I am not.
Are You Interested In Being In A Romantic Relationship?
by Anonymous | reply 79 | October 27, 2019 7:45 PM |
Ditto
by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 18, 2019 11:28 PM |
Nope. I was in one for 20 years. I’m happy being single
by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 18, 2019 11:30 PM |
Yes.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | October 18, 2019 11:46 PM |
No. It's just so tiresome and tawdry.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 18, 2019 11:52 PM |
Romance is for women and pussy-whipped men.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 18, 2019 11:53 PM |
yes, very much so.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | October 18, 2019 11:54 PM |
Such a thing does not exist. It's an illusion used as a weapon.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 18, 2019 11:57 PM |
Thanks, I've had sufficient.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | October 18, 2019 11:57 PM |
Romance isn’t worth the complications that come with it. That’s not to say it shouldn’t be experienced at least once.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | October 19, 2019 12:08 AM |
Hell no. Im 58 , had 2 husbands die on me,the last one in 2011,and I dont ever want to go through something like that again. Id love some steady dick though.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | October 19, 2019 12:27 AM |
Never say never. I’m not really looking for it. But if you’re playing in the NHL and you’re reading this please look me up.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | October 19, 2019 12:41 AM |
French kissing the pillows is no fun after 40
by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 19, 2019 12:47 AM |
I am , I spotted this handsome man at Aldi on .Monday. I was checking him out in frozen foods. We ended up both replacing our carts at the same time . He pretended not to know how to get his quarter back so I showed him. He drove by my car which was unnecessary because he was parked 3 rows away. Perhaps the interest is mutual??? Maybe I will see him again .
by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 19, 2019 12:51 AM |
R13 next time wear a plunging neckline, fuck-me pumps and Daisy Dukes
by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 19, 2019 1:20 AM |
Yes, but don't make my mistake of falling in love with a bisexual. Nothing but heartache.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 19, 2019 1:32 AM |
R6 Dear God, Why?!
by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 19, 2019 1:34 AM |
No.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | October 19, 2019 1:35 AM |
oh, don't worry r15, any gay worth his salt knows that bisexuals are verboten.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | October 19, 2019 1:35 AM |
Sometimes
by Anonymous | reply 19 | October 19, 2019 1:37 AM |
because, R16, i am lonely. and i need to love someone and be loved. i know it won't happen, don't you worry
by Anonymous | reply 20 | October 19, 2019 1:39 AM |
I want someone to love me for who I am on the inside. My relationships have been awful. I'm a people pleasure and sexually adventurous so a lot of guys have used me for sex and I feel like they've never attempted to really get to know me. I know it sounds ridiculous but my purest connections have been with fuckbuddies some of who have been married and or closeted. We were actual friends and I never felt like there was any manipulation. I can't stand being lied to.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | October 19, 2019 1:44 AM |
I went out with a guy who was in good shape, but not incredible, and not even that different than me. But he would make passive-aggressive comments about what I would eat or drink, or about what shape I was in, or if I was going to the gym. Or how the enjoyment of something rested on my shoulders if it was my idea.
I didn't like feeling self-conscious when I just wanted to go out and have a good time. I realized that I prefer to be with a friend or someone who shared my sense of humor, rather than being in a dating situation.
by Anonymous | reply 22 | October 19, 2019 1:51 AM |
I would say so, yes.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | October 19, 2019 11:30 AM |
"Romantic relationship" is a Hallmark/Mills Boon construct.
by Anonymous | reply 24 | October 19, 2019 11:39 AM |
r14 the phrase is “come-fuck-me-red pumps”
secondly: relationships were always better in my head. i try to keep them there.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | October 19, 2019 11:44 AM |
You'll have to go back a bit further. The romantic era of the early 19th century shaped the modern concept of love/courtship.
by Anonymous | reply 26 | October 19, 2019 11:46 AM |
^^ For R24.
by Anonymous | reply 27 | October 19, 2019 11:47 AM |
R27 I went with contemporary LCD. I didn't want to force them to Google by mentioning Dumas fils, Shelley or Chateaubriand.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | October 19, 2019 11:55 AM |
Try reading some of the threads on books if you really think that DLers aren't literate, R28.
