My grandma called me fake/phony

Do they have money? If not, problem solved.

Well, you obviously don't agree with her. However, might she be right?

You should ask her as nicely as possible:

- what prompted her to say this to you now.

- has she always felt this way or is it something that's happened recently.

- does she want you to continue to visit or would she rather you stopped.

It sounds more like a power trip on her part. Does her past behavior suggest that she's trying to manipulate you? Is she angling for you to "do" something or "be there" for someone else in the family? It sounds like she's setting you up in some manner - does someone else in the family need something or perhaps someone else has gone to her to ask her to "make" you do something which you've already declined to do.

Isn't there a mental health professional you can pay to pretend to care about this, OP?

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I'm sorry, OP. That was hard to hear, I'm sure. But there's no way to really assess the situation. We can't see how you actually are with your grandparents when you're with them. It could be that she's being irrational and crazy. Or, it could be that she has a point.

When you visit them, are you constantly checking your phone? Maybe you're used to hanging with younger people who don't care, but older people hate that. You said you're busy- when you visit, are you preoccupied with other things that are going on? Do you sort of act like you're doing them a favor visiting them, rather than just because you want to?

Not accusing you of ANY of these things, OP. But just try to imagine your visits from her perspective. Sounds like you've got a busy, full life. Maybe she envies your youth.

This time I'd recommend you leave your bejewelled cigarette holder and maribou boa at home.

Dementia?

Maybe onset dementia - don't take it to heart. Just keep doing what you are doing.

My mom said something similar to me when I was 19 or 20. It was at a time when I was infatuated with glamour and dismissive of low-brow culture and I came across as a pretentious snob, which I kind of was/am. Although now, I'm MUCH more enamored of low- brow culture. I used to be all 'darling I love you but give me Park Ave and now I'm all, goodbye city life.'

Did you miss an important holiday or event?

[quote] She says that I have been acting fake whenever I come visit her ever since I moved town. WTF?? She also said that I don't care about the family or her and that I'm selfish and detached.

She's mad because you "moved town." Maybe you are acting different, picking up different speech patterns, wearing different fashions, etc.

OP, cut this trash out of your life and never look back.

OP, cut this trash out of your life and never look back.

Grandma sounds like a bitch.

Grandma, you're older now, you've got a plastic hip.... and now I've got the baseball bat!

When’s the last time you ate grandma out?

Ask her if she'd prefer you didn't come round and see what the reaction is.

omg, so many clueless cunts on DL lately...all the stupid questions!

Always visit relatives in your hometown in old clothes. If you look too prosperous, they'll be jealous or think you're puttin' on airs,

Cancel the bitch. Who needs that. Ghost her during the holidays and if she asks where you’ve been just say, “Yeah, life is hard enough without being attacked by my grandmother.”

It sounds like you are going out of your way to pay attention to them and show them they are important to you, which not all grandchildren would do. I’m sorry she said something so hurtful. I think it can be very difficult getting older, and sometimes people end up feeling left out and sort of irrelevant, and they take it out on innocent bystanders. As long as you are acting in good faith and trying to be kind, that is all you can do. You can’t make them appreciative and there is no guarantee (ever) that anything you do will be understood in the spirit you intend it. They are lucky to have a family member who loves and cares about them!

Sounds like something my boderline personality disordered mom would say.

Sometimes depression expresses itself as anger or irritability.

Maybe it's political. Do you mute the tv when they're watching Hannity?

[quote]My mom said something similar to me when I was 19 or 20. It was at a time when I was infatuated with glamour and dismissive of low-brow culture and I came across as a pretentious snob, which I kind of was/am.

Appreciate your honesty r9.

OP, are you acting like grand bitch?

Well hon, I'm sure you probably are. I mean she had to actually "say" something to get you to visit them once a week??? That's pretty bad. What you really should do is go see them once a week and do something like their laundry or grocery shopping or regular chore that will make their life easier. Then, I would send them a card every other week or so, hand written, telling them what is going on with you and how much you love them. This, they will love more than anything. This. You will be more grateful for anything in your life.

Don’t make it like an chore. I hate that.

She knows you want her $. This story is, literally, as olde as the hills.

What does “moved town” mean?

Hahhahaha, R19, I love you ❤️

"Moved town" means pulled up stakes and skedaddled.

It's because you are OP

That's odd because my grandma called you a thirsty whore.

Sounds like a pretty high-maintenance grandma, if you ask me. Sheesh.

What a cunt! However, OP, you sound like drama

She is just cranky - you will never do enough to satisfy her, and your grandma is just blowing off steam

OP, visiting your grandmother every single week is ADMIRABLE! Most grannies would kill for their grandson to visit them once every quarter. A weekly visit is unheard of in this day and age.

I visit my grandmother once every quarter, as I live in Germany since 2013, so it takes me a good part of the day to get there (she, of course, still lives in The Netherlands). She is grateful for my visits, as my brother, who lives only twenty minutes away from her, doesn’t even visit twice a year!

Long story short: Don’t take it to heart. You are a sweetheart for paying her a visit so often. It could well be the onset of dementia. Watch for the little telltale signs.

Frontin’ on Gramma? Shame on you. Smh.

You've put on airs.

She’s very perceptive for her age

Grandma calls it as she sees it Queen down. She could be right.

Just give her a good eatin'

What do you mean "acting fake"?

She sounds hard to deal with. Punch and delete.

Tell Granny that you enjoy seeing them, but you feel bad that she apparently doesn't enjoy your visits, so in the future, you will not see her as often if it is so unpleasant for her. Then stay away for about a month. Fuck them. She's pissed because you moved and she has less freedom to do what she wants. But also, OP examine your behavior to see if you're becoming more superficial. And you know what? Fill your spare time with something meaningful. So next time you see or speak to her you can say you've been busy volunteering etc.

She knows exactly why you visit.

[quote] fake/phony

That's exactly what I call my boss, a fake phoney. And I hate her

So OP, if your name is Danielle, YOU'RE A FAKE, PHONEY, BITCH

If you aren't Danielle, then please disregard the above message

She knows EXACTLY why all the buzzards are flying around her house.

Are you still in the will? That’s all that matters.

[quote]"Moved town" means pulled up stakes and skedaddled.

Thanks, Joe Biden.

r36 you have a big uncut dick, don't you?

Op never came back to check on us either. Phony cunt.

Some mothers and grandmothers are just counts. Plain and simple. Just because they grow old and they have offspring doesn't decuntify them.

Lol granny with plastic hip, fake chompers, dyed hair and glasses calling our beloved OP fake. Ain't that rich!

What R7 and R8 said, Op. if this is out of character for her, which it sounds like it may be, this sounds like symptom of dementia onset.

This reminds me of Yolonda Hadid when she wanted her friends to come over an paint little paintings for Gigi when she was going off to college in NYC (LOL college). Lisa V could not make it and Yolanda accused her of just being a Hollywood friend and not a real friend. Yor Granny is Yolanda Hadid. Fucking crazy.