Jealous of Group Facebook Photos of Gay Friends

No.

Here's another photo.

A-list? Those are nasty-looking creatures, OP.

No one in those photos are even remotely good looking OP

They're all insta-blocks

The guy with the blue tank top and his friend with the yellow are negative numbers on a scale of 1 to 10.

Though as I type this I wonder if you might be trolling us?

I fear they all smell like hot dogs and ck1.

R3-They're called BEARS.

The guy in the yellow hat is Jasun Mark, a gay porn photographer and director. He is “friends” with some of his co-workers and they do things like sing along to Britney on the way to Whole Foods. And post the video of them doing it online, of course.

Bottom line: you’re not missing out in much.

So the bear version of the typical white instagram group photo.

Even when it's different it's still generic. Do white gay guys even attempt to make friend with non-white people?

What do you call a bunch of BEARS in a hot tub? BEAR SOUP

Oh, you're still on facebook! sorry for you, OP

No reason to be jealous.

And let's be real

Bear:Fat Hairy Ugly Gay Guy = Pre-Owned Vehicle:Used Car

Marketing

Do they go on Chumley's Gay Cruises?

I see unattractive guys every day when out about town, but unattractive guys never seem to appear in photos among these groups of friends. Do they consciously weed out undesirables?

I'm not into Bears or Muscles. Is there a group for slim guys.

OP, of course you know the mean girls here were going to have something to say about your friends.

I haven't felt that way about very many friends, but there was one guy who I really liked as a friend, and he had literally 500 other friends, so I was never going to get a chance to hang out often with him.

Whoa R16!

Do you really think that the guys in the photo at R14 are what anyone would call "good looking" or even "not ugly"??

R16- How can anyone have 500 friends or even 50 friends. People who claim to have that many friends have NO friends at all. They are clueless to what defines a friend.

I'm sorry, but I only see a bunch of fat-fucks in those pictures.

[quote] but unattractive guys never seem to appear in photos among these groups of friends.

But Blanche those guys are unattractive!

R19 To each his own. I happen to like older hairy muscular masculine guys and would probably find a photo of a group of slender smooth guys with soft, girlish features unattractive.

There are "hairy older muscular masculine" guys who are actually good looking R21

But the fat fucks in those photos ain't them.

And while it may surprise many DLers, the world is not divided up into smooth soft twink and fat ugly old men. Whole lot of blue sky in between.

[quote] I haven't felt that way about very many friends, but there was one guy who I really liked as a friend, and he had literally 500 other friends, so I was never going to get a chance to hang out often with him.

I have the same problem with many guys i want to hang with. Plus, I feel like i have to go to the gym every day to even be noticed.

[quote] I'm sorry, but I only see a bunch of fat-fucks in those pictures.

Completely agree. There is nothing good looking about them. They're disgusting.

R21- The guys may have builds in R2's photo but they are still OBESE.

Example-- that David Pezner guy who is the subject of many DL threads

Checks all of R21s boxes:

Old

Hairy

Muscular

But he's actually a pretty handsome dude.

The guys in those photos are just major double baggers.

Agreed all gross!

None of those guys are obese. Some of them have bellies, but those are hard bellies, not the obese type.

Yes R28, they are "fit fat" or whatever euphemisms you far fucks invent ("football player build" "rugby player build") to avoid the word "obese"

I'm really curious to see what some of the people here who are calling these guys gross look like. Seriously, post your pics so I can see what an attractive guy looks like.

Bears don't really aspire to the A-list moniker within the gay cast systems. They consider themselves there own gay species. Not to be linked with the main stream. However, there is what could be defined as 'pecking order' in the Bear Phylum. But normally Bears disdain what's defined as the variety main stream" A group gays".

How many of them do you think wear a condom? Not one cause fat equals unsafe sex equals low self esteem

We told you R30-- this dude is an attractive hairy old man:

Chrissy would argue the low self esteem assumption.

R33-But he's in too good a shape to be considered a bear.

Why am I thinking that OP, R30 and some others are the actual people in those photos.

Sorry for hating on you ursines, but you all are the ones who wanted us to buy into you being "good looking"

R33 That guy looks to be in his 60s. Much older than anyone in the group photos.

For OP and the rest

R37- That's probably true but he's still more attractive than the guys in those BEAR photos.

