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DL help me figure out why some gays like the dom/sub degrading thing?

I don't understand the appeal of either degrading someone or letting someone degrading you. How is that sexually gratifying? It's fine for 1 person to "lead the way" during sex but for 1 guy to call the other insulting names or do insulting acts (like spitting, slapping, forcefully moving etc) is not only a turnoff but disgusting.

Then there's the whole thing of some gays getting off on being called misogynistic and homophobic insults.

What is the psychology of these guys like?

Just 1 example-here are 2 guys you can see both their pages have more content. The sub is getting fisted and referring to his gaping anus as a "pussy". At 1 point they talk about him being "daddy's good girl" and he has 1 of those weird cages over dick

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by Anonymousreply 170October 22, 2019 2:35 PM

[quote]How is that sexually gratifying?

How is anything sexually gratifying? The psychological reasoning behind it is irrelevant; it gets them going and that's all there is to it. Most of the world can't wrap its head around me putting my dick up another man's ass. So we should be the last people judging others for - what we personally perceive - as weird sexual choices. Just follow your bliss, whatever (consensual) form it happens to take.

by Anonymousreply 1March 4, 2019 5:44 PM

He’S cumming without touching himself. Impressive.

by Anonymousreply 2March 4, 2019 5:56 PM

"Dick cages" are a worse idea than smegmatrons.

by Anonymousreply 3March 4, 2019 5:59 PM

What I don't understand is why these people want it on the internet for anybody in the world who has a computer or smartphone to see.

The guy is very handsome and I imagine his parents, relatives and friends wondering what the hell is he thinking. And if he has or gets a job? Not the act itself. If you like being fisted ok. But the filming and posting. Is he horribly emotionally damaged?

by Anonymousreply 4March 4, 2019 6:40 PM

I've seen more of this D/s stuff among straights than gays.

Most of the subs I met were histrionic, attention seeking. What they want from their "sex" (it needs to be in quotes because it isn't really sex) is lots of focused attention in the form of role-play, props, dirty talk - focused on them and their desires.

I found the sex with these guys to be mediocre. They have a tendency to promise you things sexually to get you hooked in, then manipulate or fail to deliver at all. Often the list of kinks/demands expands rapidly with successive assignations, to the point the whole thing becomes bewildering and exhausting. I don't do kink anymore.

by Anonymousreply 5March 4, 2019 6:55 PM

I sort of agree with you R4, but only to a limited extent. People are putting this stuff on sex websites. Anybody who sees the vid is guilty by implication for having seen the video themselves, which means they're going to keep their mouth shut. You don't find this stuff on Facebook.

by Anonymousreply 6March 4, 2019 7:01 PM

Because dear op, the sexual arousal part of the brain is conneted to the aggression part of the brain. Depends on how you are wiref, Being humilated trigger endangered, survival state of human which connected to arousal. Or you could be dom and crank up yhe amygdala which also cnnected to sexual arousal

by Anonymousreply 7March 4, 2019 7:04 PM

We all were children. You know children are going to find it and spread it around. I'm sure they are already doing it. I don't have children and aren't around any so I have no idea how parents are coping with this. Look what Uncle Matthew is doing!

by Anonymousreply 8March 4, 2019 7:08 PM

And I wouldn't be surprised if mentally ill teens and adults are showing it to kids.

by Anonymousreply 9March 4, 2019 7:12 PM

Mental illness and self loathing is real. Most people who participate in this are ugly and have gross skin flaps and assnee.

by Anonymousreply 10March 4, 2019 7:13 PM

Have a Jesus Juice and relax.

by Anonymousreply 11March 4, 2019 7:24 PM

That guy is really gorgeous.

Sad he'll be dead in a year from sepsis or a perforated bowel.

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by Anonymousreply 12March 4, 2019 7:33 PM

This will explain everything for you.

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by Anonymousreply 13March 4, 2019 7:35 PM

It’s daddys pussy. 🙀🙀🙀

by Anonymousreply 14March 4, 2019 7:42 PM

That guy's Twitter feed is quite something.

by Anonymousreply 15March 4, 2019 7:47 PM

Dom/sub is not a gay thing. It is just a kink some people are into, whether they are straight, gay or bi.

by Anonymousreply 16March 4, 2019 8:04 PM

[quote]gays getting off on being called misogynistic and homophobic insults and referring to his gaping anus as a "pussy".

