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My bottom FB is a racist. Is that a deal breaker?

I've been seeing this guy who comes in from out of town since January, and last month he asked if I could arrange a couple of other tops to come over one weekend. I thought it might be hot. he is young, early 20s, new and very eager cocksucker and bottom. I have been forwarding the pics of the applicant tops to him and he just wrote back that he is "...not into black, hispanic or generally dark guys. Can we keep it white?"

Should I: A. Oblige, B. write it off to dumb gaiiling misstep but discontinue the groups C. confront him D. Unilaterally punch and delete without explaining.

This isn't going to last forever anyway. I'm 60 he is 25. But it sure is fun for now.

by Anonymousreply 5408/01/2020

you are 60 and he is 25??

Sorry OP ,he is creepy but you are even bigger creep than him

by Anonymousreply 110/02/2015


by Anonymousreply 210/02/2015

Daddy Chickenhawk you are lying down with a racist. He's probably never fucked/sucked a man of color because he's a sizeaphobe. I hope that a man of color in your chickenhawk sharing program gives him a good fucking. One where he can't bottom for years.

by Anonymousreply 310/02/2015

Sorry, but you don't really consciously control who you're attracted to.

He has a sexual preference here. Respect it. Or bail. Your choice.

by Anonymousreply 410/02/2015

OP, are you paying him? In that case, it's probably racism rather than simply not personally being into it.

by Anonymousreply 510/02/2015

The younger we are, those attitudes don't exist in the most of the gay men I know. I think it's sad. I don't like being around those attitudes.

by Anonymousreply 610/02/2015

I enjoyed that one. The last line really sets it apart from the others.

by Anonymousreply 710/02/2015

PUNCH and delete.

by Anonymousreply 810/02/2015

[quote]Sorry, but you don't really consciously control who you're attracted to.He has a sexual preference here. Respect it. Or bail. Your choice.

Actually a peer-reviewed scientific study concluded that it was just racism, not just a sexual preference.

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by Anonymousreply 910/02/2015

R9, "Oh boo hoo! White guys don't like black guys like me and I'm mad about it so you're racist even though I'm black and not into black guys myself either! You white guys have to start liking black guys or you're racist!"

by Anonymousreply 1010/02/2015

Fun comment R10. Too bad it had nothing to do with the study presented. In which they showed the guys who weren't into other races actually tended to be racist.

But I guess when you can't argue with data you'll just try to do...whatever it is you think you are accomplishing.

by Anonymousreply 1110/02/2015

Yes OP that is a deal breaker.

In my opinion a racist is just a half step above a pedophile.

by Anonymousreply 1210/02/2015

Hey OP How many other eager cock sucking 25 year old bottoms do you have lined up to replace him? If no one is in the wings--- let it slide for awhile. I think most people are racist and simply learn to hide it as they grow older and mature. This also sounds like a small town boy who hasn't been exposed to the wider world. Or just add a versitile person of color and simply tell him to deal with it

by Anonymousreply 1310/02/2015

Couldn't his preference just be about size/comfort rather than the race itself?

by Anonymousreply 1410/02/2015

Why do gay men keep putting down anything and everything as racist? The guy's probably just not be sexually attracted to black men? If the man only liked to do blonds, does this automatically mean he hates anyone with dark hair?

And why do so gay men worry about racism anyway. In case you haven't noticed, most black people are homophobes and don't care a shit for your defense of them.

by Anonymousreply 1510/02/2015

r15 maybe for the good of our souls... if we have souls that is.

by Anonymousreply 1610/02/2015

The FB doesn't like anyone non-white. OP said black, Hispanic or darker skin. Why is the conversation here only about one race?

by Anonymousreply 1710/02/2015

At 60, beggars can't be choosers.

by Anonymousreply 1810/02/2015

He's 25 and you're 60?! (A) my envy knows no bounds; (B) unless he's whipping slaves in front of you, WTF...

by Anonymousreply 1910/02/2015

Maybe not a racist but he f'd up by miswording his type of guy he's attracted to

by Anonymousreply 2010/02/2015

R9 - Don't over state the results of the study. The researchers themselves are quoted as saying the results are a good beginning and more study is necessary. Keep in mind one of the observations from the study is that the pool of subjects were more likely to be score as racist than the general population. Men using online hook-up sites are more likely to be racist.

by Anonymousreply 2110/02/2015

Unimportant OP. What does he think of Jews?

by Anonymousreply 2210/02/2015

This line of shit is so fucking ridiculous! "If you're not sexually attracted to black/ hispanic/ asian/ middle eastern/ insert-X-race-here, you're a racist!!!!!!"

