Where do our data loungers fall
Relationship status. Just curious.. are you..?
|by Anonymous||reply 37||18 hours ago|
I voted for Single and Content, but open to a relationship if that happens. If not, that is okay too. I've been partnered before and it does take work to maintain the relationship.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||Last Saturday at 8:23 AM|
I've been dabbling in the dating apps lately, and also talking to friends who are dating - we are in our 40's - the number of "married, but seeking to cheat" is astounding. Does anyone *not* cheat or have affairs? Makes me a bit sick. This is more straight-leaning, maybe more gays are in open relationships already..? At this rate, I might as well just stay single and away from the drama.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||Last Saturday at 9:11 AM|
|by Anonymous||reply 3||Last Monday at 11:09 AM|
Partnered here, 39 yo. Somewhat happy, somewhat unhappy. More content than miserable. Too lazy to find someone else.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||Last Monday at 11:14 AM|
I'm 57 and single (more content than not). I have (HSV-2) genital herpes with few outbreaks but sort of feel like that might be an issue for guys who are STD free.
It's interesting as I would never have thought I would be single at this age but I really think the AIDS epidemic affected me in that I wouldn't get that close to anyone. Granted, I've have sex (mostly giving head) but it seems like such a huge effort to go through the entire process of finding someone.
I live in LA so it is looks focused - I'm above average but in LA that doesn't help much at the bars or online - also don't drink (10 years now but didn't go the AA route - did it all on my own).
I've realized that if you are serious about finding someone, especially at this age, you shouldn't focus on looks and give everyone (within reason) a shot.
If I was a betting man, I would say I am going to be single til dealth...not a horrible or a sad thing but just a reality..
|by Anonymous||reply 5||Last Monday at 11:31 AM|
My BF broke up with me a long time ago. But he's the only man I love. We're still best friends. I don't want anyone else.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||Last Monday at 11:37 AM|
There are few things I have been successful at in life, I’ve always been a dabbler, but my relationship is one area in which I succeeded. It was hard work at times, but learning to love him after all the changes he and I have gone through over the years has made me a better, happier person.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||Last Monday at 11:41 AM|
I live in New York, and there are far too many crazies here. I don't even want to bring someone home out of concern that I'll have to call the police to get them to leave.
|by Anonymous||reply 8||Last Monday at 11:46 AM|
Lived with someone for 11 years Disaster. I never want to fell like that again. Single, happy, casual.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||Last Monday at 12:04 PM|
Other, please explain: I am married, OP.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||Last Monday at 12:08 PM|
I'm in a relationship with my caftan.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||Last Monday at 12:16 PM|
The saddest are those in a relationship that want to get out
|by Anonymous||reply 12||Last Monday at 12:23 PM|
I took partnered to be equivalent to married.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||Last Monday at 12:31 PM|
Wrong R13, totally wrong.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||Last Monday at 12:33 PM|
Not in life, kiddo, in the polling here.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||Last Monday at 12:35 PM|
R15 The polling here is not life.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||Last Monday at 12:50 PM|
Ugh. Whatever. It's just a stupid poll on a silly website.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||Last Monday at 12:52 PM|
OP here. Partnered means married, whatever you call it. I could have gotten more detailed, but it's just a poll. I'm 40 and single if anyone cares.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||a day ago|
Married. Husband is in a nursing home for the long term. So I feel single.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||a day ago|
Partnered? Sounds like a law firm. I am married.
|by Anonymous||reply 20||a day ago|
I’ve been dating a guy for a few weeks and I’m totally into him - he’s my ideal type, I look at him and I want to pounce on him. He’s very funny and smart - we have great conversations. He thinks I’m the best cook. So it’s just been a few short weeks but there’s that spark and connection that’s so awesome. Let’s call him Cameron. I went to a bbq last night that a friend was throwing for another friend’s birthday. I walk in and there was Cameron WITH HIS BOYFRIEND.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||a day ago|
I'm 41 and have been single for the last five years, when a long-term relationship ended. I selected "single and looking" from OP's poll, though I often border on "single and content or too jaded to bother".
Online dating and apps are exhausting. You can be successful, good-looking, in shape, cultured, etc and still not capture anyone's attention for more than a fleeting moment. Dating culture now has reduced people to itemized lists of traits. You filter for the characteristics you like or don't like and, if someone doesn't meet all your criteria, you left-swipe them away and keep swiping until you find perfection. The problem is, perfection does not exist.
The most common occurrence on dating sites and apps now is me asking questions and the other guy answering them, but not asking anything back. They want to be engaged with but not engage. Interest is there, but it's lukewarm because they always have one eye on the app looking for something better.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||a day ago|
I'm with R20. Fuck this partnered shit, I'm MARRIED. I spent 29 years with my man in a "second-class" relationship, then got married as soon as we could. If any of you want to stay second-class and risk hospital visitation rights and automatic inheritance (just to name two), then that's on you.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||a day ago|
OP...You left out "Roommated"
|by Anonymous||reply 24||a day ago|
Partnered? Bitch, I’m married.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||20 hours ago|
You didn't include a Trans option...
|by Anonymous||reply 26||19 hours ago|
I don’t think I k ow ANY fat couples who are monogamous. Even the married ones.
I used to strive for monogamy but sadly I now wonder if it’s possible.
A married semi friend even propositioned me on Grindr and was willing to fuck bareback
|by Anonymous||reply 27||19 hours ago|
^^”any GAY couples”. Not fat couples. Though that would have been funny
|by Anonymous||reply 28||19 hours ago|
Single and not just content, but ecstatic.
Had a boyfriend who died in 1992. Nobody ever compared, and I’m thrilled to have my own bed etc. I get plenty of sex, affection, companionship and intellectual stimulation from numerous friends and family. And I don’t have to go to another room to fart.
|by Anonymous||reply 29||18 hours ago|
[quote] My BF broke up with me a long time ago. But he's the only man I love. We're still best friends. I don't want anyone else.
Are you my ex??? I kind of feel the same if you are
|by Anonymous||reply 30||18 hours ago|
R29. Serious question.
How old are you? Based on the 1992 date assume you are 40s or 50s
And are you a top? Because it seems that a bottom that’s 50+ may not find it so easy to find plenty of sex nowadays.
Asking as a possibly soon to be single bottom over 45
|by Anonymous||reply 31||18 hours ago|
R31, I’m 58 and versatile. Trust me, there are plenty of fish in the sea for all persuasions. And maturity only makes you less proud and more willing to try new things. Funny, sex is the only thing where as you get older you get less set in your ways. In part because you appreciate the attention and are willing to please, and in part because you’ve done and seen more, so just doing one thing becomes dull.
|by Anonymous||reply 32||18 hours ago|
Widiowed. In a group decimated for 15 years with an historic epidemic, how could you have failed to include Widowed?
|by Anonymous||reply 33||18 hours ago|
Married to my ball and chain.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||18 hours ago|
In an exclusive long-term gay relationship. Made it through many rough patches. Still sexually attracted to each other after fourteen years.
|by Anonymous||reply 35||18 hours ago|
Single, closeted and content.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||18 hours ago|
I’m was too young to have. Been fucking in the 70s
Came out in 80s during height of AIDS panic but still had fun
Have a BFF but thinking of breaking up. Always been a bottom.
I’ve had sex with way younger guys who are tops but they usually don’t know my real age.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||18 hours ago|