It’s all transgender, OP. There lots and lots of gay men who are actually transgender and not gay at all. They are emotionally women. They are sexually women. They don’t see themselves as men, they don’t see gay men as men. They see themselves and out gay men as female. They refer to their body parts as female. Regardless of what they do or say to claim otherwise call you slurs, names or get personal with attacks, that’s fine, but at the end of the day, they are transgender. Just like gay men who claim to be straight, they can call themselves a tree, but that’s not the truth. They are trans. That is who they are authentically. Psychiatrists should look into this bevhavior and encourage this behavior as treatment for gay men who want to alter their physical and physiological attributes with drugs and surgery. They should encourage the gay man’s pathologic need to call their recal area a “pussy” and their need to be sexually and romantically linked to straight men alone not gay men at all (as gay men are “women”. This is a better option and safer for children rather than loading them with hormones and removing body parts. Encouraging the illusion and fantasy of living as a woman is a better option, and, what appears to be very fulfilling.

by Anonymousreply 17March 4, 2019 8:12 PM

[quote]Or you could be dom and crank up yhe amygdala which also cnnected to sexual arousal

Oh, dear!

by Anonymousreply 18March 4, 2019 8:23 PM

Yeah! We were wondering the same thing.

by Anonymousreply 19March 4, 2019 8:32 PM

Sex is rape.

by Anonymousreply 20March 4, 2019 8:35 PM

OP will next ask us to explain L'esprit de l'escalier.

Really. Must we serve such brain dead trolls who show ZERO critical thinking?

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by Anonymousreply 21March 4, 2019 8:37 PM

“Everything is about sex. Except sex, sex is about power.”

It’s arousing to have control over someone. For them to focus solely on your sexual gratification instead of their own etc.

by Anonymousreply 22March 4, 2019 8:42 PM

He's actually quite cute. I, too, have thought about what happens to people like this who post their sexual exploits online and show their faces (I'm sure lot of amateur porn folks don't), but someone did bring up a good point. Why would you go out of your way to expose him? If you're looking up videos under the tags "fisting", "daddy's pussy", or "moist mussy" or some shit, how would you even explain how you'd found it in the first place? LOL! They'd think you were a freak, too. I wonder how many of these amateur porn stars actually get exposed due to that reason.

by Anonymousreply 23March 4, 2019 8:45 PM

Some bottoms seem inclined to move on to extreme S&M activities such as fisting. One former top boyfriend of mine kept encouraging me to try bigger dildos and then fisting but that was too far a stretch for me (pun intended). I was game for game for some of the more extreme dildos but would never allow myself to get to the larger fisting size ones or fisting itself. It would ruin your rectum and sphincter forever. I heard he later did hook up with fisting bottoms, so I was probably his transitional bottom.

Porn star Devin Franco has recently started appearing in fisting videos.

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by Anonymousreply 24March 4, 2019 8:53 PM

Why would you come to a gay forum to learn about BDSM?

by Anonymousreply 25March 4, 2019 8:55 PM

Is this a thread designed to root out the fraus?

What a bunch of uptight queens you are!

by Anonymousreply 26March 4, 2019 9:01 PM

My man tried to put two fingers in me this weekend and I had to stop him... The idea of two fingers made me think of fisting, which was a total turn off mentally.

by Anonymousreply 27March 4, 2019 9:06 PM

It's a scene of mild, tender fisting. It's hardly in the "sub/dom" domaine.

by Anonymousreply 28March 4, 2019 9:10 PM

OP= Lindsey Graham

by Anonymousreply 29March 4, 2019 9:18 PM

He has a lovely hole. Hope it doesn't get too worn out. I might be crazy, but does he look like a really skinny version of Henry Cavill a bit?

by Anonymousreply 30March 4, 2019 9:20 PM

The bottoms often don't come, for some reason. Maybe the act of complete submission is more gratifying that the release of orgasm. Drugs are often involved, which also impacts climax.

