What are some clues to say you're gay that only another gay guy would recognize?
Subtle Gay Tells
|by Anonymous||reply 149||03/14/2017|
Blue polka dot ties.
|by Anonymous||reply 1||02/09/2017|
Discreetly lift my caftan and present hole.
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A thin armband tattoo (or several) on the forearm.
Tight jeans with no underwear.
Earring in right ear lobe only.
Lady Gaga or Madonna t shirt
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a tongue delicately extruding through a glory hole.
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I'm good looking... in subtle way.
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Oh my man I love him so.
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Any mention of prosciutto, duck confit, or panna cotta.
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Spinning on his dick shrieking wheeeeeeeee!
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r8 .....and GOOD olive oil.
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When I was at school I was told you could if someone was gay after you asked them to look at their fingernails, if they looked at them palm up and fingers in, and not as palm down and fingers out.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||02/10/2017|
... you could TELL if someone was gay ...
|by Anonymous||reply 12||02/10/2017|
R11 , I think it's the other way around. Women (and by extension gay men according to this trope) supposedly look at their nails with their fingers extended, palm down (like they're getting a manicure).
I don't think it's accurate.
|by Anonymous||reply 13||02/10/2017|
In high school, my older (straight) brother pointed out that only girls carried their books held to their chests: boys carried them slung to their sides. I was taught to correct that if I didn't want to be called a fag, and I did.
|by Anonymous||reply 14||02/10/2017|
R13 - You may be right. I was caught doing it the 'gay' way and there was much hilarity at my expense. Those bastards.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||02/10/2017|
Until 2000, men who looked better than their true looks, were gay. Gay men fabricated their attractiveness. Then the straight boys caught up and surpassed us.
Its really about context now. There are signs but they are based on age, location, class. Its a really big world.
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|by Anonymous||reply 17||02/10/2017|
Overdressed and over coiffed is often a dead giveaway.
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In high school our obsessia with Judy and Marlene was regarded as strange.
|by Anonymous||reply 19||02/10/2017|
R14 Me too. In 7th grade I was being laughed at and mocked, much to my dismay. I later asked one of my mockers when he was away from the others why I was the target of ridicule and he told me. Carry your books to your side without bending your elbows.
The way a guy throws is another dead give away. Any way but overhanded and you'll be hearing those dreaded words a young boy dreads, "You throw like a girl."
|by Anonymous||reply 20||02/10/2017|
Our politics class voted to see The China Syndrome in 1979. I slipped into the cinema next door and saw The Rose instead.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||02/10/2017|
At age 8 I was the only one at a party who wanted to watch [italic]South Pacific[/italic] when everyone else wanted to watch [italic]Back to the Future[/italic].
|by Anonymous||reply 22||02/10/2017|
To R8 and R10, I must add "Parmigiano-Reggiano" and "bechamel and Bolognese, not mozzarella and ricotta."
|by Anonymous||reply 23||02/10/2017|
not so subtle = poppers in the fridge.
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Dressing decades younger than their age.
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R25, what do you think someone 65 y.o. should be wearing? I don't dress much differently than I did when I was 25: Oxford cloth buttondowns, khakis, Topsiders or sneakers?
|by Anonymous||reply 26||02/10/2017|
A willingness to argue about duvets.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||02/10/2017|
Having even a single Streisand album in your collection.
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|by Anonymous||reply 29||02/10/2017|
I'm doublegay, R28. I have The Broadway Album and The Way We Were (not the soundtrack).
And I LOVE quiche, R29.
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Most of these are not subtle at all.
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|by Anonymous||reply 32||02/10/2017|
Forever shirtless = ab flashers
Sockless with shoes on
|by Anonymous||reply 33||02/10/2017|
r3, OP said subtle.
[quote]I don't think it's accurate.
r13 -- it is VERY accurate. We tested it one boring afternoon when I worked retail part-time and it turned out to be a 100% accurate homo indicator w/ a sample of 10 people in one afternoon.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||02/10/2017|
[quote]Sockless with shoes on
Not exclusively gay. Just preppy.
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There's this guy in my office building who has a Louis Vuitton briefcase and wears just a little too much product in his hair. I've heard him speak on the elevator, and it sounds like he vomited up every clutch purse ever brought to the Tony Awards.
