Aging Sucks - What Do You Hate About Getting Older?

No sun, easy on the booze, stay thin. Apart from procedures that’s about all you can do.

Just be happy.

Get really hydrated! Laugh a lot

It was sort of a badge of honor having sports injuries in my young days. Now, I'm paying for it with stiff and painful knee, shoulder and back. And I'm only in my 40's. I'm also at least 50% less limber than I used to be. Touch my toes? I'm lucky if I can reach my knees.

Collagen, gelatin and no sun, yes.

Exercise to keep the bones from becoming brittle, yes.

Fish oil I've noticed eliminated creakiness in my joints. My spouse doesn't take fish oil, he creaks.

Black beans in the diet, I am told, help slow the hair greying, but personally I love grey hair on men.

What I hate is how wheezy men become in their late 40s, early 50s. Their breathing is audible from a foot away, as if their lung cilia are pressed to their limits.

Sleep and don’t get too thin

Wrinkles are NOT handsome, OP. Never will be.

Sleep and lots of exercise are the only treatments. Oh and lots of sex. That helps a lot.

Collagen really does help. I've been taking it for about a month now, and I can already see a difference in my hair and skin. Expensive for the good stuff, but worth it.

The constant pain literally every minute of the day, even when asleep. Constantly waking up during the night because of the pain, having to reposition. Arthritis is a misery I don't wish on anyone. The day before a rain event is the worst because of the change in barometric pressure. Then on the rain day things get a bit easier. It's like the humidity in the aid lubricates the joints.

R5 that isn’t typical for men in their 40s/50s.

I've read that Brendan Fraser has gone on record saying that he HATED getting into that kind of shape for "George of the Jungle" and never wanted to be in that kind of shape again.

he also went through a hard period for about ten years when he was going through a horrible divorce and was really depressed. I am sorry he is not as beautiful he once was, but I am glad he made it through and is getting decent acting work again. He is a good actor, and from what I've heard form one of his former theater directors, he never wanted to be a movie star in the first place--he just wanted to be a character actor, and was astonished when he started getting action hero leads.

Right now, I'd say what I hate most about it is having more and more years to look back on and see how many mistakes I made that shaped my life.

Know that feeling r10. It’s pretty awful.

Arthritis

Diabeetus

R12, that and he was molested.

Back hair.

Fraser chose to let himself go.

He didn't have to do that. But I wonder if the sexual assault against him encouraged him to throw in the towel.

I try not to dwell on it: do whatever you like in moderation.

Middle age spread.

Masturbation helps a lot

Fraser was my first crush and helped me realize I was gay.

Because of that I'd still happily do him

How did he help you realize you were gay? Did you know him personally?

I focus on regular exercise, using my mind (reading is great), and socialization- that is to say- get out among friends and family. My weight has been the same all my life because regular exercise and good eating habits come easily. I am still working and I love to read. As for losing looks- I can deal with that most of the time. I have a hard time with all the medical monitoring and care that is necessary (skin, eyes, colon, and yearly physical). The medical care reminds me I that my odds are diminishing and my time is short(er). It's incredibly sobering and often causes anxiety. I'm 65.

Co enzyme q10

the loss of strength and energy is the worst for me, falling asleep all the time and my bladder isn't what it used to be.

R23 the earliest sexual feelings I can remember were from George of the Jungle and the Mummy. I assumed I liked girls before that, just because I thought everyone did.

Why does your colon require "care," r24?

I read that Fraser hurt his back really badly, doing action movie stunts and needed the money those types of movies made him, so he kept making them and made his back injury worse. Then, his back issue was so bad, he wasn't able to exercise plus he had a bad divorce and (if I'm remembering correctly) was left we with three kids, one of them autistic.

I'm glad he's working so much again, too, R12. He's great in the Doom Patrol!

Moderation. Too much exercise is not good. Stair master not running. Yoga not lifting. The 50-somethings who are in the most pain are those who overdid the running and have blown out knees or damaged their back from too much weightlifting.

And stop trying to fight aging. Just do things that are good for you. The joy of aging is losing vanity and the competitive streak. Never been happier.

trying to keep my weight down. Eating the same way I used to packs on lbs.

Inner peace is much more satisfying than the insecurities of youth, even if you are blessed with a magnificent body. Exercise naturally through bike riding or hiking, minimal weights, and eat a balanced diet. Treat yourself, but don't over indulge.

What’s so sad is these young girls and even some guys in their 20s are doing Botox to prevent wrinkles but they don’t realize it causes wrinkles and makes them look waxy they shouldn’t be worrying about aging at their age

I I think it’s not Brendan’s fault he got the bald genes. But yeah, his fault not managing his weight. A little lower facelift or lipo in his jaw/neck might help a lot. And also a bit of eye lift

Settling down and having someone to grow old with you is the best way to help the process.

R33. I thought early Botox is preventative for wrinkles. The idea being if you cannot wrinkle your eyes when you are young, you won’t get wrinkles later.

No, r35, hell is other people.

Whatever you do, for the love of God, if you are a man, do not get an eye job. It robs you of your personality and makes you look like Kenny Rogers or Wayne Newton. Do not do the dark hair dye that turns your hair red under the lights.

