None of the guys I’m interested in are interested in me

You're probably coming off too thirsty/desperate, that's a huge turn off.

This will end in tears.

Make sure he has a big dick and a good job so ya'all like each other for the right reasons...

Stay in your lane.

I think it sounds like a great plan, OP. Keep us updated. Good luck!

No matter what, OP? What if there is zero attraction on your part?

Welcome to gay life.

Enjoy being alone at 40.

I'm 48 and single. The only gay bar around here caters to the twenty-something crowd.

[quote] What if there is zero attraction on your part?

I think I’ve resigned myself to that. I don’t want to be alone, so I gotta do what I gotta do.

How old are you OP?

"I don't want to be alone . . ." reeks of desperation, OP. Not to mention sadness.

Wise men never fall in love.

OP if you really want a relationship, focus less on looks and more on finding a guy whose personality you match with.

I bet you ignored some good potential matches because they weren't the hottest.

Good point, R12. Everyone fugs up eventually. Find someone you have stuff in common with and who makes you laugh, OP. Get married, pool your income and rent someone you're both hot for, to fuck.

Best of both worlds.

What about either of your hands OP?

OPs subject reminds me of "Long, Long Time" by Linda Ronstadt.

A therapist told me "No loaf is better than a half-loaf of what you don;t want." t

"Everyone fugs up eventually."

Wise, yet HILARIOUS words.

Loneliness will only attract the psychos and equally needy to you. I have hobbies and a few friends and dozens of acquaintances. If and when true love strikes me again, I will deal with it realistically, but after several truly horrible experiences with some real nut jobs, I'd rather keep my life drama free.

Lower your standards. Do it incrementally, one day at a time. Soon enough you’ll happily sleep with anyone. Result! x

[quote] A therapist told me "No loaf is better than a half-loaf of what you don;t want."

I want to talk to your therapist person about some possible defects in his analogy. If you're fucking starving, you WILL take a half-loaf of what you don't want just to stay alive.

The problem is we are all different.

Some people are perfectly content being single, but some people can't handle it and find it depressing.

I'm sure it seems that way, OP. After being partnered for 13 years, I was single again for 9 years. It always seemed like the guys interested in me didn't interest me that much, or the guys I liked didn't seem interested in me. I grew content being single but still dated. Eventually I found the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. We've been together close to 7 years. Keep trying if coupling up is what you really want.

OP, here is the thing. Do you have what you expect your perfect mate should have? Like, are you as hot as you want your date to be? Are you as smart as you want your date to be? Are you as rich as you want your date to be? Are you as honest as you want your date to be? Are you as funny as you want your date to be? Are you as confident as you want your date to be? Etc.

A four wanting to hook up with an eight, nine, or ten? LOL, you better have a lot of money, or lower your expectations.

Of course there are expectations when a ten falls for a six with great sense of humor (which ten happens to find attractive or appealing).

You also need to figure out why you set such high standards in the first place. Do you really want to succeed (ego, confidence, desperation) or do you set yourself up for failure (so you can affirm the established belief that you are not worth loving)?

Your claim that you accepted defeat and now settle for anyone will end in tears (your tears of sadness and DL readers' tears of laughter).

When one is gay, one is expected to live a life of celibacy. Not having g a partner makes that easier.

Can we stop talking about loafs.

I would rather be alone than take a half loaf of what I don't want