by Anonymous | reply 29 | October 19, 2019 11:58 AM |
R29 I do, as well as contribute to them. But I believe they are the minority.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | October 19, 2019 12:01 PM |
I gave up on that when I discovered Connor Jessup preferred Asians. I should be in Mile Heizer's place now.
by Anonymous | reply 31 | October 22, 2019 3:28 AM |
Fantasy relationships are way better than all the baggage, stress and heartache of the real thing. That, and my standards are too high for what I could realistically get. So, no, not really.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | October 22, 2019 3:33 AM |
Heterosexual courtship rituals are predictable, outdated, attention-seeking and cringeworthy.
by Anonymous | reply 33 | October 22, 2019 3:38 AM |
Sometimes I think yes and then I look around at howiserable most partnered people are and would rather be single.
by Anonymous | reply 34 | October 22, 2019 3:38 AM |
R33, you forgot "expensive" and humiliating...
by Anonymous | reply 35 | October 22, 2019 3:41 AM |
"I want someone to love me for who I am on the inside."
Ugh, I'm never dating a fister again.
I just don't have the stomach for it.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | October 22, 2019 4:04 AM |
[quote] I went with contemporary LCD. I didn't want to force them to Google by mentioning Dumas fils, Shelley or Chateaubriand.
R28, in your zeal to save me from having to look up famous authors (which would have been fun), you drove me to Google with"LCD". After wading through numerous entries about "liquid crystal displays", I finally hit upon "least common denomination" and decided that you probably meant "lowest common denominator", which is something that I've heard of and which makes sense in context.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | October 22, 2019 4:33 AM |
Always - and I'm in one again at last. Fingers crossed.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | October 22, 2019 4:48 AM |
r10 must be some bottom to have two husbands die on him......
by Anonymous | reply 39 | October 22, 2019 5:04 AM |
We are going on 21 years, and they said I was just going through a gay phase. Fuck you haters!
by Anonymous | reply 40 | October 22, 2019 5:11 AM |
It's all downhill after the first kiss.
by Anonymous | reply 41 | October 22, 2019 1:34 PM |
Romance is based on fantasy. Which is fine as long as it doesn’t lead to delusions that are setting you up for bankruptcy or long term harm. Harry and Megs are a perfect example - wrapped up in the idea of a great romance when hard cold reality is what is necessary for long term success.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | October 22, 2019 3:57 PM |
I'm going to settle with someone much older than me when my whore days are through. We can just be domestic and boring. Until then I like being independent.
by Anonymous | reply 43 | October 24, 2019 1:22 AM |
Yes, always.
First husband of 25 years died suddenly. Floated around aimless until I met my current husband and last. I’m a hopeless romantic. 3rd year and we’re settling in nicely.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | October 24, 2019 1:28 AM |
No, I was in one. The last thing I want is to walk into my home after work and deal with all that nonsense.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | October 24, 2019 1:37 AM |
Yes, it would lighten my spirits. Even if it leads to heartbreak later on.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | October 24, 2019 1:39 AM |
R46, that's how I feel every time a pet dies -- I always swear that I'll never put myself through that kind of pain again, but I eventually take a deep breath and decide that it is worthwhile after all. I don't feel that way about relationships with humans, but animals definitely are worth the risks and I suppose the feelings are the same for those of you who love humans.
by Anonymous | reply 47 | October 24, 2019 2:06 AM |
Ditto, R2.
I was in a relationship for 20+ years, and was miserable for most of them. Unfortunately, I could not explain my unhappiness. Fortunately, I found a wonderful therapist who helped me work through my issues and dump the mother fucker already.
I've been single longer than I was in a relationship, and could not be happier.
by Anonymous | reply 48 | October 24, 2019 2:24 AM |
Like many DLers, I'm vicariously interested in romantic relationships as a topic. I haven't the drive to enter into one myself - all that work!
