Just because you were born into a family does not mean they will never abandon you. Certain families place their Godly convictions and beliefs on you and expect you to conform to receive love.
What Is The Most Important Life Lesson You Have Learned?
by Anonymous | reply 234 | December 28, 2019 3:10 AM |
No good deed goes unpunished.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | November 20, 2019 12:57 PM |
Whenever you feel upset/spiteful/wronged/etc ask yourself: Is it me or my ego talking? It's usually your ego, and ego is never a good advisor.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | November 20, 2019 1:00 PM |
There are no free rides. If it seems too good to be true, that's because it is.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | November 20, 2019 1:20 PM |
Never EVER believe someone when they tell you that shaving your pubic hair will rid you of crab infestation.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | November 20, 2019 1:26 PM |
My biggest lesson is that no matter who we are, or where we came from, we all have the right to admit defeat, surrender, and heal. Shame is useless, especially when you carry shame from situations you had no control over.
Now that I genuinely realize that though my parents were/are troubled people (mom BPD-dad alcoholic), they both did the best they could, with what coping tools they had during my childhood.
Both came from a legacy of physical child abuse, which many in their time did. Irrational, religious dogma prevailed in convincing them, and their parents before them, that this was the right way, and correct way, to raise their children.
I am so sorry that my parents were left with such rage. As I type this out, I can see their faces, possessed with this powerful and vehemently powerful anger, looking and raining down on me, or on one another while married, not knowing myself, that I was just so small, so little, and as I child, I had no understanding of what I was witnessing. I just knew I was afraid.
Eventually, I was taught that being afraid never abated their child abuse towards us (the kids), and that no one could help, or make it better.
I grew up just faking everything, which is so easy to do when attending school, church services, youth Bible study. America’s churches are filled with churches that reinforce a child’s worthlessness, by teaching children that they are so utterly contemptible, a man had to die in a barbaric way, because they were just... born, I guess. There, we are further indoctrinated to believe that we deserved our abuse, creating a horrific codependency between us and all abusers who would later come our way, sanctioned by a man who died for us because we are nothing but shit.
I was never allowed to express anger, which I justifiably was. So I internalized that, and shut it off like most of us, with alcohol and drugs. What else could I do? Choices weren’t abounding or healthy.
My father was more like me. Passive, drank to deal with his anger that he too, wasn’t allowed nor taught to express in a healthy way. He died with a bottle next to him. My mom, on the other hand, is a woman who is deeply mired in her BPD. It’s too late for her, and she will most probably never get better.
I decided that she is just in no position currently, or back then, to be judged by me, in a way a stranger or outsider can judge her. She reveals very little of her childhood. But whatever happened, my mom is like a dog with rabies, who just has no clue at all, who she is, and what she’s done. Any attempt to discuss it, reveals her to be much like a wild, feral animal, trapped in a cage.
In order to heal from shit like this, forgiveness and acceptance is the only way to. The other choice is anger. Anger has done nothing but alienate me from authentic happiness, which I very much deserve.
So letting go with love, compassion, forgiveness is key to healing from growing up with dysfunctional parents. I have every right to be pissed, but that right, continues what they started, and the end of their story is not going to be mine.
So if you’re also from this, if you share similarities with my childhood, please, give yourselves a chance. You have the right to pursue your freedom of this, and you have the right to heal, and you deserve love, and good, non abusive, mentally ill, untreated people. And be patient, because it takes a minute to get better. Bumps in the road and delays are part of it.
That is all. 😊
by Anonymous | reply 5 | November 20, 2019 2:06 PM |
As bad as you think you had or have it, there are plenty of people who had or have it way worse.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | November 20, 2019 2:18 PM |
R6, very true. Yet all of the years I spent telling myself this, I unknowingly created a wall between myself and good mental, and emotional health.
I am not able to walk into a time and place, existing for those who have it worse than I did, in order to save them. And I couldn’t even save myself when I was a child, so I was obviously of no use to other children then, either.
Rationalizing that others had it worse, only offers a lull, or more accurately, a limbo, in which I get to do what, exactly? Feel better that others had it worse? Tell myself that it wasn’t so bad, because that person over there, had it worse? Where is there any solution or healing, on that type of thinking?
And your response to what I wrote, inadvertently reinforces my point, that no matter what happened, where we came from, or how much worse it was for others, we have every right to recognize that we are capable of cleaning up our side of the street, and we have the right to process it all, move forward, and heal.
Unfortunately, I cannot save the world. But I can help myself, and by doing so, perhaps I will cross paths with someone in the future, whom is also looking for answers, compassion, and a person who understands and who listens. Perhaps that person is me, or not. That’s not my decision, and I’m not arrogant enough to think that I am in any position to help someone through something like this, just because.
Your response sounds a lot like what I was taught in Sunday school, which was: someone named Jesus suffered way more than you did, so suck it up and be grateful that he was nailed to a cross, instead of you.