If you are a woman, do not get fillers, collagen lips, too much Botox, brow lift, eye job that robs you of hooded eyes, or a half facelift that gives you the Joker grin. Just get the old fashioned facelift

Just adding to the Brendan love. The weight, it's hard to keep the weight off

It’s not hard to keep the weight off so long as you restrict calories and stay away from junk food most days.

Has anyone tried Cool Sculpting?

It seems like anyone aging woman who tries the methods out there, end up looking the freaks on Beverly Hills Housewives. The men end up fat and square and/or they all look like Princess Diana's jowly brother.

Examples: Robbie Robertson, Dave Wakling, Robert Wagner, Don Johnson.

Is it a factor of age, weight or alcohol consumption?

There's a very easy solution to all of this; start eating and using avocado on your face and body frequently. Eat a lot of nuts, blueberries, pomegranate, watermelon. All of these things are very efficient for anti-aging.

Brendan Fraser IS Peter Lorre!

You should only eat half what you ate when you were half the age you are now.

If you are 40, you should eat half what you ate when you were 20, for example.

R10-How old are you? Sometimes joint pain can be related to food allergies or intolerances.

Yeah I’m in my 30’s and it was hard coming to grips with the fact that I couldn’t eat as much as I used to. Just have to keep your protein up, and keep hitting the weights. But eventually it was like my stomach shrank and I couldn’t eat that much even when I really tried to (like on a cheat day).

R38 u bitch!

R28, colonoscopies after age 50 every five years for colorectal cancer screening; PSA every year for prostate cancer; dermatologist every 6 months for skin cancer; ophthalmologist every 6 months (cataract, macula screening etc); yearly internist for cardiovascular screening etc. And this you do at age 65 when you are healthy- if you are lucky enough to have adequate insurance and/or to afford it. Then there is the dentist..., many of my friends have knee, hip and shoulder problems (I have had some knee)- my life is about doctor appointments and I'm healthy. The depressing part is that you know you are fighting a losing battle as you age. Growing old is not for sissies. But the alternative?

You can eat just as much at 65 as you did at 25. You just have to change the types of foods you eat. You need to get away from red meats, cut down on white meats, and eat fish that are good for you. Also remove processed & convenience foods from your diet. You can increase your consumption of healthily prepared vegetables and fruits to take up for the reduction of the junk you used to be able to eat.

R38 I had upper and lower eye lift surgery years ago and I think its the best investment I ever made. Men look strange when they have multiple eye lift surgeries. You have to know when to stop.

I agree with R50.

Chronic pain

I don't mind getting older...but the guys I want to have sex with sure do! :(

We are all going to get old, wrinkly and will die, no matter what we do.

None of us gets out of this alive; enjoy it hike it lasts.

I started dialing back on food portions when I was in my mid-30's. I ate enormous amounts of food up to then and still managed to stay thin. Well, another decade and I think...know I have reached another plateau and will have cut my portions further as all my pants are getting super tight. It's get a new wardrobe or cut back on the calories.

[quote]What Do You Hate About Getting Older?

I've had back surgery 20 years due to a herniated disk. It's starting to bother me and takes a few hours when I get up in the morning before the pain goes away. Also, have arthritis in both knees because of running 5K races when I was younger.

High astigmatism in both eyes. Anything over 3 diopters is considered extreme and I have close to 8. Didn't realize astigmatism can get worse as you age.

Finally, losing my hair. I've got an ugly shaped head that looks better with a hat on it.

I hate everything about getting older, especially being called sir...........

There isnt much you can really do to fight it off. My advise is gets plenty of sleep, never drink alcohol, dont smoke, dont ever do any recreational drugs, stay out of the son, hit the gym hard several times a week and eat very very lightly and no meat or dairy.

All of the above is almost impossible to follow, but gaining a lot of weight and boozing are the 2 biggest things I see older gay men doing.

I'm HURTIN! When people keep mentioning how attractive FRASER was I kept thinking of FRASIER. How can DL HOMOS think HE was SO attractive.

If this thread was an episode of Friends it would be called

The One Where The Delusional Eldergays Post All the Quackery That They Delude Themselves Into Thinking Makes Them Look Ten Years Younger

Featuring:

*Limited Sunshine

*Limited Booze

* Collagen treatments

* Botox

* Hair dye

* $400 skin "serums"

* Diet tips from the 1970s!

* The word "fit-fat"

R59-LOL- a lot of DL people are giving advice from ca. 1977. The one about staying out of the sun. I see that on so many different threads it must be the same queen giving that suggestion.

I agree r60z. Some old fossil.

Gravity

"I'm fit-fat" = I am 50 lbs overweight but I go to the gym and jump on the elliptical trainer for 20 minutes three times a week.

r60 What is "now" advice v. 1977 advice?

past 65 u may as well cut ur throat

its bad, joint aches and depression like mad

im goin out on whickey vicodins and reefer.

enjoy ur life, old sux

I’m 82. Fuck off!

The gray hair, the right leg that has issues due to a very small curvature of my spine from scoliosis which I suspect is genetic. My father had serious back problems and similar symptoms when he was my current age.

