I'm a loser my life is empty

How old are you OP?

Be careful that your ass doesn't fuse to the sofa, OP. It happens.

And brush your teeth.

r1

I'm 23.

Sorry, OP. It sounds like hell.

My parents have old friends with a son like you, except he's in his late 30s now. Has never moved out of his parents basement. No friends and I'm sure he's a virgin. He does have a job, but it's running a (very) small business that his parents started. He's pathologically shy. Weird thing is he wasn't always like that - I knew him when we were both kids, and he was just a normal kid (although he did have a speech impediment); but when he hit puberty he turned inward and never turned back out.

That sucks, OP. Keep trying meds and getting regular medical visits.

OP what meds r u on, I take a ton to help me, mood stabs, anti-anxiety, ad, ap (for sleep), betas and ADHD meds. its a lot but seems to keep me social enough and stable.

Sorry, OP.

When I am feeling low and unmotivated, I break things down into little steps. In your case I would start with hygeine and daily showers. Make that a daily goal. I think that one small step could eventually motivate you to do more each day. Good luck.

I don't mind being barebacked by depressed suicidal losers.

That's good advice R7.

Sorry, OP. What is actually preventing you from doing things that you say you want to do? Have you tried getting out of the house, making friends, getting a job, dating, etc? Or are you too anxious to even attempt?

As someone who has dealt with anxiety myself, meds will help. You just have to find the right one. Once you get those in your system the load and pressure of the anxiety will lift and you'll find the things that felt so hard to do previously aren't as overwhelming.

You have as much right to everything the world contains, money, sex, friends, work, entertainment, as anybody else. Stop thinking you need to earn your life. You have a life, start acting like it.

Low or no motivation is usually dopamine-related. Find a good rhodiola supplement (there's one out of Sweden, I think, available online). Ask your doc first, though, to rule out latent bipolar for which rhodiola is contraindicated. Relax, you've got this.

OP, you are still very young and you can have a meaningful life ahead of you. If the med your doctor gave you doesn't work, go back and try another. You can be helped. Once the meds kick in then it will assist you in getting on your feet. You will have to find a pathway to your new life and that will involve taking risks, but having goals are important and for you it is paramount.

Google "help motivating with anxiety" it kicks out a lot of good links.

Keep us posted, OP.

OP, you can get good fresh start by learning not to use run-on sentences.

If you have insurance get your testosterone level checked. Often a low T level will cause depression and that is sometimes over looked.

Xanax is great for people who feel like you do. Combine it with Adderall in the morning and Ambien at night and your life will suddenly seem so much better. I taught in a rough school for ten years on that combination. It destroys your anxiety and gives you huge confidence and get up and go.

Have you ever had a gay hook up or do you just look at porn?

These sad sack posts come like clockwork, about one a week.

This one is rare that the OP is so young. Normally it's some despondent Mary in her 40s that realized that living in her mother's basement for years robbed her of her youth and any opportunities she had for success in love or in her career.

fuck u R17

Snap out of it!!!

OP, you're just going to stop being so entirely emo, and convinced you need to LIVE OUT EVERY FEELING as you have it. Life is tough, but not living is tougher, and you're not living. Break free and get a fucking job, it will cure 65% of your problems, and it doesn't even matter what it is! Go bus tables somewhere and make some friends and get your mind off yourself!

Freak fuck John's lying about his age again.

Thanks OP. Your pathetic life made me feel much better about my much better life.

With a few exceptions, most of the responses to OPs post have been quite sympathetic and supportive.

You cunts are SLIPPING 😈

OP, come on sweetheart. Give yourself a hug. You are lovable when you try a tiny bit. Remember that, baby.

Don't expect perfection from yourself and from nobody else. You are not a loser, you are still alive, ffs.

Hmm, what is that cute lil devil at R23's reply?

I have the same problem as you, OP.

You need to take R7's advice and then start turning small sporadic activities into a schedule.

Make regular showering a first step. Once you clean yourself up, you're going to get a little confidence boost.

Slowly add things to your schedule. The more you feel that you accomplish, the more likely you are to "snap out of it."

I understand that it takes a huge effort to do anything, because you probably feel like you lack motivation. Here's the thing. Motivation is a farce. You need to tell yourself, "OK, I'm going to go have a shower/go to this appointment/do this/do that" and then just do it. Grit your teeth if you have to, but once you start something and just do it, you'll realize that what you were trying to do, or waiting to be able to do wasn't really that difficult to begin with.

Medication isn't going to do a fraction of what kicking your own ass into do completing tasks will and therapy will rely on you taking your own initiative instead of "waiting".

Start with your hygiene and move on from there. Try it for a week and let us know how you're doing.

You're really young and you have every opportunity in the world to get back on your feet. Trust me, if you feel defeated, or if that there's no hope, you're wrong. There's myriad things that you'll be able to accomplish once you get the ball rolling.

I'm sorry for your suffering OP. On the practical side, have you looked into getting government benefits. I think you would qualify for SSI for starters. Almost everyone gets turned down the first time. If that happens get yourself a lawyer who specializes in SSI cases. Once you have a lawyer you almost always win on appeal. The lawyer usually takes one month of SSI as their fee if you win and nothing if you don't. In the meantime you should apply for Medicaid and food stamps. If you don't live in a red state those two should not be that hard to get. A doctor or even better more than one doctor needs to state on the forms for SSI that you are disabled. If your shrink won't do that for someone in your condition get another shrink. It would be good if you have a primary care doctor who will also state you are disabled. If you get SSI you will automatically get medicaid and food stamps. Now if you're not paying rent to your mom and grandmother your SSI will not be as high as if you did pay rent but still, you'd feel better that you are contributing to your household in your own way, the only way you might be able to for now and that's nothing to be ashamed of. You are trying to get help and that's the best you can do.

Best of luck.

Aren't most modern Japanese kids like that?

Brush your teeth each day for a week. Set that as a goal. Then move on to a shower and brushing teeth. Baby steps

No one has mentioned exercise. Nothing like feeling your body getting stronger. You're 23 -- still very young. Don't putting off on taking these bitches' advice another second. Now go brush your teeth and take a shower RIGHT NOW. then go for a walk.

I'm tender to the touch!

You should be ashamed. Your grandmother and mother are growing older, worried sick about you and feeling used by you. They will both go to their graves with these feelings. The least you could do is relieve them from your life and be a parasite to the taxpayer. Your miserable existence has taken over theirs. I feel much worse for those two old women than for you OP. Grow up, brush your filthy mouth, wash your filthy ass, go live with the other messes in section 8 and let those old woman live a happier life. Shame on you.

Jesus r31.

Hard drunks and lots of sleazy sex. Just be safe ...

'And when they go to their graves I will have nothing.'

Your mother could live another forty years quite easily and then you'll probably inherit her house as she'll feel so guilty about leaving you with nothing. So in reality, you are set for life, you mega spaz.

So, what happened to that NCLEX, John?

OP, you definitely need to keep investigating different approaches to your problem with doctors and therapists. Exercise and getting out of the house are also key. Why not volunteer? You can help down and out people who would love to have a friend like you.

As I read your post, I am overwhelmed by the negativity you have about yourself. It is so strong that I don't think many medications could eradicate it....but YOU can.

Start by making a list of all the positive things in your life and what you are thankful for. Be sure to put Mom and Grandma at the top because they are keeping you going right now. You have your good health, right? Put that down. Have a place to live? Add it to the list. Keep adding more to the list and you'll see that you are not a loser (you're not homeless, you are a good person, you like people, etc.). You have many things going for you, but you are focused on others that haven't fallen into your lap because you are afraid of rejection. Look at this list several times a day and tell yourself you can do this (go get a job, make a friend, etc.).

If you want to have those things (job, friends, lovers, etc.), you have to leave the house (after you take a shower and brush your teeth) and get them. Billions of people do this every day....you can too. But you must leave the house.