No, it's simply a sexual preference.

I have NO problem with people from X race, I just don't want to have sex with them. How is that fucking racism???

by Anonymousreply 2310/02/2015

I don't have a problem with people having their "preferences," but people who aren't attracted to members of their own race are bizarre and deserve to be ridiculed, scorned and ostracized.

by Anonymousreply 2410/02/2015

You give him what he wants or say goodbye.

by Anonymousreply 2510/02/2015

This post is total flame bait, but I'll play along like it's not a troll. Not wanting to be fucked by a black guy ain't necessarily racism- though i guess it can be. I know plenty of black, Asian and Latin guys who ONLY date white guys, so how's that work? As for me, I like hairy chests and it's the visual of the contrast between hair and skin that turns me on. that means that 90% of guys I'm into are white. But there is overlap- down with light skinned hairy black men, biracial men, middle eastern men, hairy Latins,Etc. I've yet to meet a hairy Asian, and hairless twinks of any skin color ain't my thing- so move along, aryan hitler youth, i don't want to fuck you either. A dark Chocolate hairy guy doesn't get me hard either.

I'm white, obviously. My 3 best friends are an Equadorian gay guy, a Chinese gay guy raised in the UK (whose thing is using his accent to charm white guys who aren't into Asians into sleeping with him. It's how we met) and an African-American straight woman.

So am I racist? I've slept with men of every color enough to know what turns me on. It's hairy chests. And hairy legs and hairy butts. So for sure I'm a hair-ist, but i don't see how in the hell I can be a racist.

by Anonymousreply 2610/02/2015

[quote]I know plenty of black, Asian and Latin guys who ONLY date white guys, so how's that work?

They should be hanged.

by Anonymousreply 2710/02/2015

R23 - a link was provided which will take you the study. Go ahead read it - and then come back and dispute the results. Your statement is as worthless as those who insist it is racist.

by Anonymousreply 2810/02/2015

I like the Black concha

by Anonymousreply 2910/02/2015

Why don't you ask him why, and get an answer from him? Also, you're too old for him, and it's creepy.

by Anonymousreply 3010/03/2015

Racism or not, he's already asking for other tops, which inevitably means he has grown tired of your dick and you're on your way out anyway, as far as he's concerned.

Why don't you beat him to the punch? ... and delete!

by Anonymousreply 3110/03/2015

OP's bottom fuckbud.

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by Anonymousreply 3210/03/2015

Good work OP. You managed to include so many DL triggers in your flamebait post!

My fave was the "I'm 60 and he's 25"...

by Anonymousreply 3310/03/2015

I love all the bitter angry overweight queens who are jealous of my fb and judgmental about age. I pu that there just to get at you, because I knew it would get a rise, since I got to the gym almost daily, have since i was in my 20s... and the deal abouta FB is he is here because he WANTS to be. He likes what he has. Now yell at mom to get you some more doritos and slip into a new caftan bitches... and you fraufush who cant understand male relationships, kiss my hot white ass.

by Anonymousreply 3410/03/2015

Oh damn. You ruined it with that post @ R34 OP.

You were doing so well too!

by Anonymousreply 3510/03/2015

[quote] since I got to the gym almost daily, have since i was in my 20s..

