DL help me figure out why some gays like the dom/sub degrading thing?
I don't understand the appeal of either degrading someone or letting someone degrading you. How is that sexually gratifying? It's fine for 1 person to "lead the way" during sex but for 1 guy to call the other insulting names or do insulting acts (like spitting, slapping, forcefully moving etc) is not only a turnoff but disgusting.
Then there's the whole thing of some gays getting off on being called misogynistic and homophobic insults.
What is the psychology of these guys like?
Just 1 example-here are 2 guys you can see both their pages have more content. The sub is getting fisted and referring to his gaping anus as a "pussy". At 1 point they talk about him being "daddy's good girl" and he has 1 of those weird cages over dick
|by Anonymous||reply 117||Last Tuesday at 2:10 PM|
[quote]How is that sexually gratifying?
How is anything sexually gratifying? The psychological reasoning behind it is irrelevant; it gets them going and that's all there is to it. Most of the world can't wrap its head around me putting my dick up another man's ass. So we should be the last people judging others for - what we personally perceive - as weird sexual choices. Just follow your bliss, whatever (consensual) form it happens to take.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||03/04/2019|
He’S cumming without touching himself. Impressive.
|by Anonymous||reply 2||03/04/2019|
"Dick cages" are a worse idea than smegmatrons.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||03/04/2019|
What I don't understand is why these people want it on the internet for anybody in the world who has a computer or smartphone to see.
The guy is very handsome and I imagine his parents, relatives and friends wondering what the hell is he thinking. And if he has or gets a job? Not the act itself. If you like being fisted ok. But the filming and posting. Is he horribly emotionally damaged?
|by Anonymous||reply 4||03/04/2019|
I've seen more of this D/s stuff among straights than gays.
Most of the subs I met were histrionic, attention seeking. What they want from their "sex" (it needs to be in quotes because it isn't really sex) is lots of focused attention in the form of role-play, props, dirty talk - focused on them and their desires.
I found the sex with these guys to be mediocre. They have a tendency to promise you things sexually to get you hooked in, then manipulate or fail to deliver at all. Often the list of kinks/demands expands rapidly with successive assignations, to the point the whole thing becomes bewildering and exhausting. I don't do kink anymore.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||03/04/2019|
I sort of agree with you R4, but only to a limited extent. People are putting this stuff on sex websites. Anybody who sees the vid is guilty by implication for having seen the video themselves, which means they're going to keep their mouth shut. You don't find this stuff on Facebook.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||03/04/2019|
Because dear op, the sexual arousal part of the brain is conneted to the aggression part of the brain. Depends on how you are wiref, Being humilated trigger endangered, survival state of human which connected to arousal. Or you could be dom and crank up yhe amygdala which also cnnected to sexual arousal
|by Anonymous||reply 7||03/04/2019|
We all were children. You know children are going to find it and spread it around. I'm sure they are already doing it. I don't have children and aren't around any so I have no idea how parents are coping with this. Look what Uncle Matthew is doing!
|by Anonymous||reply 8||03/04/2019|
And I wouldn't be surprised if mentally ill teens and adults are showing it to kids.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||03/04/2019|
Mental illness and self loathing is real. Most people who participate in this are ugly and have gross skin flaps and assnee.
|by Anonymous||reply 10||03/04/2019|
Have a Jesus Juice and relax.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||03/04/2019|
That guy is really gorgeous.
Sad he'll be dead in a year from sepsis or a perforated bowel.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||03/04/2019|
This will explain everything for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||03/04/2019|
That guy's Twitter feed is quite something.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||03/04/2019|
Dom/sub is not a gay thing. It is just a kink some people are into, whether they are straight, gay or bi.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||03/04/2019|
[quote]gays getting off on being called misogynistic and homophobic insults and referring to his gaping anus as a "pussy".
It’s all transgender, OP. There lots and lots of gay men who are actually transgender and not gay at all. They are emotionally women. They are sexually women. They don’t see themselves as men, they don’t see gay men as men. They see themselves and out gay men as female. They refer to their body parts as female. Regardless of what they do or say to claim otherwise call you slurs, names or get personal with attacks, that’s fine, but at the end of the day, they are transgender. Just like gay men who claim to be straight, they can call themselves a tree, but that’s not the truth. They are trans. That is who they are authentically. Psychiatrists should look into this bevhavior and encourage this behavior as treatment for gay men who want to alter their physical and physiological attributes with drugs and surgery. They should encourage the gay man’s pathologic need to call their recal area a “pussy” and their need to be sexually and romantically linked to straight men alone not gay men at all (as gay men are “women”. This is a better option and safer for children rather than loading them with hormones and removing body parts. Encouraging the illusion and fantasy of living as a woman is a better option, and, what appears to be very fulfilling.
|by Anonymous||reply 17||03/04/2019|
[quote]Or you could be dom and crank up yhe amygdala which also cnnected to sexual arousal
|by Anonymous||reply 18||03/04/2019|
Yeah! We were wondering the same thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||03/04/2019|
OP will next ask us to explain L'esprit de l'escalier.