Don't listen to the spoiled brat telling you to be ashamed of yourself. He's had everything handed to him, hence the attitude. Ignore him. He doesn't matter to anyone but himself, clearly.

Not the OP - what benefits did you get from rhodiola supplements, R12 ?

OP, you're a mess.

Social anxiety and on the Avoidant Personality Disorder spectrum, OP. I am, too. See link for an explanation and treatment options.

Some good advice in this thread.

OP, did your dad leave?

OP - I also have the avoidant personality disorder. You should be regularly seeing a psychiatrist as well as some sort of psychological therapist. If you can't afford one, there are ways of finding them for free. If you can't depend on yourself to follow through, ask someone who is close to you (such as your mom) to do that task for you or keep up with you on a daily basis until it gets done.

When the psychiatrist prescribes medications, take them. Give them time to work.

In the meanwhile, start volunteering somewhere. There's no pressure to perform when you're not getting paid. Go volunteer at an animal shelter or with teenage runaways or something. Any place where you can fill a few hours per day. That will give you a track record so that either they may eventually hire you there OR you will have references for when you do look for a real job. And again, volunteering is work experience you just arent being paid. When you do eventually have a job interview, it will sound good to say "I didn't have a work history so I volunteered to show I could be a reliable employee".

Why should OP waste his time "applying" to volunteer for nothing when he can apply to get paid via his resume, R42? All that's going to do is reinforce feelings of worthlessness.

Also note that OP isn't some straight chick with a husband paying her way who can afford to waste her time on an institution that doesn't value her enough to pay for her services.

Volunteering : the new child labour.

OP I could have written your post when I was 23. I'm 45 now and my life isn't much improved. Get your shit together because if you don't nothing will change. Don't waste the next 20 years like I did.

It's a maladaptive coping mechanism, OP. You probably have very rigid, fixed ideas about the world and yourself and your potential and nothing and no one can talk you out of it. Change will come when you want it to. That can happen at any time. You might wake up tomorrow and decide - fuck this shit, I'm cleaning up and making some plans. Brushing your teeth is something everyone can do unless they are paralysed. You chose not to do it, probably to reinforce your belief that you are unloveable and disgusting and to keep people - you you fear will judge you harshly - away from you. I have been through 3 periods of major depression and come out the other side. There's no reason why you can't, too.

Please listen to those on this thread who have given you concrete suggestions. Ignore the guy in his 40s; you are your own person.

Take small, gradual steps, find a therapist, and don't think that your current feelings will not change.

I wish that I could reach out and give you a big hug. Just take tiny steps. Take a few deep breaths, just to start. DO NOT GIVE UP, kiddo!

Cry me a deflating rubber refugee raft, OP.

"Avoidant Personality Disorder".

Of course. The shrinks and the pharmaceutical industry have pathologized every inch of human existence.

Hold in there, OP. I'm 28, have pretty severe Avoidant Personality and anxiety (social and generalized) and of course depression. I was a heavy drinker for five years but I'm three months sober and cleaning up my messes (and boy are there many). I'm estranged from my family and the few friends I have because I don't really reach out, but its whatever. You can still get a job, go to school, date, with mental illness. Don't get discouraged. I'm starting a full time paid volunteer position in a week, the monthly stipend amounts to sub-minimum wage when you factor in the amount of hours I'll be putting in, but hell, it's a start. Enroll in classes, get exercise, find ways to make money on the side until you find something more long-term. And if you have someone in your life you can confide in any way, don't be afraid to reach out. And of course, stay away from substances/drugs.

I'm sitting here, reading this thread and laughing really hard that people are trying to give John earnest advice as to how to turn his life around.

Ridiculous OP. You've come to the wrong place if you're looking for a shoulder to cry on. Get your shit together. I pity those poor two women who somehow got stuck with you. Shameful. Two old woman taking care of an overgrown waste who can't even be bothered to shower or brush his teeth. Those poor, poor woman, and the embarrassment you bring them.

*women*

Fuck you and your moronic posts PMBT. I'm glad you're miserable.

R52=stupid frau. THey wouldn't do it if they didn't get off on it.

Here's the truth. Volunteering is stupid. Don't hang out with anyone who won't pay you for something.

^ wow, you're a hollow piece of work

OP. The good news is that you're only 23. That's great. You have something I don't have. You have enough time to change. You probably need vitamins a lot more than you need meds. Do you take Vitamin D? You should, it helps.

Second, you need to make a plan. If you really want to do better for yourself. You need to do something every single day to make things better for you. Not for your mother or Granny. For you. Start out by brushing your teeth. Teeth are very sensitive. If you ignore them...they will go away. So brush them.

The other thing you need to do is wash your stanky ass. Every day. Shower. It takes ten minutes. Put on clean underwear and clean clothes. Now. Go for a walk. I don't care WTF the weather is like. If it is raining or snowing or if it's 90 degrees. Go for a fucking walk.

Go around the block. Go to the corner and back. If you don't want to walk, then stand around. But get your ass outside your house for at least 15 minutes every day. EVERY DAY. Eat fresh vegetables and meats & a little bit of fruit.

Why? Because I know you're probably overweight even though you haven't mentioned it. Whether you are or not, eating healthy is very important for your mental health. Allow yourself a treat two or three times a week. No more.

Drink no sodas. None. Water. You probably are full of toxins. OK. Now. Let's add exercise to your regimen. Every Day 20-30 minutes. Walking. I don't care if you walk around the basement, or the house, or the block or WTF ever. Go to a mall and walk. If your mother is able take her with you. Do it together.

Now, you have a shrink? Great. Tell him you want to be in a discussion group. You are now old enough not to give a fuck about whether people like you. Just be polite. Smile at people and listen. Ask questions that don't require a yes or no answer. Maybe you can get someone else to start talking.

Find a church group, or your local community center to get involved with, maybe volunteer. If necessary, talk to the pastor to see if there are any small groups you can be part of. My cousin got involved with the Senior Citizens at his church. It changed his life. They love to talk and tell their stories. He helped with Meals on Wheels.

The point is you will be interacting with humans. In some cases people who are in worse shape than you. LOL! You can move on from there. You obviously have internet access. Make use of it. Set a goal. Tell yourself that in 6 months or 12 months, you will be strong enough to get into a community college class or two, and figure out something you can do to earn a living.

Do not let anyone discourage you. Ignore any nagging. Don't give others power over you. What I mean is, sometimes we resist doing something because someone else has told us to. So we do the opposite. But that gives them power. So what.

The thing is take steps every day to help yourself. You will feel so good about yourself. You have the power OP!Just do it! (and remember... Vitamin D.)

Get rid of the carbs, ditch the meds for weed, and actually make an effort to go outside. You'll thank me when you live a long healthy life. Don't believe me when I tout the benefits of weed? Maybe you'll believe Michael Phelps.

Crystal Meth - it's delicious. It will solve all your problems and you will make lots of new friends ...

Anyone who would respond to this obvious troll post is a delusional fucktard.

Ever thought about doing porn? It's great for the self esteem

Honestly, people who complain about such things - why do you continue to live? I'd end it but I don't have the balls. One day, hopefully. Do you just like to complain?

R63 I think anyone who advocates suicide even indirectly here should be banned permanently. Gay people have enough trouble on this earth without trolls coming here to play mental games with them.

Oh relax, R64.

I blocked R64. Thanks though R65.

Eat some pies and chew codeine.

OP - Exercise is one of the best cure-alls. Sorry you're in this position, but you're young. The first 3 weeks it will be difficult, but after that , you will want to exercise more and more.

3 weeks. Care to give it a try?

Exercise makes me sweat and gives me a headache.

What kind of pies, R67?

I've been there, Op, I had the worst social anxiety & depression for 10 years, I was prescribed Xanax in the early 00's only to realize that it was that that was making it worse for me. I quit the meds last year and everything looks so much better now. I didn't shower for 3 months at a time, I was suicidal, didn't have job, boyfriend, nothing. I wonder what meds are you on? I hope you get better, you're sill young and have your whole life ahead of you. Good luck!

