Men's Health offers sex tips for COCK-CURIOUS dudes
After years of wondering if I could ever be intimate with another man, I decided to hook up with a dude my freshman year of college. I figured this "bicurious" thing clearly isn't a phase, since I'd been thinking about it for a few years. The only way I could know for sure if I was actually gay or bi was if tested the waters.
So I did. Alas, I got so drunk in order to have the courage to hook up with another man that I ended up puking midway through our encounter. After the experience, I could not tell you if I was gay or bi. Overall, the experience was "meh," like any really sloppy, drunken hookup regardless of gender.
The thing is, I went about hooking up with a guy all wrong. I had expectations about what I should feel, still struggled with internalized homophobia, and didn't realize that sexuality is a spectrum. I think that's why I felt even more confused after hooking up with a guy.
Still, I'm glad I did explore, and it did eventually lead me to embracing my sexuality, though it took another five years. Nevertheless, there were definitely things I could have done to better prepare myself for exploring sexually with other men. Things I learned years after the fact. Now, with the help of two sexuality experts, I'm going to impart what I wish I knew and had done before (and after) hooking up with my first guy.
1. Start with porn.
You don’t need to jump headfirst into penetrative sex with a man. Porn is a great way to explore your desires in a manner that’s accessible and private.
“As a starting point for acting out sexual fantasies, many people turn to pornography because it offers a ‘safe’ way to explore, especially if you’re a little afraid of acting it out or don’t know how to go about it,” says Dr. Justin Lehmiller, research fellow at the Kinsey Institute and author Tell Me What You Want.
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | November 19, 2019 11:09 AM
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Shut up and present hole.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 21, 2019 5:44 PM
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Looks like Men's Health is finally acknowledging that over half of their readership is gay or gay curious!
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 21, 2019 5:45 PM
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R2 kinda line back in the day, my unckesaid he didn't know any woman that read Playgirl.
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 21, 2019 5:49 PM
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[quote]I came to the conclusion after the experience that I was straight, and it took me another five years of hooking up with men to embrace the fact that I am bisexual.
And we’re supposed to take this man seriously?
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 21, 2019 5:51 PM
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[quote] I came to the conclusion after the experience that I was straight, and it took me another five years of hooking up with men to embrace the fact that I am bisexual.
Sure, Jan!
| by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 21, 2019 6:10 PM
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What a crock of idiotic nonsense- so he got so drunk he puked during the "encounter". And you think you can speak with coherence about something that is more or less key to who you are? Kind of like trying out chocolate covered ants or shark fin stew, huh?
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | October 21, 2019 6:17 PM
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The writer is named Zachary Zane and the therapist is named Joe-El???
Is this from Men’s Health Krypton edition????
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | October 21, 2019 6:20 PM
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I for one absolutely love that this is a thing. Society is changing, thank goodness.
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 21, 2019 7:04 PM
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Think of all the gays out there getting their hearts trampled on by guys going through their COCK-CURIOUS phase
| by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 21, 2019 7:11 PM
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He kept doing it over and over and over with guys but isn’t sure if he’s gay
Maybe after the 100th then?
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 21, 2019 8:12 PM
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R14, after my 1,000th time sucking dick, I wasn't quite sure if I was gay either!
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 21, 2019 8:28 PM
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[quote]You don’t need to jump headfirst into penetrative sex with a man.
In fact, this is never recommended.
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 21, 2019 8:32 PM
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There are a surprising number of "straight" guys who still think they're straight despite having copious amounts of gay sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | October 21, 2019 9:28 PM
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[quote] There's this notion that if you so much as kiss a man once, you must be gay or bisexual.
Someone's been visiting Datalounge....
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | October 21, 2019 9:35 PM
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I love the term cock-curious. It describes so many men!
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | October 21, 2019 11:38 PM
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Love the “mostly straight” movement! More hot masc guys
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | October 21, 2019 11:42 PM
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“Doing stuff with guys”. Is that what they’re calling it now? Sounds so . . . harmless. Kudos to whoever does the gays’ marketing.
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | November 19, 2019 5:56 AM
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Yeah, R19. It's ALMOST as classic as "cockgobbler."
| by Anonymous | reply 23 | November 19, 2019 6:01 AM
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[quote]and didn't realize that sexuality is a spectrum.
Wrong! No such thing. It’s not a spectrum where you could go from straight to gay to bi. It was all in this writer’s head. He always was what he always was. He’s just playing head games with himself.
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | November 19, 2019 8:50 AM
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I have heard that some guys who identify as straight do have an attraction to dick, just not to men in general. So they might like to suck a dick and perhaps even get fucked, but would not be interested in touching or kissing any other part of the man's body.
Mostly, I think it doesn't matter how anyone identifies and it's only between them and whoever they have sexual activity with - providing it's safe and legal, do whatever you like. People in general have way too many hang-ups about sex.
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | November 19, 2019 11:09 AM
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