[R35] He would be considered a 'muscle' bear within the bear community. There are tons of those, do you EVER go out ?

So OP is a troll.

Asks us to show him a good looking old hairy guy, then says "no, not that one"

On to the next thread. Someone's just looking to troll.

I saw zillions of bears in ptown once. It was bear week. Most of them were NOT hairy yet still considered themselves bears. I noticed most of these non hairy BEARS were obese or heavy set.

I once had sex with a guy who was husky and muscular but he did NOT have a big stomach like the BEARS in the group photo. I guess this guy I had sex with would be considered a muscle bear.

I find this guy really hot. He's also in one of the group photos above.

I know yellow mouse ears guy IRL. He is NOT fat - he lives in LA, where they don’t allow fatties out in public.

He makes porn (behind the lens, and once or twice in front of it).

And I’m sure you prisspots will positively SHRIEK once you learn that he rides a motorcycle too.

Indeed. [R43] Bear 101

R45 Thank you!

[quote] Asks us to show him a good looking old hairy guy, then says "no, not that one"

Wrong. I asked to see a picture of you.

The hetero version of this thread

This is what I imagine most of the bitches complaining about the "obese" guys in the photos to look like.

Ladies and gentlemen, your typical DL'er....

There are also "Otters" within the Bear community. Otters are typically thinner less hairy guys. Otters are totally enveloped within the Bear community but are not exacting of what is the 'Bear" physical descriptive. And I could go on and on but I'm stopping there.

[quote] And I could go on and on but I'm stopping there.

Thank you.

[R50] HA!

JO material for OP and friends

The guy at R50 is quite beautiful but his earrings and shoes are ridiculous.

I would not be seen in public with a group like that.

You wouldn't be asked.

Besides who's good looking and who isn't, OP is feeling left out of groups of friends having fun.

I've been part of groups in photos where it looks like fun is going on but behind the scenes but sometimes a lot of petty backstabbing and gossip is going on. Developing a group of friends you can do fun things with can take a bit of work, but it's not impossible. Here's a place to start.

Wrong Thread, disregard.

I’m sorry OP. I hope you can be happy with yourself, your friends and family someday and not compare yourself to people online.

[quote] Some of them have bellies, but those are hard bellies, not the obese type.

r29 it's "stocky" but lots of obese fat asses choose that word to describe themselves and they're anything of the sort.

'Beefy' is a positive descriptive.

Eldergay here. While I always dated thin guys, I am smiling at these pictures of guys who have found other beefy-types to hang out with and have some group fun. I noticed one group where they had paddles and were maybe making a river run. I don't judge how they look physically, but by the smiles on their faces. They probably know how to have more fun than most of us. That's what counts.

OP why are you choosing such ugly men as an example?

Lots of people are "group dynamic" oriented. They simply cannot function without groupthink and someone else making all the plans and decisions.....others are not. I am not, so although I know tons of people, I rarely get invited to these things. I am friendly, but I am not my best in a big group. If I really want to go, I invite myself, and someone always says, "I can't believe you're here! I thought you'd hate this!"

If you're like me, work harder at being a part of the group and play along more.

Get off of facebook.

These guys are fug. Just a bunch of disgusting, hairy old hoes. God knows what OP looks like if he is jealous of these uglimios.

Unattractive people( although I don't think they are unattractive) are perfectly free and capable to have friends, form bonds, develop support groups and have normal interactive lives. The fact you don't find them attractive, does not limit the amount of life pleasure they're allowed to have. The subject is NOT about, I wouldn't want these friends because I find them unattractive( which says more about you than them). Its about OP feeling left out because he doesn't have the inclusion of a group dynamic. Got it ??

YourMillennialFriend is a trolling cunt.

^^^ I was about to say, Iola. Seven-eight-nine bear-basing posts seems like at least four or five more than necessary.

Give it a rest, MySmugMillennialTwat, or whatever your stupid name is.

^^^ "bear-bashing," of course

My niece posts lovey dovey pictures of her and her fiance (they are lesbians) all the time, just found out her fiance canceled their wedding. So don't be fooled by pictures.

Why would he use the word "Friend" in the first place? Who would want someone like him as a friend?