I know you weren’t trying to be an asshole, and I’m not trying to be one either. Thanks for offering your perspective. It’s not a bad perspective, nor untrue, but it’s a perspective I had to discard, because it just doesn’t do anything for me, and kept me in lots of self persecution, shame, and most importantly, in denial, that I too, was in need of help and was deserving of it.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | November 20, 2019 2:46 PM |
Agree with first poster: no good deed goes unpunished. Also, you will never change anyone unless they really want to change; paraphrasing Maya Angelou, ‘what you see is what you get.’ Oh, and my sister had a good one. “What you love about a person in the beginning of a relationship is what you hate about them later on.”
by Anonymous | reply 8 | November 20, 2019 3:02 PM |
Living well is the best revenge. Karma usually has a way of punishing people who deserve it, so just live your life and move on from people who have hurt you
by Anonymous | reply 9 | November 20, 2019 3:16 PM |
Ask yourself: will I remember this on my deathbed?
by Anonymous | reply 10 | November 20, 2019 3:33 PM |
No one really knows anything.
-And-
Despite what anyone says on some level they will always need love from you.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | November 20, 2019 3:33 PM |
Loneliness is dangerous and destructive.
Creative representations of happiness distort living a happy real life.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | November 20, 2019 3:35 PM |
Always close your eyes tightly when rinsing after a shampoo.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | November 20, 2019 3:44 PM |
It’s important to consider your actions and take responsibility for them. You have to live with yourself and it’s easier when you know you are acting with good intentions. Even if you aren’t, accepting the responsibility for that is important too.
It’s hard to make good decisions when you don’t know your own motivations or reasoning.
by Anonymous | reply 14 | November 20, 2019 3:51 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 15 | November 20, 2019 4:36 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 16 | November 20, 2019 4:36 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 17 | November 20, 2019 4:37 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 18 | November 20, 2019 4:38 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 19 | November 20, 2019 4:39 PM |
Speak softly and carry a big stick.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | November 20, 2019 4:40 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 21 | November 20, 2019 4:40 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 22 | November 20, 2019 4:43 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 23 | November 20, 2019 4:44 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 24 | November 20, 2019 4:45 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 25 | November 20, 2019 4:45 PM |
by Anonymous | reply 26 | November 20, 2019 4:46 PM |
Ar scáth a chéile a mhaireann na daoine.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | November 20, 2019 4:53 PM |
Beggars can, in fact, be choosers.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | November 20, 2019 5:01 PM |
No one has any idea what the fuck they're doing no matter how much older or wiser you think they are. We're all like fairy tale characters lost in the forest, hoping to come up some friendly looking cottage to hang out in for awhile until we can brave the woods again.
by Anonymous | reply 29 | November 20, 2019 7:17 PM |
Money can indeed buy you happiness however fleeting it might be
by Anonymous | reply 30 | November 20, 2019 7:24 PM |
Anyone who tells you they have THE answer is trying to sell you something
by Anonymous | reply 31 | November 20, 2019 7:28 PM |
It is better to be alone than to want to be.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | November 20, 2019 7:35 PM |
Look after number 1
by Anonymous | reply 33 | November 20, 2019 7:40 PM |
It's later than you think. Get on with living.
by Anonymous | reply 34 | November 20, 2019 7:47 PM |
If you wait until you're ready to do something, you might never do it.
Do not compare yourself to other people. Do not feel threatened by people who look like they've got their shit together, they do not. Everyone you know is damaged and has suffered some kind of tragedy, horror or abuse. It's impossible to go through life without.
Just wing it/fake it, that's what everybody else is doing.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | November 20, 2019 8:36 PM |
Don't sweat the small stuff. Most of it never happens anyway.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | November 20, 2019 8:48 PM |
Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | November 20, 2019 8:51 PM |
Karma is always keeping score
Religion never made anyone smarter
The heart has a mind of its own
You can think about anything you want when you jack off. But leave in the tissue when you are done.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | November 20, 2019 9:08 PM |
A hard cock has no conscience.
by Anonymous | reply 39 | November 20, 2019 9:09 PM |
Just because you are offended, doesn't mean you are right.
by Anonymous | reply 40 | November 20, 2019 9:14 PM |
People will only do what they know they can get away with.
by Anonymous | reply 41 | November 20, 2019 9:16 PM |
Debt is slavery.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | November 20, 2019 9:18 PM |
"Act in haste, repent at leisure."
by Anonymous | reply 43 | November 20, 2019 9:24 PM |
People are selfish
If someone shows you who they are, believe them-the first time (Maya Angelou)
Most people aren't worth knowing
Never trust a charming person
Health and money are the most important things in life
Barebacking is dangerous
Better to be alone than with the wrong person
For the most part, really good looking people aren't worth it.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | November 20, 2019 9:39 PM |
R5 I needed that...
by Anonymous | reply 45 | November 20, 2019 9:40 PM |
Always wear a sports training bra to minimize jiggle and bounce.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | November 20, 2019 9:41 PM |
sometimes homosexuality is the highest form of narcissism
by Anonymous | reply 47 | November 20, 2019 9:44 PM |
R47 expand
by Anonymous | reply 48 | November 20, 2019 9:48 PM |
r48 extreme narcissism in homosexual men. As gay men are attracted to men, I'm convinced some attractive narcissistic men are actually attracted to themselves, obsessively looking at themselves in mirrors etc. Wouldn't surprise me if they masturbate over themselves in mirrors. So therefore homosexuality can be the highest form or narcissism.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | November 20, 2019 9:51 PM |
R49 interesting analysis. I can see your reasoning and it makes sense.
by Anonymous | reply 50 | November 20, 2019 10:02 PM |
When people are given the choice between what is right and what is easy they will usually choose easy.