[quote]Anyone who would respond to this obvious troll post is a delusional fucktard.

It's the same guy who was posting these 'poor lonely me' threads a few weeks ago, isn't it? He stopped for a while when his cover was blown. He seems to be back.

Xanax is hard to kick. I was on 10mg a day at one point. I had to get off it via tiny increments of valium and it took 8 months but today I am proudly benzo free with no lingering tinnitus or anything.

If your message is correct, OP, it sounds as if your treatment is only medication. You need counseling/therapy with medication. I don't know where you live, but I suggest you connect with a counseling psychologist as a complement approach if no counseling is happening. I am suspicious of your post, being that your psychiatrist is not poviding you therapy (counseling treatment) him/herself, or has you referred to a colleague for individual psychological therapy and/or group therapy. Meds alone will not change your negative, ingrained behaviors, confusion, irrational beliefs, or improve your self-concept.

Talking won't help; he needs to get his hands on some crack cocaine.

Just be glad you have somewhere to stay.

Of course, it's probably a troll post to get DLers to expound on how fucked up they are, or have been in the past.

[quote]These sad sack posts come like clockwork, about one a week.

All posted by the same guy.

Here's another of OP's classics.

R77 What is more disgusting about all these obvious troll posts is the pathetic Marys who respond to them every time. These Marys are truly the worst and all need to run into traffic.

It's called empathy [78]

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[quote]I really feel alone The only family I have in my life are my parents who are in their 80s. I have no friends and don't really know how to make any. Most days I'm ok with my life but lately I feel like I have no one I can turn to.

R79 You cannot empathize with something that doesn't exist. No one on DL exists for real in your life. You have no way of verifying they are for real. I have always been convinced one or two trolls are writing 98% of all the poorly written troll posts on here.

Then click the ignore button R81. Why get so upset?

this.never.happened

R82 Oh Mary you are blocked.

This little Canadian cunt is worse than trump and needs to have a Drano cocktail STAT!

Could you maybe have Chronic Fatigue. The issues you mentioned fall right in line with that disease. Have your doctor test your liver numbers. Good luck

[quote]You probably are full of toxins.

The fact that people so frequently believe and say such antiscientific things like this wounds me.

What "toxins" exactly? From where? Give me examples, oh, and don't give me that sugar is a TOXIN shit!

I bet you are convinced "organic" produce was raised without pesticides! Oh, you're a panic!

OP - if you're life has sucked your whole life, wgat are the chances your life will somehow improve? Be realistic.

*your

OP, you have a choice and your choice is to continue to be mired in the ways of the loser and the spaz.

Your mother indulges you and so you remain in your room, drooling over Robert Repulveda Jnr on Finding Prince Charming.

Ignore the assholes here, OP. There is good advice among the shitstains. I was a "loser" not unlike you at 23. Today I am 45, completely independent for two decades, successful and have a great relationship. Life is hard, especially when starting out with deficits. But it really is like a game; you perform certain tasks and get rewards, like social opportunities, paychecks and increasing independence, and eventually even privilege.

Just work at it. Every day. It is worth it. You can succeed and have the things you want. You are capable and worthy. Believe it, do it, and never give up.

Listen to R91 who is the queen of the shit stains. Posting from his mother's dank basement.

That doesn't work for everyone, R91. Didn't work for me. Just don't fill the depressed with false hope by making them think they can achieve something that might never happen. Happy for you though.

R93, I still battle depression. I am not going to argue with you, but I didn't mean to sound so simplistic at R91. Depression is a longterm struggle, sometimes lifelong. But there is hope for many, and I just don't think OP is a lost cause at 23.

I don't think you are either, but I don't know you and can't judge. I just hope the best for everyone, and I think the negativity and downright nastiness in this thread needs a counter argument. Peace.

R3 You have revealed your schizo self AIKC.

r64 - I think YOU should seriously consider suicide as well as the troll of an OP. You are just absolutely stupid and annoying and I think the world would be a better place without you. Sorry to say this but you sound like a huge loser ...

I'm a well known movie star and I plan to take an overdose of pills in my Carolina Herrera Flared Silk Gown. It will be so glamorous, except they don't tell you the part when they find my body I've pissed an shit myself after I'm dead.

This threat is so obviously a troll but lots of guys can't wait to respond. This thread - or some variation regularly pops up so I guess the guys responding are finding some sort of satisfaction offering well-meaning advice to ... I guess each other.

Anyway - whatever pops your trigger. It's harmless and free and makes the troll happy !!

R97 -- Hello Lupe!

r97 - clean yourself out just like you used to do when you were still getting fucked. I know you have an enema bag hanging on the back of your bathroom door. Just luck moving on. Don't forget to write !!

r94 - you are a joke. a silly person who spends time responding to pretend issues on troll threads (or maybe you're the troll). But at least you're doing something besides laying in bed watching tv, I guess this is progress.

First off FORCE yourself to shower and brush everyday. Seriously. Just fucking do it. If you can't get it together to do that, really, all hope is lost. But you can. Just do enough to make yourself not smell.

Secondly, start slowly. Join a gym and do 30 mins of cardio on something easy like a precor machine. You'll be shocked on what a difference that makes in your outlook. Go three days in a row, and then take a day off. Try and build on it from there. If you can't do that, go for a long walk each day. Bring your smartphone and listen to a podcast while you walk, on a subject that interests you. SET A TIME, like, that no matter what, you're taking a walk at say 2pm. And go. Just force yourself to go.

Then, after a few weeks, get some kind of job. Part time to start. You're 23, you can easily get a job working in a store, stocking, or running the cash register.

I mean, dude, the fact that you posted this here shows that there is a will there to get out of your situation. Just do a few small steps, and things will start to get better and fall in place. Meds can help, but you absolutely cannot rely on them. Let them be a supplement to assist you. You have to do the work, the drugs won't do it for you. Trust me. I'm not saying this will be easy, but taking, small, gradual steps

You're 23. 60 or so more years is a very long time to live in the situation you described. Let your mom and grandma see that you're at least trying. That will make them very happy.

Ok?

I'm baffled at the ratio of empathetic to contemptuous replies here. I thought most would be rebuking the OP for being a troll.

It's quite telling that the OP's story of being an agoraphobe is less perceived as someone trolling than other OPs who talk about sex with the straight friend/plumber/courier/married friend/etc. Most of DL, me excluded, can likely relate more to a presumably fat and agoraphobic virgin parasite with social anxiety than someone who actually gets laid.

Was there an activity or food you really enjoyed as a child? Go do it right now. Take the fucking shower. Brush your fukin teeth and just go. Don't think about it. You will be nervous, but you have to at least try. I want a report back of how it went or this thread is going to go nowhere if you don't push yourself and give us updates and stories about how it went.

R103 DL is over run with these hysterical Marys. You put these fuckers on ignore but they breed like the maggots they are.

Ignore R49. He is under the delusion that the world is exactly as he experiences it in that mostly empty little head of his.

Okay, so I walked for about 15 minutes, but I'm overweight and my face went bright red and people started looking at me. I was embarrassed, so went back home. I do not feel better, I feel pissed off and humiliated that people were staring at me.

R107 People would look at a human piece of shit. They probably all wanted to scoop you into the garbage where shit belongs.

The truth is, you don't want help and you don't want to help yourself. You enjoy being weak and disgusting. That's how you'll die--weak and disgusting...and whining. Your one joy is pissing and moaning about what a loser you are. You're addicted to it.

In effect, you're wasting our time. You don't want help. You want an audience.

If you really wanted to get better, you'd have finished your walk, lifted your head up with pride knowing you were doing something--finally--to help yourself be a human man. Even if people stared--which no one did because no one fucking cares--you could have ignored it or smiled with the knowledge that you're trying to get better.