Who would want or not want who as a friend ??

r75 YourMillennialHorsesAss

YourMillennialCunt

YourMillennialFiend

YourMillennialAssDropping

YourMillennialDouchebag

YourMillennialMeanGirl

Gotcha!

I love the use of the term “A-list gays” as if we’re in high school. What metric does an “A-list” rating constitute? A speedo clad group of hot instahos? What does it matter? Maybe it’s just me, but as a grown up in a grown up world, my friends and the people in my life are the only things that matter to me. And as someone with a decent social media presence, I can honestly say it’s completely irrelevant. Getting hundreds of likes on your pics from absolute strangers or having 5000 Facebook friends is meaningless. At the end of the day, nobody outside your world cares or gives a shit how hot you are, how hot your friends are, or what you’re doing. We’ve been conditioned in an age of social media to reflexively crave affirmation for broadcasting our lives, but in the end.... nobody cares. Just go out and enjoy your lives. Your “popularity” is irrelevant.

What [R83] said.

yourmillenialprolapsedass

Yellow ears guy from OP’s pic

Great group shot of the guys. Again, almost all of them are attractive. No skinny, pale, hairless, girlish men allowed.

I'm sure any of you judgmental sourpuss girls would be drooling to get in on the fun with these guys.

[R87] I'm picturing them in my mind all dress up and going to work. It helps

[R88] Now THESE guys are fine just the way they are ! RRRAAAAAWWR!

I’m not attracted to any of them they’re all gross! Too much sweat and hair and nastiness. Too much hyper masculinity and fake bullshit.

Isn’t that Jesse Jackman in the video at r88?

[quote]#hairybear:

[quote]#instabear:

I think we need a new term in the gay male zoological taxonomy--Platypus. What would that be--an otter with a big nose?

BTW, a septum ring is an immediate turn-off. It makes the guy look more like an ox, triggering memories of enslavement (we no longer say slaves). It wounds. I had a deviated septum and had to have surgery--the most painful recovery I ever experienced.

They look like a bunch of contractors at a Home Depot convention. But I know what you mean, OP. I get that insecure little pang in my gut when confronted with SM highjinks . It’s human nature! Why don’t you get a group of your own together for some frolicsome photos? And share the results here! Be nice to YMF, he’s a helper!

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I relate to the feeling. I've never part of a friend group of gay guys and long for that. Imagine the fun the Porn Group has!

R92 I think so

I'm beginning to think Your Millenial Cunt, and possibly other signed posters are fake personas someone at Mediapolis injects all over this forum to amp up the bitch factor and stir the witch's cauldron of animosity. They always pick threads they have no interest in and just try to best everyone.

Give them a break, R100. They get bored, changing their disabled mom's Depends and having only the guy at the gas station to talk to, when they buy her carton of cigarettes. Trolling DL is probably the highlight of their sad, useless day.

I like bear as long as they're fit and young, these dudes are all balding with pot belly and they look like they smell.

Hard pass. All that stringy hair around your mouth that contains food and who knows what else. When I see beards or dreads or big belly's I automatically think, lazy and hygienically challenged. Next.

Severe gayface seems to be part and parcel of "beardom."

Plus none of these men are remotely masc, I know these types, they look masc until they open their mouths or start talking about Lady Gaga or RuPaul's drag race. It's the most terrifying thing ever, a 6 foot 200 pounds hairy old dude talking with an effeminate voice about drag queens.

I can’t imagine that any those guys are having a good time. They all have to be a wreck because of all the underlying sexual tensions between the bears.

Fat fucks are always in the local gay mens chorus, have you ever noticed that?

Bad link R86.

Humph. Funny. They don't realize this is actually the training ground for millennial gays. Ya'all learnin' how to be OLD BITCHY QUEENS! This is where it starts. Welcome to the DARK SIDE, gurls!!!!!!

Those guys in the photos all look like they're having a good time. It seems to me that a lot of people here are feeling jealous and left out too judging by the bitchy comments on their looks.

[quote] They look like a bunch of contractors at a Home Depot convention.

Quite.

The guys at R87 all look like Trump voters.

[quote] Platypus. What would that be--an otter with a big nose?

Even I wouldn't take free liquor or bum a cigarette from these fat, useless prolapsed stomachs, and I'm a fucking, three-sheets-to-the-wind alcoholic. They're just fat fucks at their best.