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Pinky hyper extended outward whilst drinking coffee or a cocktail especially.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||02/10/2017|
I was busted with the fingernail exam in middle school.
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All of those are current young heterosexual fashions, R33.
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|by Anonymous||reply 41||02/10/2017|
A difference in pronouncing the "w-" and "wh-" sounds at the start of a word.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||02/10/2017|
R37 Saying "whilst," if you're American,instead of "while."
|by Anonymous||reply 43||02/10/2017|
honey, subtle? I just let 'er RIP!!!
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R43 Bitch you caught me. Smoochers.
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|by Anonymous||reply 46||02/10/2017|
In the work place (think white collar) I'd say touching another guy. Like a hand on the shoulder type thing which is an unnecessary action between professional adult males. It doesn't happen often but it can be one of the hints.
|by Anonymous||reply 47||02/10/2017|
A triangle tattoo on one's ankle.
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Including French words and phrases in your conversation when you're not French.
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I like that subtle gay tell r 48.
|by Anonymous||reply 50||02/10/2017|
I like to ask who, in their opinion was more stunning in VALLEY OF THE DOLLS, BARBARA PARKINS or SHARON TATE ?
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What r49 said. It still shocks me anytime I have to translate something I just said in French to a gay male. C'est seconde nature pour nous, non?
|by Anonymous||reply 52||02/10/2017|
Tongue piercing. Any guy with a tongue piercing will at least try sucking a cock unless he already has and possible didn't like it.
Definite freak in the bed sign.
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Right r39, I was going to say, do we not realize that "boot cut" is for old people?
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I'm not a big fan of all that ink, but I have to say that the guy @r53 is really handsome. Yum. Sigh!
|by Anonymous||reply 55||02/10/2017|
Listening to this over and over and getting goosebumps and misty-eyed.
|by Anonymous||reply 56||02/10/2017|
R55's taste is in his tongue-piercing.
|by Anonymous||reply 57||02/10/2017|
If I can slid it right in w/o spit, its usually a good indicator.
|by Anonymous||reply 58||02/10/2017|
"How about those Mets?"
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Louis Tomlinson at r48.
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R41 nailed it.
|by Anonymous||reply 61||02/10/2017|
Fuckin' A, mac!
|by Anonymous||reply 62||02/10/2017|
Sparkle in the eyes, leggings, another gay will 'watch' you
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|by Anonymous||reply 64||02/10/2017|
I had forgotten about that carrying your books pressed to your chest business. I did that at first and was definitely teased for it. But not by a bully—by a fellow homo friend. That was in maybe 1990 when I was 11.
A man over a certain age (say, 50) who's wearing tight jeans is probably gay.
Does the handkerchief in the back pocket mean anything anymore? I sometimes see some very interesting guys in NYC with a colored bandana in their back pockets—green, black, yellow. Do they still mean what they used to mean?
|by Anonymous||reply 65||02/10/2017|
In ninth grade I used to get busted for carrying my books like a girl by a teacher I never even had for a class. He'd be in the hall when I got out of Algebra I, and he'd see me and shout, "Hold your books differently!" One time he even did it from his car after school when I was walking to the bus. Asshole.
|by Anonymous||reply 66||02/10/2017|
Taking French was a sign of gayness at my school. Spanish was the heterosexualist language.
|by Anonymous||reply 67||02/10/2017|
R66, that teacher was probably a deeply repressed gay man projecting his self-loathing onto you or any other boy who held their books "like a girl."
|by Anonymous||reply 68||02/10/2017|
R66 he sounds like a dick! Probably a closet case himself
|by Anonymous||reply 69||02/10/2017|
An ascot is a key giveaway.
|by Anonymous||reply 70||02/10/2017|
Knows the difference between Wedgewood, Lenox and Spode china.
|by Anonymous||reply 71||02/10/2017|
R49, R52, R67, I wanted to take French in High School, but 'Advanced Studies' meant I was sentenced to take Latin. I still plan to study French at some point when I'm not longer working full-time. I used to keep a French dictionary handy to try to translate the best parts of certain novels (back before the Internet) and I need to learn something to keep my brain from decaying once I retire.
|by Anonymous||reply 72||02/10/2017|
This is the subtle way I let people know. It takes a while, but they get the idea.
|by Anonymous||reply 73||02/10/2017|
[quote]Taking French was a sign of gayness at my school. Spanish was the heterosexualist language.
