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Sex Addiction.

I thought this was a made up thing by serial cheaters to get out of trouble with their wives. But recently two friends, one gay, one straight, have confessed to me they believe they have a sex addiction. It sure sounds like they do. It seems to be an uncontrollable urge and/or compulsion to get their rocks off. In both cases it’s interfering with their lives and makes them feel like they don’t have control over their impulses.

Is it a real thing or are they just super horny?

by Anonymousreply 1504/14/2019

Watching porn all the time and thinking about sex all the time is an addiction. Lots of males now have it.

by Anonymousreply 104/13/2019

Thinking about sex a lot is pretty standard, isn’t it r1? Maybe acting on it like visiting hookers on a regular basis or being late for work because you’re watching porn tips it into addiction.

by Anonymousreply 204/13/2019

[quote]being late for work because you’re watching porn tips it into addiction.

How could you possibly be late for work from....oh shit, look at the time. I gotta go.

by Anonymousreply 304/13/2019

It evidently wears off as you get older.

by Anonymousreply 404/13/2019

Yes, I knew a woman whose weekends (her only free time) basically consisted have having sex with strangers. And she would scout out these guys on social media throughout the work week. Apart from work - which she was impeccable at - her days consisted of either arranging sex or having it. It was sad. I think in the time I knew her (a little less than a year) she had sex with around 100 men.

by Anonymousreply 504/13/2019

How did you know her r5?

by Anonymousreply 604/13/2019

He banged her, R6.

by Anonymousreply 704/13/2019

R6 Mutual friends.

We did not fuck, R7, but she did come on to me many times. I've never met someone so riddled with anxiety and neurosis while still being able to manage their life, and not just that, but succeed in all their responsibilities as well.

by Anonymousreply 804/13/2019

What’s older r4?

The straight guy I was referring to started seeing prostitutes when he turned 40. He’s spent thousands of dollars in the last 5 years. He’s married, he’s still getting sex regularly at home and his wife isn’t a prude, but she’s not very street smart so I guess that’s how he gets away with it. He tells me he still loves her, but the hookers are a like an overwhelming urge. He hates himself for it. Talking to him about this, and seeing the self loathing, is when it dawned on me that maybe sex addiction is real.

by Anonymousreply 904/13/2019

Is there an underlying issue with sex addiction? Is about sex it is about something more complicated? What are the theories?

by Anonymousreply 1004/13/2019

Anything that causes a dopamine rush can potentially be addictive. I’ve known a few people whose pursuit of sex has interfered with their personal and professional lives. Sex addicts indeed. And psychopaths.

by Anonymousreply 1104/13/2019

I know a couple. They’re in deep denial about their addiction and have lost friends over it. They still won’t admit it.

by Anonymousreply 1204/13/2019

What’s their addiction r12? Porn, voyerism, exhibitionism, sex for pay, cheating?

by Anonymousreply 1304/14/2019

R11 the sex addict I know isn’t a psychopath, his self loathing is too intense and he feels so guilty, but he admits that everything he says in relation to sex is a lie. He pretends to be faithful. He pretends to be shocked when he hears that someone else’s partner was cheating on them. He pretends he doesn’t have a whole other life going on. He pretended his sexually transmitted disease was only a UTI. He loses sleep telling himself he won’t do it again and what a shit he is and yet hasn’t stopped.

by Anonymousreply 1404/14/2019

R13 inability to be in relationships, nonstop porn, constant talking about who they are fucking and who wants to fuck them. Conpulsively sleeping with everyone who pays attention to them and then wondering why they’re alone when the person they’re sleeping with gets bored with them and moves on. If you’re happy this way, more power to you, but they’re clearly not.

They’re all severe depressives, too, but again, no therapy, no admitting there’s a problem.

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