As we speak the arthritis in my knee and hip have pretty much incapacitated me for days now.Its only tolerable if I eat handfuls of loritabs,but who wants to turn into a pain pill junkie ? So I smoke weed,and keep my heating pad on high.The only thing that keeps me from pullingthe plugis it usually passes after a few days. Losuing looks I can deal with,constant pain is another thing entirely.

I enjoy farting all day long!

My ears are sagging so bad they almost reach my waist.

ear hair

My pussy is all dried up. Seriously, sex is out of the question.

About getting older: it's so easy to crack through "stranger freeze" by asking a 45+ person what supplements s/he's taking.

CHF managed by an implanted bi-ventricular pacemaker-defibrillator, idiopathic anaphylaxis, ulcerative colitis, diabetes mellitus, cervical arthritis, cataract implants, insomnia, and anxiety. You'd be nervous, too.

But I'm an optimist with good docs and good insurance, so I'm not going anywhere soon.

R68-How old are you?

Mindfulness for best life

R60 Except the Sun produces damaging UV rays. Why do you think melanoma is a thing?

My secret to staying young is to massage my prostate every night.

Im 58, R75. I spent most of my life working on my feet.

There's a barber in upstate New York who's been a barber for 96 years! He's 107 years old and still works full time as a barber and is on his feet all day. He lives alone and drives his car to work. I believe all that. He says he has NO aches or pains. That's hard to believe at 107 years old.

I'm an extremist an a perfectionist, so I'm doing the opposite of what everyone else here suggests. Once I started losing my looks (the worst thing about aging for me, but then the aches aren't that bad yet), I eliminated sex from my life and completely let myself go. Now I focus on hobbies that aren't age-dependent while indulging in everything I'd denied myself for years: not exercising, eating like a pig, and spending all my free time in bed. Terrible for my health, no doubt, but I have no interest in sticking around now that the best things in life are behind me.

Sucking the juices of 18 yr old boys keeps me young

Mediation

[quote] The one about staying out of the sun. I see that on so many different threads it must be the same queen giving that suggestion.

I believe that queen was "The New England Journal of Medicine" which released a picture of a trucker who spent 28 years driving with one side of his face next to the window and the sun and the other not.

Becoming (figuratively) invisible

Sometimes I wonder if it's literally figurative, r85.

R80, that barber is now 108.

Being so blasé and cynic. Few new things excite me and I often feel "been there, done that, don't wish to try it again" or "oh, I saw the same shit 20 years ago". Now I just prefer things that I know for sure that I like. It's nice to know what I like but I miss the excitement that I got from pretty much anything new 20 years ago.

Also cynic. I expect people to behave appallingly and they rarely let me down.

[quote]Being so blasé and cynic.

cynicAL

[quote]Also cynic.

cynicAL

Cialis and low hangers

Gravity, everything heads south and stops at your waist.

r91 “Time is a thief, and gravity a vandal”

Thank you R89, English is not my native language.

You're welcome, r93. "Cynic" is the noun, "cynical" the adjective.

I don't really mind growing old and losing my looks, and I was good looking when I was young. It's the way nothing in my life went as expected or as planned that bothers me. My life looks vastly different from how I imagined it would, and not in a good way. If my life had gone even halfway how I planned and expected it to, I'd be content with getting old.

I had a dream early this morning that I was finishing up an evening computer class I was talking and I was sitting at the computer and the instructor was helping with someone and then someone put their hand down the back of my pants and was feeling my ass. I didn't really mind it in the dream and I wish someone would feel me up in real life.

Sunscreen is the only chance for white people to avoid photodamage idiot at r60, and no one intelligent want aging advices from young people, why would you?

I had a dream last night that I was giving my personal trainer oral sex. When I woke up I was on my knees, sucking my bedroom door knob!

Blood infusion from young people.

Once I cut out everything in my life that was dragging me down, I felt like a new person.

Hoping to give some hope to younger guys. I'm 62 and, so far at least, experience none of the aches and pains catalogued in this thread. But I'm at the same weight - under 170 (at about 6 feet) - I've carried since my twenties, and have eschewed drinking, smoking and drugs.

R101 In3 years you will step off the metaphorical cliff and it will al happen.

I was REALLY sick throughout my 30s and hoenstly thought I was probably going to die. I will be 41 in a week and I am healthier now than I was then, and I have come to terms, mostly, with aging because I am grateful for it.

Don’t get me wrong. It is jarring to see my photos and reflection show someone I am not used to seeing and an older person I never imagined myself to be. It’s just strange.

But on the other hand, I feel like I am the only person with this philosophy: We look entirely different from age one to age 10. We look entirely different from age 10 to age 20. And yet somehow we have this really goofy notion today that people are failures or less than ideal human beings when we look older than 30. And so people modify and mutilate themselves to try to look 30 at ages 40, 50, 60. To me, that’s a form of societal mental illness and it makes me imagine a 20 year old being appalled she looks so strange with her bumpy chest and her adult features paying several hundred thousand dollars to mutilate her so that she sort of resembles her “true self” at age 10. It makes no sense at all. It’s like a frog cutting off all its legs to try to be a tadpole again, or a butterfly picking off its wings in embarrassment. We get older every decade. It’s the way it goes. Aside from the whole fertility/reproductive instinct—which of course is hugely influential in how we go through life—it’s just completely insane to think that we should look 25 or 30 when we are 45 or 50. And yet it’s the norm.

