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It's the second night since I quit drinking, and I feel awful

My stomach hurts, I feel dizzy, I'm exhausted but can't sleep.

How can I get through this, former DL drunks?

by Anonymousreply 10704/27/2019

Just bull through it. The pain is worth the gain.

When the pain goes away (and it will), you’ll feel so good.

by Anonymousreply 104/12/2019

Now that you've quit drinking, you need to work on your diet.

by Anonymousreply 204/12/2019

Diphenhydramine, magnesium citrate powder dissolved in water, and melatonin.

by Anonymousreply 304/12/2019

Bleeding gums yet?

by Anonymousreply 404/12/2019

It takes a week for the worst and two weeks to feel more or less human. If you have a lot of body fat (and/or a woman) it may take even longer. All you can do is tough it out. Good for you. Hang in there.

by Anonymousreply 504/12/2019

Smoke copious amounts of pot, silly!

by Anonymousreply 604/12/2019

You will never have to go through this again. Get over this and you’ll have a fascinating life

by Anonymousreply 704/12/2019

Pot and daily yoga. Seriously.

by Anonymousreply 804/12/2019

Get used to it Op. This is your everyday life in 30 years.

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by Anonymousreply 1004/12/2019

For the brief period you're in now I got into audiobooks. You can lay down, close your eyes and relax but it's also something to occupy your thoughts.

by Anonymousreply 1104/12/2019

It does feel kind of amazing. Seriously. Try it. It's a totally different feeling and it's amazing. Not preaching. If you can't do it, no judgments. But if you can, kind of cool.

by Anonymousreply 1204/12/2019

If you're a heavy drinker you shouldn't stop cold turkey without medical supervision. You could have seizures.

by Anonymousreply 1304/12/2019

Op, tomorrow morning, after you've slept it off, whip out your Costco card and pick up a rack (or three) of Gator2.

This replaces the habit of the need to 'drink' because it contains the electrolytes, potassium, and needed hydration you've missed from 'drinking' every night.

(My partner is now one-year free of nightly wine binges because of this. Thank Gawd. It's saved our marriage.)

by Anonymousreply 1404/12/2019

Drink lots of water.

by Anonymousreply 1504/12/2019

Detoxing can even take 12 months but you won’t feel like this the entire time. It becomes more subtle.

You’ll feel such a sense of accomplishment when through it. It will be the biggest accomplishment in your life.

Get a journal and write how you feel. In two weeks, you’ll feel much better and have forgotten how crappy you felt. The journal will serve to remind you. It will also serve to show that you are making progress.

Good luck, Bub!

by Anonymousreply 1604/12/2019

Call your sponsor.

by Anonymousreply 1704/12/2019

After a month, I lost 10 lbs. without changing another thing. I t's worth it.

by Anonymousreply 1804/12/2019

Shtop shobering up! Remember Amy Winehoushe!

by Anonymousreply 1904/12/2019

Replace the drinking and probably smoking with almost everyday with workouts/classes. It will change your life.

by Anonymousreply 2004/12/2019

^ r20 speaks the truth, OP.

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by Anonymousreply 2104/12/2019

You could have a heart attack, you should never try to quit on your own.

by Anonymousreply 2204/12/2019

OP the sleeplessness is normal for the first few nights - for me it was three - so you are almost through the toughest part of the beginning - after tomorrow night (or maybe even by tomorrow night) you will sleep.

by Anonymousreply 2304/12/2019

OP, this is one thing to remember after a few weeks go by, maybe sooner is this thing I have heard called "the pink cloud". You feel SO much better, and life is FABULOUS and you feel that you have a handle on this whole you'll think "oh, just a glass of wine with dinner" No. Beware the pink cloud. Embrace how good it feels, but don't let it lull you into a false sense of security when it comes to the booze.

Eventually, you really might be that person who can have just one or two, but for a good long while, you need to stay away completely no matter how pink-cloudy things seem. Seriously, best of luck, and check in for support anytime!

by Anonymousreply 2404/12/2019

Lots and lots of water. Alcohol dehydrates you while it puts a ton of sugar into your blood. So your headaches are from your blood sugar levels being completely whack and being dehydrated.

Don't add to your chemical mix with anything; it just makes it worse. I got through with a lot of ice tea.

by Anonymousreply 2504/12/2019

So, I'm not an alcoholic, but I quit sugar three months ago and that includes any alcohol with sugar. The first week I felt like total hell. Everything in my body hurt. Little by little I started feeling better. I lost a little weight but overall I feel a bit different, I guess. I do still crave sugar (but not alcohol). I am smoking a bit of pot. I'm lucky because I have yet to experience "the Munchies." I think drinking water is a good plan, but also do some mild stretching before bed. Also, schedule a massage for yourself every few weeks with the money you will save from not drinking.

by Anonymousreply 2604/12/2019

Hair of the dog?

by Anonymousreply 2704/12/2019

OP you can do this. Give yourself a year at least. I'm rooting for you.

by Anonymousreply 2804/12/2019

I miss Judy Pills.

by Anonymousreply 2904/12/2019

I went out to get some Gatorade G2 and diphenhydramine, and now I feel a little more human. Thank you for all these suggestions.

