I just got back from a weekend away, no food in the fridge, laundry to do, etc. So I tell him ‘no thanks I have to run errands and explain the above’. No reply to my explanation. Later I tell him I will be caught up soon and I get a note that he doesn’t want to now because he felt rejected. Wtf. If you seek drama and feel it’s ok to play the victim card at every turn you will be forever alone. Should I just have lied or strung him along with a maybe? Do I not get a break to take care of my shit? Is everyone this goddam sensitive? Would you rather I make up some bullshit reason why I’m busy at the moment?
So this guy I know asks me if I want to hang out.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | July 22, 2019 3:09 PM |
Maybe he was turned off by your beginning sentences with "So" and had second thoughts.
by Anonymous | reply 1 | July 22, 2019 12:00 AM |
It depends. How big is his dick?
by Anonymous | reply 2 | July 22, 2019 12:00 AM |
I think you need to make-up by giving him one of those half-a-heart necklaces and vowing your friendship forever and never turning him down on anything again.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | July 22, 2019 12:02 AM |
You have a life, too, buddy.
Too many people in general, and gay men in particular, act as if I’m supposed to drop whatever I’m doing, and be available at their whim.
If he was really interested in you, he’d have understood.
Because he acted miffed, you can tell he’s just another superficial flake.
by Anonymous | reply 4 | July 22, 2019 12:10 AM |
Sometimes it’s better not to explain in detail and just to say “I can’t tonight but I’d love to catch up Tuesday if you’re free.”
That being said, I once had a guy I was really into ask me out to the movies, but when I said I couldn’t make it to the showing in twenty minutes, he yelled at me and then never asked me again. Some people are weird.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | July 22, 2019 12:16 AM |
Is he bigger than you?
by Anonymous | reply 6 | July 22, 2019 12:19 AM |
No, not tonight I have some things I have to BUT CAN I CALL YOU LATER would have been appropriate.
by Anonymous | reply 7 | July 22, 2019 12:55 AM |
I'm sorry, Miss, but I have troubles of my own.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | July 22, 2019 1:03 AM |
As said already, it is more polite to just postpone, so you don't sound like a rude bitch.
by Anonymous | reply 9 | July 22, 2019 1:03 AM |
Oh, dear. When a fat fag prefers food to a man. OP comes off like a voracious bitchy fag here.
by Anonymous | reply 10 | July 22, 2019 1:10 AM |
He’s had sufficient.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | July 22, 2019 5:41 AM |
He has you down as a potential 'last minute loser' friend; you would be expected to be available when other people bail or he's otherwise at an unplanned loose end. You failed his test and count yourself lucky - you would be expected to be at his beck and call, in return for nothing but the gift of his company whenever it suited him (but never you).
by Anonymous | reply 12 | July 22, 2019 1:28 PM |
With the gays, if you can't drop everything and go hang out when they want, it must mean you're fucking someone else.
But seriously, if all you said was "no thanks I have to run errands" that does sound a bit dismissive. Something like "I can't right now, sorry, how about later tonight or tomorrow" (or whatever works) let's him know you're interested just unable to do what he wants there and then.
by Anonymous | reply 13 | July 22, 2019 1:36 PM |
If someone played me like the guy OP described, that would be the last time we got together. End of story.
by Anonymous | reply 14 | July 22, 2019 2:10 PM |
[quote]Later I tell him I will be caught up soon and I get a note that he doesn’t want to now because he felt rejected.
Your friend is a whiny bitch. He didn't just "feel rejected" he had to be rude enough to vocalize his feelings in this context. He's an idiot, OP.
by Anonymous | reply 15 | July 22, 2019 2:14 PM |
OPs guy sounds like a girl with pmt.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | July 22, 2019 3:09 PM |