If you’re chasing that rainbow, just realize you’re going to eventually fall into a well and drown along with all your sorrows. Our culture thinks aging is supposed to stop around 30 or 35, but aging keeps on going through the end of life with no interruptions. We are all living in a deranged collective denial.

Seeing my reflection in a store window and seeing how old I've become.

Farting during jumping jacks

Maybe so, R192, but I've heard variations of this admonition for years now.

As someone mentioned up thread, mentally we still think we are young because really in our minds, age is nothing but a number. but then we got our physical body reminding us otherwise. And of course our faces. Still quite unnerving sometimes to see the person staring back at you in the mirror is the same person you mentally pictured yourself.

It’s quite the phenomenon, R107, given that we are always surrounded with a roughly similar share of people over 40-45 as under—yet on an individual level, so many of us have such difficulty accepting aging over “sexual prime.”

It also strikes me sometimes that there are well-known people—most presidential candidates, for example, or Judi Dench or Helen Mirren or any grandparent—who we only know in their elder incarnations. They were young once, of course, but those younger versions mostly don’t exist in our consciousnesses, contrasted with all the young starlets whom we only know in their young forms and are alarmed to watch get older. When we first meet someone as an older person, there is nothing at all unusual or alarming about what they look like; it’s simply what they look like.

r102-Meanwhile that Barber in upstate new york who is 108 years old say he has NO ACHES AND PAINS.

R109 He may be blessed with a pain/neurologival “disorder.” Some people don’t feel pain or even anxiety the way others do because of their wiring.

I've been working out with light weights religiously since my twenties and every now and then (honestly, less now than in the past) since then have experienced back injuries that would keep me sidelined for a couple of days. A few months ago, I had another flare-up, but my recovery time was longer, about a week. So I recognize that's a function of aging. But other than that I don't feel any differently than I did in my twenties.

r111- How old are you?

Still 62, R112.

Knowing that once you pass 40, you can't always count on a fart being just a fart.

Looking at the handful (OK, plate full) of pills you take each morning and night knowing every one of them is needed to supplement or counteract something your body used to do just fine by itself.

Being offered a seat on the bus.

Getting nowhere with the cutie who handles the money and memberships at my gym. He's not the brightest light in the sky but he has an amazing ass and he's so chatty - borderline flirtatious - whenever he sees me. He grew up in my hometown (but 30 years later) so we have something in common, he knows my phone number, and he never calls. He's a big tease but that's it, probably because I remind him too much of his father.

Hair is half grey and am tired of dying it but hate this inbetween stage

[quote]am tired of dying

So stop.

Besides all the physical ailments I suffer through every second of the day I'm reminded several times a week when I open the mailbox to letters from companies trying to con me into buying burial insurance, Medicare supplement plans. If they'd bother to look they'd see that I do not use Medicare as my insurance, and the constant mailings from AARP. I get it, I'm over 65 and I don't need to be reminded by people I don't even know.

The overwhelming American cultural norm that people 50+ are irrelevant and not to be respected for their life experiences and wisdom.

bad knees

limp dick

sore ass

Been losing my hair for a while now and have been dying it for years which I am sure has made it fall out faster and made the condition of it feel like straw so recently ditched the hair dye bought myself some hair clippers and shaved it very short. I was shocked at first at how I looked but now feel as though I should have done this years ago and saved thousands on Barbershops and hair dye. Everyone tells me I look much better without the patchy black hair and when I look at photos of myself I realise just how fake it looked.

Jared Leto and Brenden are the same age. The difference is unbelievable.

How come one looks 30 years older than the other?

This is a better link to Jared's video.

I have heard great reports (some bordering on miraculous) about Moringa powder and it's pain reducing properties, especially for arthritis. I have ordered a supply of Organic Moringa powder, 1000 gel capsules, and a capsule filling device for delivery on Saturday. People are saying after 2 weeks of taking 4 capsules a day their pain had been greatly reduced.

You can buy the Moringa already in capsules but they say the organic powder is better because the prefilled capsules are usually old.

We'll see. I hope it works. Anything would be a blessing.

The thing most DL HOMOS hate the most about getting older is becoming invisible to the HOT/GOOD LOOKING GUYS.

Take comfort in knowing that everybody dies, OP.

The joy of aging should include not having to get attention for your looks. If you feel like you’re deprived of attention because your looks are gone, you didn’t get the wisdom and deeper appreciation of life you were supposed to learn along the way. Would make getting older pretty depressing.

Seeing much of society become more regressive. Growing up it seemed progress and progressive, expanding attitudes were just the normal, expected way humanity evolved. With brief periods of backlash but then taking more steps forward. It's disheartening to see the reactionary, not even really conservative, mindset taking over. Even more disturbing when it's parading itself as progressive. We're losing freedoms from both sides of politics, the right becoming more controlling and invasive because TeRrOrIsM, and the left because BE NICE, BIGOT!

How do you get rid of age spots?

R92, brilliant quote — thank you!

R127 That’s nothing new. Consider the change from the bawdy Elizabethan age to the stuffy Victorian era, or the radically liberated 1920s and 30s to the in-the-box 40s and 50s to the psychedelic 60s, the capitalist 80s and the disestablishment 2010s.

