They seem so fun in theory. Then the day comes and it's like, ugh, I just wanna go home and watch Netflix.
Do you make plans and then dread them?
by Anonymous | reply 24 | August 23, 2019 11:03 PM |
Yes, especially dates or costume parties. Even new outfits. Travel. Extended shopping trips. Interviews. Hard to get out of my comfort zone. Of course, once I dive in, it usually turns out ok, and I’m glad I didn’t back down. It’s like that moment before you get into a pool. The dread of the cold water sensation. But the next thing you know you’re swimming!
by Anonymous | reply 1 | August 21, 2019 7:58 PM |
I don't make the plans, but sometimes I reluctantly agree to participate in things out of obligation and then regret it -- usually family affairs. Part of being part of a large Italian family -- sometimes I envy the Wasp-y approach to family.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | August 21, 2019 7:58 PM |
I planned this big trip a month ago... and it all seems fun in theory & I wanted to see new things & revisit some old places I really liked - but some of the headaches of long term (16 day) travel are bothering me as I’m sitting in the waiting area right now. For example, I just did security but then I have to go through security at heathrow again cuz it’s a connection and then I’ll do the same thing four more times. Why did I need to visit 3 cities nowhere near each other again? I’ll be fine - but all I can seem to focus on right now is the British version of the TSA taking away my allergy liquids (eye drops, nasal spray). The tsa lets you take anything medical apart from your regular liquid bag.
Also I have a new suitcase which is a spinner and my other carryon is a 2 wheel, so walking from my door to the cab & through the airport has been a little awkward. Going through 6 flights (3 cities with connections) and a bus ride is making me wonder wtf I planned a month ago. I just better sleep on this plane tho. I am taking so much klonopin & flexaril... if that doesn’t work I’ll be one drunk (awake) mess.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | August 21, 2019 8:14 PM |
OP: yes, but then most of the time i go ahead with the plan (even though iIam dreading it) and have a good time, for the reeasons i knew I would when I planned it.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | August 21, 2019 8:18 PM |
I'm glad to know I'm not the only one.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | August 21, 2019 8:39 PM |
Yes. I constantly buy tickets to shows and end up selling them or giving them away. I live in LA and doing anything involving leaving my 'hood just seems awful and time-consuming.
by Anonymous | reply 6 | August 21, 2019 9:53 PM |
So many damn flakes now, so apparently there are a lot of you!
by Anonymous | reply 7 | August 21, 2019 9:55 PM |
Oh god, yes! I love it when someone calls to cancel something!!
by Anonymous | reply 8 | August 21, 2019 11:56 PM |
I finally learned that lesson last year at age 48. Now I NEVER make plans. If I do anything, I decide to do it at the last minute and only if I really want to. Friends accuse me of not making plans because I’m waiting to see if something better comes along.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | August 22, 2019 12:05 AM |
R2 - I’m so very lucky to have “the waspy approach to family” you speak of. We see each other exactly 3 times a year: once for a summer trip, ocne at Thanksgiving, and once at Christmas.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | August 22, 2019 12:08 AM |
The only thing I'll do spontaneously is cancel plans.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | August 22, 2019 12:15 AM |
YES. I am very familiar with this. I've realized that the dread comes from my anxiety of new social situations, and if I ignore the dread, push through and just participate, I'm almost always glad I did.
by Anonymous | reply 12 | August 22, 2019 12:17 AM |
I just don't make plans because I already know that is how I will feel, I am a homebody and I totally embrace that roll for me. I would rather do just about everything by myself, I can come and go when I please, if I want company I can strike up a conversation with a random stranger but most the time I just prefer to be left alone. Thankfully I just don't get lonely so that isn't a problem.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | August 22, 2019 1:04 AM |
I like doing something about once a month. Once you start accepting invitations, it’s a slippery slope and then you’re expected to go to things all the time.
by Anonymous | reply 14 | August 22, 2019 1:19 AM |
I liked doing things when I was in my 20s and 30s. I was hot and sexy and enjoyed being lusted after.....by men AND women. Now that I’m 48 I’m content to stay at home and revel in the memories.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | August 22, 2019 1:22 AM |
Yes. I’ll make plans to visit my family, but as the date approaches, I dread it more and more. It’s two hours away.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | August 22, 2019 1:28 AM |
Yes, I feel almost immediate dread after making plans. I do follow through with plans, though (I don't cancel). Usually, things turn out okay or good.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | August 22, 2019 1:45 AM |
This is my life. I embrace my introversion.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | August 22, 2019 1:49 AM |
[quote]Now I NEVER make plans. If I do anything, I decide to do it at the last minute and only if I really want to.
I’ve gotten more in the habit of doing more things last minute on a whim, and I’m much happier now.
by Anonymous | reply 19 | August 22, 2019 1:53 AM |
The worst is when I agree to do something on a Sunday evening. When the day eventually rolls around, I wonder what I was thinking.
by Anonymous | reply 20 | August 22, 2019 2:38 AM |
Yesterday Ypir invited me to join her gang on the Maryah, sailing Saturday from Bodrum, but I dunno.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | August 22, 2019 2:43 AM |
Doesn't everyone? I thought that's the norm...
by Anonymous | reply 22 | August 22, 2019 3:18 AM |
I’m in the middle age stage mentioned above - avoid making plans at all costs. But that leads to social isolation which is not healthy.
Family events are the ones I dread. Have a large immediate family who are very tight. Try to skip the dozens of birthdays and school events and sports - but still end up having to go to a few each month. Dread the events beforehand - but when they are done, I feel good - connected and part of a family that will support me no matter what happens. And to future generations via nieces and nephews.
by Anonymous | reply 23 | August 22, 2019 4:02 AM |
[quote]r13 I am a homebody and I totally embrace that roll
by Anonymous | reply 24 | August 23, 2019 11:03 PM |