jakejacob01 I was lucky enough to spend a week with these two amazing men. Its been a wild ride and it feels like we have done enough activities to fill a month but time has passed quicker every day.
A lot of people have asked me why I would go on a cruise with my former husband so soon after our divorce and separation. My response, if we are going to be friends then I need to see him and treat him like my friend, practice being his friend, spend time with him as a friend, and develop new memories as friends. That’s exactly what we were able to do. I love and appreciate the person he is now and who he is becoming in this new separate supportive phase of our lives.
I’ve always been a fan of facing my fears head on, addressing issues or potential problems, and doing all I can to avoid drama and cultivate love, acceptance, and hope. Now I have an entire week full of memories with two men I love dearly. I have new friendships with people I met in an accepting and judgement free environment. I strengthened friendships and connections with friends I’d met in the past.
People ask me what it’s like going on a gay cruise. My response, it’s whatever you make it. From the moment the ship embarks the ship patrons become a family. Smiles and hellos become more frequent as each day passes. Everyone on the ship has one thing in common, they are here to live their best lives and be their best selves, whatever that definition may be.
As this trip comes to a close I am grateful for the new relationship I have continued to develop with Ted. I am grateful I get to continue to love him just as strong but in a far better way, as friends. I am grateful to build on my current relationships and allow others to see my full authentic self, and see others more for who they really are. Life is for living and experiencing, for getting out of my comfort zone and seeing perspectives and breaking paradigms I never knew. Not only did I have an amazing time, I am leaving this trip as a changed and better person.
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