In my case the only sign I'm aging is the gray hair and beard. Otherwise I still look the same as I did when in my 30's. But there are times I look in the mirror and I can clearly see my paternal grandfather.

128, visit a dermatologist and see what the dr. recommends. I'm about to go through a 2nd round of Fraxel treatments, and it's supposed to reduce or eliminate age-sun spots and scars. After the 1st treatment, my skin feel smoother and a little less blotchy. And use sunscreen, at least SPF 30 everyday.

OP., if you're wealthy or very well-endowed., you'll still be able to get plenty of hot young men. Modern gay youth are mercenary and promiscuous.

R133- I'm NOT VERY wealthy or VERY well endowed but I am AFFLUENT and well endowed. Will that be sufficient to get the HOT YOUNG GUYS?

R134 It probably will be sufficient, given what I've heard. If you're well-endowed and a good top, that'll get some of them right away.

[quote] The thing most DL HOMOS hate the most about getting older is becoming invisible to the HOT/GOOD LOOKING GUYS.

Personally I was glad when I got older and the young bucks weren't interested anymore. From the age of 13-50 I was a raging sex fiend. Then the libido started to calm down and by 52 I just didn't care any longer. Sex became more trouble than it was worth. I could finally spend time thinking about other things.

Heartburn.

I never knew what it felt like until age 52. (Is this a magic

How do fellow DLers cope?

Lots and lots of Tums. I start off my day with a cuppa, an egg on wheat toast, and 4 Tums.

Does yogurt help? Bananas?

I HATE having grey pubes. They make my dick look like Colleen Dewhurst.

I'm afraid to dye them because I red somewhere that it could give me ball cancer.

One thing I hate is the alarmist reactions I now have to every little ache or twinge. When was younger, I would just think "oh, I am getting the flu" or "must have eaten a bad clam" or "what a hangover," but now everything is a sign of an incipient stroke, heart attack or cancer. If Dr Google charged for visits, I'd owe him a fortune.

I'm not even 50 and I recently purchased one of those contraptions to help you put your socks on. The thing is fucking heaven, but I still hide it from my cleaning lady.

R142-Are you obese. That would make it difficult to put your socks on or tie your shoes.

Having a back injury from work or playing sport also makes it difficult, not so much to bend down to put on socks or tie laces but to straighten up afterwards. (In my experience, anyway) And such injuries tend to cause damage that becomes worse over time.

My co workers take Prilosec OTC for heartburn.

I'm fifty-six, and I don't have any nagging aches and pains. The day after a good workout I feel a bit creaky as I get out of bed, but it goes away quickly. I am the same weight as always (175 pounds. 6 feet tall), never drink, smoke, or use drugs. I just don't enjoy them.

I often stare at my face in the mirror and see my grandparents' faces at certain angles. I'm happy as long as my skin doesn't sag or look splotchy, and I'm thrilled by my excellent health. The rest I just have to accept.

R84 which was the sun side?

R114 you don't remind him of his father! You remind him of his grandfather.

when my dr cuts bak on my opiates and I have to scrounge to get more...

bummer.

us oldsters is whut they were made for u fuks !!!

Not recovering as fast after illness or surgery which is compounded by all the regular aches and pains that accompany aging.

R132 Just a note about Fraxel. I have had acne scarring and I have had, I think, five or six Fraxel treatments. The first ones were all non-ablative and they worked, I’d say, to improve my scars by about 40 percent by rebuilding collagen. The last was a “repair” ablative laser and it was severe and beyond painful and it got me to 60-70 percent improvement but it also depigmented some patches of little dots so that when I get color from sun, patches of skin stay pale, and that obviously is not very attractive.

And then as years went by my face began to look hollow and gaunt to me and I became suspicious that the lasers might have done some damage. Some people have complained of this—that short-term improvement may be counteracted in the long run by side effects that some experience.

Read this post and consider the long term as well as the short term. Also keep in mind that people have different immune system reactions and some people may have adverse reactions when others wouldn’t. But it’s always useful to know that FDA clearance of a technology like laser skin resurfacing does not guarantee its safety; essentially, the FDA approves most immediately non-harmful devices whose manufacturers can afford the application fees, and then if a class action suit is filed against the manufacturer years after a product has been in common use, the FDA may research its safety and recall it. The new technologies that many dermatologists use for cosmetic purposes often have not been proven safe and so it’s wise to only use techniques and products that have been in use for decades or else knowingly risk damaging your appearance and potentially your health.

when I run out of money for whiskey,,,,,best medicine in the state..

EVERYTHING. DON'T GIVE A SHIT ANYMORE!

[quote] I've read that Brendan Fraser has gone on record saying that he HATED getting into that kind of shape for "George of the Jungle" and never wanted to be in that kind of shape again.

So he'd rather look like one of the flabby old schlubs my grandfather used to exercise with at the Jewish Community Center?

Feeling like I'm behind in the game (single, 40). I miss the days of going out, carefree and being on track. It seems like others have moved forward, while I've stayed the same.

My skin is actually getting worse. Not sure why. More breakouts.

Lower back pain, leg pain, joints. It hurts after jogging now or a long walk.