Now I wonder if I'll wake up four times during the night again, and face another day feeling like a worse crack whore than when I was hung over...

by Anonymousreply 3004/12/2019

You're no fun anymore..

by Anonymousreply 3104/12/2019

Try some cbd oil.

by Anonymousreply 3204/12/2019

It’ll get worse before it gets better, hang in there buddy.

by Anonymousreply 3304/12/2019

Go to a detox center or find a Dr that will prescribe you Librium.

by Anonymousreply 3404/12/2019

yes my dear, benzo's are the answer

by Anonymousreply 3504/12/2019

Don't switch to smoking pot, it will only make you a spaced out bore, numb and paranoid stumbling through life in the same haze. Many will try to convince you it won't....but of course it will.

by Anonymousreply 3604/12/2019

Prairie oysters - not everyone's thing, but they really seem to help. Carrot juice. Bloody Mary mix minus the alcohol. Iced tea. lots of water. Hot showers for circulation. give yourself an early night and binge-watch some television or read a book you've been putting off after a hot bath.

by Anonymousreply 3704/12/2019

Also, OP, if you have a bathtub, get some epsom salts (through a grocery delivery service if you're really feeling terrible) and use a lot in the warmest water you can stand, just before bed. It will relax your muscles more than you think, and will do a lot to help you sleep. You're in recovery mode right now, not entirely dissimilar to as if you've had a physical shock or injury. The magnesium salts will really help.

by Anonymousreply 3804/12/2019

B12 and try to get sunlight for at least 15 minutes for vitamin D . There is something very rejuvenating about the sun. I would eat a lot of protein. You want some candy or juice to satisfy the cravings for alcohol.. Good luck 🍀👍🏻!! You will be so much happier.

by Anonymousreply 3904/12/2019

Riffing on the themes of electrolytes, potassium, and other stuff that will help you mend and feel better

7 health benefits of coconut water

Next time you reach for a sports drink following a workout, why not reach for some coconut water instead? Coconut water can be a great way to rehydrate after a sweaty exercise session. Learn how it can replenish your electrolytes, boost calcium, and provide extra potassium, as well as boasting powerful antioxidants.

by Anonymousreply 4004/12/2019

Good luck OP, we're all behind you!

by Anonymousreply 4104/12/2019

Agree with r2,r39 and r40: focus on changing to a healthier diet. That's obviously going to be good for you plus it provides a bit of a distraction as thought needs to go into planning, buying, cooking etc. Do this in hand with the above recommended exercise - find what works for you and you'll be golden.

by Anonymousreply 4204/12/2019

Home detoxing is dangerous OP....

by Anonymousreply 4304/12/2019

Keeping it light for the OP.

While I agree that really heavy drinkers should taper the fuck down. I'm getting the vibe that OP might not be that heavy. That said, "heavy" is relative. OP, if you are reading this, and you are downing 1.50 liters a night (as in only a few hours or so) of hard alcohol , yes, you must taper! And taper with booze NOT of choice. (Beer, Red Wine, Champagne whatever, but NOT hard alcohol, just enough that will keep you from having seizures. If by heavy you mean a couple of bottles of wine each night, well, cut it out, but you are likely going to be seizure free.

All of the other advice is equally important. Report back, OP

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by Anonymousreply 4404/12/2019

If OP has a serious problem (as would anyone who's been pouring 1.5 liters of hard alcohol into themselves every day), he*can't* taper down. He would need to be medically detoxed.

Hopefully that isn't the case here.

by Anonymousreply 4504/13/2019

Now WHY would you do that?

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by Anonymousreply 4604/13/2019

If OP were at risk of seizures he'd have had one by now. It can take a while for sleeping patterns to sort themselves out if alcohol was regularly being used to induce sleep. I'd recommend OP takes Vitamin B compound strong and also a high dose of thiamin for a few weeks or even months until you regain your appetite and implement a healthy diet. Benzodiazepines would have helped in the first 48 hours but if you've managed without them so far, you're past the worst and potentially dangerous stage and it's all better from here. Well done and good luck.

by Anonymousreply 4704/13/2019

Drink hot water with lemon or Different herbal Tea flavors mixed with honey. This will help cleanse your body and help your mood feel better while detoxing.

by Anonymousreply 4804/13/2019

Day three: I woke up at 11 and thought the worst was over. Felt pretty good. Then within an hour, I felt like every organ in my body was toxic, I couldn't keep my eyes open and fell back into bed.

