How many of you BAREBACK? part 2

Nobody on PrEP thinks it will protect them from STIs. Only people who want to criticize people on PrEP say that's what people on PrEP think but they have no idea what people on PrEP think because there is no such thing as mind reading.

Oh really R1? Pretty much ALL of my younger gay friends who are on PrEP, and who don't use condoms have the mentality that PrEP will always protect them against HIV and other STIs. When I tell them how they should use condoms, and not have raw sex with every guy they meet who wants to, they just tell me how PrEP makes using condoms pointless and that HIV and other STIs will not happen to them.

Even in the first thread you had people on PrEP who posted about how they believe that it will protect them against other STIs, or some believe that if a top/bottom is on PrEP and they do it raw with him that there's no way they can get HIV or other STIs.

God, no. There's herpes and who knows WHAT all else to worry about.

Condoms are so 20th century

My understanding is that you have to have a follow up appointment a couple of weeks after starting PREP so the Doc can make sure that it’s working—prior to having unprotected sex. A guy I went in a date with told me he was having several encounters a day , bottoming, and not using condoms. He had just started PREP and had no idea about checking to make sure it was protecting his system prior to bareback encounters.

These are what are called anecdotes. Anecdotes are not data.

"Pretty much ALL of my younger gay friends who are on PrEP, and who don't use condoms have the mentality that PrEP will always protect them against HIV and other STIs."

They have that mentality, do they? Do they all come to you and tell you "my PrEP protects me from STIs other than HIV?" Do they do that? What do you say to them?

R6 I tell them they should not be that naive and that they even if they take the medication, they should still be using condoms and practicing safer sex, as the medication is not going to protect them from other STIs.

So what you're saying is, they actually verbalize to you that their Truvada will protect them from STIs?

R8 well yes, I mean we're friends so we talk about everything including sex, and how we have it, what we do, etc.

To answer the OP: every single one.

People do seem to believe that PREP will protect them from everything.

But consider this, the attitude in the 1970s was anything caught could be cured with penicillin or a shot of something. They had no idea this lethal STD was slowly building and about to hit the gay community like a forest fire. If these men had been wearing condoms to protect against STIs how many of them would not have caught AIDS?

My point is, there is no promises that another currently unknown sexually transmitted disease could be out there now that leads to certain death and has no effective treatment. When you think of unprotected sex compare yourselves to gay men prior to the start of the AIDS epidemic and ask yourself what these men would have given for the knowledge they were unknowingly being infected with something that would kill them.

That's very true R10 and R11. We are already seeing a huge increase in STIs that are drug/antibiotic resistant, and that were previously not as common the past few decades.

"People do seem to believe that PREP will protect them from everything."

I would just love it if we could see the difference between people "seeming to believe" something and people stating that they believe something. And to ask our friends who seem to believe something if that is, in fact what they believe. And to gently tell them that we have a different understanding of the things we think they're getting wrong. Because to come off as judgy as some people do on this topic is a sure way to prevent them from talking honestly in the future.

R13 it's not being judgmental to tell people that they should use condoms along with PrEP, and that the medication will not protect them against all STIs.

Those are two separate things. People should be reminded about using condoms along with PrEP. People who do it gently are actually helpful. People who do it in a judgmental manner help nobody.

R15 even if you tell someone nicely or remind them to use condoms with PrEP they'll tell you that you're being "judgemental", "sex negative", a "prude", "don't have or like sex", that you're being "offensive", etc.

People have been barebacking long before PrEP came along. The condom-all-the-time message failed miserably.

PrEP at least will prevent HIV transmission. It's far better than nothing and people were using nothing before.

Period

Please--the ENTIRE point of PrEP is to have sex without condoms.

If you use condoms, there's no point in taking PrEP. The recommendation that people use PrEP with condoms is ridiculous

[quote]The condom-all-the-time message failed miserably.

I can't agree with that. Repetition of a truth changes behaviour. Not all behaviour, but better some than none. It's like smoking.

R17 it only failed with people who were into having unsafe sex and who don't care if they get HIV or other STIs or they infect others with HIV and other STIs. Everyone else uses them, and those of us who were around in the 80s and 90s seeing lots of bisexual and gay men die from HIV/AIDS and even Hep C, knows that it's not worth it to go bareback/raw/unprotected.

Now if two people are in a completely monogamous relationship and nobody's cheating, that's different.

There have been people who were on PREP and they wound up becoming HIV+.

[quote]There have been people who were on PREP and they wound up becoming HIV+.

Of the hundreds of thousands of men on PrEP, three (3) have seroconverted. One had undetermined use of the drug; and one claimed he was infected as the top, which is statistically a long-shot. Other drugs could only hope to be so successful.

Meanwhile, condoms have a failure rate on the order of magnitudes higher, require perfect use every time, and were simply the first resort of a community in shock. There is no shame in realizing that HIV prevention will evolve and change until we find a cure (which I don't find likely). Fun fact: condoms have never been FDA approved for male-to-male contact.

Further, the men who are on PrEP are required to see their doctor every three months and are getting tested regularly as a result. We have finally found a way to get gay men to get tested regularly so that they seek and can begin treatment sooner for a wide variety of STIs not limited to HIV. This accounts for some of the CDC's reported spike in STIs, as well.

PrEP is a good thing.

[quote]We have finally found a way to get gay men to get tested regularly so that they seek and can begin treatment sooner for a wide variety of STIs not limited to HIV.

That seems dangerously complacent to me. Everyone knows prevention is the best approach to disease.

I never bareback. I'm 100% top and all of my sex happens in bathhouses or with a couple of fuck buddies. Prep started affecting my baths experience about a year ago. There were bottoms looking for it bareback before Prep came along, but the percentage has gone up from about 5% to about a third. I have so much experience with this now that I've even gotten pretty good at "profiling" guys to predict who's going to want it raw.

My most recent visit to the baths included an experience that allows me to join a term I haven't heard yet: condom shaming. A bottom who has chatted me up at least a half dozen times in the past year tried with me again. I guess it took him a while to remember that I don't bareback, but he mentioned this eventually. He then continued to ask me why I don't just get on Prep like everyone else, with a tone that implied that I'm a big loser. I could gave given him a much longer answer, but all I said was "Prep doesn't prevent everything." He responded, "Yeah, I guess it doesn't" and walked away, just as he did every other time.

This raises a point for me that I just don't get. Unless you're allergic to condoms, why would anyone turn down a fuck with someone they find attractive (especially in an environment like a bathhouse)? I'll accept that the raw experience is a big deal for these guys, but why does it override everything else to the point of being a deal breaker in a no strings attached situation?

I agree, R23, it makes no sense. I hooked up a couple of times with this guy who was my neighbor when I lived in Hell's Kitchen, and though the first two times were great, our fun new friendship came to an end because I refused to fuck him raw. The sex was perfectly hot with condoms but he wanted us to ditch them and I refused, so that was that. We stopped seeing each other, a few months went by, he reached out to me again, but again our relationship hit a wall because I would not do it bareback. And what made it so ridiculous is that, in every other respect, we had really great chemistry and could have had a really great fuck buddy/friends with benefits type of relationship had he not insisted on that one component.