No more bouncing back from a hangover. I'm down and out, lethargic for at least 3 days.

The "cute" is fading away, I think slowly.

R155 Honey,the "cute" faded away 10 years ago.

Almost no one is 'cute' at 40.

Most aren't even 'cute' at 30.

What depresses me is that I already shudder when I see myself in photos, and I’m 44 now. It’s only going to get worse and worse.

It’s harder to douche and get really clean.

Cuteness is a state of mind.

Some of us are blessed with enough for two lifetimes.

For those who have heartburn (acid reflux), you might try what solved my silent reflux. Acid reflux is acid that pushes up from the stomach. Silent reflux affects your throat and esophagus rather than your stomach. It comes from acidic things you eat or drink. Mine was so bad, I felt like I had a golf ball in my throat for almost a year and thought I was going to die. Both my (ex) PCP couldn't figure it nor a thyroid specialist.

I happened to see a 15 min. video of Dr. Oz discussing silent reflux. I was eating almost every trigger food or beverage, every day. After avoiding the triggers and switching to Sumatra coffee, my silent reflux was gone within a few days.

I went to an Ear, Nose & Throat specialist to make sure that my silent reflux hadn't damaged my throat or esophagus or caused cancer to develop.

R66 What makes you think avoiding the sun is advice from 1977? I practice sun avoidance and wear sunscreen religiously, and I’m in my mid thirties. How else is a white person supposed to avoid sun damage and the aging effects of UV rays?

I can;t say I'm happy about it. When i was 19-24 I was considered pretty. Much like Leo DiCaprio. Now you wouldn't look at me unless I was an A list celebrity.

Seeing Quentin Tarantino's wedding fotos made me realize that celebrities never age or get old because people will always fall over themselves to give up sex to the celeb. What a life. Beauty and the beast and with a 25 year age gap lol.

Otherwise for normal people aging blows. Ask James Woods.

My acid reflux problem was solved once I lost weight.

No one wants blowjobs from me anymore!

MOISturize

Fraser’s Irish American. He looks like my Irish uncles (in Ireland) who were handsome when young but turned soft, round, doughy and white as they aged.

R167 I’m half Irish & half British according to ancestry DNA, and I’ll be 41 in one week and I’m suddenly mid-transition to soft and doughy and bumpy against all my efforts to stop it from happening.

Do NOT use Coenzyme Q10!!!!! Geneva University and Hospital Research Prof and cancer specialist told me it's a HUGE no no and will feed cancers.

R169, do you mean the vitamin you take or apply on your face?

Hmm. This study from 1994 shows that CoQ10 caused tumor regression and remission in a significant number of cancer patients.

I was 100 lbs overweight through my teens and lost it all by age 20. Kept it off since then, but still had excess skin.

When I hit 40, lean muscle was slowly replaced by fat. At age 50, I lost the fat but excess flesh hung off my body. I felt great but looked like a holocaust survivor.

Vitamin C 1,000

Here’s the National Cancer Institute’s page on CoQ10. Do you have any evidence that it is supposedly carcinogenic? I can’t find anything to that effect and it appears to have been studied for decades.

Coenzyme Q10 pills. 1994 is not 2015 when this doctor told me that to my face. But, carry on. Supplements are a racket. Put your money into happiness, stress relief, body work, and very good balanced whole food.

R175 I have a pretty screwy autoimmune disorder called mast cell activation syndrome (or possibly mastocytosis) and my doctor has recommended CoQ10

Well if your DOCTOR says to spend money on Coenzyme Q10, then have at it. Maybe it might help people facing some very special health crisis.

I think it helps that I was never A-list. I was nice looking and had a lot of fun, but it was never like I was amazing. I think that helps as I get older. It ain't that big a loss cause it was never that huge a thing.

Vitamins are not a racket. You have to buy from good companies. sure, they are scams out there.

If vitamins don't work, then why the fuck do they tell women to take prenatal vitamins?

"prenatal" is a special case and limited time, sweetheart.

R177 It’s “special” all right. I am allergic to fucking EXERCISE and heat. It’s freaking bizarre and it requires medications and supplements to stabilize the histamines.

Poverty

Aging is pretty much something you can't do much about, and certainly not once you already start looking old. It is mostly genetics, I had the good fortune of having parents who never looked their age and have had some of that good fortune myself, but it is catching up with me now.

I suggest you worry about the things you can do something about not things you can't do anything about.

Since I lost 50 pounds as a 19 year-old, r172m, I've dealt with excess flesh (or as they say in the patois, redundant skin) my entire life. And the loss of collagen and elasticity only gets worse with age. But with diet and exercise, I'm holding my own. And at my (redacted) high school reunion last November, more than one of my classmates made comments that I've "gotten better looking with age" and am in better shape than I was in 197_.

[quote] Vitamins are not a racket.

The jury is still out on that one. There is a ton of money to be made from supplements, so dissenting voices may not always be heard. Most nutritionist say the best, most effective way to get vitamins is from food.

The following article from NBC News (4/8/2019) is NOT the last word on the effectiveness of supplements. But it gives you an idea of how science is presently reevaluating their usefulness.

[quote] Dietary supplements not only didn't extend life, but can be harmful at high doses, new study finds.