I always figure these people had aggressive or abusing parenting or schooling which they later fetishized.

by Anonymousreply 31March 4, 2019 9:21 PM

I'm LITERALLY certain 99% of bottom fistees are 3rd or 4th generation Lebensborn raised by alcoholic drug addicted satan worshipping commie pinko or fascist parents in pedophile cult situations. Right?

by Anonymousreply 32March 4, 2019 9:25 PM

The other 1% are blueblood brits, produced by kinky Public School culture.

by Anonymousreply 33March 4, 2019 9:26 PM

I can’t think of anything more disgusting. Freaks.

by Anonymousreply 34March 4, 2019 9:26 PM

And lets not start on the Swedes. DIRTY SEXUAL PEOPLE

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by Anonymousreply 35March 4, 2019 9:27 PM

It's not a gay thing, OP. It's people. Some women and men, regardless of whether they are gay, straight or other, live the dom/sub thing.

by Anonymousreply 36March 4, 2019 9:29 PM

Which is not pictured in the OP's video.

by Anonymousreply 37March 4, 2019 9:30 PM

[quote] Sex is rape.

Why, the minute his.....his thing erupted with all those.....those juices everywhere, why, I had to take a Brillo pad into the shower to scrub it off of me!

Hmmph!

by Anonymousreply 38March 4, 2019 9:31 PM
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by Anonymousreply 39March 4, 2019 9:31 PM

The black guy fisting him is kinda hot, too. I usually find this kind of stuff repulsive, but I guess give me the right couple and it's suddenly hot.

by Anonymousreply 40March 4, 2019 10:15 PM

The more we learn about trans, the more we’ll learn that these men are trans.

by Anonymousreply 41March 4, 2019 10:17 PM

People who aren't into BDSM are pussies.

by Anonymousreply 42March 4, 2019 10:26 PM

More than that, why is this all on Twitter? I thought porn or anything resembling porn was verboten. Or is that just IG and FB?

by Anonymousreply 43March 4, 2019 10:26 PM

why do you care? live and let live.

by Anonymousreply 44March 4, 2019 10:28 PM

They better not think of doing that horrible sex act on my good bed spread.

by Anonymousreply 45March 4, 2019 10:33 PM

Mikey D is HOT.

by Anonymousreply 46March 4, 2019 11:01 PM

Mikey D is beautiful.

And clearly suicidal.

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by Anonymousreply 47March 5, 2019 2:00 AM

Any child with a smart phone can find this stuff. It's not hard. Jesus you people are dim. Oh well if somebody finds this stuff then they are looking and are too ashamed to admit it!

That's not how it works with computers. Only in your dreams.

by Anonymousreply 48March 5, 2019 2:26 AM

A child with a smart phone has a miniscule chance of encountering porn of somebody he knows. You are exaggerating the likelihood. And yes, any adult who finds fisting vids of somebody he knows is going to be afraid to talk about it because they are guilty by association. Unless of course the world suddenly embraces fisting.

by Anonymousreply 49March 5, 2019 3:31 AM

It's a paraphilia or paraphilic disorder.

by Anonymousreply 50March 5, 2019 4:10 AM

R49 you never traded pornographic pictures as a kid? Also I remember a teenage girl saying 'I learned about sex like everyone else my age, on the internet.' These are not kids going into porn shops or buying or renting porn videos. It is in their hands available all the time. Adults are really dumb despite their own prurient and macabre interests as a child. We've got adults, at least I hope they are adults, on DL complaining when people post photos of violence or dead people without warnings. Most recently the dead John Lennon.

by Anonymousreply 51March 5, 2019 10:30 AM

slapping your anus 100 times? sad

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by Anonymousreply 52March 10, 2019 4:06 AM

OP, you don’t have to pretend you’re “trying to figure out” why some guys like it. You’re obviously turned on by it.

by Anonymousreply 53March 10, 2019 4:25 AM

OP, why are you even watching this? Nasty! 🤮

by Anonymousreply 54March 10, 2019 4:29 AM

Man and woman are biological categories and have no implication in feelings. Men and women experience the same feelings R17

by Anonymousreply 55March 10, 2019 5:12 AM

I thought I was the only one who disliked this which is so present in gay porn.