But, no. You want to be the victim, the pathetic freak who can't even fucking brush his teeth or was his disgusting body. You revel in being a waste of a human life. It's your crack. It's your only skill.

You have the power to be a functioning human, but, you don't want to. Anxiety is surmountable. Depression can be alleviated. But, you don't want to.

Your family secretly loathes you. They'd tell you the same thing were it not for the guilt of familial obligation.

I'm the OP. r107 is not me someone is trying to pretend to be me. Anyway to answer some of your guys' questions I am on trileptal. My psychiatrist says it will help with anxiety and the resistance I have from doing things. He took me off an anti-depressant because I was having a sexual side effect (not being able to cum).

I have low self-esteem which makes it hard for me to leave the house. I have a thinning/bald spot in the front of my hair which is embarrassing for me as a 23 year old. I've received many mean comments online about it which I think has shattered my confidence. Ideally, I would want to go for a walk while listening to music but IDK I just get a strong resistance from doing it.

BTW this is my first thread on this subject. I have not posted about this before. If you need proof I'm real I have an Xtube and can confirm on there that this is me. I am not overweight, actually I'm skinny. IDK why I guess I just have a fast metabolism.

Everything's just so hard for me and it's annoying.

Whats your xtube name? Your life is empty.... if you are hot I can cum fill you up.

You have an xtube? Sexual exhibitionist who is also socially anxious? Skinny and stinky? Hung?

This is my Xtube. I am nervous posting it NGL but if it proves I'm a real person dealing with this shit, I will post it.

r113

Forgot to add I am the OP under posted by lol

I find it interesting that this thread is catnip to bullies. You really see how monstrous a lot of seemingly ordinary people are when they have an opportunity of fucking with someone who, trolling or not, asks for help.

Woah - you have watched that video of Robert Sepulveda 43 times!

You say bully, r115, others say "tough love." Honesty is more effective than coddling. Coddling is enabling.

Well the guy in the xtube looks like a normal young man. Completely dateable, fuckable, loveable young person. So whatever is going on, its not about what you have to offer physically. Kinda big cock too, so there's that!

Nobody is staring at you because you're a freak. Cause you aren't. I guess you know that people are not staring at you at all. If you don't ever circulate, you just aren't used to people looking at you, period.

Get a meds adjustment and find a thing to do that makes you interact in the world. Just be a dog walker or something, anything, that at least gets you out of the house and circulating.

There is no such thing as "tough love." You aren't talking about honesty. You're talking about projecting your own issues on somebody else.

And anyway I thought you blocked me.

Ohhhhh..."projecting." Gosh. I envy your omniscience and understanding of every human's motivation, r119. Anytime anyone shouts "projecting'" it's clear that's what their own mindset is.

This guy posts a problem here, opens himself up to any and all comments. He must know every person will respond differently and he should be prepared for that. Every person, in essence, is invited to offer a response. Stop wringing your hands at the responses that don't mesh with your candy-colored world view. The problem being addressed isn't yours to begin with.

OP, people on here want to fuck you.

Get out the house and down to your nearest gay bar and stop being a helpless spaz.

Wow, OP, your cock is so big it stretches up past your belly button! That is massive. And your videos have been watched over 3000 times so you must know you look okay. Definitely scrawny but some men adore nothing more than a twink with a huge dick.

Are you a top or a bottom?

You've got a big enough dick, OP. Go out and use it to get ahead (pardon the pun) in life. You do look dirty, however. Greasy. Like you stink. So, for fuck's sake wash yourself and then go fuck your way into a better situation.

The fact is every person on the planet projects their own version of reality onto the world. Nothing insulting about it. Why not say you expel CO2. #notaninsult

Love the hashtag. #alwaysasignofintelligence #theheightofmaturity #greatrhetoric

R126 People use them on twitter you stupid fucking genital wart on the ass of humanity.

will you too get a room so we can concentrate on the hung young loser.

R128 Not all of us are like Melania Trump and have the biggest dick on our brain. But sure back to your molestation of the loser.

R107 no one was looking at you when you went for a walk. That's all in your head.

Why the fuck is this thread dead? Where are all the hysterical Marys and delusional mental cases who respond to these troll posts.

R131 are you 100% sure this is a troll post? I responded honestly, with compassion, because I've been not far from where he is right now.

If he is "real" I hope he's about to climb out of that hole. No one should live a life like that.

Here's wishing only the best, OP. You're a handsome young man and you have your whole life ahead of you. I'm with the nice guys on here. Take a shower, brush your teeth and go to a gay bar and talk to people. You have more to offer than you think. All the best, buddy.

Not if "I'm a loser my life is empty" is all OP talks about, R133.

You're right, I couldn't handle a social situation like that. I just wouldn't know what to say and I'd always be second-guessing everything I say, questioning whether or not I said the right thing. I couldn't even get to a gay bar anyway because I don't drive and don't have transportation. If I was functioning I'd definitely go to a gay bar even though I probably wouldn't get anything to drink lol.

All day I just had a gloomy mood like my eyes literally felt "dark" and drained. I'm not into superstition, but I feel like there's a dark entity controlling me. It's just strange.

r123 I don't know what I am yet (top or bottom). Still a virgin. if I had to say something, I'd say vers at the moment.

BTW I am not a troll. I gave you my Xtube you could give me a message on there and I'd confirm if you have an Xtube.

Can you type 'Repulveda is the Prince of Whores' on your x tube to prove who you are, OP?

Can anyone explain to me what "Marys" mean on DL?

My evangelical christian mother used to say to me Everytime you are bad and it rains it means Jesus is crying. Now as a slutty man in his 40s I say Everytime fifty guys cum in my ass on a good weekend Jesus is very happy.

OP, listing reasons why you can't do stuff is really meaningless and unhelpful. There's Uber. There's Lyft. Plenty of ways to get around these days.

If you take steps to try to help yourself (shower, take walks, get a part time job), and allow your grandma to leave the earth eventually knowing you're working toward being better, you will be a hero to me. If you don't it's just sad, and too bad, and it's pointless posting about it.

Ok? Go out and help yourself. The "dark entity" is you, my friend.

Just fucking go out and do SOMETHING so you have something to update us on. The thread is going to die out if you don't actually go out and give us updates on you at least trying. We didn't waste our time trying to encourage you for you to not at least try. You will make us feel better about ourselves if you actually make progress u lil fuk nugget! #blessed

Even if you don't go out and get a job or volunteer, you have the Internet. Learn something that could translate into a skill like taking up another language, create a blog about your social anxiety to improve your writing skills and mention it to employers in the future as proof you can write, learn how to take apart your computer, how to create a website, learn some photoshop or graphic design (some administrative jobs require basic design knowledge).

With the Internet you have zero excuse to not learn something. You don't need to leave the house to learn something that prospective employers will value.

Please, OP. start brushing your teeth twice a day.

Once you have to get your first root canal, you'll understand why.

I'll still fuck you. Clean up first though OK? I'm gonna be real gentle for your first bottoming experience...you are a bottom aren't you ? Oh I dunno but you text like a hungry little dirty-bottomed boy. Still gonna tap it.

What an Especially Sad Tale, OP.

r136

I didn't want to go that extreme, but I put DataLounge on my profile.

r142

I want to do that, it's just hard to get into the habit for me.

r139

I just feel like I can't get a job. I'd be hard on myself for every mistake I make, and I have a hard time approaching people and dealing with problems. This is why I have never worked. I couldn't even complete high school for personal reasons like how can I even get a job? And in school I had huge social problems which are similar to "common" jobs - like I couldn't even approach and talk to classmates. The teacher always had to put me in groups and I was the only person in the classes who couldn't even get into a group on his own. And even in those groups my classmates always had to do most of the work. I dropped out of a ceramics class first day because I couldn't even ask my classmates for tools. I just shut down that day didn't complete anything and came home depressed and sad. I felt like shit. This is why I can't get a job because I know me and I probably wouldn't even be able to handle the first day. I think I've always had a disability that was never checked and I have never really had any help with it.