As a bottom who only gets fucked with condoms, I've encountered the opposite problem-- so many tops have now gone bareback because bottoms have gone on PrEP.

I actually find it hard to find tops who will use condoms

R23 that's because a lot of bottoms crave cock and cum up their ass and will do or say anything to get fucked raw. I've never been to a bath house as that scene and hook ups aren't really my thing. The few one night stands/hook ups I've had happened with people who I met in person in bars.

For myself as a top I am not into ever doing it raw/bare/unprotected. I don't get with men or women (I'm bisexual) who are into doing this. I'm HIV neg, do not have any STIs and want to stay that way. I am way more into oral sex, so I don't think it would even be worth it to go on or use PrEP, and the side effects of the medication both short and longterm are apparently not fun from what I have read.

The self-righteous, prisspotty cunts on these threads just make me absolutely nauseated. If you don't like PrEP, don't use it. Just shut your fucking mouths and keep your nasty judgmental cuntfaced opinions to yourselves.

[quote]the side effects of the medication both short and longterm are apparently not fun from what I have read

And what would those be?

[quote]Everyone knows prevention is the best approach to disease.

And what, exactly, is PrEP, if not prevention?

[quote]Of the hundreds of thousands of men on PrEP, three (3) have seroconverted.

That's not exactly true. Of the hundreds of thousands of men [italic]who adhere to a strict regimen of taking their meds,[/italic] only three have seroconverted, so far.

I take PrEP and have zero side effects. I don't know anyone who takes it who has side effects.

And one of those three, R29, didn't adhere to the regimen, which is what contributed to his seroconversion.

This is what makes the argument so silly. If I said to you, here, take this pill, but five out of 100,000 will die from it, would you still take the pill? Now, what if that pill wasn't an HIV-prevention pill, but a boner-inducing pill? That's exactly the scenario with Viagra, and millions upon millions of men pop Viagra like candy despite the known risk, while we prattle on endlessly about the side effects and problems with PrEP.

Having worked in HIV prevention, I wholeheartedly support the FDA requirement that PrEP users get tested (for a panel of STIs) every three months in order to stay on the regimen. One of the greatest hurdles we face is getting gay men to consistently test, and it's one of the best ways to reduce transmission, and not just limited to HIV. Now, I worry about the PrEP shot that would only require a once-a-year visit to the doctor for testing and prescription renewal.

I guess you could say that one of the beneficial side effects of PrEP is that testing is more commonplace and preventing the spread of other diseases and complications, as well.

Sorry, the idea of a stranger coming in me makes me nauseous. Call me crazy...!

[quote Of the hundreds of thousands of men who adhere to a strict regimen of taking their meds, only three have seroconverted, so far]

I bet they're disappointed.

R27 seems like a really nice person.

Barebacking is the best!!!

Forget about HIV for a moment. Aren't any of you BB PrEP whores concerned about getting other STIs, and spreading potentially drug-resistant STIs throughout the community? Sometimes I think we really are our own worst enemy.

[quote]And what would those be?

Here they are R28, it's really bad for your liver.

Exactly R35, all the dudes on PREP are just begging to get Hep C, which is happening.

r17 - is absolutely right, [quote]People have been barebacking long before PrEP came along. The condom-all-the-time message failed miserably. PrEP at least will prevent HIV transmission. It's far better than nothing and people were using nothing before. Period

I concur it's another tool in the fight against HIV infections, so why is that so hard for you anti PreP to wrap that around your heads?

r20 [quote]There have been people who were on PREP and they wound up becoming HIV+.

Please stop with the scare tactics, after many, many years and 10's of thousands of people on PreP, thus far there have been only three confirmed cases of a PreP user seroconverting. That's pretty good odds. Don't believe me, google it.

Why the fuck would you want to bareback anyway? You're still shoving your cock into somebody's ass, which as I understand it has yet to be the inspiration for any saleable fragrance.

Receptive anal sex, with or without a condom, great increases your risk for rectal cancer. Why chance that and a host of other illnesses that come with anal penetration? I stick with oral and kissing. I suggest many of you bottoms do the same.

3 seroconversions out of 10's of thousands PreP users. These odds are better than condom use

And that's why they see their doctors every three months, R36, and are screened for liver function as well as STIs. At least if you're on PrEP and begin to show changes in liver numbers, you have the option to stop taking the drug. If you're positive, you can't stop (although there are other HIV drugs that aren't as hard on the liver). Assuming this is what you meant by long term side effects, what are the short term effects that are "not fun from what" you "have read?"

[quote]dudes on PREP are just begging to get Hep C, which is happening.

Again, TESTING, R37! If we find guys carrying the Hep-C virus and get them informed and treated, we can mitigate the spread of and eventually eliminate this virus as well. The problem with Hep-C is that there are no outward symptoms for decades after infection, and the virus is replicating in huge numbers, making spread even more likely. PrEP is a rather backdoor (sorry for the pun) method of testing for liver function, as this is how Hep-C presents most often.

R40, did it ever occur to you that straight women face increased for cervical cancer for a reason? Moreover, manipulating any part of the human body leads to increased risk for cancer. Do you advise that we all somehow hang ourselves in perfect suspended animation? And, you do know that you can get a wide variety of STIs via oral contact, right?

Sorry, I don't mean to be condescending. I knew there was a reason I stayed out of the first thread in this series; everything from the lack of basic knowledge through sex hysteria always gets me. It's like we can't be moderate, well-adjusted, informed [italic]and[/italic] sexually healthy beings.

What happens when all you condomless Prep sluts get one non-life-threatening STD after another, progressively weakening your immune system to allow another AIDS-type virus to enter the arena? That's what happened in the '70s, and I feel the same thing is happening now. Five/ten years from now, heaven knows what type of super-AIDS we'll all be dealing with. And we'll have exactly no one to blame but ourselves. Have we learned nothing from history?

[quote] It's like we can't be moderate, well-adjusted, informed and sexually healthy beings.

Define moderate, Obi Wan.

[quote] Five/ten years from now

As opposed to now? Do you think that barebacking was invented when Truvada was approved for prophylactic use, and nobody would have developed drug resistance to it before (it was one of the most common anti-retrovirals in use, which is part of how Gilead got it approved comparatively quickly given its widespread use). A leading HIV doctor told me that if there was a so-called "super bug" coming, it would be here. Your supposition that the cause of the appearance of HIV was due to "one non-life-threatening STD after another" is not only incorrect, it reeks of sex hysteria.

If what you mean to say was the HIV spread quickly (which itself is not technically correct; there are documented cases of HIV infection dating back decades prior to it reaching peak infection), then I agree; the same doctor suggested that if gay men would halve the number of partners they have over their lifetimes (one form of moderation, R44, but I was thinking about another, specifically making rational decisions based on fact, when I wrote that), we could end the epidemic today. But that's not reality, and we're better off reacting to and living in the real world.