Obviously, those men have grown up eroticising unhealthy conceptions about sex.

by Anonymousreply 56March 15, 2019 10:44 PM

I'd like some of daddy's pussy.

by Anonymousreply 57March 15, 2019 11:09 PM

In a way it’s not surprising given the many negative uses of the word fuck, in a non-sexual context.

by Anonymousreply 58March 15, 2019 11:14 PM

This guy is so damaged that his gorgeous good looks are totally wasted. Daddy's pussy? What is he a toddler with a dirty mouth? Seeing his intestines trying to escape his abuse? Jesus what was his home life like growing up? I didn't think I could be disgusted by somebody so my type.

by Anonymousreply 59March 15, 2019 11:47 PM

Speaking as a bottom myself, being topped by a bigger guy feels good, the feeling of him laying on top conveys a feeling of protection and, protection is usually sexually desirable and also strengthen romantic bonds. Even if the guy is not really big but if he is able to convey a message of leadership you still get that idea of protection. I believe this is the healthy way sub/dom works.

For men who equate the dominant role with aggression they certainly have a psychological issue.

by Anonymousreply 60March 17, 2019 6:35 PM

Wow, that Mikey D is totally fucked up in the head. Sad.

by Anonymousreply 61March 17, 2019 6:44 PM

He's really cute and I'm actually pleasantly surprised by how pretty his hole is considering all the abuse it takes. Maybe he just recently got into fisting and it takes a few years to show the wear and the tear?

by Anonymousreply 62March 17, 2019 6:51 PM

It's not just a gay thing. BDSM is a universal thing.

by Anonymousreply 63March 17, 2019 6:51 PM

I remember I hooked up with a handsome brazilian guy once. But during sex he started choking me, which was so unexpected. I had to kick him in the balls to get him off of me. Still think he might have been some DL serial killer. It really freaked me out. He told me choking guys turned him on. Couldn’t leave his place fast enough. I would never get involved with bdsm guys, I think they all have deep psychological issues.

by Anonymousreply 64March 17, 2019 7:16 PM

Mikey D is a national treasure and his face should be on Mount Rushmore along with the Wrigleyville Cumdump.

by Anonymousreply 65March 17, 2019 7:15 PM

You homos with your obsession with bondage and humiliation revolt me.

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by Anonymousreply 66March 17, 2019 7:32 PM

Hmmm...No.

by Anonymousreply 67March 17, 2019 9:12 PM

Can an stretched butthole be restored surgically back to normal?

by Anonymousreply 68March 20, 2019 6:34 PM

I cannot figure that picture out, it freaks me out.

by Anonymousreply 69March 20, 2019 6:40 PM

Some of us grow up with the belief that being of service is one's highest goal and highest virtue. But it creates a submissive who begs to be of service and gets satisfaction out of pleasing others while being perfectly fine with pushing his own needs and dignity aside in order to satisfy someone else.

Then some grow into insecure people who feel powerless by default and need to affirm they have value (and power) by bossing others around, establish a superior vs. inferior dynamic, take other people's power and claim it as his own, etc.

by Anonymousreply 70March 20, 2019 7:12 PM

OP you don't need to figure it out, what other people are into sexually is none of your business as long as they are adults and it is consensual. Btw, animals and children can not give legal consent.

Trying to explain any type of fetish to someone who doesn't have that fetish is impossible since you don't share the fetish. All you need to know is that what ever the fetish, the people who are into it find it sexually arousing. For some sexual arousal is not possible without the fetish, and if you are expecting people to forgo sexual arousal because you can't figure it out, you are out of luck.

by Anonymousreply 71March 20, 2019 8:26 PM

Some people are just very fucked up Op and sadly a lot of that damage manifests itself as deviant sexual behavior.

by Anonymousreply 72March 21, 2019 8:10 AM

omg his newest crazy thing...he stuck an entire very fat purple eggplant up his ass

literally an emoji coming to life

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by Anonymousreply 73April 14, 2019 5:56 AM

Because you get exactly what you want.

Extreme pleasure. Intensified.

by Anonymousreply 74April 14, 2019 5:57 AM

So, this thread is just porn Spam, right?

The bitch in the OP's video is PHINE as PHUCK!!!