G2 (the low-sugar Gatorade) really helps with feeling dehydrated and weak. It's 60 calories a bottle, but I guess I can afford that now. Doing B12 and other vitamins too.

I was up to about half a fifth (or 40% of a liter) of whiskey or vodka a night. Sometimes it was a bottle of wine instead, which then became two. Definitely not heading to a good place. So I decided that was it.

This is not torture, but I still feel so bad.

by Anonymousreply 4904/13/2019

Well props to you, it sounds like it was getting a bit much. Though not Ernest Hemingway level panic.

by Anonymousreply 5004/13/2019

the 1st 72 hours are the most critical to get thru

by Anonymousreply 5104/13/2019

OP, consider taking ascorbic acid powder (Vitamin C) with your B-vitamins.

During alcohol withdrawal, your immune system health is compromised due to added stress, which hinders normal nervous system functions. The University of Michigan Health System suggests supplementing vitamin C to rid the body of excess alcohol during the initial withdrawal. The upper limit for daily vitamin C is 2,000 mg, however, medically supervised dose increase is advised before taking vitamin C exceeding the daily recommendation of 90 mg. Vitamin A, or beta-carotene supplements help to correct deficiencies during withdrawal, but due to potential liver damage from alcoholism, should only be taken under physician supervision.

by Anonymousreply 5204/13/2019

Lay off the sugar. NO sugar - it fuels booze cravings. Lots of fruit and veg. Take a ton of B supplements. I was really deficient in B vitamins when I got sober. Start working out hard when you feel better + add in green juices. I went vegan the day I stopped drinking & have been vegan and sober for ten years. Sending you the best OP. Sobriety is amazing (truly)

by Anonymousreply 5304/13/2019

And read Dr. Gabor Mate!!!!

by Anonymousreply 5404/13/2019

r53 _In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts_, I am guessing.

by Anonymousreply 5504/13/2019

You got it R55 & he has some talks about addiction on YouTube that are brilliant

by Anonymousreply 5604/13/2019

there seems to be an awful lot of people on this site that have experienced alcohol withdrawal.............seems like I read 40% or so of gays were alcoholics or ex.......sad.

by Anonymousreply 5704/13/2019

OP, hydrate. Get a lot of fluids into your system like Water, chicken broth, green tea or herbal teas, but do not drink soda or coffee with caffeine in it. Seriously. You'll feel sleepy but your body is going through withdrawal and adjustment. I'd avoid sweets too unless fresh fruit. You can check with a doctor or a nutritionist, but that's my preliminary advice. Tomato juice is good.

by Anonymousreply 5804/13/2019

Never give up!!

by Anonymousreply 5904/13/2019

OP. it's very difficult. You can do it.

by Anonymousreply 6004/13/2019

As r58 said, tomato juice, specifically V8 juice is your friend. That shit is amazing for how it will get you feeling better so soon. Buy it in the small tin cans and drink one every hour or so. Something about the stuff in the tins work better. Unless it is the ONLY way you can take in fluids, stay away from that Gatorade crap if you can. Far too much sugar/HFCS and shit chemicals.

Right now the worse you feel, strangely the better it is because it means the body is revolting (not in that way, you look fabulous! (gentle lie) and trying to get all of the toxic shit out of the system.

When you feel like eating, order out and get Hot and Sour soup, extra spicy, no cornstarch (that is sugar) or, preferably, if you like Thai, Order a big container of Tom Yum Gai (the one without coconut milk) ask for "Thai hot" this will help greatly.

Please keep us posted.

by Anonymousreply 6104/13/2019

I noticed after stopping drinking I crave orange juice and pineapple. I second or third the tomato juice too. I think quitting alcohol is very hard but the best thing one can do.

by Anonymousreply 6204/14/2019

Naltrexone helps a lot too

by Anonymousreply 6304/14/2019

Get Powerade Zero. It has no sugar. The grape and Punch flavors are the best

by Anonymousreply 6404/14/2019

If you have a deli near you get some Marx’s ball soup . It really helps

by Anonymousreply 6504/15/2019

A drink will make you feel better.

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by Anonymousreply 6604/15/2019

Matzah ball soup

by Anonymousreply 6704/15/2019

OP! We love you! Get up!

by Anonymousreply 6804/16/2019

Take up pills instead.

by Anonymousreply 6904/16/2019

weed and lots of water, take your multiple vitamin too plan a nice vacation/excursion to keep occupied

by Anonymousreply 7004/16/2019

and make some homemade soup :)

by Anonymousreply 7104/16/2019

Are you still sober, OP?

by Anonymousreply 7204/16/2019

Alcohol withdrawals can be deadly if you go cold turkey. Please read up on tapering.

HAMS: Harm Reduction for Alcohol How To Taper Off Alcohol

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by Anonymousreply 7404/16/2019

Still sober. Terrible insomnia. My head has been splitting all day.

