Sex with Hotel Staff in India?

Are you looking to get blackmailed, OP? What is the current legal status of homosexual activity in India? I remember reading that the old laws criminizaling it were struck off the books but you may still be threatened by cops and blackmailed for money.

While not as open as it is in the Netherlands, for example, India has recently been making progress. I'm not concerned about being blackmailed. I've attached a Wiki that you and others might find helpful R1.

Lock your valuables before presenting hole.

Did you bring Febreeze?

It is very common in 3rd world countries that hotel staff is "very" giving for a few extra dollars, particularly is Asian countries

I am here now too. Best bet is to turn on Grindr and your phone will ping nonstop. Funny but I haven't gotten approached by the hotel staff the way you have.

wet wipes for the cheese.

If you're a white American man with money, why are you surprised staff would be extremely friendly? My first thought wouldn't be that someone is hitting on me, but that they'd like better tips (pun NOT intended.)

Are there any women? If so, are they being equally as friendly?

A lot of Indian people are homophobic. Seems like a nice way to get beaten up.

Don't do it. It's their job to smile and act like they like you, it doesn't mean they want your old white ass.

They're just doing their fucking jobs. Don't put them in a position of having to decide whether saying "no" to a guest or "yes" to a guest will get them in more trouble with their boss.

You're there to visit and see India, not indulge in the man-meat. Be careful and avoid trouble at all costs - you're in a foreign land!

Can't I see India and get a little man meat too? There seems to be plenty the way my Grindr account explodes each time I turn it on.

Just do it, your instincts will guide you

R2 Yes, by all means make an important legal decision based on.....Wikipedia.

Just get on fucking grindr or go to a gay bar, leave the poor minimum wage workers alone.

You will be beheaded, in more ways than one!

Homeless diq is the best diq

The only way I'd go to India is if someone was holding a gun to my head, and even then, I would never, ever attempt to sample the local "cuisine," inside the hotel or out.

Go for it, OP!

My God R19, he's beautiful, who is he?

Believe me. If the staff is interested they will be on Grindr. I wouldn't sexually harass a worker unless he had made it very clear he wants it.

I've decided not to make any advances, only if they make the first move. I leave Mumbai tomorrow and travel to New Delhi. From New Delhi I will visit Kathmandu, Nepal. I wrote the posting to see if anyone had any personal experience with guys who work in hotels in India. I appreciate the comments. Also should mention that I'm not on Grindr since my preference is to meet guys in person and take it from there.

Well, my tip would be to create a Grindr profile and then see if any of the staff is on it. You can pounce then. I hope uou are enjoying your trip. I am in India now as well.

Unusual to be a slut and not be on Grindr these days, OP. Grindr is like best practices for sluts.

I tried it once and it didn't turn out so well. But then, he was Turkish.

An eldersister once attended to the needs of an Indian Prince. It didn't go well because his cum tasted like a cheap curry from the high street.

However, she was adequately compen$ated.

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Erna is scum

Listen for a loud and sassy “YUM!” in Hindi, Urdu, Bengali, or some other appropriate language.

Are you staying at the Best Erotic MoMoHo Hotel? Are Judi Stench and The Dowager Lady Grantham there?

I wouldn't go near those curried holes unless you want a burning orange dick OP

Hotel STAFF?!!

Bitch, go for the hotel OWNER!

They shit in the street! You think they have clean assholes? You want your dick curried?

r32 And how is that any different from San Francisco?

OP, I have traveled in India and encountered similar attitudes. If you are discreet, you are unlikely to get them in trouble.

The Grindr suggestion for connecting with these hotel workers is a lousy one; I suspect many of them are not connected in that way.

Everyone is different. If these hotel employees appear to be unusually friendly, there are several possible explanations.

1) In that part of the world, low-wage workers are by culture and by job training much more deferential to hotel guests than their counterparts in the US would be. Their friendly attitudes may be no more than a representation of that deference to you.

2) They are, in fact, very interested in having sex with you and live in circumstances (very conservative family, no privacy at home, etc.) where sex with men is otherwise unavailable. If this is the case, beyond their overt friendliness, of course you are the one who will have to make the first real move. They will be much more fearful of offending you then you will be of causing a problem for them. Further, if they are motivated by attraction to you, they may not have an ulterior motive.

3) They are both horny and looking to supplement their meager incomes. Feel free to indulge, And then give them some cash in consideration of the time they have spent with you.

4) I was surprised to find a number of men I met in India, poorer men, did not necessarily want money from me, but they coveted articles of clothing they noticed in my room. A sweater, a pair of shoes. Honestly, I wasn’t that attached to anything in my suitcase and I was happy to travel home lighter.

A few other notes...

I would never say such activity is absolutely risk-free, but I sincerely believe the risk is minimal. People with the kinds of jobs you were talking about really depend on those jobs for survival and would not want to do anything to jeopardize their livelihood.

