for me. This last post he posted a pic and I made a snarky comment, he snarked back I loled and figured that was it. Next thing I know he disappears from my feed and my husband says "he just texted me and said you are mean we can't be friends anymore"
I was gobsmacked. He just deleted me from his life. I went over our exchanges and there was nothing that was out of the ordinary. I texted he didn't respond, I called no pick up. I thought fine, if you don't want me as a friend after 20+ years fine.
Then I started reviewing the friendship. Never once has he come to visit us, we always had to see him. He never called us, we called him, looking back it was really a one-sided effort.
So do I try to reach out or just chalk it up as a loss, because after 4 months he has not even reached out to my husband who he did not block and supposidly remained friends.