r194 they're a small minority. The real drivers are all the social media wannabe females behind them (usually UMC and white) who never got their 15 minutes, and never will. They were raised by helicopter parents (mainly mothers) to ignore socio-cultural realities and told they are as special and beautiful as the perennial A list of rich, white Beckys and Chads. If anyone questions or rejects that, the women are automatically victims and the people rejecting them are 'abusive' in some way.
These females and their mothers--who also didn't get to live their fabulous dream lives--will glom onto any issue starting to be covered in the media like starving lampreys. Yes, there are autistic kids but not every odd, intelligent, hypersensitive, over coddled, non-functional male is "on the Spectrum". Their mothers put them into that category so they could validate their own lives and create a social media identity that garners attention. It also creates a pathology that explains the kid's failure to be in that A list cool group they all covet. Conveniently, it also answers any embarrassing questions about why the 29 year old son is in the basement all day, playing Xbox.
The younger female generation doesn't have motherhood to use, so they lamprey onto issues that mask their own insecurities and turn anyone who questions them into 'literal abusers', all the while boosting that social media profile. They're socially awkward and ill-equipped for healthy sexual relationships because mother told them they were 'empowered', 'able to achieve anything you set your mind to', and also took them to get birth control, because she's a 'cool mom'--and that was it. Now they're confused because they really, really want to be hooking up with hot guys, or in a relationship that makes them look good. They end up blowing a '4' who's in the cool frat and he didn't even fucking text them after. Their mothers didn't prepare them for any of this, but they did promote the self-absorption, so the guy is now a sexual abuser because all the other females in the same regret boat validate them through social media acceptance because they all do the same thing. And you can bet your ass all the middling talent 20-30 yr old female "culture bloggers" who couldn't get a gig and troll social media for click-bait outrage pieces are salivating at the thought of another story for the RTs.
And *all* of them are thrilled for the #metoo exposure. This is a gold mine because they can put themselves under the same umbrella as not only real victims, but *famous people*. Their overwrought 'bad date' account is now Sexual Assault, and gets instant hashtag recognition from clickbait starved, unethical media outlets. And if you question it, you're inflicting literal violence on all the 'victims'.
Now all the people who really need this movement, like actual rape victims of predators like HW, victims of systemic harassment, underage abuse victims, marginalized women like sex workers, etc. are being sidelined by immature, narcissistic females who were raised by women who cut them off at the knees by not being honest about not everyone making it, and how to be confident and have self-worth if you're not on the A list.
In the grand scheme of today's world, this would not be a major issue except it's now destroying fundamental societal pillars like presumption of innocence, reasoned argument, and respect for difference. Even worse, it gives misogynists and abusers cover for their actions because they can point to all this out of control pile on and abrogate their own responsibility to look at their actions as part of the problem.
As usual, no one will exist in the grey areas to actually solve anything. Everyone wants to be right, and no one wants to fix anything.
Thank you OP. I needed to vent.