Don’t share personal information with coworkers.
Be kind. Not for others sake but for your own.
Don’t respond to emails when angry.
by Anonymous | reply 51 | November 20, 2019 10:02 PM |
Think about everything before you talk
Only say what you're willing to have repeated, especially in the workplace
Keep things to yourself, don't repeat things, and don't gossip
by Anonymous | reply 52 | November 20, 2019 10:04 PM |
Never spend more than you make.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | November 20, 2019 10:06 PM |
Save and invest
by Anonymous | reply 54 | November 20, 2019 10:08 PM |
Nobody is perfect.
by Anonymous | reply 55 | November 20, 2019 10:08 PM |
If a person badmouths someone else when talking to you, they're badmouthing you when they're talking to someone else.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | November 20, 2019 10:09 PM |
When you buy a house and start doing repairs-
[quote] righty tighty lefty loosy
It sounds like some kind of sexual advice, but it's not.
by Anonymous | reply 57 | November 20, 2019 10:11 PM |
Most (but not all) women are petty, shallow cunts who can't be trusted. They don't even like each other.
by Anonymous | reply 58 | November 20, 2019 10:16 PM |
Never use the phrase 'I love you' loosely and don't trust anyone who does. Only say it when you mean it.
by Anonymous | reply 59 | November 20, 2019 10:17 PM |
I used to think that Republicans were just misinformed and that’s why they were Republicans. However, I’ve come to the realization that they are evil incarnate. They are bad people. Very very bad people.
by Anonymous | reply 60 | November 20, 2019 10:22 PM |
Unless you are dealing with someone with a cluster B personality disorder 99% of people's irritating or difficult behaviour is based in anxiety. So calm down, so they can calm down and then we can both deal with the problem together. Bonus point... if that doesn't work then you might be dealing with someone with a personality disorder and back away fast.
by Anonymous | reply 61 | November 20, 2019 10:22 PM |
Don't trust whitey.
by Anonymous | reply 62 | November 20, 2019 10:26 PM |
Look both ways
by Anonymous | reply 63 | November 20, 2019 10:28 PM |
You can’t change someone.
This is particularly frustrating when you are a parent and it’s your fault your kid is a mopey introverted 13-year old. Yeah, I’d love it if her were a motivated genius who loved going to school, too, asshole.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | November 20, 2019 10:32 PM |
Always pay off your credit card debt in full every month.
by Anonymous | reply 65 | November 20, 2019 10:36 PM |
Trust your gut. When you meet a person you get a bad vibe from, run. Don't rationalize that it's a first impression, give them a chance, etc. RUN!
by Anonymous | reply 66 | November 20, 2019 10:54 PM |
I am quite sarcastic and it can be cutting and enjoyable in the right group of people. I one time said something that was just cruel and the target of my comment looked destroyed. I can still dish it out--and take it--but I learned to never be cruel to someone just because I didn't want to let a joke or comment go unused. I still wince when I picture his face. In a life full of the normal mistakes, that's the one that I cannot forgive myself for.
by Anonymous | reply 67 | November 20, 2019 11:59 PM |
r61 rubbish, some people are just cunts cause they like to be
by Anonymous | reply 68 | November 21, 2019 12:02 AM |
Say it forget it, write it regret it.
by Anonymous | reply 69 | November 21, 2019 12:06 AM |
People are shitty.
Self reliance is the most important skill to master.
People will let you down even if they don’t mean too.
Having money is not overrated.
If it’s not written down it never happened
It’s ok to ask for help, just don’t always expect it.
by Anonymous | reply 70 | November 21, 2019 12:14 AM |
Floss.
by Anonymous | reply 72 | November 21, 2019 12:32 AM |
Never complain/never explain. -F Nietzsche
by Anonymous | reply 73 | November 21, 2019 12:33 AM |
Looks don't last forever.
by Anonymous | reply 74 | November 21, 2019 12:50 AM |
If I had known I was going to live this long, I would have fucked them all.
by Anonymous | reply 75 | November 21, 2019 12:51 AM |
Choose YOUR version of happiness.
by Anonymous | reply 76 | November 21, 2019 12:55 AM |
[R67] I think I've been there. Forgive yourself. Everybody else has. It's called being human.
by Anonymous | reply 77 | November 21, 2019 12:59 AM |
Bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people.
Life is not fair.
The meek do not inherit the earth.