I think perhaps I'm put off because my parents stayed in a stagnant, boring, repressed marriage all their lives since they were 25 and sacrificed a normal social life plus their personal ambitions to do so. It never seemed worth it to me, watching them go through the motions of a domestic conjugal life with no colour. I've been lonely, depressed, driftless and bored at times in my lonesome life and occasionally plagued by the "who will come to my funeral?" question, but then I always remind myself that I do not have to be trapped by my Ego, circumstances can easily change in this random world of ours and that at least these states I find myself in do not perpetuate thanks to a legal contract & joint bank account.
by Anonymous | reply 49 | October 24, 2019 11:09 AM |
I feel as if it's the only thing left I actually want out of life. I would be very pleased to have the opportunity to enjoy the intimacy of caring about someone else as much as you do yourself.
by Anonymous | reply 50 | October 24, 2019 11:15 AM |
Sure, a romantic relationship is great at first, but for me, I get bored after a few months. I was partnered for 11 years but looking back we should have called it off after year three. Maybe if I found the right guy?
My dad, after my mom died, connected with a woman who was his gf in grade school. They were married for 27 years and holding hands until he died. You could tell that they were in love all throughout their marriage. So, I know it can be done.
by Anonymous | reply 51 | October 24, 2019 11:21 AM |
R51, that happened to my grandfather, except that they were old when they married after their first spouses died, so they only had 8 years together. But those were blissful and he was finally happy for the first time in his long life. Too bad these things have to wait so long to happen, but maybe they're more appreciated as a result.
by Anonymous | reply 52 | October 24, 2019 1:16 PM |
Yes if I didn't have to live with him and it happened organically. Being single really is the greatest as long as you have friends and family to do things with when you want to.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | October 24, 2019 1:27 PM |
R52, I’ve read of a lot of cases of high school sweethearts who meet again in later life and hit it off immediately. I wonder if that’s because after you retire, your standards are lower because you’ve lived through other relationships and you know the ups and downs and are more realistic. The high school sweethearts I know that married in high school all had ugly divorces with lots of cheating. And they all had kids very young and were lousy fathers.
I’m in my fifties, and a lot of the men I meet are looking to be supported financially. They’re not looking for a romantic partner, they’re looking for a wallet. Ugh no. And they lie about everything, including stuff they have no reason to lie about. I don’t need a sociopath living in my house with me, or cluttering up my life.
I met one recently that went from, I own a home, I’m single, no kids, to the truth, which is, I rent a furnished room, I’m separated, but married, and never see my kid (presumably not paying child support either). And I’m pretty sure he’s unemployed. How on earth this guy is supporting himself I have no idea.
Why? If you’re ashamed of your lifestyle, then fix it.
by Anonymous | reply 54 | October 24, 2019 1:34 PM |
I love a romantic relationship, but I also like my space. I've had five serious romantic relationships. Two of them ended in messy breakups after about two years. When I say messy, I mean names were called, accusations were made, and voices were raised. Fortunately, the police did not have to intervene.
Of the other three, one partner died of cancer. (That was an excellent relationship, with mutual love and respect.) Another relationship ended when my boyfriend was killed in a motorcycle accident. It was a short but sweet relationship, and he did one of the loveliest, most thoughtful things for me, but that's another story entirely.
Finally, my current relationship, which has been going on for five years, is another excellent one. We live together and he is 9 years younger than I am. We give each other room to breathe. We have mutual interests, and we complement each other. We love animals, reading, hiking, movies, and we can make one another laugh. If this relationship doesn't last, then I'll become a monk or something.
by Anonymous | reply 55 | October 24, 2019 2:13 PM |
I think romantic relationships started later in life are better. My parents married at 18 and had a hellish marriage. They both met new partners in their late forties and are happier than I've ever seen them.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | October 25, 2019 5:30 AM |
How do people have the time & energy for this, seriously? Between taking care of my dog, cleaning up after my parents and going to my shitty job I barely have time left to defend for friends & creative pursuits. I already feel like I'm not alone or free or relaxed enough, with responsibilities and 'musts'. Keeping a lover on top of that? Yikes.
by Anonymous | reply 57 | October 25, 2019 10:22 AM |
You all are a bunch of cynical sad-sacks. It's a couples world. Life is more interesting with a partner. You get a yin with your yang. I've been in a relationship for 25 years. Overall, it's made life more fulfilling.
by Anonymous | reply 58 | October 25, 2019 4:12 PM |
Zzzzzzzz ^
by Anonymous | reply 59 | October 25, 2019 4:35 PM |
R58: YES!