You love to keep mentioning how PrEP users are getting tested every three months. All that does is ensure that for the previous three months, you did not spread disease. If you go out and bareback the next evening and contract as STI, then you will be spreading it for the next three months until you get tested again.

And that's worse than not getting tested and spreading it for years? My point is that one of the best side effects (if you can call it that) is that sexually active gay men are getting tested regularly and more often.

Is there more barebacking or less since PrEP?

I assume so, R48. When I googled your exact question, though, the second result was anecdotally opposite.

But let me cut the chase: call me names for thinking it's better for more men to engage in risky behavior in exchange for regular and more men getting tested and treated for whatever crops up.

Why are people perpetuating this myth that all the guys on prep are getting it prescribed by a doctor and having regular health checks?

Not all gay guys want to come out to their doctor. They don't want their sexuality on their medical record for employers to access. Many young guys don't have health insurance or find it easier to bypass doctors and get Prep online and just take it either side of the weekend.

The whole prep situation is just another big disease with a little name waiting to happen.

'Moreover, manipulating any part of the human body leads to increased risk for cancer.'

This is true and it's the reason why the guys on this thread who pride themselves on taking a pounding every weekend will end up with anal cancer further down the line.

'Moreover, manipulating any part of the human body leads to increased risk for cancer.'

How come we don't get cancer of the fingertips from all the typing we do these days?

R48, there's A LOT more barebacking. People are acting like it's the 1970s, and do not give a fuck if they fuck or get fucked raw. I also know men who are not on PREP but who do it raw/bare since they believe a top or bottom when he says he's on PREP, or HIV poz but undetectable.

There's a lot of really dumb young gay guys who think you take Prep like the morning after pill, post exposure, just the once. They buy Prep from their dealers when they buy their weed.

If you're fucking these guys, use a condom ffs. It's this mentality that brought about so many deaths from AIDS and Hep C.

It's all well and good for the Prep guys. But what about the poz guys who lie to the dumb bottom about being on Prep and convince the poor cum-craving slut that going raw with them is safe? That's a recipe for disaster.

enjoy herpes...

There's a lot of really dumb young gay guys who are on Prep. They buy Prep from their dealers when they buy their weed. If you're fucking these guys, use a condom ffs. It's this mentality that brought about so many deaths from AIDS and Hep C.

Fixed that for you R54.

Enjoy your super-AIDS and antibiotic-resistent STDs, but please don't expect any compassion from anyone. Your digging your own graves by BB-ing.

All this hemming and hawing about super-AIDS and watch the next deadly disease come from kissing or oral sex. ALL of us will fucked then

R59 that already happens with certain types of Hepatitis, but it's difficult to get HEP C that way.

I took 4 raw loads in my ass over the long weekend. I would've done more, but I was battling a nasty cold LMAO. I'm not on PrEP, but of the 4 guys I hooked up with, 2 told me they're on the PrEP, and the other 2 said they're not on PrEP but clean and 100% DD free. On the remote chance they're lying or not sure of their status, they looked healthy, so if they were poz, they were likely undetectable and unable pass the virus along to me. All good! Although I'm a bit sore...and I still have that cold LMAO.

"Not all behaviour, but better some than none."

Which does nothing to stop an epidemic.

R61 you sound crazy and like you have a death wish. I hope you can afford HIV meds.

Europe's HIV epidemic growing at alarming rate, WHO warns.

The number of people newly diagnosed with HIV in Europe reached its highest level in 2016 since records began, showing the region's epidemic growing "at an alarming pace", health officials said on Tuesday. That year, 160,000 people contracted the virus that causes AIDS in the 53 countries that make up the World Health Organization's European region. Around 80 percent of those were in eastern Europe.

The trend was particularly worrying because many patients had already been carrying the HIV infection for several years by the time they were diagnosed, making the virus harder to control and more likely to have been passed on to others.

Don't forget all the people on PREP who do it raw who are getting Hep C R64.

So many doomsday Mary's on this thread. Enjoy life and enjoy sex as nature intended: raw and unencumbered by unnatural latex. Just make sure your partners are on PrEP and/or poz/undetectable, and you'll be just fine.

One thing I like about condoms is they seem to help some tops last longer...

I think sex feels good in all forms. The idea that adjusting a practice renders it worthless is really somewhat babyish.

I never had condomless sex until once last month. He was poz but undetectable. I figured I'd give it a try. He didn't come in me.

It was nice but not so earth shattering that I need to have unprotected sex.

Sure, it seems stupid now, but Undetectable = Untransmittable and I was on meth

"Yes, I could have worn a condom, but I believe in harm reduction, and the notion of wearing a condom is almost as oppressing as abstinence. I always have open communication with my lovers, and if folks want to wear a condom, I respect that. Aside from open communication, I'd been taking other precautionary measures that made me think I didn't need to. I'd been using Truvada (tenofovir/FTC) ... I was unemployed and didn't have health insurance, so my supply came from friends who had prescriptions and, on several occasions, from a former partner who was in the "bottle business," selling HIV meds on the black market.

Acting on word-of-mouth information about how long PrEP stays in the body, I'd continued having unprotected sex for about two weeks after my last bottle of Truvada ran out."

So much for the "people on PrEP see a doctor every three months" mantra.

Looks like he would bareback whether of not he was on PrEP

People don't use condoms because sex doesn't feel as good when wearing them. When science comes up with a condom that doesn't decrease sensitivity, everyone will use them.

Condoms are for losers. Big time losers!

'Although I'm a bit sore...and I still have that cold LMAO'

R61. the 'cold' is you sero-converting.

Poz guys always look healthy these days - people aren't staggering around trailing IV lines and weighing 100 pounds in 2017. You will pick up the virus soon enough with this dumb, reckless attitude.

'People don't use condoms because sex doesn't feel as good when wearing them. When science comes up with a condom that doesn't decrease sensitivity, everyone will use them. '

I feel sorry for people like R71, born with a numb dick. If you can't feel any sensation through a condom, there 's something wrong with your nerve endings.

Wrong, r73. I had the cold beforehand and it's just lingering. I am not seroconverting. Although I did have a "loaded" Veterans Day long weekend a few weeks earlier, but I got the cold a week later, which would be too soon to actually be symptomatic for seroconversion.

[quote] A guy I went in a date with told me he was having several encounters a day , bottoming, and not using condoms

R5, usually this is called "pulling a train," not "a date."

R69, your argument is false because the writer says he didn't have health insurance and was getting his Truvada from the black market. Nobody expects the black market has doctors to monitor one's black market Truvada usage.

The following is an example of how Poo Shoes, aka Davida Rochelle, stirs up shit on this forum. Xe is posting both for and against bareback sex in this thread. Xe's either talking about how gays deserve to get AIDS and die from barebacking, or xe's pretending to be a gay male, telling stories about how xe took multiple loads recently.