Karma is not real.
by Anonymous | reply 78 | November 21, 2019 1:00 AM |
Beauty is a short-lived tyranny.
by Anonymous | reply 79 | November 21, 2019 1:56 AM |
Pay your taxes
Avoid liaisons with crazy people
Don't drive drunk
by Anonymous | reply 80 | November 21, 2019 1:58 AM |
The past is over, gone, and can never be changed. The future may never come at all. The present is the only thing that is real. Everything else is either a memory or a thought of "what if?"
So don't cheat yourself of this moment by reliving past traumas, thinking what you should have said or done differently, or worrying about things that may never even happen. It is a waste of time and all you're doing is robbing yourself of right now.
by Anonymous | reply 81 | November 21, 2019 2:36 AM |
Pick up dog poop.
by Anonymous | reply 82 | November 21, 2019 2:37 AM |
-Life is not a competition. Don't compare yourself to others. If you do, you'll never be good enough. Just do what you can and try your best.
-Listen more and judge less. Everyone has a story and a reason for being the way they are. People just want to feel understood and accepted as they are, flaws and all.
-This world is a harsh place. Don't be ashamed to reward yourself with a pat on the back every once in a while just for getting through the day. Sometimes that is a major accomplishment in and of itself.
by Anonymous | reply 83 | November 21, 2019 2:55 AM |
R67 Thank you for that story. That is what I meant about being kind for your own sake.
by Anonymous | reply 85 | November 21, 2019 4:02 PM |
or if you can't be kind at least don't be cruel.
by Anonymous | reply 86 | November 21, 2019 4:07 PM |
A funeral shroud has no pockets.
by Anonymous | reply 87 | November 21, 2019 4:38 PM |
India is overrated and the Taj Mahal visit dooms marriages
by Anonymous | reply 88 | November 21, 2019 8:15 PM |
You can't just say that and not tell what happened, R88.
by Anonymous | reply 89 | November 21, 2019 8:21 PM |
Meth is not a sometimes recreational drug, if you think you might have a problem you probably do. Get some help before you lose everything.
by Anonymous | reply 90 | November 21, 2019 8:30 PM |
The person who offended you was probably right. And remember, no one ever died from being offended.
by Anonymous | reply 91 | November 21, 2019 8:39 PM |
You know what gives you AIDS make better choices.
by Anonymous | reply 92 | November 21, 2019 8:56 PM |
Never waste a hard on. Never trust a fart.
by Anonymous | reply 93 | November 21, 2019 9:26 PM |
The amount of real friends most people have, you can count on one hand. I'm talking REAL friends, the ones who will invite you over for the holidays if you're alone, that will pick you up from the airport, help you move, get you soup hen you're sick, or be there with you and eat crap over a bad breakup.
by Anonymous | reply 94 | November 21, 2019 9:34 PM |
when choosing a partner, choose the one with a great job but average looks rather than the good looking one with OK job.
by Anonymous | reply 95 | November 22, 2019 4:51 AM |
Good guys definitely finish last.
by Anonymous | reply 96 | November 22, 2019 4:52 AM |
Crying is your friend. Well not... obsessively crying, seek help.
by Anonymous | reply 97 | November 22, 2019 4:54 AM |
What do you mean r88?
by Anonymous | reply 98 | November 22, 2019 4:54 PM |
R94, very true. So many people like to think they have dozens if not hundreds of friends, but they're really just people they're cordial with. These aren't real friendships. Everyone's lucky to have one or two true friends in their lifetime. Treasure them.
by Anonymous | reply 99 | November 22, 2019 6:25 PM |
If you have five good friends, you don’t need a lover.
You can have a great job, a great apartment, or a great relationship, but not all at the same time.
by Anonymous | reply 100 | November 23, 2019 7:27 PM |
No one really cares what you think. And they usually forget what you say 2 seconds later.
by Anonymous | reply 101 | November 23, 2019 7:45 PM |
Anything worth having in life takes a lot of work.
Whether it's a great job, romantic relationships, friendships, or just a clean house. So many people are envious of others who seem to have it all, but those people have worked hard to get those things. Most don't work to put in the hard work to be successful at life.
by Anonymous | reply 102 | November 23, 2019 8:00 PM |
Hindsight is 20/20.
by Anonymous | reply 103 | November 23, 2019 8:02 PM |
Losing control of yourself publicly, be it with your words, your temper, or your bowels, will lose you respect and opportunity. Control yourself. Tantrums and outbursts are synonymous with babies and toddlers, for a reason.
by Anonymous | reply 104 | November 23, 2019 8:03 PM |
Never text when you're drunk.
by Anonymous | reply 105 | November 23, 2019 8:07 PM |
Life is about the journey, not the destination.
by Anonymous | reply 106 | November 23, 2019 8:15 PM |
Always do right. It’s not easy but the rewards are many.
by Anonymous | reply 107 | November 23, 2019 8:21 PM |
If someone has wronged you, always get revenge, even if you have to wait years to do so.
Resentment festers. Revenge is cathartic.
Forgiveness is for losers.
by Anonymous | reply 108 | November 23, 2019 8:31 PM |
R108 come sit with me. I’ve seen many a cunt that has harmed me be taken down by karma or a slice of revenge served ice cold. Turn the other cheek? Nonsense!
by Anonymous | reply 109 | November 23, 2019 8:40 PM |
We're kindred spirits, R109. Once I have had retribution I can move on and forget about those who have harmed me.