When you were 25, it was 1980. There were very few commercial gyms around in 1980.

by Anonymousreply 3610/03/2015

We had plenty of gyms in the 80's, R36. There may not have been as many commercial chain gyms but if you wanted find a gym you could find several in any average city.

by Anonymousreply 3710/03/2015

You're fucking someone young enough to be your grandson, yet your only concern is that he's a racist? My dear, you deserve each other.

by Anonymousreply 3810/03/2015

R35= embarrassed fraufish with TIRED sad transparent impotent reverse passive aggressive meme. *crickets*

by Anonymousreply 3910/03/2015

Tell him this type of thing requires the bottom to wear an eye mask. And your in charge of who will be fucking him, if it's you doing all the arranging. If the prissy bitch doesn't agree, punch and delete.

by Anonymousreply 4010/03/2015

Your physical fitness has nothing to do with your age. You're still in your 60s, and should (hopefully) have little in common with a 20-year-old. You have a very shallow view of life. A 20-year-old will not be looking for sex with a 60 y/o, unless he's a loser in his own age group or is looking for a sugar daddy.

by Anonymousreply 4110/03/2015

I call BS, its not racist. Sexual attraction is not a conscious decision. It's actually been proven that most people feel safer within their own group then going out sided of it. Why do you think so many countries dont like foreigners? You identify better with people who are the most similar to you, its just a fact not an opinion. If most of his peers are white, that is all he is going to feel comfortable with. Like others have said just because you like blue eyes, doesn't mean you hate other colors of the rainbow. Would you call someone racist because they dont like Chinese food or Mexican food or just love Italian? Stop being the PC cop in the bedroom, its a real bone killer.

by Anonymousreply 4210/03/2015

Gay guys don't want to have sex with women. Does that make them "genderist"?

Whilst not being sexually attracted to a different race CAN be due to racism, there could be more "innocent" dynamics at play. (Such as fear, inexperience.)

by Anonymousreply 4310/04/2015

R43, I'd like to introduce your second paragraph to your first paragraph.

As has been said already, people can't control whom or what they're attracted to. Not even pedophiles, serial killers, or arsonists!

by Anonymousreply 4410/04/2015

R42 -Are you really trying to use people who don't like foreigners as a justification for why something isn't racist?

by Anonymousreply 4510/07/2015

You don’t sound like much of a top getting all emotional and philosophical and indecisive over this, OP. I think your story is BS and you’re really a bottom.

by Anonymousreply 4607/31/2020

The 'gays are racist' line is another trope similar to 'people who don't want to have sex with trans are transphobes'. I think this is propaganda made to look sexual minorities look bad, and to divide them. I don't think these messages are coming from the inside, so to speak. Straight people aren't being vilified in the same manner because there would be too much pushback.

We need to find a way to counter these false arguments and to block, FF and otherwise marginalize people who keep bringing this stuff up for no reason other than to create drama. For instance, OP is concern trolling and has no concern what anybody on the Datalounge thinks. If he really did have 25-year-old ass, he'd be too busy.

by Anonymousreply 4707/31/2020

It's not the definition of racist to be limited in one's sexual tastes. Just as not enjoying women sexually doesn't necessarily make all gay men anti-women, or woman-haters. This faulty logic is madness.

One can then extrapolate if you don't lay with trans, your anti-trans, and so forth.

I don't find blonds attractive... does that mean something? I also don't dig smooth hairless blokes.

by Anonymousreply 4807/31/2020

You're 60 and can't figure this out?

by Anonymousreply 4907/31/2020

And if he says no women with a strap on, would he be misogynistic?

by Anonymousreply 5007/31/2020

R46 loves the pre-trump threads from 2015

by Anonymousreply 5107/31/2020

He likes what he likes, and you OP like creating fictional thread. Fuck off.

by Anonymousreply 5207/31/2020

Are you fucking or running a NAACP chapter?

by Anonymousreply 5307/31/2020

Oh R51, we all like anything and everything pre-Trump. Life was so much better when Trump was just a failed Manhattan real estate mob boss, a bankrupt casino owner (well, in name only since it was never his money in the first place), and a failed father, husband and now we even know he was a failure at being an uncle. I mean, seriously, how hard is uncle-ing?

by Anonymousreply 5408/01/2020
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