Bears are the biggest drag queens of all.

These are just LA circuit bears, OP. Don't be sad because you're not among their ranks, they only do things for approval on social media.

The bear hate on this thread is WILD!

[quote] The bear hate on this thread is WILD!

It's not hatred; it's contempt.

Oh, I don't see how anyone could be below you R116.

I know a few of the guys in R2's pic. They are caricatures of gay. Hyper-promiscuous, aggressively sexual, obsessed with appearances (regardless how "rugged" they try to look).

These bears love to shit on gay men for having cliques or body shaming but then turn around and do even worse.

If you think Pevsner or whatever his name is looks better than these guys you have serious vision problems.

[quote]male zoological taxonomy

I hate being lumped into this by virtue of being gay.

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Oh the homogeneousity!!

I love bears. Would fuck most of the guys in R2's pic.

Anyone can take a picture. They look to be the type that need to be part of a group. Trust me, there is a lot of asshole behavior among them - and partners who are there because the other wants to be there.

And there are some in this group that no one likes and they are hanger-ons.

This is the case of any group of 8 or more. There's no way everyone is that friendly or wants to be there.

The guy in the ears is Jasun Mark he used to direct and shoot videos for Titan and before that Jake Cruz, he even appeared in a couple of scenes but I've never found them anywhere.

I just see clogged and broken toilets when I see a group like that. Not in my toilet, bears!

And A gays is only useful for me if they're the first in the ovens this time around.(you know it's coming!)

OP My friend, there are no A-List bears. There are no A-Listers on FaceBook.

Remember what Jackie Beat says about them: "Bear sounds better than 'I Give Up' ".

Who even uses facebook in 2019 ?

Plenty of people are still on Facebook for keeping up with family and long distance friends. IG is nothing but staged and heavily filtered pictures of mental midgets who live and die by social media 'likes'. Yawn.

r130 Oh I see, thanks for letting us know grandpa.

I think OP was pointing out that most people seem to have found a clique to hang with. But others are destined to never find 'The We of Me'.

Nice! [R132] A Carson McCullers reference thrown in with the show off bears.

I have zero interest in all the heart problems and incipient diabetes amongst OP’s “friends.” Grotesque.

Wow, what's up with the bear hating over here? You may criticize the fact that all those pics on IG are staged, that those groups/cliques are not what they seem to be... But why go after those guys because they're big?

Because they’re big.

It's safe to say YourMilennialfriend is a ken doll type of gay with fake veneers that glow in the dark as he swishes his way into a martini pretending to be masculine while the whole world laughs at him behind his back.

[quote] I have zero interest in all the heart problems and incipient diabetes amongst OP’s “friends.” Grotesque.

Actually, you're wrong. These guys work out obsessively. They aren't just a bunch of fat fucks who sit around eating fried foods. Yeah, some of them may have big bellies, but there is a big difference between being big/muscular and being flabby/obese. This is a look a lot of people are turned on by and these guys work hard to look this way.

[quote] I think OP was pointing out that most people seem to have found a clique to hang with. But others are destined to never find 'The We of Me'.

That's pretty much it. It could be any group of guys, but since I am friends with 1 or 2 of these particulars on social media these are the photo I see. Not to mention the fact that everyone in these type of shots are attractive (in my opinion). You don't see guys over a certain age or with an unimpressive or scrawny body. It just leads me to wonder how spontaneous or casual these photos really are.

[quote] Would fuck most of the guys in [R2]'s pic.

I would too.

OP, I can be envious sometimes too, but then I remember: what you are seeing on facebook isn't the whole story. People who constantly post pictures of themselves with their friends or their spouses all the time, proclaiming how happy they are ALL the damn time aren't nearly as happy or stable as they are trying to portray themselves. Not at all. Many of these "hot, type A personality" cliques of gays probably have a lot of bickering, backstabbing, drug use, inability to hold a relationship, etc. I have found this to be true a lot of the time. Don't be jealous, be glad you aren't like them.

And the people commenting above me are correct--none of the people on those pics are attractive. They are all fat and ugly.

Well maybe they're A list in their weight watchers group, but in the gay world, oh hell no.