However, it can take time to track down past enemies and devise a suitable punishment. But it's worth it in the end.
by Anonymous | reply 110 | November 23, 2019 8:46 PM |
R110 definitely. They have/had it coming.
by Anonymous | reply 111 | November 23, 2019 8:53 PM |
r102 is wrong. There are people like our president who have never worked hard a day in their life. They were born into money and their kids will be too. Life isn't about working hard. It's more about learning what is worth working hard for and balancing that with enjoying play and relaxation as much as possible. Big houses, fancy cars mean nothing in the end. It's about your journey.
by Anonymous | reply 112 | November 23, 2019 9:28 PM |
R110, forgiveness means you’re DONE with that individual. It does not mean you want to break bread with them.
by Anonymous | reply 113 | November 23, 2019 9:38 PM |
R113 - People who do you harm need to be punished. An eye for an eye... It's not just about personal revenge, it's about deterring the perpetrator from harming others in the future.
I'm Old Testament, not New.
by Anonymous | reply 114 | November 23, 2019 9:43 PM |
[quote] Life isn't about working hard. It's more about learning what is worth working hard for and balancing that with enjoying play and relaxation as much as possible. Big houses, fancy cars mean nothing in the end. It's about your journey.
Uh, I said nothing about big houses and fancy cars, or anything material, in my post. Did you miss the part about romantic relationships and friendships? Stop misrepresenting my words.
by Anonymous | reply 115 | November 24, 2019 4:18 PM |
Don’t vote for a Republican.
by Anonymous | reply 116 | November 28, 2019 9:34 AM |
Walk your own path
Don't hesitate when you should act
Experience what you have learned
Good things don't come easy
Never fail to try more
Take care of your health early.
by Anonymous | reply 120 | November 28, 2019 10:37 AM |
Cultivate and nurture your friendships, as these people will be with you long term.
Never underestimate the capacity for a lover to become your worst enemy, a treacherous liar and/or a saboteur.
Never trust co-workers or management with personal info nor participate in office gossip.
You have freedom of association. Your family is not an obligation, but simply a fact of birth.
by Anonymous | reply 121 | November 28, 2019 10:47 AM |
When someone shows you who they are, believe them. - Ms. Angelou
by Anonymous | reply 122 | November 28, 2019 10:56 AM |
If yesterday is heavy, you have to put it down. Carrying it around with you makes no sense. Easier said than done without chemicals or alcohol to help you forget it though, but it's true. We all have to find a way to free ourselves and walk away.
by Anonymous | reply 123 | November 28, 2019 11:08 AM |
Travel. Move around. Don't stay in the same place forever. When you have an opportunity, try to say say yes more often than no.
by Anonymous | reply 124 | November 28, 2019 11:26 AM |
What someone else thinks of you is none of your business.
by Anonymous | reply 125 | November 28, 2019 11:27 AM |
Feelings are not facts.
by Anonymous | reply 126 | November 28, 2019 11:28 AM |
Use lots of lube when u do double anal!
by Anonymous | reply 127 | November 28, 2019 11:32 AM |
[quote]Money can indeed buy you happiness however fleeting it might be
Actually, money cant buy happiness it rents happiness.
by Anonymous | reply 128 | November 28, 2019 11:34 AM |
Life is like a piece of toilet paper, sometimes you are on a roll, other times you are taking shit from some asshole.
by Anonymous | reply 129 | November 28, 2019 11:41 AM |
Only the goyim pay retail.
by Anonymous | reply 130 | November 28, 2019 11:46 AM |
[quote]When someone shows you who they are, believe them. - Ms. Angelou
That has become so true lately. People tell me in jest they are a real asshole and they were. People tell me they only care about them self and it proved to be true.
by Anonymous | reply 132 | November 28, 2019 12:08 PM |
Never trust closeted fags; they are all shitty fucktawds.
by Anonymous | reply 133 | November 28, 2019 1:59 PM |
When in doubt, apply more powder.
by Anonymous | reply 134 | November 28, 2019 2:57 PM |
No good deed goes unpunished.
by Anonymous | reply 135 | November 28, 2019 3:02 PM |
Don't try to rise too high, the comedown hits harder.
by Anonymous | reply 136 | November 28, 2019 3:03 PM |
Never befriend a person like R133.
Staying in the closet is a personal choice, and you don’t owe anyone an explanation as to why you chose to.
People who love you, will accept you as you are, gay, bi, straight. Unfortunately, the closet exists precisely because people like R133 created it, in order for them to shame others, rather than to allow people to exist on their own terms, rather than demanding gays, Bis and lesbians pretend to be something they aren’t, so that they can go to bed every night under a false guise of superiority, while feeling smug.
Fuck you, R133.