I took both.
|by Anonymous||reply 74||02/10/2017|
[quote]Including French words and phrases in your conversation when you're not French.
|by Anonymous||reply 75||02/10/2017|
I throw in French from time to time but in my defense I'm Canadian and raised with both languages. Don't need French much here on the west coast, though. My father used to speak French to us at meal times and all day on Sunday.
|by Anonymous||reply 76||02/10/2017|
[quote]in ninth grade I used to get busted for carrying my books like a girl by a teacher
I also had an asshole 9th grade teacher like that....he seemed strangely concerned about my decision one day to wear a horizontal striped sweater with a collared, checked shirt underneath.
He told me my mixing of patterns was "too much" and in future I should refrain.
I couldn't tell if he thought it was bad taste(which,looking back, it was) or looked too outre...translation "gay".
Either way I thought his reaction was curious.
|by Anonymous||reply 77||02/10/2017|
I used to re-enact the Charlie's Angels intro credits, playing all three angels. I loved Jackie Smith's hair, and my favorite part of the re-enactment was the part where she looks angry as all hell and flips her hair after someone takes her camera away. My other favorite parts were Cheryl Ladd's quizzical half-head turn when she was sitting in the hot tub, and a spot where Shelley Hack, in a red dress and with uncharacteristically straight hair, is laughing. I also loved Carol Burnett, and I used to mimic her different hair styles. I used to pretend I had my own variety show. I was a huge soap fan at 13, and I begged my jock dad to take me to a charity softball game in the area between Guiding Light and Texas. I still have Carla Borelli's and Randy Hamilton's autographs. My superjock dad was incredibly embarrassed by me, but he died before I came out. I wonder if he knew.
|by Anonymous||reply 78||02/10/2017|
And how exactly did you figure out its accuracy, R34?
|by Anonymous||reply 79||02/10/2017|
In addition to the test of looking at your fingernails, there was looking at the heel of your shoe, holding a cigarette, and striking a match.
|by Anonymous||reply 80||02/10/2017|
When I was at school, it was the way you sat. Crossed legs gay. Real men spread their legs. Luckily for me I learnt that lesson and have been spreading men's legs ever since.
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In my schools, German was for the smart and intellectual, Spanish for the stupid or the stoners, and French was for everyone else.
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I had fluent french by HS graduation. I took Spanish and German in college and flunked them both! I guess I was one of the ones who had to learn it young.
|by Anonymous||reply 84||02/10/2017|
r78, Whether he 'knew' or not (probably did) he loved you the way you are. Nothing ever beats thats. You've been blessed in the most real (non religious) sense that any of us ever are.
|by Anonymous||reply 85||02/10/2017|
High Lights. Subtle ? No. Definitely a good give-a-way.
|by Anonymous||reply 86||02/10/2017|
resembling SHEPRARD SMITH is a good give-a-way too !
|by Anonymous||reply 87||02/10/2017|
Here's SHEPHARD showing how to rid one's self on their gag reflex.
|by Anonymous||reply 88||02/10/2017|
R72: I only wish the Catholic high school I went to offered Latin. I did three years of Spanish and let me tell you, all of the Romance languages that are based in Latin are pretty much an indicator. Funny enough the elite city public school offered Latin.
But funny story - one girl I worked with - attractive black woman - she said she realized I was gay when I didn't give her the once over with my eyes.
|by Anonymous||reply 89||02/10/2017|
Sneaking up behind a guy sitting on the edge of a front porch looking at his phone and hitting him in the back of his head with your blue jeaned crotch?
|by Anonymous||reply 90||02/10/2017|
R80 how do you strike a match the gay/heterosexual way?
|by Anonymous||reply 91||02/10/2017|
If he happens to be a smoker, hashes over his shoulder.
|by Anonymous||reply 92||02/10/2017|
R91, supposedly it's a gay giveaway to strike it away from the body instead of toward it.