In my experience having sex with men in India, I found it fairly common that in the middle of sex, men would shout out I love you I love you I love you. It’s something I have almost never experienced with an American man. Don’t attribute too much meaning to such utterances.

I’m well aware that many on DL have quite retrograde notions about India and Indians. My experience in India - and I was there for three months - was amazing. I found the men beautiful and the country fascinating. I hope to return.

'Don’t attribute too much meaning to such utterances.'

Ya think! No shit!

How much is an Indian whore? If it's more than $1 you're getting ripped off.

Thanks R34 for your comments. Very helpful.

As it turned out I left Mumbai without having sex with any of the hotel staff (or management). Though I did get a Facebook friend request from the one guy who brought me an evening bowl of mushroom soup each evening. He and I seemed to connect during my stay but I didn't take it any further than casual conversation. I guess the Facebook friend request, that I accepted, is a sign that he is interested. I'll be back in Mumbai on the 29th so we will see what develops. He, by the way, is very attractive.

I'm in New Delhi now and have had a nice friendly conversation with a guy who pinged my gaydar. Also attractive. On Wednesday I leave for Kathmandu, Nepal. The adventure continues...

Gross.

OP, you just need to pounce. I was in New Delhi about 10 days ago and found willing partners all over the place . I am not sure why you are eyeing thr hotel staff only. India has been a wonderful adventure and the Indian men have been wonderful too. My only complaint was the smog. It seems to be in all northern cities. Enjoy yourself and by all means find someone to have sex with. It is a real window into the local culture.

Taking advantage of poor brown people is vile. Shame on you OP

[quote] The adventure continues...

Is adventure quite the word to describe it?

Exploitative and therefore immoral.

Exactly. White sex creep predators. Vile

Do you think OP is predatory? My mental picture is of someone desperately hoping.

Oh, and one more thing OP. I was at a restaurant yesterday with an Indian friend and he commented how the staff was completely ignoring him and instead was over attentive to me. I suggested the staff were probably hustling a tip but my friend said it was more than that. The locals are overly friendly to white westerners. I am not sure I would take the bell boy's interest as being anything more than politeness. Enjoy your trip and ignore the DL maiden aunt brigade

Rich white foreigners taking advantage of the poor. Are these poor young Indian men even gay? Are they enjoying it or are they just poor and straight and need the money? I'm guessing they're gay for pay and these old white queens ping from a mile away thus the attention.

I do hope people know India, like the USA, is full of gay men hoping to have sex with someone. There are some strange comments here. I have met some very eager India men and there was request for money. They just want sex like the rest of us.

'I do hope people know India, like the USA, is full of gay men hoping to have sex with someone. There are some strange comments here. I have met some very eager India men and there was request for money. They just want sex like the rest of us.'

Your comment is strange...India full of gay men looking for sex but you go on to say you met eager ones requesting money for sex...The US doesn't have such abject poverty that straight men are willing to suck dick for money.. you said they just want sex like the rest of us...more to the point they just want money like the rest of us. I have never been asked for money to have sex in the US. I'm willing to bet a lot of them are just very poor and very straight and will do anything for money.

Exactly man

They're only throwing themselves at men because of their poverty, like any poor country. You don't see this in first world countries beyond organised prostitution. If they were just doing it for sex's sake, they wouldn't be asking for money, like your normal Grindr hookup. Therefore it's sex tourism, taking advantage of poor people by exploiting them for paid sex.

Actually, that was a typo above. It should have read thete were NO request for money. India hae a rising middle class and gay men are part of it. It is odd people think only men from third world countries are only interested in money. Indians get horny like the rest of us. But saying all of this I wouldn't pursue the hotel staff but instead use normal ways like Grindr. Turn on Grindr in Delhi and your phone will explode. It isnt about money usually although there are some hookers on it just as there are in the USA. Really. American gay men didnt invent sex. Trust me on this.

[quote]The US doesn't have such abject poverty that straight men are willing to suck dick for money..

How exactly do you think the gay porn industry functions?

Great retort

All I know is year ago when I was single I met this Indian guy - the darker variety. The cock on that boy was humongous I couldn't believe it.

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He wants to meet you.

Hangin' out in India.

This...……….!

A lot of Indians smell, so at least try and find one that doesn't.

It's still such a surprise reading these threads how many Americans come across as loathing India and Indian people. I find the "American Exceptionalism" and dismissal of all things and people "non-white" as truly sad and mundane.

From my experience, the best way to gauge if somebody is interested in you is to check if there is a discernible growing bulge in their pants. Unfortunately for Indian men, their bulges might not be too obvious?

One of my biggest regrets is that I never got with an Indian man.

This is an EST thread. I’m surprised no one has said it sooner.

Hotel staff is trained to be attentive and courteous. They normally treat their guests like that. But you can ask them to show you where you can find a cheap, hot date.

You also should watch the behind the scenes docu about the Taj Mahal Palace to see how the hotel staff is rigorously trained. Or is this the hotel you stayed in Mumbai?