The following are all from the same User ID in this thread. Be certain that xe will delete her cookies soon to remove this evidence. IMO this person is a scourge that needs to be removed from this website.

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Forget about HIV for a moment. Aren't any of you BB PrEP whores concerned about getting other STIs, and spreading potentially drug-resistant STIs throughout the community? Sometimes I think we really are our own worst enemy.

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Receptive anal sex, with or without a condom, great increases your risk for rectal cancer. Why chance that and a host of other illnesses that come with anal penetration? I stick with oral and kissing. I suggest many of you bottoms do the same.

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 What happens when all you condomless Prep sluts get one non-life-threatening STD after another, progressively weakening your immune system to allow another AIDS-type virus to enter the arena? That's what happened in the '70s, and I feel the same thing is happening now. Five/ten years from now, heaven knows what type of super-AIDS we'll all be dealing with. And we'll have exactly no one to blame but ourselves. Have we learned nothing from history?

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 It's all well and good for the Prep guys. But what about the poz guys who lie to the dumb bottom about being on Prep and convince the poor cum-craving slut that going raw with them is safe? That's a recipe for disaster.

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Enjoy your super-AIDS and antibiotic-resistent STDs, but please don't expect any compassion from anyone. Your digging your own graves by BB-ing.

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 I took 4 raw loads in my ass over the long weekend. I would've done more, but I was battling a nasty cold LMAO. I'm not on PrEP, but of the 4 guys I hooked up with, 2 told me they're on the PrEP, and the other 2 said they're not on PrEP but clean and 100% DD free. On the remote chance they're lying or not sure of their status, they looked healthy, so if they were poz, they were likely undetectable and unable pass the virus along to me. All good! Although I'm a bit sore...and I still have that cold LMAO.

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 So many doomsday Mary's on this thread. Enjoy life and enjoy sex as nature intended: raw and unencumbered by unnatural latex. Just make sure your partners are on PrEP and/or poz/undetectable, and you'll be just fine.

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Condoms are for losers. Big time losers!

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK? part 2 Wrong, r73. I had the cold beforehand and it's just lingering. I am not seroconverting. Although I did have a "loaded" Veterans Day long weekend a few weeks earlier, but I got the cold a week later, which would be too soon to actually be symptomatic for seroconversion.

To be clear, the stinking poo is D@v1d@ R0ch3l1e K@nt3r of Las Vegas, Nevada.

True to form, xe has exited the thread. All posts ceased when xe was called out for xer trolling behavior.

r69 - I read that article and that guy is an idiot.

Why wasn't he already on Obamacare, it would have covered his PreP prescription (it covers mine)? He then writes that he went to the LA Gay & Lesbian Center and found that the insurance process took too long. What? Couldn't he wait until his insurance application went through, he had to have unprotected sex right then and now? Also, The Center does have PreP programs for the uninsured, so I don't know the validity of his claims. The author, who supposedly went to Berkley, sure was stupid when it came to taking care of his own body. This article has nothing to do with PreP but is an example of reckless behavior on the part of an individual.

I'm not slut shaming but common sense would have prevented this young man from seroconverting.

for those who didn't read it up thread, here's a link to the article

Most of the guys I know get Prep online and it costs about $100 for 100 pills. They take it either side of the weekend and hope for the best. No-one is going to their doctor, coming out and getting homosexuality on their medical record for future employees to see.

SPAZ TROLL ALSO ON THE THREAD.

r82

[qoute]getting homosexuality on their medical record for future employees to see.

any moron knows that ALL MEDICAL RECORDS are confidential. The stupidity regarding PreP on this thread is shocking.

[quote]Nobody expects the black market has doctors to monitor one's black market Truvada usage.

Uh, yeah, that’s the point.

Who are these guys taking PrEP just over the weekend? How can they get a script and just take it for weekend use? That will not end well.

I have talked to my doctor about PREP and since I don't swallow cum or have unprotected anal sex as a top, there's no point in me going on it.

r40 "receptive to anal cancer" so does oral sex makes you receptive to mouth cancer. So we are all doomed, we just have to make choices we can live with and not judge others by their choices.

R40 people get rectal cancer from HPV, not from bottoming or receptive anal sex.

[quote]so does oral sex makes you receptive to mouth cancer

Yes, your odds of oral cancer increase along with the number of your oral sex partners. Overall odds are still relatively low, but oral sex is clearly associated with a higher prevalence of HPV infection, which can lead to cancer.

Sex=death

Where's the life's a banquet troll?

Anal cancer is more likely than oral because butt sex tends to be a lot more rough, disturbing the cells of the lining of the rectum and promoting their mutation.

There's a limit to how hard you can go with oral sex. Teeth and the gag reflex kick in quickly.

'How can you get a script just for the weekend'?

DOH, these kids who get it online just buy batches of a 100 at a time.

nobody answered the question of fingertip cancer due to increased typing?!

[quote]Anal cancer is more likely than oral because butt sex tends to be a lot more rough, disturbing the cells of the lining of the rectum and promoting their mutation. There's a limit to how hard you can go with oral sex. Teeth and the gag reflex kick in quickly.

HPV is not HIV. HPV can be transmitted via “gentle” sex just as easily as during rough sex.

R94, I think the fingertips are designed for lots of external pressure, unlike the butt which is designed to squeeze out shit, not to be pounded by a big dick. In the past people used their fingers in factories a lot and fingertip cancer was never a thing.

R95, not all anal cancer occurs because of HPV. A lot occurs because the cells are pounded regularly, which disturbs them, and they mutate. The more often the pounding, the more likely this is. The rectum was not designed for butt sex.

Shut up with your fake news, R97.

Almost all anal cancer in gay men is caused by HPV- two strains of the virus are responsible for about 80% of cases.

Those fools who are on PREP who do it raw/bare are idiots with death wishes.

I'm old, no one loves me and I have no physical contact. Basically just waiting to die.

Gather ye roses while ye may. Sometimes I think old age is a fate worse than death.

[quote]Almost all anal cancer in gay men is caused by HPV

A new analysis of genital human papillomavirus (HPV) in men shows that infection with one HPV type strongly increases the risk of reinfection with the same type. In fact, men who are infected with the type responsible for most HPV-related cancers are 20 times more likely to be reinfected within one year. This increased risk suggests that infection confers no natural immunity against HPV, as is often the case with other viruses.

Men who are infected once with HPV16, the type responsible for most HPV-related cancers, are at 20 times higher risk of reinfection after one year, and 14 times higher after two years. The researchers saw the same effect in both men who are sexually active and celibate, suggesting that they are not reacquiring the virus from another sexual partner.

I won't even kiss or blow anyone anymore. Who knows if an inevitable super-AIDS that can be transmissable through kissing or oral is circulating in the community now, only to make itself known in 5-10 years? Hell, I could even be harboring it without even knowing it, because I have done kissing and oral contact up until this past summer. All these raw fuckers are messing it up for those of us who have played safe.