Really. Must we serve such brain dead trolls who show ZERO critical thinking?
|by Anonymous||reply 21||03/04/2019|
“Everything is about sex. Except sex, sex is about power.”
It’s arousing to have control over someone. For them to focus solely on your sexual gratification instead of their own etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 22||03/04/2019|
He's actually quite cute. I, too, have thought about what happens to people like this who post their sexual exploits online and show their faces (I'm sure lot of amateur porn folks don't), but someone did bring up a good point. Why would you go out of your way to expose him? If you're looking up videos under the tags "fisting", "daddy's pussy", or "moist mussy" or some shit, how would you even explain how you'd found it in the first place? LOL! They'd think you were a freak, too. I wonder how many of these amateur porn stars actually get exposed due to that reason.
|by Anonymous||reply 23||03/04/2019|
Some bottoms seem inclined to move on to extreme S&M activities such as fisting. One former top boyfriend of mine kept encouraging me to try bigger dildos and then fisting but that was too far a stretch for me (pun intended). I was game for game for some of the more extreme dildos but would never allow myself to get to the larger fisting size ones or fisting itself. It would ruin your rectum and sphincter forever. I heard he later did hook up with fisting bottoms, so I was probably his transitional bottom.
Porn star Devin Franco has recently started appearing in fisting videos.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||03/04/2019|
Why would you come to a gay forum to learn about BDSM?
|by Anonymous||reply 25||03/04/2019|
Is this a thread designed to root out the fraus?
What a bunch of uptight queens you are!
|by Anonymous||reply 26||03/04/2019|
My man tried to put two fingers in me this weekend and I had to stop him... The idea of two fingers made me think of fisting, which was a total turn off mentally.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||03/04/2019|
It's a scene of mild, tender fisting. It's hardly in the "sub/dom" domaine.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||03/04/2019|
He has a lovely hole. Hope it doesn't get too worn out. I might be crazy, but does he look like a really skinny version of Henry Cavill a bit?
|by Anonymous||reply 30||03/04/2019|
The bottoms often don't come, for some reason. Maybe the act of complete submission is more gratifying that the release of orgasm. Drugs are often involved, which also impacts climax.
I always figure these people had aggressive or abusing parenting or schooling which they later fetishized.
|by Anonymous||reply 31||03/04/2019|
I'm LITERALLY certain 99% of bottom fistees are 3rd or 4th generation Lebensborn raised by alcoholic drug addicted satan worshipping commie pinko or fascist parents in pedophile cult situations. Right?
|by Anonymous||reply 32||03/04/2019|
The other 1% are blueblood brits, produced by kinky Public School culture.
|by Anonymous||reply 33||03/04/2019|
I can’t think of anything more disgusting. Freaks.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||03/04/2019|
And lets not start on the Swedes. DIRTY SEXUAL PEOPLE
|by Anonymous||reply 35||03/04/2019|
It's not a gay thing, OP. It's people. Some women and men, regardless of whether they are gay, straight or other, live the dom/sub thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||03/04/2019|
Which is not pictured in the OP's video.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||03/04/2019|
[quote] Sex is rape.
Why, the minute his.....his thing erupted with all those.....those juices everywhere, why, I had to take a Brillo pad into the shower to scrub it off of me!
|by Anonymous||reply 38||03/04/2019|
The black guy fisting him is kinda hot, too. I usually find this kind of stuff repulsive, but I guess give me the right couple and it's suddenly hot.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||03/04/2019|
The more we learn about trans, the more we’ll learn that these men are trans.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||03/04/2019|
People who aren't into BDSM are pussies.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||03/04/2019|
More than that, why is this all on Twitter? I thought porn or anything resembling porn was verboten. Or is that just IG and FB?
|by Anonymous||reply 43||03/04/2019|
why do you care? live and let live.
|by Anonymous||reply 44||03/04/2019|
They better not think of doing that horrible sex act on my good bed spread.
|by Anonymous||reply 45||03/04/2019|
Any child with a smart phone can find this stuff. It's not hard. Jesus you people are dim. Oh well if somebody finds this stuff then they are looking and are too ashamed to admit it!