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by Anonymousreply 75April 14, 2019 6:05 AM

I had this young client (not the norm) who liked to wear one of those cock cages in OP's photo. It was the first time I had ever seen one. He like erotic massage with the cage on and then very sensual touching/licking/bfe, but I was instructed that he must not cum. He said he tried to not to ejaculate for months and that the build up was more arousing than the actual orgasm. The longer he held off apparently the more he stayed in a constant state of arousal. This sounds terrible to me. The second time he hired me, I kind of got into the whole thing and took the cage of to really try to tease him. He had a massive dick and within a few minutes of touching, he came. He was nice, but I could tell he was pissed off. That was my last session w/ him. To each their own. I like to cum a couple of times a day. He also said he wore the cock cage most of the time and you can pee with it on if you are sitting down, which sounds messy.

by Anonymousreply 76April 14, 2019 4:06 PM

It’s about power, one wanting to be in charge, the other to give up all autonomy and be controlled. This creates an arousing state for both and pushing it to the extreme is the ultimate pleasure.

by Anonymousreply 77April 14, 2019 4:56 PM

I'm serious here - how does this guy's hole still look fairly normal? You'd think after taking fists and eggplants all day, it would look like hamburger meat like you see on so many other guys who are into this stuff. Is there a trick to keeping your hole tight after doing this stuff or does it take a few years worth of wear and tear to start looking nasty?

by Anonymousreply 78April 14, 2019 5:28 PM

The right morning regimen keeps things tight and pink R78

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by Anonymousreply 79April 14, 2019 5:32 PM

Makin' her tootie whistle

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by Anonymousreply 80April 14, 2019 5:39 PM

Internalised homophobia has alot to do with it i.e subs feeling they need to be punished for being gay which can be seen in the discourse used durring these types of sexual encounters, the sub for example uses language like “punish me” “I’m dirty” and doms feel like subs deserve to be punished for being gay which can be seen not only in their actions such as angy, hateful sex and wanting to cause pain during sex as well as shown in their discourse for example the use of homophobic and derogatory language “fag” , “slut”, “whore”.

by Anonymousreply 81April 14, 2019 5:55 PM

It's no more prevalent among gays than it is among straights, OP. Your question is homophobic.

by Anonymousreply 82April 14, 2019 6:00 PM

I'm also shocked by how damn pretty this slut's hole is. Did he just recently start taking large objects or something?

by Anonymousreply 83April 14, 2019 6:14 PM

R81 that makes sense except, wouldn't doms also feel they need to be punished since they're fucking another guy? Either giving or receiving with another man, they're both still gay

by Anonymousreply 84April 14, 2019 6:15 PM

Tops can always rationalize that they're more manly than bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 85April 14, 2019 6:20 PM

Exactly a distorted sense of masculinity has alot to do with how doms present themselves and behave.

by Anonymousreply 86April 14, 2019 6:37 PM

so in their eyes you're only "really gay" if you bottom? lol how ancient Greek/Roman of them.

by Anonymousreply 87April 14, 2019 6:40 PM

Shame can mess with your head and instead of working through it and expressing their feelings (even the negative ones) in healthy ways they often end up going down an unhealthy spiral of drugs, unprotected sexual encounters and putting themselves in dangerous situations that can lead to rape, overdose or in some rare cases murders.

by Anonymousreply 88April 14, 2019 6:55 PM

What I don’t get is this whole findom stuff? At least there’s some sexual gratification in the traditional arrangement.

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by Anonymousreply 89April 15, 2019 1:02 PM

Inserting vegetables into the ass is not for amateurs. If your unsupple unblown-out ass clamps and breaks it, you're in trouble with a vegetable in your ass.

by Anonymousreply 90April 15, 2019 1:23 PM

I don't think the sphincter is powerful enough to crush a vegetable. If that were the case, we'd have a lot of people going into the ER with broken dicks from encounters with insanely tight bottoms.

by Anonymousreply 91April 15, 2019 5:47 PM

It's definitely not powerful enough to snap a vegetable (or dick) in half, but if the hole is hungry enough, it'll suck that vegetable (or anything else that's not attached to a person or glued to something else) right up the ass and you will have to go to an ER to get it out. You'd be shocked by how common that is. I have a friend who worked in an emergency room and she told me there were at least a handful of those cases every week.

by Anonymousreply 92April 15, 2019 5:49 PM

Sometimes you just want to smack a guy around.

by Anonymousreply 93April 15, 2019 5:53 PM

And why’s that R93? Because you hate them? Hate yourself?

by Anonymousreply 94April 15, 2019 5:56 PM

this might sound dumb, but how is there room inside your body to insert a big fat eggplant like that? Is there really that much space inside of us?

by Anonymousreply 95April 15, 2019 5:59 PM

[quote]I have a friend who worked in an emergency room and she told me there were at least a handful of those cases every week.