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So, we're talking about the 60s and 70s?
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Love you R78
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R88 Shepard Smith has absolutely NO gag reflex left.
|by Anonymous||reply 96||02/10/2017|
Urgk, there's a gross, vile Larrie on this thread!
|by Anonymous||reply 97||02/10/2017|
I used to mimic my sister, and wrap a towel around my head (like a turban) after I showered and shampooed. Certainly I wasn't the only little gayling that did this. This was in the '70 and my parents didn't know what to think.
|by Anonymous||reply 98||02/10/2017|
Larries are all absolutely bat shit insane - scary people.
|by Anonymous||reply 99||02/10/2017|
Asking to see someone's cock was always a dead giveaway for me.
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R100 Did anyone oblige?
|by Anonymous||reply 101||02/10/2017|
Seeing Barbra in Funny Girl on the tugboat singing the end of Don't Rain on My Parade" and getting all emotional. I remember my family watching a documentary on film history and when this scene came on, my mother exclaimed, "Here we go!"
|by Anonymous||reply 102||02/11/2017|
"When I was at school I was told you could if someone was gay after you asked them to look at their fingernails, if they looked at them palm up and fingers in, and not as palm down and fingers out."
I always thought this was a much better indicator of whether you were nearsighted or farsighted.
But that's just me.
|by Anonymous||reply 103||02/11/2017|
Subtle signs a man is gay?
Doesn't pander to straight women & doesn't fall for their manipulative charms.
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Swinging your arms when walking.
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How your present fingernails when asked to check for dirt. We curl our fingers facing us. Straight guys hold their hands out to look at them.
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I've always been told the opposite of that, R106, as has everyone else upthread.
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|by Anonymous||reply 108||02/11/2017|
So R108-- you do wish you'd been born a girl. What if there was a way to make that wish come true. A special camp you could go to with other men who should have been born girls. Where you can all see your wishes come true together.
That would help Make America Great Again, wouldn't it?
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R108 is transitioning as I type.
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R108 is Andy Cohen
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What about jewelry, are ring finger and earring placement still good clues?
|by Anonymous||reply 112||02/20/2017|
I heard that women instinctively hold books like they're carrying a baby, and men hold their books like they're carrying a spear. It makes sense, and of all these it's probably the most accurate indicator mentioned so far.
In my school a guy could cross his legs, but only wide, with the ankle resting on the other leg. It was the tight cross that proved homosexuality.
|by Anonymous||reply 113||02/20/2017|
R76. There's no call for your "French" in France either. No one there understands your mangled honking.
|by Anonymous||reply 114||03/12/2017|
How about: Wearing a pinky ring or dangling it while as you eat and drink Wearing a pair of 501 button fly jeans with one button undone Wearing your sweater with its sleeves wrapped around your neck Wearing a little bronzer and lip balm Playing and singing show tunes Dancing while very light on your feet Rolling your eyes at someone Displaying hand gestures as you talk (to add to the affect, keep your wrists limp) Referring to a guy as "her" or "Miss Thing"
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LMFAO R115 - those are ALL giveaways..
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R115 is very happy to be stuck in 1983.
|by Anonymous||reply 117||03/12/2017|
Most Latin and North African men use a lot of hand gestures.
|by Anonymous||reply 118||03/12/2017|
The pronoun game. Always using neutral pronouns instead of admitting you're talking about another guy.
|by Anonymous||reply 119||03/12/2017|
When we were 12 we listened only to Broadway Original Cast Albums and Judy Garland.
|by Anonymous||reply 120||03/12/2017|
I used to think wearing a ring on the middle or forefinger was a gay thing. I thought nipple rings were too.