I hate getting old because there’s nothing to look forward to. Your career is behind you, your schooling is behind you, your upward trajectory is over. Once you’re a boss, you’re used to telling everyone what to do. Then you’re retired and no one listens to a word you say.

The skin on my arms and legs is wrinkled, but I haven’t lost weight. My skin is very dry and itchy. I use moisturizer with lidocaine in it to stop itching. OTC hydrocortisone cream is useless. My mouth is dry, my throat is dry and I cough more. My feet and my back hurt. I have a bunion, but I never wore tight shoes. I have arthritis. I used to go out in the morning and work all day planting and transplanting my garden beds, weeding, watering, pruning, deadheading all day long. I loved it. Now I can barely bend down.

This is why getting old sucks for me.

R186 could you tell us how old you are?

What’s good for eyes?

Can't get rid of belly fat.

R188, carrots or vitamin a. carrots are cheap and good for you in many ways.

While in the sun, I recently noticed that the skin on the back of my hands is practically translucent now.

It is getting thinner and soon the thinness will advance up to my forearms and I'll get those purple lesions my father got with every little scrape.

Arrggh!

WHAT is good for eye circles and dry lids?

Top 3 vitamins to take to combat aging? Top 3 skin/eye creams? Help, DL.

Important to keep moving, so that one is a harder target for the Reaper.

As you age, I would say Vit B is very important, brain don't function as well if you're missing Vit B12. that's why some take B12 shots.

sunblock to protect your skin as many have already mentioned.

“The debilitating loss of muscle and strength that comes with age is being recognized as a disease that could be treated.”

Seriously, what to do about lower back pain? It just started about a week ago and I feel like I have aged 10 years.

It depends on what's causing it. Treatment for muscle strain in the lower back is very different from treatment from pain caused by a bulging or herniated disk. If it turns out to be a bad disk and they suggest surgery tell them to piss up a rope. I went through that hell several years back. If I had to do it over again I would never have let them do it.

R198 You might, repeat MIGHT, need to do core-strengthening exercises. But check with doc.

yes, do yoga and stretch, do planks. Your back will feel better if it's not a major skeletal issue. A lot of people just have tight muscles that cause pain, stretching/yoga loosens it up and gets rid of pain.

There's a big difference between 50 and 100 lb weight loss where redundant skin is concerned R184. I went from 48 to 34 waist by age 20. At 64, I now need waist 36 to feel comfortable.

Dental bills. I'm not even that old but I've already paid thousands of dollars for a couple of new crowns. No Chomping on ice or peanut brittle for me anymore. No wonder old people eat soft foods. Take good care of your teeth. A friend of mine had to get grafts on to his gums because they were receding due to intense brushing habits.

Just had a dental cleaning where the hygienist busted my balls about brushing my gumline better. But I'm so afraid of overbrushing and gum recession. Yes, I use an electric toothbrush.

Same here, r203. I'm even hesitant to eat a bagel or a crusty baguette.

I got to admit- it’s hard and I did EVERY stupid thing one can do. I am a tall guy (6’9) and used to run marathons for years- ran 6-10 miles every day. Then before I turned 30 I got hurt, went to an orthopedic surgeon, who basically told me that my height and all the running basically ruined my lower body. So, I was basically bed bound for like a year, and guess what happened... yup, weight gain. So I did what any gay man with disposable income does, I got liposuction and plastic surgery. I regret it every day. The surgery was sooooo painful and it still looks weird when I take my shirt off. Just do moderation... enjoy your pretty years... then grow old gracefully

R169, that is false! All evidence in medical journals say it has anti-cancer properties.

A good day is where only one thing hurts. I have half as much energy and flexibility as a decade ago. Still pretty fit and thin, but really miss being able to get through a day without feeling like shit atsome point.

I'm 53 and have arthritis in my big toe and knees. Probably genetic but I was a runner from high school days until just recently which really does a number on your body. Here is some advice I wish someone would have given me. Probably wouldn't have listened though, but I wish I had done/not done these things.

20s: Wear sunscreen every day. Do not smoke. Do not drink more than 2 drinks a day. Avoid altogether if possible. Eat more fruit and vegetables. Learn how to cook. Make working out a regular part of your day.

30s: Strengthen your back. Make working out a regular part of your day. If you gain a pound or two, lose it immediately. Weigh yourself every week.

40s: Work on your flexibility. Make working out a regular part of your day. Stop eating like you did in your early 20s. If you gain a pound or two, lose it immediately.

50s: Get regular physicals. Watch your cholesterol. If you gain a pound or two, as long as it doesn't affect your cholesterol, who cares. Walk 30 minutes a day. Learn how to manage stress.

The increased possibility of cancer.

I was treated for prostate cancer a year ago (so far, successfully so) and am just now having a biopsy done from a small discolored "splotch" on my neck that won't go away. The doctor informed me that it was most likely a non-metastatic form of the disease. I also have had a mild rash in the same area for some time, so I thought that it was an anomaly related to the rash. Anyway, I'll be finding out soon what it actually is.

R209-The arthritis in your big toe sounds like GOUT. When I get gout I always get it in my big toe. I'm 53 years old also. When I was 44 my knees starting bothering me-all day, every day and night. I never jogged I just took brisk walks every day. I started to these knee exercises I found on youtube-everyday and my knees are much better.

how do you know if you have arthritis? Do you need to go get a scan or something?

