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Wife: ‘I like watching my husband with other men'

When we think about our partners having sex with other people, it's usually with someone from the opposite sex, but how would you feel if you your man was having sex with another man? For a small but growing number of women, seeing their man with another man is not only okay, it's also a big turn on. Bradford and Angela have been together for nearly 10 years after meeting at work. The only difference between Bradford and Angela and other married couples is they are both bisexual and they have an open relationship.

They also run the BytheBi network, which is a support group for bisexual people where they run events, sex ed-classes and a podcast. They call it promiscuity with permission.

MORE STORIES ‘I’m pansexual. Here’s what that means’ TV hunk comes out as bisexual ‘My lesbian daughter is now my straight son’ Our cheapest deal is back! $1 a week for the first 8 weeks* 'I'm looking for treasure. Can I look around your chest?' Show More Angela said that not only does she encourage Bradford to sleep with other men, she enjoys watching it.

"We are so used to seeing men as the aggressors and instigators and as being masculine. When I see my husband being tender with another man, I see another side to him. Bradford is great in bed and I can really appreciate what the other guy is feeling on a physical level. On top of that, it's also incredibly hot to watch, it's like my very own porn show, sometimes I even get to sit in the director's chair and dictate what I want to see."

In 2016, the hugely popular pornography site Pornhub - which boasts over 115 million daily views - published a finding: Women are responsible for more than a third of the site's gay male porn views.

The survey found that "Gay Male" porn is still the second most popular category after lesbian porn for women, but for those over the age of 45 "Gay Male" surpasses "Lesbian" to become the #1 most viewed category. If you drill down even further (pardon the pun) in terms of what women are searching for within this category, the terms 'black', 'straight guys', 'daddy', 'bareback', and 'big dick' are the top five.

So it looks like older gay men are more appealing than younger, with "daddy" ranking six spots above "Twink". (Twink is gay slang for a young or young-looking gay or bisexual man.)

Pansexuality is just one part of the sexuality spectrum, but what does it actually mean? The Gay category falls into seventh place for men in terms of top viewed categories, so the "Gay Porn" category actually ranks higher with the opposite sex than with its traditional target demographic.

Last year sexuality researcher, Lucy Neville released her book Girls Who Like Boys Who Like Boys and she claims that women are getting sick of straight heterosexual porn as they see it as "objectifying women and not treating them as people, a lot of the time it seems like the women aren't actually enjoying it".

Neville interviewed and surveyed more than 500 women over five years for the project. Many of the women with whom she spoke to said "the problem they have with heterosexual porn is that they only focus on the female body" without paying enough attention to men.

"Gay porn gives an opportunity to look at the male form and male beauty and the male face when orgasming," Neville said. Some of women in the study commented that the actors in gay porn had better bodies than actors in straight or heterosexual porn.

Neville also revealed that for rape victims and survivors of abuse, male-on-male gay porn is "one of the few types of sexually explicit media they can enjoy without feeling triggered or re-traumatised."

Since launching the bythebi podcast Braford and Angela have received hundreds of emails from around the world asking about sexual fluidity in a relationship.

"Most people who contact are us are confused and just want someone to talk to who isn't going to judge, someone who has been there and can share their experience with dating a bisexual person," Angela said.

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by Anonymousreply 66December 17, 2019 3:38 PM

"We tell them there is no right or wrong, if their husband wants to have sex with another man, why not watch? It may just add another dimension to their relationship. If I'm watching Bradford with another man or he comes home and tells me what he got up to while on a date with guy, I still find it incredibly hot and horny and it usually leads to us having really great sex."

This originally appeared on Whimn and has been republished with permission.

by Anonymousreply 1October 24, 2019 7:14 PM

Access to hot masculine dudes depends on how cool and accommodating hot chicks are to male bisexuality

by Anonymousreply 2October 24, 2019 7:14 PM

[quote] MORE STORIES ‘I’m pansexual. Here’s what that means’ TV hunk comes out as bisexual ‘My lesbian daughter is now my straight son’ Our cheapest deal is back! $1 a week for the first 8 weeks* 'I'm looking for treasure. Can I look around your chest?' Show More Angela said that not only does she encourage Bradford to sleep with other men, she enjoys watching it.

someone didn't review what they posted.

again.

by Anonymousreply 3October 24, 2019 7:15 PM

My lesbian daughter is now my straight son!

by Anonymousreply 4October 24, 2019 7:18 PM

Women love BBC too!

by Anonymousreply 5October 24, 2019 7:19 PM

Oh look, they are so modern...