To my surprise some straights have picked up on them
|by Anonymous||reply 121||03/12/2017|
R113 so true. I used to carry my books like a baby until I realized that's. It what men are supposed to do. Started to carry like a spear to throw them off the scent.
|by Anonymous||reply 122||03/12/2017|
r66, why do you call him asshole. He was probably looking out for you so you wouldn't undergo horrors growing up as being bullied by students.
|by Anonymous||reply 123||03/12/2017|
I've never actually held a spear in my hand(s), but if I held my books the way I think I'd hold a spear, they'd fall on the floor. I held my books the same way I hold the handle of a briefcase or suitcase, with my fingers curled underneath.
|by Anonymous||reply 124||03/12/2017|
Masculine men don't curl anything; they're all hard angles, r124.
|by Anonymous||reply 125||03/12/2017|
Then I haven't adequately described what I'm talking about, R125.
|by Anonymous||reply 126||03/12/2017|
R113 British men cross legs that way. And not all of them are gay.
|by Anonymous||reply 127||03/12/2017|
How you hold a microphone:
|by Anonymous||reply 128||03/12/2017|
Nipples that stick out of the t-shirt. While straight men have nipples too and they can get erect, they don't generally require them to be played with, so people whose nipples stick out abnormally from being elongated (teased and pulled and sometimes pierced as an erogenous zone), and or who wear t-shirts tight enough to show them, are gay.
|by Anonymous||reply 129||03/12/2017|
When the crotch of the blue jeans rubs white before the knees.
|by Anonymous||reply 130||03/12/2017|
And when the knees rub white before the butt.
And anyone with holes in their jeans.
|by Anonymous||reply 131||03/12/2017|
The pinky ring is not a good indicator. It's a New Jersey thing.
|by Anonymous||reply 132||03/12/2017|
R127 that's one more reason of MANY that all British men seem gay.
|by Anonymous||reply 133||03/12/2017|
When he's with other men but walks on the balls of his feet, like a stalking cat.
|by Anonymous||reply 134||03/12/2017|
Sometimes if they are an accomplished bottom, they walk with their legs oddly disconnected as though there is something buried in their ass right then. All you have to do to identify the gay then, is to eliminate club foot and differential leg length as the cause.
|by Anonymous||reply 135||03/12/2017|
"I heard that women instinctively hold books like they're carrying a baby, and men hold their books like they're carrying a spear. It makes sense"
Of course it doesn't. That's your confirmation bias. Have you ever seen the YouTube video on why males and females use different methods to take off a T-shirt over their heads? The reasons are anatomical (and because T-shirts are made differently for the different sexes). Also, you carry spears individually in your hand, not in a bunch clutched to your side.
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|by Anonymous||reply 137||03/12/2017|
Shirt matches the tie. Carpet matches the drapes.
|by Anonymous||reply 138||03/12/2017|
Going swimming was always very revealing, especially how one emerges from underwater. "Girls" always surface gracefully with their hair swept back while "guys" throw their hair to the side. Also how one dives for fun is compelling.
Then there is drying off and use of the towel. Girls wrap immediately under the arms and guys usually scrub the head and legs. Girls have the large beach towel and guys use any old bath or hand towel. The real bad ass would never have a towel.
I was bitten by a large horsefly once on the small of the back and always kept a towel on my shoulders after that.
|by Anonymous||reply 139||03/12/2017|
[quote]Shirt matches the tie.
Regis Philbin started that trend (unless this is some metaphor of which I am ignorant).
|by Anonymous||reply 140||03/12/2017|
[quote]A willingness to argue about duvets.
The need to point out one means duvet covers.
|by Anonymous||reply 141||03/12/2017|
"What do you think of Eurovision?"
|by Anonymous||reply 142||03/12/2017|
Cum on your chin. It's a dead giveaway.
If it's on your forehead, you could go either way, but on the chin means you're gay gay gay.
|by Anonymous||reply 143||03/12/2017|
this one needs to observed over time: Gender-selective name memory - forgetful about names of waitresses, retail staff, even some actresses to a lesser degree but excellent recall of their name if they're men
|by Anonymous||reply 144||03/12/2017|
Being able to quote anything from any of Oprah's "Super Soul Sunday" episodes.
|by Anonymous||reply 145||03/12/2017|
Screaming 'Larrie is reeeeeeeeeeeeeeal'
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Going to a Broadway show once too often. Or just once.
|by Anonymous||reply 147||03/14/2017|
His ringtone is the refrain of this song.
|by Anonymous||reply 148||03/14/2017|
I just wish to God that she'd stop using mortuary grade foundation ! She is one scary looking bitch.
|by Anonymous||reply 149||03/14/2017|