OK I am not that fearful R103 I am just very picky who I have sex with and I have safer sex.

AIDS 2 is here! Reports in the NYT of seven gay guys hospitalized with antibiotic resistant bubonic plague.

R105 link? Or is this fake news?

R105 if true, it wasn't spread by barebacking

I'd rather not have sex at all than use a condom.

I BB bottom pretty regularly. I'm not on PrEP and for the past year, I haven't been using condoms all the time. My feeling is that the guy I'm giving it up for is either neg and/or PrEP, OR he's poz but undetectable. Either way, I'm home free and not going to contract HIV. The more and more I have condomless sex, the more I've come to believe that sex, whatever the risks, was never meant to be done with latex. Not to be totally crass, but there's nothing like the feeling of warm flesh and jizz filling my hole.

R109, why don't you just go on PrEP?

I am an elder gay I guess ( 57 ) after being a top all my life I met a man I totally love who is undetectable and who I bottom for now on a frequent basis. I don't think exclusive tops know how intimate and close having a man inside you is. I am on PrEP as a precaution we are both clean of all STDs other than HSV-1 that causes cold sores on your lips and 90% of the population has that.

We are monogamous for now, if we decide to open up the relationship we will negotiate that in the safest way possible, we both adhere strictly to our med regimes and go to each others medical appointments . To me being intimate with someone you love and who turns you on big time necessitates the exchange of body fluids , if Truvada can provide that freedom hell yeah I will use it .

The issue is not PrEP it s a behavior pattern , people were having risking sex with multiple partners long before it came on the scene. The hook up culture has grown exponentially with Grindr and other apps , sex has become transactional and functional. It's easy to lose yourself in a compulsion for sex and drugs.

PrEP whores are their own worst enemies.

A friend of mine is 22. Has slept with around 400 guys. He slept with 40 while taking a week vacation to a gay New Years party. He’s on prep and always fucks raw. He just found out he has two STDs.

I'm a total top when it comes to anal so theoretically, my risk of catching something is far lower but I still wouldn't stick my unwrapped dick in a guy that would let someone he didn't know was 100% STI free fuck him bareback, that's just common sense.

Yes, all young gay guys on PrEP think it protects them from all known diseases, acts as a discount at H&M and Zara, and constitutes debt forgiveness on their student loans.

I had amazing raw sex last night with a stud I met on grindr. I asked if he was on PrEP and his reply was "sure I'm on prep, wink wink". I took that to mean yes, although part of me wondered what the wink wink meant. At that point I was so horny, he could've written "I could say I'm on prep, but that would be a lie" and I'd still would've bottomed for him. He. Was. That. Hot! He shot a three-day load in me. Best sex I'd had in weeks.

can't you masturbate in private, not on DL, R116?

I'm guessing he was not really on PREP R116, go get tested.

R116 is a troll,, the same one who used to provide us with lurid descriptions of steam room antics.

If you check R116's history, he alternates from being a steam room cum dump to a cautionary worst-case-scenario alarmist.

Therefore it's probably just someone with a vivid imagination that's playing both sides of the fence.

I live in a really small town so my "choices" are limited but I managed to get together with this hot daddy who lived in the area, I told him upfront that I didn't fuck without condoms and he said he was cool with that, we got together and pretty much the whole time he went on and on about how good my raw cock would feel in his ass, I didn't go back for seconds.

R120 how do you check someone's history here on DL? Or is that only available if you pay?

Good for you R121, I don't get with people who want it raw or like you go back who talk about wanting it raw, and I'm a top.

Never

Bye, Frau Felicia @r123.

Will all end in tears for a lot of hot, slutty bottoms who think this stuff makes them bullet-proof. STIs always emerge, evolve, and make sudden comebacks. Intimate body fluid-to-mucous membrane exchange is too effective a transmission vector. If not HIV, then something else...

That's very true R125, a lot of men on PREP who do it BB/raw/unprotected are getting HEP C.

We've known for decades that unprotected anal sex transmits HEP C as well as other nasty STIs including HIV, but these fools will do or say anything to give and take raw cock and cum.

While you sex-negs are sitting at home clutching your fake pearls and paranoid about stubbing your toes, the rest of us are out there living and enjoying our lives, which, yes, includes raw, unencumberd sex. Life is a banquet and should be lived to its fullest.

The 'Life's a banquet!' troll is back at R127!

I love the 'Life is a Banquet' troll with his stories of fetid steam room hook ups. He's suffering the final ravages of Antibiotic Resistant Syphilis so he doesn't have the energy to come on here very often these days.

R129 I'm guessing the "life's a banquet' troll is too busy staying home jerking off with his hand and writing erotic fiction for nifty, and reddit to post here now?

Two new qualitative studies from Toronto shed light on how stigma affects the uptake of pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) and the experience of taking it. In the first, young gay men acknowledged that they did not always use condoms but did not see themselves as the kind of ‘barebacker’ for whom they thought PrEP was intended.

“PrEP embodies the notion of bareback sex, which traditionally has been associated with negative elements, and it is quite clear that the young gay men in this research do not want to be associated as a barebacking subject,” writes Julien Brisson in Anthropology & Medicine. “This is one reason why they did not want to use PrEP.”

In the second study, early adopters described concealing their PrEP use because of what it might suggest to others about their sexual behaviour. Nonetheless, most had an overwhelmingly positive experience of taking PrEP.

PrEP makes total sense for those who have lots of sex, like daily, like I used to in my 20's and early 30's.

For everyone else, it would be nice if we had guidance on if sporadic PrEP use really works or not.

R126 Hep C seems to be transmitted whenever there is a direct connection to blood--like in rough sex. Very doubtful that it can be transmitted through oral sex. It is definitely transmitted through sharing needles and that may often come with sex.

Well, you could try giving monogamy a chance. Like eating low-carb, it works but only when you actually do it.

Monogamy is fine but do you really expect people to be celibate until they find the one?

Not particularly, but going for quality over quantity is sure to make one more likely to find the one and more likely to be desirable by others for such a relationship.

[quote]Very doubtful that it can be transmitted through oral sex.

Are you calling me a liar?

R132,

If you google “on demand truvada PrEP” you will see some studies on it. Specific studies for on demand Prep should be coming out soon and maybe there will be actual recommendations on how to safely do this.

Dirty whores

I know recreactional PrEP users who start taking it on a Friday in anticipation of a very, um, "active" weekend. If you don't take it consistently, is it not effective?

One of the reasons for the HIV/AID$ Inc. hoax is that it makes homosexuals scared to have sex, so they buy more drugs instead.

Here's a tip, don't be a bareback cum slut.

Like all super powerful chemicals PreP will have detrimental long term effects on the internal organs. If it can repel the HIV virus, it will also be doing damage to tissues and nerves. The life expectancy of the perpetual Prep taker is probably only 60, rather than 90.

science?