I finally got around to brushing my teeth today. I saw a little bit of blood when flossing which I haven't seen in a very long time so I'm gonna try to up my toothbrush game.

OP, just go down the usual route: work that big cock to your advantage until you're spat out by the bottom of the gay porn industry.

OP, if you can't leave the house, maybe you should set up a webcam business. Your cock is huge and you look quite twinky. Men will pay to watch you jerk off and play with toys, although you'll need to show your face. Once you've got some money together, go to a gay bar. The tops will make all the moves and won't expect clever conversation.

[quote]Exercise makes me sweat and gives me a headache.

Switch to green tea instead of coffee/black tea. You won't get headaches anymore unless you're sick or if you get them when you're hungover.

Funny how someone can be too shy to get out of his house while posting his own naked videos online is a duck soup for him.

You're gonna live another 60 years, put some effort into finding out what is holding you back, push your limits, and try to get your shit together.

I'm done having pity parties for people who can't get their shit together. Did you think it was easy for me and everyone else here to get their ass out of bed today? Everyone has problems. They deal with it and keep going. People have health issues which are out of their control. Chronic illnesses. Ill family members. Deaths. Money problems. Relationship problems. Get through it and keep going like everyone else. You're sapping everyone else's resources and doing nothing with it. Your a drain, a parasite. You've made you're self a permanent unwanted fixture in two old ladies lives. That's despicable. And you admit to not washing yourself or cleaning your mouth. My eight year old nephew has it better together than you. He gets up, cleans himself, brushes his teeth, and goes to school everyday. You'd better get it together, when the old ladies drop dead, and they will, quite possibly sooner than you like, you're FUCKED. You should be ashamed, you're an overgrown parasite to two old ladies who you keep on edge worrying themselves to a slow unhappy death because of you. Terrible. How can you trap these woman in your misery? Really really shameful.

I find it hard to believe that a friendless, agoraphobic virgin with an aversion to hygeine is also a hot exhibitionist online.

Doesn't add up, hon. Shoulda stuck with the desperate nerd persona, unless your whole plan was to funnel page views to your xtube.

A little more background on my life. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia (actually it was "psychosis" originally) and received treatment for that for years. I was a part of a research program for schizophrenic people. I started to realize I wasn't like the other people in the study. A major symptom of schizophrenia is hearing voices and having hallucinations, but I've never experienced that. That led me to believe I did not have schizophrenia and that I was misdiagnosed. I went through all those years being treated for something I didn't really have. I did want out of that program after months of being in it and seeing no results. The people running that program didn't care though. They forced me to stay in the program even though I was miserable.

Come to find out, my new psychiatrist told me I shouldn't be on the schizophrenic medication (Risperdal) and that I didn't really need. That's great lol. I was on a medication all that time that I didn't even need.

Quite a few people believed I have Aspergers. My mom took me to an autism center who tested me to see if I was on the autism spectrum. After all the testing they concluded that I am not on the autism spectrum, which is surprising for me because my symptoms really align with Aspergers.

I still don't know what I really have which bugs me. Obviously social anxiety but I feel there's something more.

r153

Go figure. I'm a weird person so people think I'm lying but I'm not. I posted my Xtube to prove I'm a real person and not a troll. I find taking nudes in the privacy of my own bedroom fun. I show them off for attention. But when it gets to the social aspect of Xtube, I don't do so well. That's actually the truth throughout the internet for me. It's hard to open up to people and communicate even online. Forums and such are fine for me, just posting and reading comments but going further than that having a personal relationship (friendship) with someone on the internet is hard for me.

R154 Talking to a bunch of hysterical Marys and trolls on DL will bring you nothing but mocking and derision. So just be aware of that.

So, no mental illnesses or handicaps. Well, sweetie, we have labels for people like you.

Wallflower, narcissist, exhibitionist, hypochondriac, user, moocher.

The Japanese also have a phrase that translates loosely as "a parasite loser dog". Might be appropriate here...

I think your mother needs to be cruel to be kind and make you find your own accommodation.

While you're living rent and bill free with free internet, of course you're not going to want to change your situation. You should move into a hostel or somewhere where you'll meet guys your own age.

It's going to be a rude awakening when the two old ladies are dead. Don't count on the government to save you, things can change any day, people are tired of working like slaves and giving their money away to lazy people and giving them health insurance. That's all likely to change soon. Especially without a diagnosis. Years ago if you didn't work you would starve out in the cold. Lazy people have it too easy now, and again that's likely going to change. The time you've wasted playing with yourself on camera you could have been learning skills that would be valuable to someone who would pay you. Instead you're holed up in the home of two old ladies playing with yourself like a loon. Your free ride is gonna be over soon. You should be helping them. When they die you in deep shit. You know that and the two old women know that.

r159 Don't be rude dear. You're probably making him even more depressed.

R159 is typical of the losers who are working but wish they could lie around and do nothing. In my experience, this is also how they do their jobs and most of them are only employed as a humanitarian gesture: nobody takes their work seriously. He wants to be a productive independent member of society. He is not lazy. You need to get a grip on yourself because his psychological problems are not worse than yours.

' When they die you in deep shit. You know that and the two old women know that. '

OP is 23 so his mother isn't old - she's probably in her 40s or 50s if her own mother is still alive. The OP could live there for another 40 years.

OP I'm sorry for your troubles, but the universe is a cold place. There is one person in the world who cares about you right now, and it's your mom. You can choose to be a burden to her, or you can take some of the steps we've recommended here and make a nicer, more productive life for yourself.

I can give advice, and wish you well, but I can't do anything for you. No one can, or will. Though, as some have mentioned, you're young with a nice, uh, asset. That is currency you possess in the gay community. Use it to your advantage.

You still haven't tried to go out and do something and given us an update. I'm over your story, sorry. We have been trying to help you for almost a week and you show no gratitude and effort to say thanks by doing something outside your comfort zone.

R164, he won't go out because he's too worried that he might come across all wrong when talking to people. He really is an irredeemable imbecile. Does he think people are going to want intellectual banter in the fuck bars? He should just whip out his huge cock and take it from there.

Is this stupid person whining again?

Stop doing this. You need a shrink. You need professional help. We are not qualified and we're not here for you.

I am so glad this thread is dead. The hysterical Marys are taking a rest.

bump

OP, have you bumped this yourself?

Did you manage to get to a bar yet or are you still hung up on that PornHub guy who deleted his account after you'd been chatting?

Sorry to hear, OP. Good luck.

OP, ignore the haters here.

Try to take baby steps. Take one course at a community college or trade school. Tell your instructor (or write s note) of your social anxiety, and that this is a major step for you. Ensure it is something that interests you. That will get you out of the house to do something productive. If that goes well, bump it to two courses.

The next step, once you feel you are accomplishing something with the course work is to look for a part time job. Your lack of work history will hurt you, so I suggest two things-work with an organization that helps those difficult to place due to cognitive disabilities, or create a home business that you have worked on the past five years. Something like computer repair or installation, something you have an interest in that's becoming obsolete. This is for down the road.

Another baby step is to help your mother with grocery shopping. It gets you out of the house with someone you trust. Eventually you can do this yourself.

Lose weight, join a gym, get a nice haircut and make friends by learning how to synthesize amphetamines in your garage.

Wait, where does this sit within your insipid saga? Is this pre 'I'm in love with an actor'/ 'I am closeted and heartbroken' or is it post 'I put my big, fat foot in my mouth'? Or is this a standalone moronic thread?

Why has the OP bumped this?

His most latest thread was all about how he got chatting to a guy on X Tube and then the guy deleted his account.

I've always disliked how the OP manipulates and uses the DL like this.

See your shrink, take your meds, stop abusing the Datalounge.

You want fucked up? R175 and R176 are the OP........

No, R177, I am R176 and I am definitely not the OP. Of course as DL's 24/7/365 Psychotic Troll you already knew that.