Happy Thanksgiving, to all of my closeted bitches here on DL. 😘
by Anonymous | reply 137 | November 28, 2019 5:18 PM |
[137] I hope that your post was sarcastic. It was hard to tell. But, in case it wasn’t you just proved [133]’s post. And a happy thanksgiving to you too.
by Anonymous | reply 138 | November 28, 2019 5:33 PM |
People you step on on the way up will be there to trip you when you are on the way down. Be nice to everyone whether you like them or not.
by Anonymous | reply 139 | November 28, 2019 9:11 PM |
Keep your mouth shut.
by Anonymous | reply 140 | November 28, 2019 9:21 PM |
An old drag queen once told me " Let them stare! They stare at the Mona Lisa too!"
by Anonymous | reply 141 | December 19, 2019 6:38 PM |
Find your crew. Everybody fits in somewhere.
by Anonymous | reply 142 | December 19, 2019 6:41 PM |
Look out for number 1. Don't step in number 2 either.
by Anonymous | reply 143 | December 19, 2019 7:10 PM |
Before standing up, check your lap for loose objects.
by Anonymous | reply 144 | December 20, 2019 4:28 AM |
When leaving a room or area, look behind you, your seat etc to make sure you haven't left anything behind.
by Anonymous | reply 145 | December 20, 2019 4:36 AM |
Beware of magic, kryptonite & red suns.
These things are everywhere!
by Anonymous | reply 146 | December 20, 2019 4:39 AM |
Get rid of the Borg before they get rid of you.
by Anonymous | reply 147 | December 20, 2019 4:40 AM |
Play up your illness so when others around you drop dead
it's more of a shock.
by Anonymous | reply 148 | December 20, 2019 4:43 AM |
Any technology sufficiently advanced is totally indistinguishable from magic.
by Anonymous | reply 149 | December 20, 2019 4:44 AM |
Don't believe the idiotic pop psychology belief that "You can't run away from your problems " and "Leaving won't change anything, it's all internal ". If you have an intensely negative reaction to a certain location /town /city, get the fuck out. It's not always just internal. Living in a place you hate destroys the spirit. Don't wait until you're too damaged to function to figure that out.
by Anonymous | reply 150 | December 20, 2019 5:19 AM |
[quote]An old drag queen once told me " Let them stare! They stare at the Mona Lisa too!"
Except everyone thinks the Mona Lisa fugly. They stare at it for the painters technique not the homely model's face.
by Anonymous | reply 151 | December 20, 2019 6:01 AM |
You're old, you sag, get over it
by Anonymous | reply 152 | December 20, 2019 6:21 AM |
Yes, the Mona lisa is old and saggy. NOT a thing of beauty.
by Anonymous | reply 153 | December 20, 2019 6:26 AM |
Never let your mouth write checks that your ass can't cash
by Anonymous | reply 154 | December 20, 2019 9:26 AM |
No one except your yourself can affirm your self-worth.
Not even your parents.
by Anonymous | reply 155 | December 20, 2019 10:24 AM |
The state of Israel is more important than the US homeless.
So don't be homeless in the US.
by Anonymous | reply 156 | December 21, 2019 2:28 AM |
A pair of pixies once told me that every time a bell rings, some angel's just got his wings.
by Anonymous | reply 157 | December 21, 2019 2:54 AM |
Own your shit. You say you’re doing something, get it done. Never pass the buck. GET IT DONE.
by Anonymous | reply 159 | December 21, 2019 4:35 AM |
When the answer is no, do not give up. There is something better in store for you.
by Anonymous | reply 160 | December 21, 2019 5:42 AM |
Two pieces of ancient wisdom with which we have a very difficult time: "Know Thyself" and "All Things Are Governed By Fate". And so inner peace and calm eludes us.
by Anonymous | reply 161 | December 21, 2019 5:11 PM |
Of all mortals he who bears his fate rightly to me seems noblest and of soundest sense.
by Anonymous | reply 162 | December 21, 2019 5:21 PM |
Don't trust ANYONE
by Anonymous | reply 163 | December 21, 2019 5:25 PM |
Aside from a good, loving parent (usually a mother), the only person who really cares about you is yourself. So, act in your own best interest. Romantic love and friendships are mostly conditional. (Conditioned on you not getting fat, not losing your job, etc.)
by Anonymous | reply 164 | December 21, 2019 5:54 PM |
He who laughs last has figured out some one to blame it on.
by Anonymous | reply 165 | December 21, 2019 5:58 PM |
Lol, many of you are deeply shallow.
by Anonymous | reply 166 | December 21, 2019 6:04 PM |
Don't interfere in a fight.
Good guys finish last, there is a reason people say this.