If that's not an indicator of the overall shortage of tops, then what is?

by Anonymousreply 96April 15, 2019 6:01 PM

R96, I just howled.

by Anonymousreply 97April 15, 2019 6:02 PM

This explains the current eggplant shortage.

by Anonymousreply 98April 15, 2019 6:51 PM

Bottom who like to be mistreated by tops don't suffer from internalised homophobia or shame. The problem is that they have eroticised a distorted idea of masculinity which what they are looking for. They think things like aggression define masculinity. I would agree that perhaps deprivation of normal sexual interaction with men has shaped and distorted their sexual desires.

by Anonymousreply 99April 15, 2019 8:02 PM

They are working through their shame in a hot way.

by Anonymousreply 100April 16, 2019 12:14 AM

If you find rape “hot” then I am very sorry for you.

by Anonymousreply 101April 16, 2019 1:23 AM

Dom/sub is permission-based. No raping.

by Anonymousreply 102April 16, 2019 1:31 AM

R101 is projecting. What is swirling around that dirty little mind of xis?

by Anonymousreply 103April 16, 2019 1:33 AM

Sex is Dirty and Degrading. . . . only when it's done right!

by Anonymousreply 104April 16, 2019 1:41 AM

I wish I worked in an ER just so I could spend time in ending outlandish stories that would morph into urban legends that I could beam with pride at hearing years later.

I would definitely include eggplant seeds taking root in the rectum.

Even after extraction, the nightmare isn’t over.

by Anonymousreply 105April 16, 2019 1:47 AM

Degrading behaviour is over represented across the whole spectrum of gay porn.

by Anonymousreply 106April 16, 2019 1:56 AM

Chastity cages are more popular and common now.

by Anonymousreply 107April 16, 2019 1:56 AM

R102 permission or not, the degrading acts used in this type of sexual situation is based apon rape culture which like R106 said is overrepresented in porn, derogatory and degrading porn dehumanises us and creates the culture where simulated rape is accepted which can easily turn into real rape.

by Anonymousreply 108April 16, 2019 8:00 PM

Where can I get one of those Chasity cages? I want to lock up my boyfriend.

by Anonymousreply 109April 16, 2019 8:10 PM

Unclutch, r108. It’s a porn fantasy between two consenting adults. Nothing more. Porn is not reality, nor does it influence people any more than straight porn would influence me to have sex with a woman.

by Anonymousreply 110April 16, 2019 8:22 PM

R110 beat me to it. I had the same thing typed up and was about to hit reply when his post popped up.

by Anonymousreply 111April 16, 2019 8:23 PM

R111, I’ll tell you this, after watching that clip, my post wasn’t the only thing that popped up.

by Anonymousreply 112April 16, 2019 8:29 PM

These sub guys make their fetish their entire lives so unless you're prepared to accommodate them stay away.

by Anonymousreply 113April 16, 2019 8:35 PM

Please welcome to the stage: CHASTITY CAGE

by Anonymousreply 114April 16, 2019 8:38 PM

R109, From the apt named website lockthecock.com.

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by Anonymousreply 115April 16, 2019 8:50 PM

I just ordered a cage. When it arrives I will lock my boyfriend up. he will love it.

by Anonymousreply 116April 16, 2019 9:03 PM

[quote]I just ordered a cage. When it arrives I will lock my boyfriend up. he will love it.

Pics please!

by Anonymousreply 117April 16, 2019 10:10 PM

is it safe to put chocolates up your ass? wouldn't that cause an infection if it's not all cleaned out properly?

this guy is nuts

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by Anonymousreply 118June 2, 2019 5:41 AM

is that a water bottle?

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by Anonymousreply 119June 2, 2019 5:44 AM

mowing the lawn

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by Anonymousreply 120June 2, 2019 5:45 AM

R118 damn what a hot little bottom slut. I’d fuck him in a heartbeat

by Anonymousreply 121June 2, 2019 5:50 AM

It's all about power.

The dom exerts it, the sub fantasizes about being the dom who exerts it.

by Anonymousreply 122June 2, 2019 5:51 AM

Some people, who suffer from low self esteem and feel powerless, get pleasure out of

- being of service to others in a sexual way or let go of their trust issues and let someone else be in charge.