[quote] And the people commenting above me are correct--none of the people on those pics are attractive. They are all fat and ugly.

That's your opinion. I probably wouldn't care for the type of guys you might find attractive, and I have a good inkling that you're some hairless, scrawny, white guy who I might consider ugly.

Some of them appear to be heavy with child.

R144, I'm south Asian and not scrawny. Good effort though.

It seems a large percentage of Facebook addicts are just very needy people. They need to let everyone know every move they make. That's about as needy as one can get.

What R144 said. And if the guy is "south Asian" then he's probably scrawny.

[quote] And if the guy is "south Asian" then he's probably scrawny.

It definitely explains a lot of the self-loathing that would take one to criticize others. Asians are usually considered unsexy and unmasculine by gay community standards, just like the bears in the photo above might be considered "fat and ugly."

I thought south asia was India. Most indian men are pretty small

So much FUG on this thread.

Cmon buddy why all the hate buddy we’re just being ourselves buddy.

Girls girls c'mon now don't argue.... you're both hideous and unfuckable.

I know the dude in yellow ears. He has a very high opinion of himself and tiny feet.

These guys are just gross. No if and or buts about it. They fuck each other because they are chubby chasers.

[Quote]What do you call a bunch of BEARS in a hot tub?

Syphillitic..

Yellow ears is surprisingly confident porn actor Jasun Mark, no? His crew is full of sex workers, OP. You don't want to be a part of that life.

Who on Gods green earth would want to watch any of them have gay sex?

Fat stink

[quote] These guys are just gross. No if and or buts about it.

Correct.

Bill Maher just did a bit on this week's show about how everyone is so jealous of what they see on FB, Instagram, etc.

I've always thought Jasun was cute which is why I'd really like to find those two scenes he did but he hangs out with some seriously nasty porn guys a lot who are named on the Depressing Porn Stars thread.

Here you go R162

Thanks, R163!

I winder how many of them practice safe sex? Lol um zero.

Why practice safe sex if you already have all of the diseases you could get?

I saw this guy interview Marcus Mojo once-- It was pretty funny (unintentionally funny) Marcus had just finished a scene. He;s naked and still hard. Jason introduces himself and then says, "Wow, you must be pretty amazed that you're now a porn star, considering how small your dick is!" The reaction from Marcus was shock and embarrassment and a guy trying to deflect attention from his small penis which just lost all it's blood supply. It was cringe inducing. I'm not sure jasun was aware of how insulting that was, because he uploaded the video for public consumption.

I subscribe to Jasun's YouTube channel and he used to do videos where he talked about the business and how it worked but now he rarely posts anything there and when he does it's only short clips.

R87-In your photo some of them look like a GAY version of Hells Angels.

Ugh. It's like when lesbians all show-up with short haircuts, earrings and Bermuda shorts: clones. Some kind of weird narcissism to want to socialize with just mirror images of yourself.

I never did join FB, but I know the envy and the stalking of exes' pages to be a time consuming thing. I don't think social media is healthy for this sort. Just looking at pictures of people doesn't provoke any strong feelings in me either way, unless it's really good porn. These bears don't bother me a bit, and they do look like a fun loving bunch. OP spend more time working your FB connections to get an invite to these outings rather than allowing yourself to feel jealous and resentful. Sorry if you feel lonely, but gain your solace in the fact you are not alone!

Sadly the videos featuring Jasun at R163 were just clips.

So Google Jasun Mark and whichever scene partner he was with and find it yourself. It's not rocket science.

I tried R174 and all I've found are preview clips or videos that don't play.

R166, Jasun is (or at least was at one time) vociferously pro-condom. I stopped following him years ago, so maybe he’s switched, like his friends Jesse Jackman and Dirk Caber.

R161 I found the Bill Maher clip. Interesting. The mention of social media photos begins at the 3:20 mark

Ok - so we all agree - the pics in OPs posts are from a guy who does porn and most of the guys with him aren't actually friends, but other people in the sex industry and they are there for some sort of shoot or event.

Right?

What strikes me most about glamor bears (my own personal term for type in r2’s photo) is how they ONLY EVER associate with men who are precisely like them in every way: white, prosperous, aged 30-50, bald or with buzz cut hair, with big muscles, full beards, and lots of (but not too much) chest hair - and NO ugly shoulder or back hair.

