Y Tu Mamá, También
For a lot of gay and bi guys, myself included, this movie validated a lot of our formative years, which consisted of bromances that sometimes turned into romances but mostly, like the movie, turned into a one night drunken fling from which the friendship never recovered.
I've talked to a number of guys over the years about this, we were all in similar situations--closeted, masculine enough that we could pass, a friendship that got very intense very quickly ... and the lots of guilt and blaming ourselves in the immediate aftermath for "seducing" our friend and ruining the friendship, questioning whether there ever was a friendship or just a crush, wondering how we'd have reacted if our feelings were returned, the eventual, years-later realization that there was no "seduction" and that the other guy was just as curious, just as invested.
Those instances (there were three) happened in high school/college/right after college. But there have been a few times since where I could feel that sort of relationship starting, see all the signs and decided to pull back because I could see where it was heading.
Wondering if other have been in the same situation and what your thoughts/experiences were.
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | March 20, 2019 2:28 PM
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I feel cheated that we never got a gay movie out of those two.
| by Anonymous | reply 1 | February 19, 2019 2:15 PM
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I'd get cancer just to fuck Diego and Gael together.
| by Anonymous | reply 2 | February 19, 2019 2:18 PM
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Love Y Tu Mamá, También
I think the movie Threesome went in that direction as well, with the macho guy afterward becoming uncomfortable to the point of ending the friendship
| by Anonymous | reply 4 | February 19, 2019 2:27 PM
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I had a similar drunk sex session with a straight friend. We both laughed about it the next morning and went out for breakfast.
| by Anonymous | reply 5 | February 19, 2019 2:44 PM
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One of the benefits of fluid sexuality as an IN thing-- no more guilt, just some pride at being cutting edge.
| by Anonymous | reply 6 | February 19, 2019 2:48 PM
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How close a friend was he though R5?
The relationship in YTMT--and in similar ones I've described/had--is the guys are BFFs in that way that's far more common when you're still in school or right after, before responsibility takes over and you really can spend a whole lot of time together.
So when the sex happens, it's tougher to just laugh it off--it sort of becomes clear that there was a lot more going on than just being "buddies"
Also, when neither of you is out, that changes the dynamic completely, as before the sex, you're just two straight buddies who spend a lot of time together (common enough) and now that one or both of you is gay and clearly turned on by the other ... it changes things.
| by Anonymous | reply 8 | February 19, 2019 3:38 PM
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I've had similar experiences R5, where it's a guy I'm friendly with but not all that close to, and then it's easy to shrug it off because there's not a whole lot of emotion invested.
| by Anonymous | reply 9 | February 19, 2019 3:40 PM
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Many so-called straight people are really straight-mannered bi people, so the situation in this movie can happen.
| by Anonymous | reply 11 | February 19, 2019 7:39 PM
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I'm not sure that was the point though R11.
It was about how a bromance can lead into something else and how neither of them realized that the other was the object of their desire. Or maybe one of them did.
I wonder if Guaron had a similar experience in childhood. Seems almost too autobiographical.
| by Anonymous | reply 12 | February 19, 2019 11:22 PM
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i tried so damn hard to suk the huge ! str8 dik of my buddy, but never got it. still think about that anaconda too this day, ten by six....
| by Anonymous | reply 14 | February 20, 2019 1:49 AM
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How do you know what it looked like hard R14.
Or is this DL humor?
| by Anonymous | reply 15 | February 20, 2019 1:50 AM
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he walked around naked in the gym at school , his nickname was the whip....word was he was fucking 3 of the hi school teachers, females
| by Anonymous | reply 16 | February 20, 2019 1:53 AM
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That movie was hot. I remember renting that movie from blockbuster in high school. Bad education was hot too
| by Anonymous | reply 17 | February 20, 2019 1:55 AM
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Thank God I was always as gay as a goose. There was never any question in my working class neighborhood what I wanted from my "friends" . How willingly they gave it too !
| by Anonymous | reply 18 | February 20, 2019 2:00 AM
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OP this happened to you 3 times? You really must be a gaybro .
| by Anonymous | reply 19 | February 20, 2019 2:27 AM
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LOL R19. I played sports and I'm not particularly femme. But I'm a film and music nerd and don't really like beer, so not many DLers fantasy guy.
I think these situations are far more common and that in most instances (as in the movie) both guys go on to lead primarily hetero lives, though the lost friendship and what might have been probably stays with them. ("What could have been" meaning when you are that close to someone and you have sex and realize you're attracted to each other, you can either decide to be a couple or you can end the friendship. It's hard going back to being "just friends" even when both of you are gay .)
| by Anonymous | reply 20 | February 20, 2019 3:22 PM
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I liked it a lot, one of those unique movies that are daring and deep, even though it's just a road movie with two horny teenagers and a mature woman.
Mexican filmmakers, I think have a different perspective on life. It's everything from love, sex, joy sadness laughter and death, it's whole. Biutiful and Birdman were great movies too.
Never really saw a del Toro movie, I tried to get through Cronos but couldn't understand all the hype about it.
| by Anonymous | reply 22 | March 20, 2019 7:43 AM
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Poor miserable stunted tard OP.
| by Anonymous | reply 23 | March 20, 2019 8:07 AM
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[quote]There was never any question in my working class neighborhood what I wanted from my "friends" . How willingly they gave it too !
Details please.
| by Anonymous | reply 24 | March 20, 2019 8:44 AM
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YTMT also focused on the class distinction between the two best friends. That too formed a barrier to a lasting close friendship between the two.
| by Anonymous | reply 25 | March 20, 2019 9:57 AM
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Emmanuel Lubezki was the DP!
| by Anonymous | reply 26 | March 20, 2019 10:23 AM
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[quote]YTMT also focused on the class distinction between the two best friends.
Yes. It even mentioned that one was cut and one was uncut.
| by Anonymous | reply 27 | March 20, 2019 11:46 AM
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OP must be part of that first cohort of American kids who never got sex education.
| by Anonymous | reply 28 | March 20, 2019 2:28 PM
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