- dominating others (and feeling like they have some power after all).

by Anonymousreply 123June 2, 2019 6:46 AM

I love big muscle and the idea that a top is physically strong, but I don't want to be mistreated by him; what makes all that attractive is his capacity to protect. Conveying that idea of care and protection as he pounds you is romantic and desirable. Even if the top is neither muscular nor exceptionally strong, feeling like he cares about you and still conveys and idea of protection is paradise for me. Unfortunately, this kind of fantasy is rare in gay porn. All depictions of dom/sub are degrading, a complete turnoff.

by Anonymousreply 124June 2, 2019 7:57 AM

I love Mikey D.

by Anonymousreply 125June 2, 2019 9:08 AM

What R124 said.

by Anonymousreply 126June 2, 2019 11:21 AM

I am only interested in dominant males. Turns me on to be with them and to service them. I just accept it now.

by Anonymousreply 127June 2, 2019 1:07 PM

I'm still trying to figure out how Mickey's hole still looks so attractive and tight. Did he just start getting into this a few months ago. If you see most guys who are into this stuff, their assholes look like someone chopped up a bunch of hamburger meat.

by Anonymousreply 128June 2, 2019 6:33 PM

For me , dominance and nurturant go hand-in-hand. I like to humiliate my boys but treating them like girlfriends or babies. Pet names, corny gifts (stuffed animals), etc., accompanied by fucking and CBT. Works for us.

by Anonymousreply 129June 7, 2019 7:59 AM

R128,

Attractive and tight are not words I would use to describe that hole.

by Anonymousreply 130June 7, 2019 6:33 PM

R130, as compared to most guys into big toys and fisting, he looks fresh as a daisy down there. Most of them look all swollen and gross like some creature out of a sci-fi movie.

by Anonymousreply 131June 7, 2019 6:36 PM

Rewatch the video in R118

At the start of the video, you can see the skin around the hole is redish-brown. That’s from chronic anal leakage. The hole is also somewhat gaping at the start of the video. With a normal hole, it wouldn’t be possible to see inside like that.

I don’t find the discoloration or looseness attractive at all, but I guess there’s a shoe for every foot.

by Anonymousreply 132June 7, 2019 6:49 PM

does he really go around wearing this thing for long periods of time? isn't it unhealthy to squish your dick up like that?

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by Anonymousreply 133July 2, 2019 6:01 AM

omg he said in the comments he's wearing this all fucking summer. crazy

here's how he puts it on. I can't imagine it being comfortable no thanks

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by Anonymousreply 134July 2, 2019 6:03 AM

He's very attractive, what a waste!

by Anonymousreply 135July 2, 2019 6:14 AM

^^^ Keep in mind that’s the exact thing homophobic straight girls say when the see hot gay guy.

by Anonymousreply 136July 2, 2019 2:19 PM

People use sex to allow them to push boundaries that society puts on them in life. They say things they wouldn't normally say; they treat their sexual partners in ways they wouldn't normally treat a person.

For some reason, they think that sex allows you to no longer be civil

by Anonymousreply 137July 2, 2019 2:56 PM
by Anonymousreply 138July 2, 2019 7:37 PM

You want to be a freak be a freak but keep it to yourself.

by Anonymousreply 139July 3, 2019 12:37 PM

outdoor dildo time

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by Anonymousreply 140July 27, 2019 5:37 AM

fisting himself

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by Anonymousreply 141July 27, 2019 5:41 AM

the gape

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by Anonymousreply 142July 27, 2019 5:42 AM

anal lips!

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by Anonymousreply 143July 27, 2019 5:43 AM

gross but I guess it was only a matter of time

[quote] I made my very first trip to Fire Island and ended up getting discreetly fingered by @MichaelLucasNYC at a pool party in front of dozens of men. Will return soon!

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by Anonymousreply 144July 27, 2019 5:48 AM

OP, Did you figure it out yet?

by Anonymousreply 145July 27, 2019 8:49 PM
by Anonymousreply 146July 28, 2019 9:07 PM

a sink corner

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by Anonymousreply 147September 1, 2019 3:35 AM

giant yellow squash? really?