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by Anonymousreply 6October 24, 2019 7:22 PM

So cool

by Anonymousreply 7October 24, 2019 7:31 PM

[quote] For a small but growing number of women, seeing their man with another man is not only okay, it's also a big turn on.

A small but growing number of women probably think their bisexual hubby sleeping with another guy (rather than with another girl) is 'safer' for the wifey. Because the wife is usually jealous & afraid that hubby can leave her for another woman, but thinks it's unlikely hubby will leave her for a man. But actually a bisexual can leave the wife for another guy just as easily.

by Anonymousreply 8October 24, 2019 8:13 PM

r8 its more likely that the cuckolding goes both ways. If a wife is that open to watching her husband get fucked by another man, surely her husband lets her get fucked too. Cuckolding is becoming way more popular with young couples.

by Anonymousreply 9October 24, 2019 10:07 PM

If a woman likes to watch gay porn and loves to watch her husband fuck other guys, that doesn't make her bisexual or pansexual.

If she appreciates male beauty and sexuality that much, it makes her SUPER heterosexual.

by Anonymousreply 10October 24, 2019 10:41 PM

R10. You don't make sense.

by Anonymousreply 11October 24, 2019 11:11 PM

I understand

by Anonymousreply 12October 25, 2019 12:09 AM

r11 doesn't get it.

by Anonymousreply 13October 25, 2019 12:23 AM

This thread is turning me on !

by Anonymousreply 14October 25, 2019 12:34 AM

That woman has crazy in her eyes.

by Anonymousreply 15October 25, 2019 12:40 AM

Indeed r8 I would have thought there is an argument for a man being a bigger threat because in some ways he is offering something that the woman cant compete with whereas with a female competing as such with her may be easier situation to win in???

by Anonymousreply 16October 25, 2019 12:44 AM

2 men and a woman threesome.

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by Anonymousreply 17October 25, 2019 12:48 AM

Erotic.

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by Anonymousreply 18October 25, 2019 12:52 AM

She got tired of all the chafing from the strap-on she used on me.

by Anonymousreply 19October 25, 2019 1:14 AM

Bump

by Anonymousreply 20October 25, 2019 2:52 PM

R16 Bi guys never leave the safe harbour of straight marriage for a man. And if she's letting him play with boys anyway then the physical itch is being scratched.

But if he's a closeted gay guy pretending to be bi then yes, it's a huge risk.

by Anonymousreply 21October 25, 2019 4:31 PM

R21 I think saying NEVER is wildly overstating it. Besides marriage is not necessarily a safe harbour or happy place. There surely are bisexual men who's romantic attraction leans in favour of other men?

by Anonymousreply 22October 26, 2019 7:40 AM

All marriage is hard but with same sex ones, you will have external factors to deal with too. There are still many places where attending office parties with a same sex spouse will hurt your future prospects. If you have a legitimate choice you go for the safer choice. That's what I mean by safe harbour. Self preservation is the one indelible human drive. Gay folks will settle with the same sex because that's essential for their mental survival and it outweighs the risks. But when bisexuals do that calculation, it falls on the other end. Ever noticed all these bisexual girl celebs all marry men? From Anna Paquin to Amber Heard. It's always the same.

by Anonymousreply 23October 26, 2019 8:00 AM

R18 I believe that's what you call a third wheel.

by Anonymousreply 24October 26, 2019 8:32 AM

No she doesn't. She doesn't like it at all.

by Anonymousreply 25October 26, 2019 8:34 AM

R23 I think things are improving and many bi guys are increasingly not reacting to their circumstances like that as society becomes gradually more accepting.

by Anonymousreply 26October 26, 2019 6:12 PM

But the biological reality of being able to have a child with your opposite sex partner will always make that the more alluring option for bi people

by Anonymousreply 27October 26, 2019 6:28 PM

I understand how women can be okay or even turned on seeing their dude get serviced by or too/dominate another goodlooking dude. That only confirms their man is an Alpha, a King amongst men. Also, penetrating is what men are supposed to do, be it penetrating a male, a female, or a pumpkin. Women are more secure knowing their man only penetrates because that is a desire that they can naturally provide for him.