That's not how it works with computers. Only in your dreams.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||03/04/2019|
A child with a smart phone has a miniscule chance of encountering porn of somebody he knows. You are exaggerating the likelihood. And yes, any adult who finds fisting vids of somebody he knows is going to be afraid to talk about it because they are guilty by association. Unless of course the world suddenly embraces fisting.
|by Anonymous||reply 49||03/04/2019|
It's a paraphilia or paraphilic disorder.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||03/04/2019|
R49 you never traded pornographic pictures as a kid? Also I remember a teenage girl saying 'I learned about sex like everyone else my age, on the internet.' These are not kids going into porn shops or buying or renting porn videos. It is in their hands available all the time. Adults are really dumb despite their own prurient and macabre interests as a child. We've got adults, at least I hope they are adults, on DL complaining when people post photos of violence or dead people without warnings. Most recently the dead John Lennon.
|by Anonymous||reply 51||03/05/2019|
slapping your anus 100 times? sad
|by Anonymous||reply 52||03/09/2019|
OP, you don’t have to pretend you’re “trying to figure out” why some guys like it. You’re obviously turned on by it.
|by Anonymous||reply 53||03/09/2019|
OP, why are you even watching this? Nasty! 🤮
|by Anonymous||reply 54||03/09/2019|
Man and woman are biological categories and have no implication in feelings. Men and women experience the same feelings R17
|by Anonymous||reply 55||03/09/2019|
I thought I was the only one who disliked this which is so present in gay porn.
Obviously, those men have grown up eroticising unhealthy conceptions about sex.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||03/15/2019|
I'd like some of daddy's pussy.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||03/15/2019|
In a way it’s not surprising given the many negative uses of the word fuck, in a non-sexual context.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||03/15/2019|
This guy is so damaged that his gorgeous good looks are totally wasted. Daddy's pussy? What is he a toddler with a dirty mouth? Seeing his intestines trying to escape his abuse? Jesus what was his home life like growing up? I didn't think I could be disgusted by somebody so my type.
|by Anonymous||reply 59||03/15/2019|
Speaking as a bottom myself, being topped by a bigger guy feels good, the feeling of him laying on top conveys a feeling of protection and, protection is usually sexually desirable and also strengthen romantic bonds. Even if the guy is not really big but if he is able to convey a message of leadership you still get that idea of protection. I believe this is the healthy way sub/dom works.
For men who equate the dominant role with aggression they certainly have a psychological issue.
|by Anonymous||reply 60||03/17/2019|
Wow, that Mikey D is totally fucked up in the head. Sad.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||03/17/2019|
He's really cute and I'm actually pleasantly surprised by how pretty his hole is considering all the abuse it takes. Maybe he just recently got into fisting and it takes a few years to show the wear and the tear?
|by Anonymous||reply 62||03/17/2019|
It's not just a gay thing. BDSM is a universal thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 63||03/17/2019|
I remember I hooked up with a handsome brazilian guy once. But during sex he started choking me, which was so unexpected. I had to kick him in the balls to get him off of me. Still think he might have been some DL serial killer. It really freaked me out. He told me choking guys turned him on. Couldn’t leave his place fast enough. I would never get involved with bdsm guys, I think they all have deep psychological issues.
|by Anonymous||reply 64||03/17/2019|
Mikey D is a national treasure and his face should be on Mount Rushmore along with the Wrigleyville Cumdump.
|by Anonymous||reply 65||03/17/2019|
You homos with your obsession with bondage and humiliation revolt me.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||03/17/2019|
Can an stretched butthole be restored surgically back to normal?
|by Anonymous||reply 68||03/20/2019|
I cannot figure that picture out, it freaks me out.
|by Anonymous||reply 69||03/20/2019|
Some of us grow up with the belief that being of service is one's highest goal and highest virtue. But it creates a submissive who begs to be of service and gets satisfaction out of pleasing others while being perfectly fine with pushing his own needs and dignity aside in order to satisfy someone else.
Then some grow into insecure people who feel powerless by default and need to affirm they have value (and power) by bossing others around, establish a superior vs. inferior dynamic, take other people's power and claim it as his own, etc.
|by Anonymous||reply 70||03/20/2019|
OP you don't need to figure it out, what other people are into sexually is none of your business as long as they are adults and it is consensual. Btw, animals and children can not give legal consent.