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by Anonymousreply 148September 1, 2019 3:36 AM
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by Anonymousreply 149September 1, 2019 3:37 AM

a sock

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by Anonymousreply 150September 1, 2019 3:38 AM
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by Anonymousreply 151September 1, 2019 3:41 AM

[quote]DL help me figure out why some gays like the dom/sub degrading thing?

For the same reason so many straights like the Dom/Sub fetish. This particular fetish started in prevalent in the straight community and not it has crossed over I guess.

by Anonymousreply 152September 1, 2019 3:44 AM

now it has crossed*

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by Anonymousreply 154September 1, 2019 7:21 PM

It's people like that human Holland Tunnel that are going to get adult material banned from Twitter and honestly I'm not completely sure I'd mind that.

by Anonymousreply 155September 2, 2019 5:41 AM

pushing the 2 socks he shoved up his ass out

why does one want to do this?

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by Anonymousreply 156September 17, 2019 5:55 AM

Is Mikey D dead from septic shock yet?

Every time I see this thread bumped, I assume that's what's happened.

It is a crying shame, because he is gorgeous.

by Anonymousreply 157September 17, 2019 5:59 AM

You could hide a lotta drugs in there.

by Anonymousreply 158September 17, 2019 6:13 AM

As others mentioned, I can't fathom why you would put this on the internet, knowing that your parents, siblings, relatives, classmates or co-workers are bound to discover it via gossip.

Serious sexual abuse is the only explanation I can imagine.

by Anonymousreply 159September 17, 2019 6:22 AM

It has to be the result of some kind of psychological damage or defect R159.

by Anonymousreply 160September 17, 2019 11:07 PM

a giant zucchini

whyyyyy

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by Anonymousreply 161September 18, 2019 12:49 AM

OP you will never understand a sexual desire that you don't share, that is all you need to know.

There are plenty of sexual desires I don't get, but to the people who have those particular fetishes they don't care whether you or I get it.

by Anonymousreply 162September 18, 2019 1:13 AM

OMFG I've never heard of this before...

he's getting fucked and fisted at the same time

then at the end the guy puts his hand back in and jacks his dick off all inside his ass. WTF

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by Anonymousreply 163October 21, 2019 5:30 AM

HOT ^

More videos like that

by Anonymousreply 164October 21, 2019 11:33 AM

Sometimes I wonder how these people get to this point but then I think I probably really don't want to know.

by Anonymousreply 165October 21, 2019 4:54 PM

well he spent all summer putting very large zucchini and eggplant up his ass so he could fit just about anything in there now. I imagine that can't be healthy though to have such a large hole. When he's older will it sag?

by Anonymousreply 166October 21, 2019 6:35 PM

I don't think there's any one single answer to why people like it. And as others have said it's not a gay thing it's hetero as well.

Yes some people just straight up like being abused because of pyschological issues they have with their own self worth. This of course goes beyond sexual situations, ie people who allow themselves to be treated badly, verbally abused etc in all aspects of their life. Its all they feel they deserve due to severe lack of self esteem.

Others I think just like the physical aspect of controlling/ being controlled and/or behaving in a very animalistic way and this simply provides a "storyline" to facilitate something they enjoy physically, like a sort of sex game.

Others I think are working out their issues in a potentially therapeutic way, for example if they have been abused or humiliated in the past they can now replay that scene with someone who temporarily replicates the abuser but actually does it in a way that also respects/appreciates them within the sex play.

There are other reasons as well and of course they can overlap. Human sexuality is extremely layered and complicated. Anyone on a gay forum should not be judging and criticizing others sexual proclivities because there are entire cultures and much of our own that consider simple homosexuality activity disgusting and abhorrent. So be open minded and don't do it to anyone else.

by Anonymousreply 167October 21, 2019 7:12 PM

This will push a few over the edge, not for the faint hearted.

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by Anonymousreply 168October 21, 2019 11:58 PM

R168 that is fucking disgusting and yes R167 I will judge people who claim to want to be abused and associate abuse with sexual pleasure. There is something wrong with those people. I feel sorry for them

the fact that the guy in R168 's repulsive clip got to the point of making his ass bleed is insane. The fact that the guy telling him what to do got off on him bleeding and calling him the most degrading names is bizarre too. They're both fucked up and so are the people who find that "hot"

by Anonymousreply 169October 22, 2019 1:04 AM

Some people are truly fucked up in the head.

by Anonymousreply 170October 22, 2019 2:35 PM
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