R143,

Do you even know what drugs are used for PrEP? Do you know their mechanism of action? Do you know how long they’ve been used?

I’m not on truvada, but I can’t stand your ignorance.

I do know their mechanism of action and friends who are taking Truvada as part of Haart have been told to expect liver, heart and kidney problems after about 20-30 years of use.

Sadly more than likely there will be issues eventually, either the drug will be revealed to cause unforeseen side effects or organ damage after longterm use or thanks to all the barebacking idiots out there now, the virus will eventually mutate and become resistant to PrEP and then the shit will really hit the fan.

Say for whatever reason, you go cold turkey on Truvada, how long does it stay in your system to provide protection? A day? A week? A month? Hypothetically, if you were to just stop taking it, and then have receptive BB sex a week or two weeks later, would still protect you from contracting HIV from that encounter?

R148 , after your last unsafe encounter that involved semen exchange you should remain on Truvada for 28 days before stopping

I would not be surprised if that's true R143. Personally I just use condoms with any women and men who I have sex with-I am bisexual and a top-and I assume that whoever I am with could be HIV+. But I've had women and men who I was in relationships/partnerships which I thought were monogamous cheat on me.

I'm a healthysexual. Most of the time.

#MeToo R151.

My friend of PrEP went hog-wild (literally, since he's a piggy bottom) last weekend for the long MLK weekend. He BB-ed with a bunch of guys, including one foursome in which he was essentially "triple-dipped." He is not worried about contracting HIV. He is very cavalier about it, but I'm worried for him and for all the guys who engage in this type of behavior, thinking that PrEP is some magic bullet. I fear that 5-10 years down the line, we will learn otherwise.

Your friend sounds too stupid to live R153, is he a meth head as well?

No he's not a meth head. He's got a great career track, great apt, great body...checks all the urban gay male boxes. But I think he's a sex addict. He came out and started having sex later than most (at 25) two years ago and was from a very religious family, and it's like he's making up for lost time. I think he generally used condoms before he went on PrEP, but he's gone crazy with the hookups since going on PrEP. I'm practically a celibate nun compared to him, and he laughs and jokes about. When all is said and done, I'm concerned that he won't be laughing 5-10 years down the line when some sort of super-AIDS manifests itself.

There's definitely some kind of addiction going on R155, he sounds like he's out of control.

Bag it, fellas!

What about poops?

That article is pretty meaningless R157.

The issues it brought up:

1.) truvada doesn’t protect against other STIs. We know that. That’s why condoms should be used in conjunction with PrEP. No one uses condoms for oral, and STIs can be transmitted orally.

2.) truvada is less effective for women. Good thing gay men don’t have vaginas.

3.) truvada-resistant HIV. This happened twice. Considering how many people use truvada as their only form of protection, the odds are still favorable- better than condoms alone. Condoms + PrEP is the best form of protection. Being on PrEP will not increase resistance. Only people who are ALREADY positive and take their meds INCONSISTENTLY can develop resistance.

That article is just another attempt to scare people. The Conversation (whoever they are) should be ashamed for publishing such an article. Sometimes I feel people out there want more gay men to seroconvert.

And here come the PrEP shills, right on schedule.

I'm in my 20s. I take prep. I bareback often. At some point I'll settle down and stop taking it, but for now I'm having fun.

Don't worry R161 the fun never lasts.

All you PREPers should check with your insurance to see if non-essential HEP C cure at the patient's request is covered by your insurance. In some countries, you must wait until you are near liver failure before getting it. Fun! Out of pocket cost for the elective treatment - 80-100K for 12 weeks.

You see, you are likely barebacking with some POZ guys and poz guys get HEP C through normal bareback sex. No fisting or needles necessary. So they could pass it on to you.

R120, you are correct, and it's a classic Poo Shoes pattern. Play both sides of an argument, alternate among posts talking about what a diseased whore he is, and being a maiden aunt.

Here's a picture of him on a day off from being a Bellagio Maid, telling a Las Vegas city council meeting how evil marihuana is.

When my marriage fell apart I went to a psychiatrist, who happened to be stocky and very hot, in his office, shared with his shrink wife, I sucked his thick dick, and he fucked me very hard. Since he only had one condom and he wanted to do it again, I let him bareback me, but he came in my mouth. He said it was not dangerous this way. So now, especially after my epic bareback rape in the sauna, I do bareback a little if the feeling is good, but they have to come in my mouth. No Prep, I hate chemicals.

[quote]R165 I went to a psychiatrist, who happened to be stocky and very hot, in his office, shared with his shrink wife, I sucked his thick dick, and he fucked me very hard.

Did he charge you for the therapy session?

No no...he was a little angry because I hadn't cleaned, and I insisted that I wanted to see him again, but he started sending emails about art galleries he was visiting with his kids and shit like that, and he didn't understand why I was self- conscious, about his wife, so I ended it. Hot fuck he was. Very big sporty legs, great ass, curly hair, a nice beard, and lots of chest hair, I am sorry it was a one sesdiin therapy only

Session not sesdiin. Autocorrect is out of control.

The next deadly disease can come from anywhere. We're fixated on diseases spread by semen but it could come from touching, kissing, sneezing.

Everyone is so scared the next disease will come with barebacking when it could be something totally different from HIV

I am convinced that the greatest SDT vessel is poppers. I am pretty sure there are studies about that. Makes sense too.

These PrEP sluts are turning themselves into human lab rats just so they can take raw loads from strangers, that will never not be anything but sad.

R153 ALL the men on PREP who I know believe that it is some magic pill that will keep them HIV neg and they ALL totally ignore how you are supposed to use condoms with it, and that you can get a lot of other nasty STIs from having unprotected sex like Hep C, herpes, syphilis, HPV, etc.

That's very true R163, a lot of men who are on PREP are getting infected with Hep C when they bareback.

What was his name R165?

I know someone who actually did have sex with their therapist but it turned out the therapist was a sexual predator/hebephile and having sex with my friend who was a legal adult, and young teenagers who saw him. My friend never had sex in his therapist's office but he fell in love and instead of his creep of a therapist telling him how they could not do anything or to see someone else for therapy and cutting off communication/contact he had sex with one of his clients.

[quote]R17 My friend never had sex in his therapist's office but he fell in love and instead of his creep of a therapist telling him how they could not do anything or to see someone else for therapy and cutting off communication/contact he had sex with one of his clients.

I ask this with LOVE, but is above sentence missing a word or something?

Kind of fascinating. Was he reported for the underage stuff? (Not that having sex with current clients is exactly A-OK, either.)