Don't trust anyone, not even your mother.
by Anonymous | reply 167 | December 21, 2019 6:04 PM |
Everything in life is about money. And when someone says "it's not about the money"--it's REALLY about the money.
by Anonymous | reply 168 | December 21, 2019 6:15 PM |
Sadly r168 is right
by Anonymous | reply 169 | December 21, 2019 7:09 PM |
All cats are grey in the dark.
by Anonymous | reply 170 | December 21, 2019 7:23 PM |
It's always better to have a full bottle in front of me than a full frontal lobotomy.
by Anonymous | reply 171 | December 21, 2019 7:44 PM |
Resentment is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.
by Anonymous | reply 172 | December 21, 2019 7:52 PM |
When Maya Angelou shows you who she really is, believe her.
by Anonymous | reply 173 | December 21, 2019 8:01 PM |
Just say YES.
by Anonymous | reply 174 | December 21, 2019 8:27 PM |
If a man takes off his pants for you, please him. Let him know he rocks your world.
by Anonymous | reply 175 | December 21, 2019 9:03 PM |
Pay your taxes!
by Anonymous | reply 176 | December 21, 2019 10:25 PM |
The amount of money you make is only a small part of “success”
by Anonymous | reply 177 | December 21, 2019 10:31 PM |
r112 I don't support the President, but the man did put in a good deal of work once upon a time. His father's business was in Brooklyn or something, Trump brought it to Manhattan. It wasn't the deals, that made Trump a household name, it's the PR that he could create that was the real work behind the current Trump Corporation. He's like the 70s/80s version of the Kardashians or maybe mid-2000s Paris Hilton, just people who's job is PR and attention. Never mind the actual business, which a 1000 other people do quietly ad successfully. Trump is a master of PR. His message always reaches the target audience in a digestible manner. That skill lead him to 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue and millions of zombie like followers. Again, I detest Trump, but the man can spin and grab attention better than an Olympic figure skater. I'd call that work.
Back to the Op's topic, be confident and stop apologizing for everything, especially at work. Be a knife, unflappable and able to cit through the bullshit so that you can move up to your next adventure.
by Anonymous | reply 178 | December 21, 2019 11:19 PM |
Just because you’re paranoid, it doesn’t mean they’re not out to get you...
by Anonymous | reply 179 | December 21, 2019 11:27 PM |
Don't stick your arm in a wood chipper.
by Anonymous | reply 180 | December 21, 2019 11:32 PM |
No one has the right to abuse you, and you have every right to cut them off forever.
by Anonymous | reply 181 | December 21, 2019 11:50 PM |
R181 "cut them off forever".
You mean it grows back?
Asking for a friend...
by Anonymous | reply 182 | December 22, 2019 12:37 AM |
I learned Tori Amos Is the most underrated artist of the 90s or the century
by Anonymous | reply 183 | December 22, 2019 12:43 AM |
R181 like cut off their weenie lol
by Anonymous | reply 184 | December 22, 2019 12:45 AM |
Don't adopt in Korea.
by Anonymous | reply 185 | December 22, 2019 12:46 AM |
Don't adopt in Korea.
by Anonymous | reply 186 | December 22, 2019 12:46 AM |
R182 oops I just saw your comment R184. I guess we were thinking the same thing. 😉
by Anonymous | reply 187 | December 22, 2019 12:46 AM |
One big one: stop watching porn and stay off social media.
by Anonymous | reply 188 | December 22, 2019 12:47 AM |
Why R188 ?
by Anonymous | reply 189 | December 22, 2019 12:49 AM |
People who say “like” have rights too! Unfortunately
by Anonymous | reply 190 | December 22, 2019 12:55 AM |
R188, just from my experience and observations, because both tend to needlessly gobble up your life and can often lead to huge net losses. They're draining and demoralizing. Most people think they can limit their use so that there are no negative effects, but that's kind of like saying the same for cocaine. Ok, good luck, but it's risky.
Don't attack me if you disagree. It's just something I've learned that's been very valuable in my life and may be helpful to others.
by Anonymous | reply 191 | December 22, 2019 12:55 AM |
R191 was a reply to R189.
by Anonymous | reply 192 | December 22, 2019 12:57 AM |
If you find yourself drifting away from a friend, it's for a good reason. Don't force the friendship to continue. Just let it go in whatever direction it seems to be going in. And just because you've been friends with someone for a long time, is no reason to stay friends with them (assuming they've stabbed you in the back or acted like an ass in some way).
by Anonymous | reply 193 | December 22, 2019 12:59 AM |
R191 I won't attack you, I stay clear of social media (except here of course) but I live gay pron. But I don't pay for it. How is it financially draining for you ?
by Anonymous | reply 194 | December 22, 2019 1:01 AM |
R188 says as he posts on datalounge
by Anonymous | reply 195 | December 22, 2019 1:07 AM |
And how R1, and how!
by Anonymous | reply 196 | December 22, 2019 1:19 AM |
That I can acknowledge my emotions but they don’t have to influence my actions.
by Anonymous | reply 197 | December 22, 2019 1:36 AM |
People don't change. Whatever bad behavior you see early on will remain
by Anonymous | reply 198 | December 22, 2019 1:37 AM |
People do change only if they WANT to change. And it must come from them, not from others telling them so. But if people do change it's usually for the worse, rarely for the better.
by Anonymous | reply 199 | December 22, 2019 2:25 AM |
R183, love this and agree. Her work is kind of my sacred ground I return to whenever things become too much. Very much a blessing in my life. If you get her, you GET her, and if you don't, you REALLY don't..
by Anonymous | reply 200 | December 22, 2019 8:30 PM |
Don't put Deep Heat on your balls!
by Anonymous | reply 201 | December 22, 2019 9:11 PM |
R166 calling others shallow as you type "lol"
by Anonymous | reply 202 | December 22, 2019 9:19 PM |
[r150] agreed. I think it is important to really narrow down what bugs you about a place. Then you can make a good decision to leave for something better.