Trying to explain any type of fetish to someone who doesn't have that fetish is impossible since you don't share the fetish. All you need to know is that what ever the fetish, the people who are into it find it sexually arousing. For some sexual arousal is not possible without the fetish, and if you are expecting people to forgo sexual arousal because you can't figure it out, you are out of luck.
|by Anonymous||reply 71||03/20/2019|
Some people are just very fucked up Op and sadly a lot of that damage manifests itself as deviant sexual behavior.
|by Anonymous||reply 72||03/21/2019|
omg his newest crazy thing...he stuck an entire very fat purple eggplant up his ass
literally an emoji coming to life
|by Anonymous||reply 73||Last Saturday at 9:56 PM|
Because you get exactly what you want.
Extreme pleasure. Intensified.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||Last Saturday at 9:57 PM|
So, this thread is just porn Spam, right?
The bitch in the OP's video is PHINE as PHUCK!!!
|by Anonymous||reply 75||Last Saturday at 10:05 PM|
I had this young client (not the norm) who liked to wear one of those cock cages in OP's photo. It was the first time I had ever seen one. He like erotic massage with the cage on and then very sensual touching/licking/bfe, but I was instructed that he must not cum. He said he tried to not to ejaculate for months and that the build up was more arousing than the actual orgasm. The longer he held off apparently the more he stayed in a constant state of arousal. This sounds terrible to me. The second time he hired me, I kind of got into the whole thing and took the cage of to really try to tease him. He had a massive dick and within a few minutes of touching, he came. He was nice, but I could tell he was pissed off. That was my last session w/ him. To each their own. I like to cum a couple of times a day. He also said he wore the cock cage most of the time and you can pee with it on if you are sitting down, which sounds messy.
|by Anonymous||reply 76||Last Sunday at 8:06 AM|
It’s about power, one wanting to be in charge, the other to give up all autonomy and be controlled. This creates an arousing state for both and pushing it to the extreme is the ultimate pleasure.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||Last Sunday at 8:56 AM|
I'm serious here - how does this guy's hole still look fairly normal? You'd think after taking fists and eggplants all day, it would look like hamburger meat like you see on so many other guys who are into this stuff. Is there a trick to keeping your hole tight after doing this stuff or does it take a few years worth of wear and tear to start looking nasty?
|by Anonymous||reply 78||Last Sunday at 9:28 AM|
The right morning regimen keeps things tight and pink R78
|by Anonymous||reply 79||Last Sunday at 9:32 AM|
Makin' her tootie whistle
|by Anonymous||reply 80||Last Sunday at 9:39 AM|
Internalised homophobia has alot to do with it i.e subs feeling they need to be punished for being gay which can be seen in the discourse used durring these types of sexual encounters, the sub for example uses language like “punish me” “I’m dirty” and doms feel like subs deserve to be punished for being gay which can be seen not only in their actions such as angy, hateful sex and wanting to cause pain during sex as well as shown in their discourse for example the use of homophobic and derogatory language “fag” , “slut”, “whore”.
|by Anonymous||reply 81||Last Sunday at 9:55 AM|
It's no more prevalent among gays than it is among straights, OP. Your question is homophobic.
|by Anonymous||reply 82||Last Sunday at 10:00 AM|
I'm also shocked by how damn pretty this slut's hole is. Did he just recently start taking large objects or something?
|by Anonymous||reply 83||Last Sunday at 10:14 AM|
R81 that makes sense except, wouldn't doms also feel they need to be punished since they're fucking another guy? Either giving or receiving with another man, they're both still gay
|by Anonymous||reply 84||Last Sunday at 10:15 AM|
Tops can always rationalize that they're more manly than bottoms.
|by Anonymous||reply 85||Last Sunday at 10:20 AM|
Exactly a distorted sense of masculinity has alot to do with how doms present themselves and behave.
|by Anonymous||reply 86||Last Sunday at 10:37 AM|
so in their eyes you're only "really gay" if you bottom? lol how ancient Greek/Roman of them.
|by Anonymous||reply 87||Last Sunday at 10:40 AM|
Shame can mess with your head and instead of working through it and expressing their feelings (even the negative ones) in healthy ways they often end up going down an unhealthy spiral of drugs, unprotected sexual encounters and putting themselves in dangerous situations that can lead to rape, overdose or in some rare cases murders.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||Last Sunday at 10:55 AM|
What I don’t get is this whole findom stuff? At least there’s some sexual gratification in the traditional arrangement.
|by Anonymous||reply 89||Last Monday at 5:02 AM|
Inserting vegetables into the ass is not for amateurs. If your unsupple unblown-out ass clamps and breaks it, you're in trouble with a vegetable in your ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 90||Last Monday at 5:23 AM|
I don't think the sphincter is powerful enough to crush a vegetable. If that were the case, we'd have a lot of people going into the ER with broken dicks from encounters with insanely tight bottoms.