I think it’s more troubling when their man gets penetrated or sucks D because it clashes with society’s definition of manliness. It’s a man being submissive. Then women start questioning the manliness of their man. Also, it’s makes women feel more insecure because their man desires something he can’t get from them: being penetrated.

by Anonymousreply 28October 26, 2019 8:32 PM

Top/dominate *

by Anonymousreply 29October 26, 2019 8:35 PM

R28. All that jargon. It is this simple, most women don't want bisexual men. There is no need to rationalize. We are not that complicated. We want our men straight.

by Anonymousreply 30October 26, 2019 9:06 PM

One of the odd effects of being a huge nerd who still "plays with childish things", is that I've been aware of how common "slash" has become over the last few decades, and how many of today's young women were exposed to Harry/Draco slash and yaoi and other male-male erotica. It's a weird rabbit hole, but it's been there on the mainstream internet since the 90s, and huge numbers of idiot teen girls have dipped at least a toe into it.

So while straight men have always been fond of watching lesbians, it's only recently that women have developed a taste for watching men together. The internet gave them access to male-male erotica and gay porn in the privacy of their own homes, it's hardly surprising that a few have taken their taste for watching men together into real life. Why not, straight men love being married to bi women, or occasionally lesbians who let them watch.

by Anonymousreply 31October 26, 2019 9:08 PM

super common for guys to be turned on by watching their wives with other women. so why not the reverse?

by Anonymousreply 32October 26, 2019 9:31 PM

I love watching my husband with other guys. I'm a dude tho 🤷‍♂️

by Anonymousreply 33October 26, 2019 9:32 PM

Uh okay

by Anonymousreply 34October 26, 2019 9:39 PM

Men will telegraph what they want in the bedroom, and their women will magically agree with it. He calls the shots always.

No guy is going to say, "No way in hell will I... okay, dear- if that's what you want."

by Anonymousreply 35October 26, 2019 9:54 PM

Who gives a shit? If you like to dress up as a mouse while your husband poops in a bucket whilst eating cake off your tits all while doing the macarena, congratulations and power to you. Just keep it to yourselves. When are straight couples going to realize that the rest of the world doesn't give a fuck about their sex life?

by Anonymousreply 36October 26, 2019 10:01 PM

I'm can't find it off the top of my head, but there is a pretty good video of a woman (presumably the girlfriend) filming her boyfriend getting a blowjob. She really seemed into it. The guy was awkward at first, but got into it after a minute or two.

So ... I'm sure it happens, but R35 is right. It is pretty unlikely a wife/girlfriend would talk a straight man into it unless he was marginally curious to begin with.

by Anonymousreply 37October 26, 2019 10:08 PM

It's true, no straight guy is going to let his wife or girlfriend talk him into having sex with another guy, if he isn't already aware of his own gay-bi feelings.

However, a bi guy may be quite happy to find a gal who likes to see him with other guys! Bi men are always bitching about women wanting to marry men who are straight, they might actually be grateful to find a woman who encourages their bi-ness.

by Anonymousreply 38October 26, 2019 10:37 PM

R38 Are they really always bitching about that? In my experience women tend to prefer bi guys to straight men because they think a guy who fucks other guys is hot.

by Anonymousreply 39October 26, 2019 10:42 PM

MMF is a man's first step to the homolife. He just needs his mommy there as he takes his first steps.

by Anonymousreply 40October 26, 2019 10:46 PM

R39. Your statement is full of generalization and false statements. Only in your deluded mind do most women want a guy that fucks or sucks other men. Straight men are not an endangered species.

by Anonymousreply 41October 26, 2019 10:58 PM

I know of several who do

by Anonymousreply 42October 26, 2019 11:00 PM

Maybe it's my prejudice but I always see bisexual men as kinda repressed gay.

by Anonymousreply 43October 26, 2019 11:01 PM

R42. Several is not most women. Just because you know very few doesn't mean most women are into it.

by Anonymousreply 44October 26, 2019 11:06 PM

R41 Sweetie, are you implying I’m a straight man? Or that I think straight man are in any way in danger? I never once said that, and you’re on a gay site, so maybe you’ll want to find somewhere else to aim your SJW anger. I’m a gay man, one who doesn’t give a single fuck about what women or straight men want. Get the fuck off it, I’m not looking to claim straight men are a “marginalized” group.

I expect to see your retort in the form of a strongly worded op-ed in the Huffington Post soon, honey.

by Anonymousreply 45October 27, 2019 12:16 AM

"[R38] Are they really always bitching about that?"

Yes, R39, there have been many rants on that subject posted on the Datalounge, as if we cared. The rants were both posted here and linked elsewhere, all about how horrible and biphobic it is for women to prefer straight men to bi, and to want to marry men who aren't chasing dick behind their backs.

by Anonymousreply 46October 27, 2019 2:19 AM

R46 it is anti bisexual male, implying that your boyfriend/husband would cheat on you with another man just because they're bisexual is straight up ignorant

To come on a GAY board and post this shit is mind boggling

Straight women priveledge...

by Anonymousreply 47October 27, 2019 2:26 AM

I like it, too. It makes for great TV.

