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Work Crushes

Does anyone here currently have a crush on a co-worker? Does anyone ever have a happy outcome? Or is it just a way to pass the boredom from a boring or difficult job? How long does the typical work crush last.

by Anonymousreply 30June 21, 2018 6:20 AM

I've had crushes on clients or people who work near me but it's been years since I liked an actual co worker. I had a short affair with my boss like 5 years ago and have had sex with many of my clients at work. This has been at multiple jobs although I only did the one boss.

by Anonymousreply 1May 25, 2018 12:44 AM

I've had a crush on a younger co-worker for the last seven years. He's cute and smart and well-spoken, and seeing him online is so reassuring to me. I'm the only person at work he confided in when he got married. It was sort of a shock to me, but I was happy for him, and (of course) congratulated him. I fell hard for him within a month of him being hired. To be honest, if he had ever reciprocated my feelings, I wouldn't have succumbed (I think/hope) since I'm old enough to be his father.

by Anonymousreply 2May 25, 2018 12:52 AM

NEVER shit where you eat.

by Anonymousreply 3May 25, 2018 1:01 AM

i work for a university, where a number a number of tradesman could get it: a clean-cut groundskeeper, a scruffy blond facilities worker, the tall italian environmental health and safety inspector. my favorite is a mixed guy who i believe is a grad student: at least 6’5”, stacked and quite good-looking.

by Anonymousreply 4May 25, 2018 1:04 AM

weird, i didn’t type “a number a number” as posted above. should i “oh, dear” myself, my phone or muriel?

by Anonymousreply 5May 25, 2018 1:05 AM

I've been working the last couple of months with a former college football player, 6'3", 230 lbs, all muscle and half my age. Early on I found a pear on my desk with a man's smiling face drawn. It was from him. Today, on a break, I was in my car & saw he was doing his daily constitutional, walking repeatedly around the building. Noticing me in my car, twice during his rounds he loudly called out my name.

by Anonymousreply 6May 25, 2018 1:27 AM

Crush? No, more like situational lust. One young tech kid who is very sweet and nice to look at but I never think of him outside of work. And another guy who looks like he could be Nick Jonas’ more intense twin. Fuckable but he’s a deplorable who breeds like a rabbit so even my dick is conflicted.

by Anonymousreply 7May 25, 2018 2:02 AM

Yes - I think this is normal. Mine was a cute, married co-worker with a great sense of humor and so easy to get along with. But he's married and has two kids - and they're happy. And he's not gay.

I don't think he knows how much I crushed on him for awhile.

by Anonymousreply 8May 25, 2018 2:32 AM

Work crushes are normal, but it is best to treat them as dizzy spells. Sit down, hold on, and wait for them to pass.

by Anonymousreply 9May 25, 2018 1:56 PM

Work crushes are normal. I’ve had plenty, but outside of getting dicked down by my boss after he quit I’ve never acted on them. My current work crush is a gorgeous, 6’2” Adonis type but he’s straight and possibly functionally retarded

by Anonymousreply 10May 25, 2018 2:11 PM

When I started my job years ago, there was a guy who was about 5 years younger— so handsome and nicely hairy all over. He was also smart and funny. I would sometimes get tongue tied around him.

His one bad habit was smoking like a chimney. Momentarily I thought I could overlook that and date him.

He was very straight however.

Anyhow, he left the job two years after I got there.

Otherwise, there’s been no one in my immediate office worth crushing over. Every now and then, I’ll see cute guys from surrounding offices but I don’t know anyone well enough for a crush

by Anonymousreply 11May 25, 2018 4:56 PM

Corpse tagged #2756177

by Anonymousreply 12May 25, 2018 5:02 PM

R12, I don't get your reference

by Anonymousreply 13May 25, 2018 7:07 PM

There is a girl/woman at my workplace I kind of like who I think might like back, but it feels like one of those things that will never be articulated.

by Anonymousreply 14May 25, 2018 8:53 PM

I work in IT. All the guys in my office look like piles of dirty laundry.

by Anonymousreply 15May 25, 2018 9:08 PM

And, I'm married. So, there's that.

by Anonymousreply 16May 25, 2018 9:13 PM

It happens to all of us OP. Nothing new and you’ll get over it. There’s a new hottie at the office, and I’ll get over him, too.

by Anonymousreply 17May 25, 2018 9:49 PM

does your husband/wife/animal companion know that you’re scoping out your coworkers, r15/r16?