Honey, we know that you're just a sad, lonely, dumb cunt. You know, "Dumb Cunt" just like it says on your tramp stamp. Your daddy always liked looking at that when he fucked you in the ass and who could blame him? It sure as hell beat looking at your face.

OP, take your broken heart and turn it into art

OP, when did the social anxiety start? Have you been this way your entire life? Or was there an event in your life that triggered the social anxiety? Do you have a therapist that helps you at all?

Wow, I wish I had teeth

[quote]I don't shower or brush my teeth

Op, remember do not listen to cruel people. Also, I would make a doctor's appointment, and ask your doctor for a referral to a GOOD psychiatrist who also does some talk therapy. Then, make an appointment ASAP. Start with this.

OP, maybe you could create your own cartoon character (could be as easy as some kind of video game mashup). Then you draw cartoon strips and make figurines of the main characters. Make some YouTube videos. You could sell the items on eBay or whatever. Think about it!

OP there is nothing wrong with being a virgin, believe it or not not everyone is fucking in the streets. Anxiety is very real, but from someone who has experienced it OVER AND OVER AGAIN I tell myself "this too shall pass, this is just an illusion" it helps me not to dwell. Try doing some research on NAC, I take it and it helps. There are lots of different supplements out there that are great for people with anxiety issues. I have mild borderline personality disorder so I use NAC as well as other supplements. Meds were too much for me, I would lose the ability to articulate myself. I take NAC, and Blue Ice fermented fish oil pills for depression. WIth some supplements you will need a "fat" like fish oil as it needs fat to help them be absorbed into your system fully. I know you don't have a job so maybe you can get some therapy, get your life on track and as you make money do some research into food based/natural enzyme based supplements.

Google NAC or n-acetyl-cysteine

I can't believe there are 185 replies to this concocted tripe.

I've actually gotten worse. I did used to go shopping with my mom but not anymore. And now that my ill grandmother got out of the hospital (she got pneumonia) I feel like I have to stay in all the time. It's given me just an excuse to stay inside. Though I probably wouldn't go out or do anything anyway. Because I'm here all the time my family thinks I can tend to grandma 24/7. I've been doing it but I am a bit annoyed. I get frustrated so easily, but who wouldn't in my situation. I don't think I'll ever get better. I have regressed last year. I used to go for walks but now I don't anymore. I feel like a waste of space and it's disappointing that with years of therapists, psychiatrists, etc. I have gotten no where. There's really no point in living but I'm not suicidal interestingly enough.

r176

I have been doing just that for 5 years and I'm no way better than I was before. I'm out of hope and after seeing many health professionals and shit I have gotten no where.

So now Freak Fuck John found some random xtube account and he thinks we're going to believe it's him?

What do we think?

Thanks for this, OP. We haven't had a sad sack post in a while.

OP, you've been in therapy for five years, you say, but there are a lot of shite shrinks out there. Not all of them know what they're doing or are particularly empathetic. It's scary how many one of my friends had to go through to get a real diagnosis and treatment plan that helped her--and she's way older than you are.

Obviously there is something ailing you: not being able to leave the house, shave, or brush your teeth is not something most people deal with.

Now, you have some good suggestions here. Supplements can be very helpful for depression, just like the NAC poster upthread suggested. (I give my dog NAC for arthritis.) Try googling, "supplements for depression."

If you are having trouble with therapy because of pay, let us know which city/state you're in and someone here can google resources. Also there are a few online, free, anonymous talk therapy chat rooms where you can talk to a therapy student any time of day.

Good luck, and please brush your teeth.

My case might not be as severe as yours. But there are some similarities. I'm older than you are (28 now) and I still live with my parents. Where I am from living with parents at my age is common. Most of my friends from high school, if not married, are still with their parents as well. The thing is I have been an introvert my whole life. I was a good looking kid in high school. But I have gained a lot of weigh since college. It hurts my self-esteem tremendously. OP, you are lucky to have someone who support you. I have none. It's like I've been living by myself my whole life. My mom is a vile person. She insults me all the time. I try to avoid her as much as possible. My dad is just an old man. He's much older than my mom. He's a pussy, letting my mom walking all over him. My mom is a main provider of the family. Her business has been doing quite well. For that reason, she thinks she has the right to dictate everyone in the house. I can't leave the house just yet because I'm doing my Master's. Where I'm from (a developing country) people don't give a shit about mental issues. I went to see psychiatrists but they didn't help. They thought nothing was wrong with me. I have never dated, never hung out with friends, never been to any where. It's like I have never lived my life. And I can't reach out to anyone. I think I'm gonna kill myself one day. But probably not soon. I still want to see the world.

r188

I'm not that John person and that is really me. I posted DataLounge on my profile before but I took it down. I would make a video saying DataLounge but don't want to embarrass myself.

r191

Thanks. I went to many different places and had testing done but nobody can figure me out I guess. I was originally diagnosed with schizophrenia, which people believe was a false diagnosis. I don't hear voices or see things or any of that. My current psychiatrist took me off all the meds I was taking before including Risperidone the med for schizophrenia. I'm currently on Trileptal and he put me on an ADD med Adderrall (sp?). I was on an antidepressant but he took me off that too because of a sexual side effect. People thought I had Aspergers too but I went to an autism testing and they said I didn't have it. So it's all so confusing and a mess.

Oh and I'm currently on my mom's insurance she gets from work so I can get therapists and psychiatrists but I don't think I'll be on it for much longer. The psychiatrist situation is so bad though because there's few in my area and transportation is a huge issue for me and my mom because neither of us drive. I've been to both and one we didn't like and the other is a medical group but communication is so bad. We're at the group with bad communication right now and I ran out of Adderrall but my mom cannot get in contact with anyone there. We were finally able to get an appointment when my therapist was able to get through to somebody but my mom tried calling them again and she couldn't get anyone lol. It's hard out there for the mentally ill and people don't care.

Just so you know I put DataLounge back in my profile so you know it's me

DID you have friends growing up?

Any siblings or cousins?

[quote]Xanax is great for people who feel like you do. Combine it with Adderall in the morning and Ambien at night and your life will suddenly seem so much better.

Hi Liza! How was rehab?

The Op came back at R186.

Hi OP - it sounds like you are a full time carer for your grandma now and you should be praised for that. You might even be entitled to a carer's allowance.

We've chatted before, and I still think you should take a Xanax and hit a gay bar. I keep saying this to you but you never go, despite having a monster cock.

OP is a big fat greasy sponge sucking up other people's resources.

OP has a raw sexual heat

The consensus is: OP is seeing his shrink, taking his meds, has all kinds of personality disorders, he is just wasting time on the DL. Clearly nothing can help him. So yes, he is indeed trolling.

r171 has the best advice. I know because I found myself in a similar downward spiral once. Take it slow. Start by making a routine for yourself everyday, wake up by certain time, like you have a job. Do productive things around the house, start researching your local transit and public assistance programs, because you need them.

Then start taking a class at local college for a semester. After that you can look for part time work on the campus, work study, anything that's quiet and structured and wont exhaust you.

And from your Xtube vids I can see you suffer from OCD where you just shut down if things aren't perfect. Nothing in life goes perfectly for any of us. You have to break your habit of shutting down because you'll never accomplish anything when you are waiting for perfection!

R203 Oh, Mary! Trying to fix an obvious troll.

Blah, fucking blah, OP. Go away; bore some other message board.

Have you taken anybody's advice yet, OP? Well?!

r203

The thing is I can't do it alone. I seriously need guidance but there's no way to get it. There's no helpful tools for someone like me. A person like me can't just jump into college or work. Also I didn't even get my high school diploma and struggled terribly in high school so with my experiences I have a huge fear for something like college and work. The fact that I really haven't changed since high school shows that I can't even take these on. An example of what I struggled with in school is that I couldn't even ask my classmates for tools in ceramics class, shut down and dropped out of the class. The fact I've seen many people experienced in mental health and haven't gotten much help or improved since then is alarming. Psychiatrists don't even care what you're going through they just want to give you pills and be done with it. Therapists only see you for one hour a week and can't do much to help you or guide you.