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by Anonymousreply 48October 27, 2019 2:29 AM

R43 I'm a bisexual guy but mosly into women, just not their bullshit

The female body is amazing, all those curves, the feeling of warm pussy, nice apple shaped asses and boobs (who doesn't like boobs)

Nothing gets me off faster than lesbian porn but I occassionally get turned on by MASCULINE guys and have always viewed my hook ups with men as "male bonding".

Im reasonably good looking and masculine/broish and have hooked up with lots of "straight" guys in the past but I've been committed to one woman for the last three years

by Anonymousreply 49October 27, 2019 2:34 AM

R47 As a gay man I'd just like to point out that it's not just straight woman privilege to doubt the fidelity of "bi guys". Having been with a few so called masculine bisexual guys I would argue that any cynicism is well deserved. As you admit in your subsequent post, gay men are for "hooking up with". This bullshit about sex being male bonding is more offensive than anything she said. Same sex intercourse is not an alternative to playing pool with your bro. It sounds like you are just a selfish taker. You like female bodies but refer to their emotional needs as "bullshit". So you come looking for men to met YOUR emotional need for connection while evidently offering nothing but a "hook up".

Honestly, anyone who messes with bisexual men is asking for a shitty future.

by Anonymousreply 50October 27, 2019 9:01 AM

R47 As a gay man I'd just like to point out that it's not just straight woman privilege to doubt the fidelity of "bi guys". Having been with a few so called masculine bisexual guys I would argue that any cynicism is well deserved. As you admit in your subsequent post, gay men are for "hooking up with". This bullshit about sex being male bonding is more offensive than anything she said. Same sex intercourse is not an alternative to playing pool with your bro. It sounds like you are just a selfish taker. You like female bodies but refer to their emotional needs as "bullshit". So you come looking for men to met YOUR emotional need for connection while evidently offering nothing but a "hook up".

Honestly, anyone who messes with bisexual men is asking for a shitty future.

by Anonymousreply 51October 27, 2019 9:02 AM

Whatever.....

by Anonymousreply 52October 27, 2019 10:20 AM

How boring. I wanted to watch her husband having sex with other men. At least pics.

by Anonymousreply 53October 27, 2019 11:08 AM

Your house, your rules.

*shrug*

by Anonymousreply 54October 27, 2019 11:18 AM

R51, not everyone is seeking what you are. Many are not

by Anonymousreply 55October 27, 2019 12:48 PM

I love whatching my partner with another human. They (my partner) has several genderfree love tunnels and a few sexual appendages.

by Anonymousreply 56October 27, 2019 1:25 PM

[Quote] They (my partner) has several genderfree love tunnels

🤣🤣🤣

by Anonymousreply 57October 27, 2019 2:09 PM

Bi dudes rock

by Anonymousreply 58October 27, 2019 2:24 PM

R58. They are gross.

by Anonymousreply 59October 27, 2019 6:12 PM

As a gay man you should only fuck bi guys, never date them, too much headache never ends well. If straight women are smart they'll do the same.

by Anonymousreply 60October 27, 2019 6:15 PM

I’m Only attracted to bi and mostly straight dudes. Works for me.

by Anonymousreply 61October 27, 2019 6:50 PM

R61 Romantically attracted or just sexually attracted?

by Anonymousreply 62October 27, 2019 6:54 PM

As someone who is bisexual this is hot. I have only had a few all male 3 ways but would love to have a MMF 3 way, and fuck both the man and woman.

by Anonymousreply 63November 20, 2019 8:55 AM

[quote] straight men love being married to bi women, or occasionally lesbians who let them watch.

Bobby did. Yes he did, yes he did!

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by Anonymousreply 64November 23, 2019 7:12 PM

I agree! I'm a woman and I LOVE watching men fuck. Not the hardcore rough stuff, though. Gay men are so hot and affectionate. I love the way they can pound each other and then fall into each other's arms! I do admit to being super-turned on to three-somes and orgies. I don't have a man of my own so have to masturbate myself to orgasm. THANK YOU, guys, for sharing!

by Anonymousreply 65December 15, 2019 2:34 PM

R65 start dating us bisexual men and have an open relationship.

by Anonymousreply 66December 17, 2019 3:38 PM
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