Even the slightest deviation from any of these norms is enough to get someone kicked out of the Plastics.

Fact that he calls himself Jasun gimmir a fucking break.

Jasun’s from New Brunswick (the one in Canada) where they apparently have some odd ideas about baby names.

Whenever I try to meet guys on apps, the bear types are the LEAST interested in me. It's usually slim guys who keep hitting me up, and I have no interest. I want to have sex with someone with meat on his bones, not a praying mantis.

So, I find all the making fun of bears, calling them unattractive etc, so odd.

Whether one finds them attractive or not, the fact that bears are so cliquish is fair game.

[quote] So, I find all the making fun of bears, calling them unattractive etc, so odd.

I’m just the opposite of you. I want someone with no meat on their bones.

R184 i hate big fat fingers..they gross me out on bears..big gross sausages

I love big fat fingers, they're so masculine. I don't want someone with piano-playing fingers (long and thin).

[quote]i hate big fat fingers..they gross me out on bears..big gross sausages

I hear you, the last thing I want when I'm having sex with a guy is anything that reminds me of big fat sausages. 🙄

R179 I must admit, I really dig the shoulder, back and neck hair. I especially find it thrilling and compelling when it sprouts up above a collar. Basically I like a gorilla type I suppose. I don't really think there can be too much hair. I should have prefaced that statement with body... nose and ear hair needs a trim regularly!

R175 Jasun and his boyfriend Carlo are in one post the rest of the guys outdoors (except for the one with Jasun and friends) that you said look like Home Depot workers are not connected to Jason or the porn industry.

R186 I do, too. Wes (also seen in the group shots above) has the most masculine hands.

Wes is dreamy but soooo dumb.

Wes is cute, the wife-beater & tattoos are tragic.

R185 / R186 - “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.”

Has anyone here ever had sex with Jasun Mark?

He used to post photos of him making out with other guys but other than those two porn scenes he seems pretty tame in comparison to his friends.

They all smell terribly, or did I mention that already?

Everybody has their own taste. I'm kind of a big tall guy, but not that flabby as I work out at least four times week. Kinda hairy chest, but not particularly on legs or arms. I'm really surprised at some of the people who approach me. It really gives lie to the old canard that similar types attract each other.

Bears and twinks are the same, they all only date each other and hang around similar people, the only difference is at least twinks are honest about what they like while bears will pretend to be holier than thou and more open minded when in reality they're worse than high school mean girls with their cliques.

I love it when you bitches turn your self-loathing outwards!

Jasun has really tiny feet. That's his foot on the right.

Bear A is normal C.

Wes briefly tended bar in Denver and since I was friends with his then-boyfriend I got to know him somewhat. He was in better shape then, probably at his peak, but just about impossible to have a conversation with that wasn't about him.

R202 Like so many of these muscle bears, his entire Instagram and Facebook feeds are full of pictures of himself which makes the aging process more noticeable. I don't know if he takes some sort of steroid or drinks too much, but he definitely looks more bloated than he did five years ago.

I've reached an age where I no longer feel the need to identify as part of a larger group. Whenever I see pictures of gay clones gathered together for a photo-op, I have to wonder whether or not those people are truly friends or just happen to be at the same event at the same time and barely know each other. I think this need stems from hurt that accompanies the younger years when we all feel like outsiders or misfits. We so desperately want to 'belong' when we are 20-something. Some outgrow this need, some don't.

Now that I'm 50 something, I'm at my happiest when it's just my husband and I. We don't need a third to spice things up. We don't need to have a whole gaggle of friends who look just like us or have the same orientation. I much prefer a small dinner party to a big, chaotic celebration. The clean-up is much easier, too.

Millennial here that doesn't have a stick up his ass. Why is it so hard for some to realize that some guys are attracted to bears like those in the OP? I'm not into it, but there are guys, including millennials and Gen-Z, that love that shit. I've got two friends (both fit, not fat) that go wild for such guys. Do I get the attraction? Fuck no, but bears have been a thing long enough in the gay community that you would think people would know that some gays drool over large, hairy men.

[Quote] I've reached an age where I no longer feel the need to identify as part of a larger group.

I'm the same. I find group gatherings Insufferable.

Jealous...