R212 Does your body or part have different sensations with weather shifts? Does the cold lock up or make more rigid the body part you're using or trying to use? Barometric pressure shifts will be a factor in how you feel if you've arthritis.

R209 When your toe swells is that around having eaten something with a lot of fatty acids or something high in iron? If so that's gout.

r209 here. I was diagnosed with arthritis by an orthopedist who took x-rays of my feet, ankles and knees. No arthritis in my ankles but in my big toe and ball of foot where I also have a bunion, and in my knees. I went to the orthopedist because I sprained my ankle this winter and started having knee pain at the same time, so thought I was walking funny to compensate for the bum ankle. I had the beginning of a bunion which literally seemed to pop/push itself out, and was hurting my toe. It all happened around the same time. Doc says the bunion is genetic and feels worse because of the arthritis in my toe. Funny, all of this happened when I stopped running (because of the sprain) and I haven't been since.

I dread that fact that one of these years - sometime soon - my routine annual physical will be anything but routine.

I hate that other people assume I have the same views as every other older person. I am the same person I was thirty years ago, just an older version. In some ways I am more radical as I get older: I used to be anti abortion, now I’m pro choice. People in their forties, fifties, sixties and older are just as diverse as younger people. And yes, I know about demographics, like the age of Fox News. But we aren’t all the same.

Fox News VIEWERS.

My father watches FOX NEWS seven days a week.

How old are you, R206? There are a couple of posters in the Dutch Giant thread who might be interested in you.

[quote] The arthritis in your big toe sounds like GOUT

No it doesn’t. The poster said he had arthritis in his (or her) big toe. Didn’t mention any symptoms of gout whatsoever. Arthritis of the big toe is very common (and painful). There’s hallux rigidus, hallux valgus, and hallux limitus.

Gout is entirely different

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R185. I’m waiting for a Nightline-esque show to figure out how to rig vitamins to explode like a Ford Bronco. We’ve seen this movie too many times.

1. Presbyopia

2. Grey hair

I'm ALWAYS tired. ALL DAY. EVERY DAY.

Having to be much more careful about not only what you eat but when. I'm mostly ok with it and am cooking healthier meals but get nostalgic for pizza sometimes.

It doesn't matter how much cardio I do and how long I work out with weights everything continues to head south to my waist.

Im with R225 ! How the hell do you wake up tired ?!? Every since I hit 55 I have zero energy.

"I hate that other people assume I have the same views as every other older person. I am the same person I was thirty years ago, just an older version. People in their forties, fifties, sixties and older are just as diverse as younger people."

I feel the same way.

I'm 54 but I still think and act the same way I did 25 years ago. My routines haven't changed and I still don't think like a "grandpa".

I LOVE new technology. I can't wait for autonomous vehicles. To not have to drive would be wonderful.

Talking about getting older- I DON'T like Trump but he does seem younger than that SENILE B ACTOR who was in the White House from 1981-1988.

I’m amazed at people who think old people shouldn’t wear jeans. Old people wore jeans every day in farming communities in the past. The media for some reason decided jeans were only for young people in the 1950s.

I wear jeans and always will. They’re pants, get over it.

My best friend is 57 and just had her hip replaced. She was always running and exercising. We lived in the city and I told her “sidewalks are not for pounding with your feet. You’re going to regret all of this when you get older.”

She regrets it.

Ive been treated well my entire adult life. People laughed at my jokes, engaged in light conversation in the checkout lines, smiled at me and we all (adults) seemed to get along and treat each other as we like to be treated.

About 10 years ago that all changed. If I talked to someone in the checkout lane, or even to the cashier, I was greeted with blank looks. People started walking into me and say “watch where you’re going,” people seem generally annoyed with me.

I’ve always been mistaken for being much younger than my age (it had resulted in many embarrassing situations). Whenever I had to tell people my age, like at the dr or dentist, they’d say “Omg, I thought you were so much younger.”

Now when I tell people my age there’s no reaction.

I didn’t realize how good I had it because of my age. All of that friendliness, politeness, etc was because I was young, healthy and good looking. I still felt the same way, like the same person, when all of this negativity started happening. And when I caught a glance at myself in public by accident, I saw I was old. When we look in our own mirrors, we mentally prepare ourselves for it. But out in public, we can be shocked at how we looked. I’m old. I look my age. I get treated like I’m old.

Having to take meds for various physical and mental aliments. Bodily functions that don't function properly anymore. Knowing that when I look in the mirror I will always be disappointed. Seeing older family members get sick and die and the knowledge that this is what's in store for me. Knowing that any suspect issue that I ask the doctor can potentially be life threatening. Knowing that my sex life is over and isn't coming back, even if someone was interested I couldn't stand being seen looking like I do. Worrying about money and if it will run out before I do. Finding technology harder and harder to understand and having to rely on it more and more. Having to constantly make adjustments to read something (take off classes to see up close, put them on to see far), multifocal lenses only help so much and Lasik is a waste of time and money after a certain age. Knowing That I could go on and on about this topic because getting old is endless discovery until the end comes.

R234-You're too cheerful for me. I prefer someone who's negative.