I will try to do more around the house and for myself though. I forced myself to take a shower yesterday.

Thanks. I appreciate the people like you.

r197

In elementary school I had friends. Middle school and high school not so much. I was the loner quiet type the one who sat in class and didn't talk to anyone, had no friends in the class, etc. I would come home from school and immediately go to my computer and stay there for hours on end. Homework ended up not getting done. I had no guidance or discipline whatsoever because my mom was at work and too tired when she got home to deal. It was like I had no parent after elementary school.

OP, take a GED to finish high school. You can do that online. Try to force yourself to get out of the house every day, if only for a walk.

As someone upthread stated, you need to set routines. Get up at 8. Take a shower. Then work on the GED.

r208

Oh and I sat alone at lunch. A group of popular guys invited me to their table some times as a nice gesture but I never talked to them or had conversations with them. I sat at their table with my head down too lol.

Fuck it but I LOVE reading those threads, it makes me feel like I'm not the only loser.

Thank you OP. It may be weird but at least you're not alone. #losersolidarity

r209

I've tried an online course before to make up credits but didn't do it. Couldn't do it. I felt so guilty and ashamed because my grandma paid a lot of money for that course. I'm also afraid to do anything because my mom or grandma will end up paying for it and there's a large possibility I won't follow through especially with my history with homework. I couldn't even get myself to do homework in high school and middle school so how can I do an online course at home or a college class that requests a shit ton of homework? As I said I need guidance. I am still so immature and childlike. I've told numerous people some therapists about this too and nobody cared to do anything or offer any solution. Maybe there is no solution for someone like me.

r212

This comment brought tears to my eyes because it's obvious no one gets me. When a therapist suggests me to take a course but doesn't tell me how I can get support, guidance, etc. to get through it I know they truly don't get my situation. I can't do it on my own. If I could I would've completed high school with flying colors and moved on with my life.

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Op I'm sorry to say but I think your addicted to pity. Here you are constantly seeking pity, thread after thread, comment after comment. One day your situation will change whether you make the changes or not. One day your garland other will die. So will your mother. And the only two people who probably give a single fuck about you at the moment are them, and you're letting them down and burdening the financially. They will never be able to be at ease knowing you are not able to fit in with society and take care of yourself. They will die stressed out knowing that they're dying and leaving you helpless. Time to step up and be a man and perhaps help them when they need it. Life sucks for everyone, not just you. If you think I wanted to wake up at 5am today to go work with a bunch of mentally unstable people, you're 100% wrong.

God. Garland=Grandmother.

Such a lot of idiots on this thread. The OP is a TROLL, you idiots! His poor poor pitiful me story (never had a job, never had sex, living off relatives, blah, blah, blah) is simply a bid for much needed attention. How can anyone be so stupid as to believe his obvious bullshit? And it's not the first time there's been an thread like this. My God, you dummies will believe anything.

He's also afraid to shave in another thread, R217. Don't leave that out.

When I think "warm, nurturing caregivers," I think Datalounge!

r217

I am not trolling. I even put my face and naked body for you all to see. My situation is 100% real. I wish you could upload vids on here cuz I'd make a vid right now telling you. I don't want to use my Xtube for that.

Just go away, OP/R219. Can you not take a hint?

I may just make a YouTube video telling you. I'm sick of being called a troll

GO. THE. FUCK. AWAY.

Is like to see it, R221.

I have never known a single person that felt feelings of worthlessness from volunteering. it actually creates quite the opposite feeling.

Besides doing what your Dr. tells you, think of one very small thing that you would change if you could and start trying to change it. It may not work but that's okay, it is the trying that is important.

Stop worrying about a fucking YouTube video, OP, and start improving your worthless life! Do it now, stinkbitch!

Here

Your beard looked far better than I anticipated based on that other thread about shaving

Would you appear on Dr Phil if granny made that phone call?

r227

It's definitely been worse. My ID looks nasty because of it and I had nudes and selfies where the hair was just wild lol. But I don't like how it looks.

We had video confirmation that one DLer is real. Now for the two thousand other trolls.

OP you are cute and your living situation doesn't look bad. You have a very friendly face and voice!

^^this

I bet some mdma/dance therapy would do OP wonders

I bet some mdma/dance therapy would do OP wonders...

Hiya I'm hijack Hank. Just popping in to let you know I'm a joe schoe and my life is half full. Ciao!

You're cute, OP.

I agree with r228. Contact Dr Phil. You will get quality therapy.

OP is real, but so what? he's here simply to troll for sympathy and compliments.

Why is R237 so huffy about it?

I agree r238.

STOP BEING HORRIBLE TO THIS POOR LOVELY SPAZ!

I love this guy; he's cute and sweet and sad.

Stop being so fucking mean to him.

OP, you are much cuter than you think you are. Try to form an online relationship with a guy in your area and then meet somewhere local.

not op here but I've been sad all day and I realize it's because I know that no one has ever loved me for me; it's always what I can do for people.

I want to die peacefully in my sleep

or find someone who will love me for me.

That's sad, R241.

Shame there isn't private messaging on here as you and the OP could chat.

R240, do you want to fornicate with OP?

"I love this guy; he's cute and sweet and sad."

Then why don't you marry him? The two of you sound made for each other.

Let's not pretend his family is innocent too. They are enablers. I've read a few of his posts and if his story holds truth it's obvious. Why would they buy him a computer at a young age and not monitor him?

I hope for the best for you OP. Good luck.

He is way too young for me but I do wish the best for him and want to try and persuade him to leave his house and stop being such a shy spaz.

OP, please ignore some of the really mean posts here. i know *exactly* what you're going through...and I'm twice your age.

I lost my job 6 months ago, last steady relationship was 3 years ago and although ive had plenty of hookups, right now i'm just at a place where it's tough to even get up off the couch, much less take my dog for a walk or shower. i'll freely admit that last week i showered exactly twice, and that was a lot of effort and energy. it just feels like there is really no reason for me to be here.

On top of it, i just made contact with my biological dad who i haven't talked to in over 20 years. He has terminal cancer and is not expected to last another month. I can't visit him because he's in NY, i'm in California and neither of us have any money. I understand how it feels to just feel useless, directionless.

I'm not trying to hijack the thread or get sympathy/pity, i really just wanted to reach out to you and tell you you are young and have a whole world of opportunities open to you. [html removed] good luck.

R247 is a super troll.

R247 is the OP. Once again replying to it's own moronic and insipid threads.

No, i'm R247 and i'm trying to relate to the OP because i feel just as fucking hopeless as he seems to feel.

And yeah, i'm a woman who has posted here for a year. without a stupid frau comment. and i post here often. i'm just trying to support another human being. try being a nice person to someone else who seems to be in pain once in awhile.

fuck, is it *that* hard to be a human being?

R250 Your syntax betrays you every time.

You are the stupidest person on the internet today, 251. My syntax and OP have absolutely nothing in common, but you clearly have no powers of deduction along that point.

but don't stop believing lol. i am a 48 year old woman. He is 20-something. i do wish we had PM so i didn't have deal with the negative bullshit of people like you. enjoy being an asshole somewhere else...or here. i will no longer answer you...he hasn't even responded since i posted my original message tonight, but i hope he doesn't because your negativity is not even worth it.

R252 Me thinks the 'lady' doth protest too much.

Stinkbitch OP, what steps have you taken to improve your life based on the advice given in this thread?

R254 Nothing of course. Like most gay men and DLers he probably spends the day rubbing his cock raw. Compulsive masturbation is the only thing mentally ill people have to get their fix of dopamine/oxytocin.

NO one will notice that R247 is dead until the smell.

And even less people will care

oh jesus, just off yourself already. That's what you wanted to hear, right? You sound like you have literally zero redeeming qualities and zero chance of ever contributing meaningfully to society.