Friends who could afford it have left small places to move to big cities and loved it. They could afford it, had good job prospects, and friends nearby. They understood what would be best for them long-term. Randomly couch surfing and jumping from place to place only works for unstable people who can't plan.
by Anonymous | reply 203 | December 22, 2019 10:58 PM |
Just because life isn't an MGM musical doesn't mean you can't break out in song sometimes.
by Anonymous | reply 204 | December 23, 2019 12:06 AM |
If you look after #1, all you'll find is #2.
by Anonymous | reply 205 | December 23, 2019 3:58 AM |
Before going out, lose 1 accessory.
by Anonymous | reply 206 | December 23, 2019 4:07 AM |
Always check to see if your parking brake is engaged.
by Anonymous | reply 207 | December 23, 2019 4:10 AM |
You really do get to play every part - just not all at fucking once, Dear
by Anonymous | reply 208 | December 23, 2019 4:32 AM |
Don’t plagiarize people’s shit.
The person you ripped off might MAGICALLY come across it, and knows you’re a FRAUD, lacking in self pride and integrity, and so do you.
by Anonymous | reply 209 | December 23, 2019 5:55 AM |
If you can't be with the one you love, love the one you're with.
by Anonymous | reply 210 | December 23, 2019 1:57 PM |
"You spray 'em, you lay 'em".
by Anonymous | reply 211 | December 23, 2019 3:40 PM |
Don't stick gerbils up your asshole.
by Anonymous | reply 212 | December 23, 2019 4:13 PM |
Always remember where you come from so when you get to where you're going, you'll know how far you've come.
by Anonymous | reply 213 | December 23, 2019 7:53 PM |
Quote[Don't EVER work for a "family" business!]
From another thread and so true. Only work for a family business if you are part of the family.
by Anonymous | reply 214 | December 23, 2019 9:21 PM |
I am trying to learn to stop loosing my temper.
by Anonymous | reply 215 | December 23, 2019 9:32 PM |
I am trying to learn to stop loosing my temper.
by Anonymous | reply 216 | December 23, 2019 9:32 PM |
DNA 🧬 is real, you kill you will be caught.
by Anonymous | reply 217 | December 23, 2019 9:40 PM |
The least qualified, competent people talk the most.
by Anonymous | reply 218 | December 24, 2019 1:00 AM |
R218 unless if it’s about their health. People know their bodies. Doctors have no clue.
by Anonymous | reply 219 | December 24, 2019 3:02 AM |
don't give a shit about what other people think about you; at the end of the day, you have to live with yourself.
by Anonymous | reply 220 | December 24, 2019 3:16 AM |
R219 If that were true, even in the least bit, we wouldn't have such an explosion of STDs. Unless the hypothesis is people with STDs knowingly and intentionally infect others?
People don't "know their bodies". They just suck at communicating facts versus emotions when talking to doctors.
by Anonymous | reply 221 | December 24, 2019 3:58 PM |
Life may be a bed of roses, but you have to watch out for the pricks.
by Anonymous | reply 222 | December 24, 2019 9:34 PM |
Life may be a bed of roses, but you have to watch out for the pricks.
by Anonymous | reply 223 | December 24, 2019 9:34 PM |
The same problems happen over and over because I don't do anything different in order to make them stop happening.
by Anonymous | reply 224 | December 24, 2019 10:37 PM |
"Well, first you give him a blow job..."
Worked for me!
by Anonymous | reply 225 | December 24, 2019 11:11 PM |
When in doubt... whip it out
by Anonymous | reply 226 | December 25, 2019 1:43 AM |
Lose a little of your ego everyday.
by Anonymous | reply 227 | December 26, 2019 11:05 PM |
" Your truest friend will tell you the unkindest truth"- " The Once and Future King"- T.H.White
That book permanently changed my life for the better.
by Anonymous | reply 228 | December 26, 2019 11:09 PM |
If you have to prove yourself, then you’ve lost your worth.
by Anonymous | reply 229 | December 27, 2019 3:40 AM |
Creating Peace can leave you in pieces.
by Anonymous | reply 230 | December 27, 2019 4:56 AM |
If you throw away your dreams and hopes to "help " someone else , you may feel good about yourself and self righteous initially. But ultimately you will be left deeply embittered and empty. You matter too.
by Anonymous | reply 231 | December 27, 2019 4:59 AM |
Drugs kill. Watch the people you allow in your life.
by Anonymous | reply 232 | December 27, 2019 9:48 PM |
Masturbation is the key to a joyful existence. x
by Anonymous | reply 233 | December 27, 2019 10:06 PM |
He or she is no longer. It’s they now.
by Anonymous | reply 234 | December 28, 2019 3:10 AM |