So I’ve decided to date the next guy who shows genuine interest in me, no matter what. What do you think?
None of the guys I’m interested in are interested in me
by Anonymous | reply 26 | October 18, 2019 12:57 AM |
You're probably coming off too thirsty/desperate, that's a huge turn off.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | October 17, 2019 1:27 AM |
This will end in tears.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | October 17, 2019 1:50 AM |
Make sure he has a big dick and a good job so ya'all like each other for the right reasons...
by Anonymous | reply 3 | October 17, 2019 1:54 AM |
Stay in your lane.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | October 17, 2019 1:58 AM |
I think it sounds like a great plan, OP. Keep us updated. Good luck!
by Anonymous | reply 5 | October 17, 2019 2:00 AM |
No matter what, OP? What if there is zero attraction on your part?
by Anonymous | reply 6 | October 17, 2019 2:38 AM |
Welcome to gay life.
Enjoy being alone at 40.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | October 17, 2019 2:39 AM |
I'm 48 and single. The only gay bar around here caters to the twenty-something crowd.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | October 17, 2019 3:05 AM |
[quote] What if there is zero attraction on your part?
I think I’ve resigned myself to that. I don’t want to be alone, so I gotta do what I gotta do.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | October 17, 2019 10:37 AM |
How old are you OP?
by Anonymous | reply 10 | October 17, 2019 12:58 PM |
"I don't want to be alone . . ." reeks of desperation, OP. Not to mention sadness.
Wise men never fall in love.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | October 17, 2019 1:03 PM |
OP if you really want a relationship, focus less on looks and more on finding a guy whose personality you match with.
I bet you ignored some good potential matches because they weren't the hottest.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | October 17, 2019 1:18 PM |
Good point, R12. Everyone fugs up eventually. Find someone you have stuff in common with and who makes you laugh, OP. Get married, pool your income and rent someone you're both hot for, to fuck.
Best of both worlds.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | October 17, 2019 1:27 PM |
What about either of your hands OP?
by Anonymous | reply 14 | October 17, 2019 1:29 PM |
OPs subject reminds me of "Long, Long Time" by Linda Ronstadt.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | October 17, 2019 1:29 PM |
A therapist told me "No loaf is better than a half-loaf of what you don;t want." t
by Anonymous | reply 16 | October 17, 2019 1:31 PM |
"Everyone fugs up eventually."
Wise, yet HILARIOUS words.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | October 17, 2019 1:34 PM |
Loneliness will only attract the psychos and equally needy to you. I have hobbies and a few friends and dozens of acquaintances. If and when true love strikes me again, I will deal with it realistically, but after several truly horrible experiences with some real nut jobs, I'd rather keep my life drama free.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | October 17, 2019 1:38 PM |
Lower your standards. Do it incrementally, one day at a time. Soon enough you’ll happily sleep with anyone. Result! x
by Anonymous | reply 19 | October 17, 2019 1:41 PM |
[quote] A therapist told me "No loaf is better than a half-loaf of what you don;t want."
I want to talk to your therapist person about some possible defects in his analogy. If you're fucking starving, you WILL take a half-loaf of what you don't want just to stay alive.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | October 17, 2019 2:04 PM |
The problem is we are all different.
Some people are perfectly content being single, but some people can't handle it and find it depressing.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | October 17, 2019 2:10 PM |
I'm sure it seems that way, OP. After being partnered for 13 years, I was single again for 9 years. It always seemed like the guys interested in me didn't interest me that much, or the guys I liked didn't seem interested in me. I grew content being single but still dated. Eventually I found the guy I want to spend the rest of my life with. We've been together close to 7 years. Keep trying if coupling up is what you really want.
by Anonymous | reply 22 | October 17, 2019 2:21 PM |
OP, here is the thing. Do you have what you expect your perfect mate should have? Like, are you as hot as you want your date to be? Are you as smart as you want your date to be? Are you as rich as you want your date to be? Are you as honest as you want your date to be? Are you as funny as you want your date to be? Are you as confident as you want your date to be? Etc.
A four wanting to hook up with an eight, nine, or ten? LOL, you better have a lot of money, or lower your expectations.
Of course there are expectations when a ten falls for a six with great sense of humor (which ten happens to find attractive or appealing).
You also need to figure out why you set such high standards in the first place. Do you really want to succeed (ego, confidence, desperation) or do you set yourself up for failure (so you can affirm the established belief that you are not worth loving)?
Your claim that you accepted defeat and now settle for anyone will end in tears (your tears of sadness and DL readers' tears of laughter).
by Anonymous | reply 23 | October 17, 2019 2:30 PM |
When one is gay, one is expected to live a life of celibacy. Not having g a partner makes that easier.
by Anonymous | reply 24 | October 17, 2019 3:00 PM |
Can we stop talking about loafs.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | October 17, 2019 3:15 PM |
I would rather be alone than take a half loaf of what I don't want
by Anonymous | reply 26 | October 18, 2019 12:57 AM |