Sex Addiction.

Watching porn all the time and thinking about sex all the time is an addiction. Lots of males now have it.

Thinking about sex a lot is pretty standard, isn’t it r1? Maybe acting on it like visiting hookers on a regular basis or being late for work because you’re watching porn tips it into addiction.

[quote]being late for work because you’re watching porn tips it into addiction.

How could you possibly be late for work from....oh shit, look at the time. I gotta go.

It evidently wears off as you get older.

Yes, I knew a woman whose weekends (her only free time) basically consisted have having sex with strangers. And she would scout out these guys on social media throughout the work week. Apart from work - which she was impeccable at - her days consisted of either arranging sex or having it. It was sad. I think in the time I knew her (a little less than a year) she had sex with around 100 men.

How did you know her r5?

He banged her, R6.

R6 Mutual friends.

We did not fuck, R7, but she did come on to me many times. I've never met someone so riddled with anxiety and neurosis while still being able to manage their life, and not just that, but succeed in all their responsibilities as well.

What’s older r4?

The straight guy I was referring to started seeing prostitutes when he turned 40. He’s spent thousands of dollars in the last 5 years. He’s married, he’s still getting sex regularly at home and his wife isn’t a prude, but she’s not very street smart so I guess that’s how he gets away with it. He tells me he still loves her, but the hookers are a like an overwhelming urge. He hates himself for it. Talking to him about this, and seeing the self loathing, is when it dawned on me that maybe sex addiction is real.

Is there an underlying issue with sex addiction? Is about sex it is about something more complicated? What are the theories?

Anything that causes a dopamine rush can potentially be addictive. I’ve known a few people whose pursuit of sex has interfered with their personal and professional lives. Sex addicts indeed. And psychopaths.

I know a couple. They’re in deep denial about their addiction and have lost friends over it. They still won’t admit it.

What’s their addiction r12? Porn, voyerism, exhibitionism, sex for pay, cheating?

R11 the sex addict I know isn’t a psychopath, his self loathing is too intense and he feels so guilty, but he admits that everything he says in relation to sex is a lie. He pretends to be faithful. He pretends to be shocked when he hears that someone else’s partner was cheating on them. He pretends he doesn’t have a whole other life going on. He pretended his sexually transmitted disease was only a UTI. He loses sleep telling himself he won’t do it again and what a shit he is and yet hasn’t stopped.

R13 inability to be in relationships, nonstop porn, constant talking about who they are fucking and who wants to fuck them. Conpulsively sleeping with everyone who pays attention to them and then wondering why they’re alone when the person they’re sleeping with gets bored with them and moves on. If you’re happy this way, more power to you, but they’re clearly not.

They’re all severe depressives, too, but again, no therapy, no admitting there’s a problem.