R173 Oh luvvy I wouldn't remember, I am a slut anyway. The next day I had another prick up my ears. But he was very nice. Very decent. I reached for him once after a few months. He was " experiencing with a str8 couple". That scream STD to me. I cut off

My husband is essentually a BB slut LOL. And before you clutch your pearls, we have an "understanding." He has a very high sex drive, much higher than mine, so we decided to have an arrangement as long as he went on PrEP, which he was more than happy to do. Laugh if you must, but despite our arrangement, we love each other very much (which is why we got married!) and would never do anything to put the other's health in jeopardy. FYI, he hates condoms, as do I. Using condoms outside the marriage never even came up for discussion and we certainly never use them IN the marriage. So he pursues his BB dalliances with guys he meets on the apps, CL, and the occasional bar hook-up. It's made him a happy person because he can somewhat satify his seemingly insatiable sex drive, and it's actually spiced up OUR sex life. When he fucks me, I ask him to describe a BB encounter he had, and listening to him give details of fucking some twink raw and watching a bucket of cum ooze from his pink ass makes ME cum faster than anything. So, you could say that PrEP has spiced up our marriage.

Good for you R176. If it works well, more power to you.

Thank you, r177. This type of arrangement isn't for everyone, but it works for us.

R174 yes the therapist was reported for the underage stuff, is no longer a therapist, is/was in prison, and is a registered sex offender.

I'm a bottom and I let the top decide if he goes raw or not. I have never met one who volunteered to wear a condom and I really don't care one way or the other. I got on PrEP two years ago and now I really don't care. Sex is just better in the heat of the moment. Condoms ruin the moment.

R176 are you on PREP?

Wow, just wow...at some of the vitriol in this thread (as I read it for the 1st time). Think I'll just try sharing a personal anecdote, without the flame-throwing.

I'm late 50s and not on PrEP, but considering it; just exited a long 1-on-1 relationship and now enjoying a few semi-anonymous hookups. Most recent CL hookup was with a late 30s guy who said he's on PrEP.. I've had some STIs in the distant past (including Hep-A), so I'm cautious now. While we right in the middle of 69ing without condoms, he brought up him fucking me. I smiled and said, "That's hot, but maybe next time." (I'd mentioned "no fucking" before we got together.)

At that point, we were holding each other's erections and negotiating -- he said, "But I'm on PrEP." I stuck with my "next time"...and we soon found other fun ways to achieve a big finish. My point is: I'm glad that PrEP exists to prevent HIV, but there really are other STIs to consider, especially when you're having sex with guys you don't know that well. And, don't be afraid to talk about what you want.

Guess I should add: I routinely get the full panel of STI tests once a year, and come up negative on every time. Testing is good for everyone.

I listened to an interesting TED talk about how much of the HIV in the west is caused by Type B and all the research as been on that strain. Types A and E are far more aggressive and taking over the Phillipines and is slowly entering the west.

The speaker was warning not to be complacent, assuming we're figured out HIV. The Types A and E are going to get to the west and cause another wave of illness.

Personally, as someone who is NOT on PREP I would not risk doing it raw/bare with anyone even someone on PREP.

[quote]I listened to an interesting TED talk about how much of the HIV in the west is caused by Type B and all the research as been on that strain.

From that TED Talk, which was by infectious disease specialist Edsel Salvana:

While overall new cases of HIV continue to drop in the world, this trend may be short-lived when the next wave of more aggressive and resistant viruses arrive. HIV has a potential to transform itself into a new and different virus every time it infects a cell. Despite the remarkable progress we've made in reversing the epidemic, the truth is that we are just a few viral mutations away from disaster.

There are nearly 100 subtypes of HIV, with new subtypes being discovered regularly. HIV in the developed world is almost all of one subtype: subtype B. Mostly everything we know and do to treat HIV is based on studies on subtype B, even though it only accounts for 12 percent of the total number of cases of HIV in the world. But because of the profound genetic difference among different subtypes, some subtypes are more likely to become drug-resistant or progress to AIDS faster.

We discovered that the explosion of HIV cases in the Philippines is due to a shift from the Western subtype B to a more aggressive Southeast Asian subtype AE. We are seeing younger and sicker patients with high rates of drug resistance. Initial encroachment of this subtype is already occurring in developed countries, including Australia, Canada and the United States. We may soon see a similar explosion of cases in these countries.

And while we think that HIV is done and that the tide has turned for it, just like with real tides, it can come right back. In the early 1960s, malaria was on the ropes. As the number of cases dropped, people and governments stopped paying attention. The result was a deadly resurgence of drug-resistant malaria.

We need to think of HIV not as a single virus that we think we've figured out, but as a collection of rapidly evolving and highly unique viruses, each of which can set off the next deadly epidemic.

Thanks for posting that R186.

Publix Grocery Chain Denies PrEP Coverage to Its Employees

One of the more prominent supermarket brands in the southeast, it has taken a hard line against including the HIV-prevention medication known as pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) in the insurance coverage it offers workers. But it remains a mystery whether the company is blocking coverage for PrEP due to cost concerns or the growing cry of employers (such as Hobby Lobby) that don't want to cover medical care for issues or people they deem morally objectionable.

Publix officials did not respond to written questions about the company's rationale for omitting coverage of PrEP for its employees, but public health advocates believe it was unlikely due to costs.

R188 why should they pay for the toxic, and highly expensive PREP when the men who take it are not even going to use condoms or have safer sex?

[quote]R185 Personally, as someone who is NOT on PREP I would not risk doing it raw/bare with anyone even someone on PREP.

That's because you're sane.

There's a local guy I am friends with who wants to have sex with me and become FWB. I have never had sex with him, as he's on PREP, into barebacking, and believes that even though PREP supposedly protects you against HIV that if you get any other STIs those can easily be cured with medications. :- I know that's not true, and I would really not be surprised if this guy is HIV+ or has other STIs.

What an interesting story R191.

Very thought provoking

Well R192, it's one reason why a lot of us will not have sex with any guy on PREP as they all bareback.

I have lost hope that condoms alone will help us stem this epidemic.

People are going to have to use Prep and anti-retrovirals. All this together will bridge the gap until we eventually get some sort of vaccine

R194 So what happens when different strains of HIV become resistant to those drugs? Or when or if the drugs stop working for someone who is taking them? Also, the side effects both short and longterm for PREP and anti-retrovirals are not fun, but if you are HIV+ or living with AIDS they are better than not being on any meds at all.

I'd rather have no sex at all than use a condom. And I know MANY who feel the same.

Taking PrEP may constrain your options for long-term disability insurance:

Three years ago, Dr. Philip J. Cheng, a urology resident at Harvard’s Brigham and Women’s Hospital, nicked himself while preparing an H.I.V.-positive patient for surgery.

Following hospital protocol, he took a one-month course of Truvada, a cocktail of two anti-H.I.V. drugs, to prevent infection. Later, because he was an unattached gay man, he decided to keep taking Truvada to protect himself from getting H.I.V. through sex.

But when Dr. Cheng applied for disability insurance — which many young doctors do to protect a lifetime’s worth of income should they be hurt — he was told that, because he was taking Truvada, he could have only a five-year policy.

Insurance brokers, gay-rights advocates and staff at medical clinics said in interviews they had heard of numerous such cases. H.I.V. specialists say the denials endanger men’s lives by encouraging them to drop PrEP if they need life, disability or long-term-care insurance.