by Anonymousreply 18May 26, 2018 12:30 AM

This person is my friend, and I don't want to loose their friendship. I would feel skeevy if I told them straight out, but in a friendly way. I have read posts, other threads about people giving up on finding a great love in life, after a serious breakup. So I guess I risk embarrassing myself, embarrassing them, getting hurt, or feeling miserable without them. At times, I think of him as sweet and friendly, then other times I see him and his flat stomach and think he is hot AF. If we had sex, it would blow up the power grid. I feel he gives off a lot of magnetic energy.

by Anonymousreply 19June 20, 2018 6:27 PM

[quote] Does anyone here currently have a crush on a co-worker?

I work with 38 women. So the answer to your question will be a BIG, FAT resounding NO

by Anonymousreply 20June 20, 2018 6:45 PM

I was about to be fired because I was always late and I slept with the boss. I got my job back.

But and this is very crucial I would have slept with him anyway even if he said there's nothing you can do. He was very handsome. But he did eventually let me go because I could just not be on time.

Two people have had terrible crushes on me in two different works situations. I had no interest in either of them and they didn't let up. Both ended in disasters. And the ultimate irony is I'm no oil painting and have no idea what they saw in me. Obviously some sort of weird compulsion going on there.

by Anonymousreply 21June 20, 2018 6:46 PM

My friend and I call them Bored Work Crushes because they’re there to fill the time and wouldn’t normally meet our standards in real life.

by Anonymousreply 22June 20, 2018 7:02 PM

Agree with R3.

by Anonymousreply 23June 20, 2018 7:35 PM

[quote] At times, I think of him as sweet and friendly, then other times I see him and his flat stomach and think he is hot AF.

I sympathise, dear OP, and share a similar plight.

Thankfully it's not as tormenting as I'm not exactly close pals with my crush and don't work in the same building either; but he still works next door and I've known him since he was a gangly awkward 17-year-old (we grew up and still live in the same town even though we went to University in different cities for years). He's a step or two higher than I am socioeconomically and has a far better education (Oxford MA to my local BA) as well as a better body, so I feel a bit inferior talking to him even though he's younger than me by three years and still rather shy (god knows why, he has filled out nicely since his teen years). He's lovely and modest despite how handsome, intelligent and well-built (those arms!) he is, and it gets to me badly.

I suppose I'll be off the hook shortly as he's actually leaving for good in about 6 weeks for Eastern Europe; he doesn't want to come back home for at least 10 years, so he says. Even so I'd like to at least go on one nice date with him before he leaves, if not have a cheeky summer tumble like I wanted to when we were kids, but I feel as if it would be a weak attempt at this late juncture being that we aren't really even friends. Also, I'm an awkward dater myself and don't socialise much at all so I haven't a clue how to approach this situation.

Suggestions, please: is there a subtle and casual but charming way I can ask him out to play? Not so he'll angst and fret, but just relax and loosen up enough for him to get my tongue in his mouth one evening?

by Anonymousreply 24June 20, 2018 8:19 PM

R24 How do you know this guy is not straight and will not punch you in the nose when you stick your tongue in his mouth?

by Anonymousreply 25June 20, 2018 8:27 PM

Mea culpa R25, forgot to mention that I'm a bi woman and I've seen him around with girls before.

So should I email him about catching an open mic or going to the farmer's market or something, then, if my chances are better from a hetero standpoint? I don't know how to ask or what words to use, but I guess he's a straight (? I think?) male so it's probably a shoe-in, yes?

by Anonymousreply 26June 20, 2018 8:50 PM

I work in marketing were the entire office know I'm gay. It's full of sexy straight guys who keep giving me the death stare if I make eye contact for a fraction too long. Suprisingly I've never been invited for a drink after work.

by Anonymousreply 27June 20, 2018 8:51 PM

Sarah, you married; drop it. Steve Miller not your type.

by Anonymousreply 28June 20, 2018 8:54 PM

Outside of being asked by a couple of girls to the senior prom I have no experience with the male/female dynamic so I am reluctant to give any advice.

by Anonymousreply 29June 20, 2018 8:56 PM

R24 yes, open mic, or local concert would be good. I hope you get what you want. We all deserve to be happy. And r27, what a bunch of provincial loosers you work with. Are they afraid they will turn to stone because a gay man looked at them.

by Anonymousreply 30June 21, 2018 6:20 AM
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