I got a giant bottle of V8, and that stuff really does help.

Thank you all for your suggestions. I had Thai food and hot-and-sour soup the other night. Soups and grease have been essential.

by Anonymousreply 7504/16/2019

We are all rooting for you R75.

by Anonymousreply 7604/16/2019

Hang in there, OP!

by Anonymousreply 7704/16/2019

I like a good story. Yay for OP! Keep at it.

by Anonymousreply 7804/16/2019

A greasy hamburger 🍔 does wonders

by Anonymousreply 7904/16/2019

good job!

by Anonymousreply 8004/16/2019

I was thinking about you this evening- glad you're still sober! Keep us updated.

by Anonymousreply 8104/16/2019

How's it going today?

by Anonymousreply 8204/17/2019

My gawd is DL full of drunks?

by Anonymousreply 8304/18/2019

Rooting for you, OP

by Anonymousreply 8404/18/2019

It's natural to crave sweet foods when you've stopped drinking. Nothing wrong with eating some sweets or whatever in the early days.

To be completely honest your description of your drinking habits sounds pretty mild so you were unlikely to go into actual withdrawal. While it's obviously not much fun giving up alcohol, you're not going through real physical withdrawal. Your symptoms are psychological rather than physical so you're in a better place than you could be. Stick with it and you'll soon feel better than you ever have before.

by Anonymousreply 8504/18/2019

OP a bunch of strangers here are rooting for you. The soup, maybe Pedialyte instead of Gatorade, exercise, lowering sugar. You got this. You've gone through the worst part. Give yourself credit for taking care of yourself.

by Anonymousreply 8604/20/2019

Check in with a doctor as soon as you can. You shouldn't be doing this on your own.

by Anonymousreply 8704/20/2019

If you're lucky, you'll get to a point where the thought of alcohol will make you ill. I fortunately am that way about cigs since quitting long ago. I believe there's a drug of some dirt that makes you sick when you do in fact drink alcohol, but I don't know the adverse affects it may have.

by Anonymousreply 8804/20/2019

You guys are the best! I wish I had discovered DL when I was quitting. So supportive. Keep up the good work!

by Anonymousreply 8904/20/2019

Curious what age people quit? Have stopped and started many times. Have always been ambivalent. Good luck OP - and keep up the good work.

by Anonymousreply 9004/20/2019

You’ll be so proud when you’re done, OP.

by Anonymousreply 9104/20/2019

How are you doing today, OP?

by Anonymousreply 9204/22/2019

[quote]Curious what age people quit?


by Anonymousreply 9304/22/2019

I needed detox. I was in the hospital for about 4 days. Thereafter, it was hard but I'm almost 10 years in now and wish I would have done it sooner. II quit when I was 48, didn't do the AA route - basically did everything on my own and was okay.

I wish you luck. But, if you are having pain, you should consult a doctor because detoxing can be dangerous on your own.

by Anonymousreply 9404/22/2019

Your youthful good looks will last longer if you quit drinking. Let vanity motivate you if health and wellbeing won't.

by Anonymousreply 9504/22/2019

Thanks for your support and advice, everyone. There's a lot of wisdom on this thread. It really has helped.

by Anonymousreply 9604/22/2019

Was 32 when I quit too. It was so terrible that every time I am tempted passing a bar now, I get this rush of bad memories. Quitting was by far my best personal achievement.

by Anonymousreply 9704/22/2019

This Naked Mind is a good book by Annie Grace that is helpful reading as you go through the process. And Allan Carr’s Stop Drinking book. Stop blaming yourself and appreciate that alcohol is a horrible drug that society condones more than smoking, cocaine or heroin but is also addictive and controlling.

by Anonymousreply 9804/22/2019

We are rooting for you, Aqua Boy!

by Anonymousreply 9904/22/2019

Just wanted to offer like support. I was 28 when I stopped. yes it is hard, yes it will be the single thing you might be the most proudest of in your life, it is for me. Gazillion of us know how hard it is, and that's ok. I am so proud of you. You rock!

by Anonymousreply 10004/22/2019

It's probably the D.T.'s or delirium tremens. I recommend the hair of the dog that bit you.

by Anonymousreply 10104/22/2019

Have some vodka and oj. You will feel better.

by Anonymousreply 10204/22/2019

I was 44.

by Anonymousreply 10304/22/2019

You will look much younger and more vibrant in a month or two. Keep it up

by Anonymousreply 10404/27/2019

Yes, keep it up. You will feel happier, too.

by Anonymousreply 10504/27/2019

How long does it take for the ED to go away when you stop drinking?

by Anonymousreply 10604/27/2019

Lots of water and rest. Your sex drive will come back with intense orgasms .

by Anonymousreply 10704/27/2019
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