Waste of a nice dick, though. You could be bringing a lot of happiness to a lot of people with that thing, but nooooo, you sit at home all day in a miasma of your own odor and despair.

Gurl, bye!

Why doesn't he just do porn? Seems like that might be a positive experience for him. He would meet other gay men, get to show off, might break him out of his shell, possibly make friends...

Though I don't think he has a porn "image". If someone gives him a makeover maybe.

r258

Also MAKE MONEY. OP you really need to find a way to make money of your own. That will help you more than anything I think. It will give you independence and freedom.

R252 and OP, ignore the negative posts.

OP You're a loser and a mess, but you have a big hot cock. That may be your money maker. You already enjoy showing it off. What do you think about escorting or porn?

R247, don't give up. Just one day at a time, one hour at a time. Your dog needs you.

Only an idiot troll would come to Datalounge and post a sob story like the OP's. No thinking person would go to a gay gossip site to tell the tale of their sad, sad, life. To what purpose? To get "advice?" Advice from a gay gossip site? To "release?" Why doesn't he "release" to a psychiatrist where it might do some good? No, it's a troll alright. I can't believe anybody would take this shit seriously.

R263 is enraged

Why so mad, R263?

Sad, anxious people love the anonymity of Datalounge.

Listen to some LOUISE HAY tapes when you have a chance. Also, check out Homecoming by JOHN BRADSHAW.

hopefully op got da message

Louise Hay. NO, just no no no.

See a medical doctor or an MD shrink. The end.

I think I've decided what this kid needs a farther figure. He needs a dad to come over and do things with. Go places. Learn to be a man. He also need to be taugh how to take care of himself. He needs a no nonsense brutal dad who knows that sometimes the only think to work will be a good old ass spanking.

[quote] I'm a loser my life is empty

Dang by the headline I thought Donald Trump was posting here.

"Sad, anxious people love the anonymity of Datalounge."

"Sad, anxious people" should see a psychiatrist or counselor (surely there' s "anonymity" in that; no one else needs to know about it) instead of going to a gossip forum noted for its bitchiness. Going to Datalouge if you're lonely, anxious, suicidal, etc. seems the height of stupidity. It's also a good way for a troll to get the attention he craves. There are always people on Datalounge who believe a detailed sob story.

Set up a chaturbate account and make some money from home OP. You already post on xtube.

That's a good idea R272.

The OP is too shy to do anything except masturbate on a public porn site. He might as well get paid for it.

Damn OP, I'd jump,if I were you.

OP are you a big gurl?

r275

He's not.

He's really skinny despite the fact that he never leaves his house. The only big thing about him is his dick.

How are you, OP?

Any luck with getting to that gay bar yet hon?

R278 LOL. With his anxiety disorder that will never happen.

I went to a gay bar and they shunned me

Russell Brand has the answer to all your problems, OP:

I'm a loser baby, so why don't you kill me

You know what a real loser would do? Resurrect a thread that’s been dead for almost two years;) I’m on the same boat except (R273) I don’t even do that, other than in dreams, and involuntary a couple of times in the shower and I’m 37. But I do shower. In fact if it wasn’t for your age and the fact that I’d NEVER admit to not showering, (not gonna happen but even if there were the tiniest chance I’d have of getting sympathy sex the no shower admitting would likely blow any chances I might have had) I’d have thought I wrote this. But again with the AGE thing you already have that to your advantage since certain gays are notorious for ageism. Even (rich) guys into their 40s will take a young stallion over someone their own age. Didn’t Bryan Singer win an Oscar today?. He’s known for Leo DiCaprioing his boys around town up until they hit voting age. Well again since you’re young and dating apps are the way of life I’d be in shock to know you hadn’t lost the big vCard. At 23 I had put on 75lbs in just a year especially after taking Remeron. Ballooning that drastically in the period of a year not only makes you the butt of the jokes, people thing you’re going through a serious crises which is completely forgivable as long as you don’t get fat. You can do it with drugs, alcohol, almost anything can be overlooked in the gay community as long as it doesn’t affect you appearance especially weight gain wise. Anyway pulling for you. Good luck.

Did the OP come back with an update or was this topic bumped for no reason?

Who is the OP? Mr. Richard Fader of Fort Lee New Jersey? You sound like a real treat.

You could get out of the house, go volunteer. Seriously, you'll be shocked at how just getting out makes a huge difference. The thing is, I know you won't do this. Prove me wrong OP. Honestly, my fondest hope for you is to get out of the muck and mire you've allowed yourself to slide in.

Has DL fav, Jake Orion weighed in on this issue?

You're a NEET, OP. (not in education, employment or training). There's a subreddit for it that I linked below in case you don't know about it already.

You're far, far from being the only one stuck in your situation. Or at least thinking you're stuck. You can get out of it. Good luck buddy

Oh for God's sake people, this is a TROLL, for fuck's sake.He's never had a job and has no income? So he's been taken care of by his Mommy his whole life? And he's "skinky?" And he's coming to Datalounge to "release, you know?" It's a TROLL. And a particularly transparent and stupid one, at that.

OP, have you considered a fistful of sleeping pills and a tumbler of vodka? Stop taking up resources.

My cousin is 40 and does nothing all day - he doesn't hold a job, and lives at home. He tweets, watches TV, goes to movies, dines out sometimes. He's not unhappy though, as far as I know. I do think he is undiagnosed Aspergers or somewhere on the "spectrum". Maybe not though. What do I know. If he ever gets a girlfriend that's the moment I know I'm really behind in my own life.

R288 is On The Case.

R288 Knows.

What would we do without R288?

I know someone else who is a loser...

Well it’s been over 2 years. Maybe he found a good therapist and the medication is getting him back on track or just on track. You don’t know what he was going through. 2 years ago you can only type what? Maybe 2 or 3 sentences on Twitter. Even back than Facebook was starting to phase out especially their groups. People come here to vent. Venting doesn’t necessarily mean to tear celebrities or well known figures you can’t stand apart. You looked at the title of this thread and chose to click on it. What did you expect to read? You clearly saw by the title alone what this kid was going to write about. In fact what was the point of even coming here if you knew it was going to piss you off? Did you see he was going through some bad times and came here because his self loathing is making you feel good about yourself? If you’re clearly BETTER THAN HIM what’s the point of kicking someone when he WAS at their lowest point. Feel better? Gonna get a better nights sleep? If you believe his kids a troll why stoop to his level? Why come here at all? Are you some kind of troll vigilante? I think there’s a Chris Burrous thread where all the wittiest, cattiest queens are going to get all their rocks off and crucify the guy. Did you go there to make jokes that nobody thought were funny so you came here to get your claws into an easy target even though it’s been 2 years?

I forgot about this loser. He had such a nice dick. May she Rest in Peace.

Did you guys bully him into killing himself? Oh you guys! Such mischief! Behave yourselves.

Your mother is an enabler. She should throw you in the deep end. Sink or swim, bud.

At least you didn’t fall off a stage with millions watching....

OP, re your walk. I highly doubt people were looking at you. Most people just aren’t that interested. I think it’s your own insecurities.

Finish high school. You may be able to do so online. Once you do that, get a job. Something like a warehouse, where you don’t have to interact with the public at large.

I hope you can overcome yourself. You are a worthy person who deserves happiness.

I hope this dude is ok. The world loves a loser.

" I do think he is undiagnosed Aspergers or somewhere on the "spectrum". Maybe not though."

Doesn't sound like he's anywhere "on the spectrum" to me. Sounds like he's just lazy and unmotivated. There are LOTS of people out there like that, and it doesn't have anything to do with autism.

He has such a nice dick too.

R299 I hope he's okay, too. He sounds sweet and self-aware. He'd be happy with any affection and gifts you gave him. All you'd have to do is scrub him down and he'll let you take control. Sounds like heaven.

If he was self-aware he would not be in his atrophied/anti social state. So big no on that one.