by Anonymous | reply 60 | October 25, 2019 4:37 PM |
Would it have killed you to have at at least posted a picture or link OP? I mean would that have been so hard? Why don’t you try to think more of others next time before you post?
by Anonymous | reply 61 | October 25, 2019 5:08 PM |
[quote] when my boyfriend was killed in a motorcycle accident. It was a short but
I read “it was a short bus“ 🤣. I thought he was run over by a bunch of disabled kids.
by Anonymous | reply 62 | October 25, 2019 9:16 PM |
No, but I still got into one thinking it might change my mind. It didn't. And now I don't have the guts to call it off.
by Anonymous | reply 63 | October 25, 2019 9:36 PM |
Worse than that, actually. He was hit on a curve by a truck that was being driven on the wrong side of the road. The driver slammed on the brakes but the impact was still deadly. He never regained consciousness. He was put on life support and remained that way for about a week. By that time it became obvious that he was brain dead and there would be no recovery. His mother gave permission to pull the plug.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | October 25, 2019 9:37 PM |
Oh shit, I'm sorry R64
by Anonymous | reply 65 | October 25, 2019 9:41 PM |
I can be romantic, but people are such tedious pains in the ass, I was done at age 40. One of the things that makes me want to be romantic again is good music, jazz, a sexy saxophone. But most people don't get that kind of music and reject it instantly as something "my parents would listen to."
This is sublime, pay no attention to the title:
by Anonymous | reply 66 | October 25, 2019 9:58 PM |
I was, but I’m thoroughly jaded. I’m going to go be straight.
by Anonymous | reply 67 | October 25, 2019 10:00 PM |
Thanks r 65. That happened almost 10 years ago, and I don't think I've actually been able to wrap my mind around the whole thing even now. He was only 28 years old, and absolutely drop-dead gorgeous. He was funny, brilliant, sensitive and kind. There was nothing he could not do with a computer, and that was his field of work.
Here is the type of man he was: It was winter, and our area was in the midst of a snowstorm. My very elderly cat named Spider, almost 20 years old, decided that this would be a good night to die. I placed him in a box with blankets, sat beside him and cried. The phone rang, and it was Mark. I told him what was happening and it must have been obvious that I had been crying. He told me that he would come over right away. I told him not to even try. The roads were filling up with snow. He told me that he would get here. My house would be at most a ten minute drive from his place, more likely five minutes, but there was no way that he could get any vehicle to my place that night. Perhaps an hour later, the doorbell rang. It was Mark, covered in snow. He had walked. He told me that he didn't want me to be alone.
by Anonymous | reply 68 | October 25, 2019 10:03 PM |
He seems like an amazing man, R68. Glad you got to know him.
by Anonymous | reply 69 | October 25, 2019 10:14 PM |
[quote][R13] next time wear a plunging neckline, fuck-me pumps and Daisy Dukes
Why, r14, do they go to the same church too?
by Anonymous | reply 70 | October 25, 2019 11:34 PM |
I'm wealthy. I can buy romance.
by Anonymous | reply 71 | October 25, 2019 11:41 PM |
R68 that you for sharing that story.
by Anonymous | reply 72 | October 26, 2019 12:04 AM |
R57, you poor thing! I feel for you. Hope you can find more time for yourself
by Anonymous | reply 73 | October 26, 2019 12:17 AM |
[quote]but there was no way that he could get any vehicle to my place that night. Perhaps an hour later, the doorbell rang.
Incredible. I had no idea the baths had snow days too.
by Anonymous | reply 74 | October 27, 2019 4:13 PM |
Jesus, this is one of the saddest threads I’ve ever seen on the DL. Gay men really do have a screwed up view of love.
by Anonymous | reply 75 | October 27, 2019 4:20 PM |
Yes, but I don't want to settle down with someone with serious personality disorders as both my sisters did.
by Anonymous | reply 76 | October 27, 2019 4:30 PM |
God no. I'm too old and it takes too much energy and too much pretending.
by Anonymous | reply 77 | October 27, 2019 4:31 PM |
Of course. When I love someone, it all comes naturally because I'm thinking about them all the time.
by Anonymous | reply 78 | October 27, 2019 5:44 PM |
R75 what's the heterosexual marriage divorce rate again?
by Anonymous | reply 79 | October 27, 2019 7:45 PM |