"Taking PrEP may constrain your options for long-term disability insurance:"

That constraint needs to be removed from the equation, not the taking of the PrEP.

Then again, it's hard to argue against stigmatizing groups of gay men in a thread where so much of exactly that is going on.

I just had bareback sex once again last night with my 6'4" English fuck bud and it was HEAVEN.

R196 I know people like that as well, I find them very odd. As a top I always use condoms and don't ever do it raw/bare for anyone even bottoms and women-I am bisexual, who tell me how bad they want my cum in their ass or pussy.

R199 was life a banquet for the two of you? Were you passive?

No I was active, and yes it was yummy

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) just released a report about HIV trends for people under 30 in the U.S., and the numbers show an increase in one particular group: 25- to 29-year-olds.

Although we're seeing an overall "flattening" in the number of HIV infections in younger demographics — which is certainly better than an increase — the results shouldn't be taken as too encouraging.

What's worrisome is that the younger demographic of 13- to 29-year-olds makes up a disproportionate number of new HIV infections. The CDC says this group made up 23 percent of the U.S. population in 2014, but accounted for 40 percent of diagnoses that year.

Interesting R203.

I think we will start to see a decline in new cases over the next few years since PrEP has become more accessible. Sadly, the population at highest risk for seroconversion (black gay men) is the same group who historically has had relatively poor access to healthcare.

Not surprising R203 considering people in that age group have the mentality that as long as they take PREP or the other guy(s) are on PREP that they can take/give all the cum they want in both holes and not get HIV or any other STIs. These fools are crazy and I would never have sex with anyone like that.

Bareback really IS the only way. If we can't do that, then Abstinence, Here We Come !

LOL R206, that's funny. Personally I am way more into oral sex getting, giving/69, kissing, and j/o with body contact. I have done anal sex as a top but only to a partner since he wanted it, and I used condoms but most of the time we would just do oral sex.

A friend of mine who is HIV neg and practises safer sex, said how bareback sex is always worth it, and that he only does it bare/raw with a partner who he is in a longterm monogamous relationship with.

A presentation at the recent 25th Conference on Retroviruses and Opportunistic Infections describes what appears to be another case of infection with HIV in someone consistently taking PrEP. However a lack of monitoring and a failure to give the subject an HIV test around the time he experienced what may have been HIV seroconversion symptoms means that it is difficult to be 100% certain that this is a case of PrEP failure.

Because of lack of monitoring, t is impossible to say whether the patient caught HIV that was already resistant to the PrEP drugs tenofovir and emtricitabine, or whether resistance developed as a result of his staying on PrEP for a month after suspected symptoms of acute HIV infection were seen.

R209 what about the men who are already HIV+ who are on HIV meds that still give and take cum loads and do not practice safer sex?

Not as much as I would like. Is anyone available? :-)

Where's the "Life's a banquet!" troll?

I just reconnected with an ex-fuck buddy from a couple years ago. (He reached out to me online.) Still a nice guy and the chemistry is still there but so is the same issue that came between us the first time: he's looking for someone who will fuck him bareback and, since I refuse, he said perhaps we should just be friends this time around. I told him I'm perfectly fine with that.

It's not that I don't like him (I do) or that I wouldn't like to throw out the condoms (I fucked bareback once several years ago and know how freaking incredible it feels) but I've had more than a few scares with STDs in my day and just don't have any desire to take that risk ever again. And it's not like we would be exclusive (neither of us wants that), so who knows how many guys he could be fucking on the side (and how many without condoms). Perhaps he reached out thinking I had changed my mind on this issue in the two years since we last talked but I haven't. He's more than welcome to find someone else for sex and we'll just keep it to friendship this time.

You should give it a go if you like this guy. As a top, the risks really are extraordinarily low, unless the mere thought of it freaks you out - which it obviously doesn't.....

Don't do it R213. I had something like you describe happen to me but the guy I once dated was married, with a husband who thought the guy I had once dated was faithful and monogamous and that's not the case.

The guy I was once involved with briefly wanted me to do other gross things to him besides bareback sex like cum in his ass, piss up his ass, and then pull out so he could suck me off and go ass to mouth. I am not into any of that sexually at all, and I figured since he wanted me to do that to him he had done it with others, so I just cut off contact as it was for the best and I'm not a homewrecker or into helping people cheat.

Also, despite what R214 said, a person who is active/top can get infected with HIV or other STDs. The risk for HIV is not as great as being fucked raw as a bottom, but it's not as low risk as oral sex is either.

True R190, an older gay friend of mine in his early 50s told me how he has stayed HIV neg by always using condoms and if a man wants it raw, bare, is on PrEP, or is into drugs or the whole PNP thing how it does not matter how hot they are, don't have sex with them and find someone else who is not so risky.

Not worth the risk

No it's not R217, and yet people both young adult men, and men who survived/lived through the pandemic all think it is fine.

I’m in my 30s and partnered. If I were single, I would definitely go on PrEP. Even though I was generally careful, there were times I stupidly had sex without a condom and then freaked out for 6 months. Also, when you’re in your 20s, there’s a good chance your “monogamous”partner is not so monogamous.

I went through my single years without knowing about PEP (maybe it wasn’t even available at the time) and I am lucky those few bad choices didn’t have lifelong consequences.

R219 at any age with a gay man in a supposedly monogamous partnership you should assume that your partner is not being monogamous, or has slipped up and seen someone on the side, and this even applies to if you are in an open relationship as well.

I found this on Tumblr, it makes me very glad I am not into hook ups, or being taker/passive/bottom or vers for anal sex at all. A friend of mine who is really a lot more into anal sex than I am who has safer sex, told me how bottom/vers men who want it raw/bare are common, and how it is best to avoid having sex with anyone who wants it raw/uncovered.

uncensoredpleasure “I thought he might freak out if I fucked him raw from the start, so I put on a rubber to stretch him out and get that hole nice and open. When I took it off, he didn’t say anything, but just in case I fucked him faster and held him down until I pumped my load in his hole. It’s what you wanted, isn’t it cuck? Your husband’s pussy leaking some stranger’s load on your bed? You’re welcome.”

No. I am much more into oral sex and when I have done anal it was as top/active/giver, with a partner, and we used condoms.

just did two nights ago and am going to again this weekend, this time as part of a BB threesome and CAN'T WAIT !!!!

Are you on PREP or Truvada R223?

[quote]How many of you BAREBACK?

You're asking if I'm a disease-ridden whore?

No, I am not.

Are you HIV+ yet R61?

Hell no!

As much as I can ..... it's PrEP time peeps -- get with the drill and shed the latex !!!!!

Enjoy your diseases R228. PREP may protect against HIV most of the time but it does not protect against everything else.

That's not true R1. All the bareback prep hos who got fucked raw before prep think they are invincible and that prep will protect them against HIV and all other diseases.