|by Anonymous||reply 91||Last Monday at 9:47 AM|
It's definitely not powerful enough to snap a vegetable (or dick) in half, but if the hole is hungry enough, it'll suck that vegetable (or anything else that's not attached to a person or glued to something else) right up the ass and you will have to go to an ER to get it out. You'd be shocked by how common that is. I have a friend who worked in an emergency room and she told me there were at least a handful of those cases every week.
|by Anonymous||reply 92||Last Monday at 9:49 AM|
Sometimes you just want to smack a guy around.
|by Anonymous||reply 93||Last Monday at 9:53 AM|
And why’s that R93? Because you hate them? Hate yourself?
|by Anonymous||reply 94||Last Monday at 9:56 AM|
this might sound dumb, but how is there room inside your body to insert a big fat eggplant like that? Is there really that much space inside of us?
|by Anonymous||reply 95||Last Monday at 9:59 AM|
[quote]I have a friend who worked in an emergency room and she told me there were at least a handful of those cases every week.
If that's not an indicator of the overall shortage of tops, then what is?
|by Anonymous||reply 96||Last Monday at 10:01 AM|
This explains the current eggplant shortage.
|by Anonymous||reply 98||Last Monday at 10:51 AM|
Bottom who like to be mistreated by tops don't suffer from internalised homophobia or shame. The problem is that they have eroticised a distorted idea of masculinity which what they are looking for. They think things like aggression define masculinity. I would agree that perhaps deprivation of normal sexual interaction with men has shaped and distorted their sexual desires.
|by Anonymous||reply 99||Last Monday at 12:02 PM|
They are working through their shame in a hot way.
|by Anonymous||reply 100||Last Monday at 4:14 PM|
If you find rape “hot” then I am very sorry for you.
|by Anonymous||reply 101||Last Monday at 5:23 PM|
Dom/sub is permission-based. No raping.
|by Anonymous||reply 102||Last Monday at 5:31 PM|
R101 is projecting. What is swirling around that dirty little mind of xis?
|by Anonymous||reply 103||Last Monday at 5:33 PM|
Sex is Dirty and Degrading. . . . only when it's done right!
|by Anonymous||reply 104||Last Monday at 5:41 PM|
I wish I worked in an ER just so I could spend time in ending outlandish stories that would morph into urban legends that I could beam with pride at hearing years later.
I would definitely include eggplant seeds taking root in the rectum.
Even after extraction, the nightmare isn’t over.
|by Anonymous||reply 105||Last Monday at 5:47 PM|
Degrading behaviour is over represented across the whole spectrum of gay porn.
|by Anonymous||reply 106||Last Monday at 5:56 PM|
Chastity cages are more popular and common now.
|by Anonymous||reply 107||Last Monday at 5:56 PM|
R102 permission or not, the degrading acts used in this type of sexual situation is based apon rape culture which like R106 said is overrepresented in porn, derogatory and degrading porn dehumanises us and creates the culture where simulated rape is accepted which can easily turn into real rape.
|by Anonymous||reply 108||Last Tuesday at 12:00 PM|
Where can I get one of those Chasity cages? I want to lock up my boyfriend.
|by Anonymous||reply 109||Last Tuesday at 12:10 PM|
Unclutch, r108. It’s a porn fantasy between two consenting adults. Nothing more. Porn is not reality, nor does it influence people any more than straight porn would influence me to have sex with a woman.
|by Anonymous||reply 110||Last Tuesday at 12:22 PM|
R110 beat me to it. I had the same thing typed up and was about to hit reply when his post popped up.
|by Anonymous||reply 111||Last Tuesday at 12:23 PM|
R111, I’ll tell you this, after watching that clip, my post wasn’t the only thing that popped up.
|by Anonymous||reply 112||Last Tuesday at 12:29 PM|
These sub guys make their fetish their entire lives so unless you're prepared to accommodate them stay away.
|by Anonymous||reply 113||Last Tuesday at 12:35 PM|
Please welcome to the stage: CHASTITY CAGE
|by Anonymous||reply 114||Last Tuesday at 12:38 PM|
R109, From the apt named website lockthecock.com.
|by Anonymous||reply 115||Last Tuesday at 12:50 PM|
I just ordered a cage. When it arrives I will lock my boyfriend up. he will love it.
|by Anonymous||reply 116||Last Tuesday at 1:03 PM|
[quote]I just ordered a cage. When it arrives I will lock my boyfriend up. he will love it.
|by Anonymous||reply 117||Last Tuesday at 2:10 PM|