My bottom FB is a racist. Is that a deal breaker?
I've been seeing this guy who comes in from out of town since January, and last month he asked if I could arrange a couple of other tops to come over one weekend. I thought it might be hot. he is young, early 20s, new and very eager cocksucker and bottom. I have been forwarding the pics of the applicant tops to him and he just wrote back that he is "...not into black, hispanic or generally dark guys. Can we keep it white?"
Should I: A. Oblige, B. write it off to dumb gaiiling misstep but discontinue the groups C. confront him D. Unilaterally punch and delete without explaining.
This isn't going to last forever anyway. I'm 60 he is 25. But it sure is fun for now.
|by Anonymous||reply 54||08/01/2020|
you are 60 and he is 25??
Sorry OP ,he is creepy but you are even bigger creep than him
|by Anonymous||reply 1||10/02/2015|
Daddy Chickenhawk you are lying down with a racist. He's probably never fucked/sucked a man of color because he's a sizeaphobe. I hope that a man of color in your chickenhawk sharing program gives him a good fucking. One where he can't bottom for years.
|by Anonymous||reply 3||10/02/2015|
Sorry, but you don't really consciously control who you're attracted to.
He has a sexual preference here. Respect it. Or bail. Your choice.
|by Anonymous||reply 4||10/02/2015|
OP, are you paying him? In that case, it's probably racism rather than simply not personally being into it.
|by Anonymous||reply 5||10/02/2015|
The younger we are, those attitudes don't exist in the most of the gay men I know. I think it's sad. I don't like being around those attitudes.
|by Anonymous||reply 6||10/02/2015|
I enjoyed that one. The last line really sets it apart from the others.
|by Anonymous||reply 7||10/02/2015|
[quote]Sorry, but you don't really consciously control who you're attracted to.He has a sexual preference here. Respect it. Or bail. Your choice.
Actually a peer-reviewed scientific study concluded that it was just racism, not just a sexual preference.
|by Anonymous||reply 9||10/02/2015|
R9, "Oh boo hoo! White guys don't like black guys like me and I'm mad about it so you're racist even though I'm black and not into black guys myself either! You white guys have to start liking black guys or you're racist!"
|by Anonymous||reply 10||10/02/2015|
Fun comment R10. Too bad it had nothing to do with the study presented. In which they showed the guys who weren't into other races actually tended to be racist.
But I guess when you can't argue with data you'll just try to do...whatever it is you think you are accomplishing.
|by Anonymous||reply 11||10/02/2015|
Yes OP that is a deal breaker.
In my opinion a racist is just a half step above a pedophile.
|by Anonymous||reply 12||10/02/2015|
Hey OP How many other eager cock sucking 25 year old bottoms do you have lined up to replace him? If no one is in the wings--- let it slide for awhile. I think most people are racist and simply learn to hide it as they grow older and mature. This also sounds like a small town boy who hasn't been exposed to the wider world. Or just add a versitile person of color and simply tell him to deal with it
|by Anonymous||reply 13||10/02/2015|
Couldn't his preference just be about size/comfort rather than the race itself?
|by Anonymous||reply 14||10/02/2015|
Why do gay men keep putting down anything and everything as racist? The guy's probably just not be sexually attracted to black men? If the man only liked to do blonds, does this automatically mean he hates anyone with dark hair?
And why do so gay men worry about racism anyway. In case you haven't noticed, most black people are homophobes and don't care a shit for your defense of them.
|by Anonymous||reply 15||10/02/2015|
r15 maybe for the good of our souls... if we have souls that is.
|by Anonymous||reply 16||10/02/2015|
The FB doesn't like anyone non-white. OP said black, Hispanic or darker skin. Why is the conversation here only about one race?
|by Anonymous||reply 17||10/02/2015|
At 60, beggars can't be choosers.
|by Anonymous||reply 18||10/02/2015|
He's 25 and you're 60?! (A) my envy knows no bounds; (B) unless he's whipping slaves in front of you, WTF...
|by Anonymous||reply 19||10/02/2015|
Maybe not a racist but he f'd up by miswording his type of guy he's attracted to
|by Anonymous||reply 20||10/02/2015|
R9 - Don't over state the results of the study. The researchers themselves are quoted as saying the results are a good beginning and more study is necessary. Keep in mind one of the observations from the study is that the pool of subjects were more likely to be score as racist than the general population. Men using online hook-up sites are more likely to be racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 21||10/02/2015|
Unimportant OP. What does he think of Jews?
|by Anonymous||reply 22||10/02/2015|
This line of shit is so fucking ridiculous! "If you're not sexually attracted to black/ hispanic/ asian/ middle eastern/ insert-X-race-here, you're a racist!!!!!!"
No, it's simply a sexual preference.
I have NO problem with people from X race, I just don't want to have sex with them. How is that fucking racism???
|by Anonymous||reply 23||10/02/2015|
I don't have a problem with people having their "preferences," but people who aren't attracted to members of their own race are bizarre and deserve to be ridiculed, scorned and ostracized.
|by Anonymous||reply 24||10/02/2015|
You give him what he wants or say goodbye.
|by Anonymous||reply 25||10/02/2015|
This post is total flame bait, but I'll play along like it's not a troll. Not wanting to be fucked by a black guy ain't necessarily racism- though i guess it can be. I know plenty of black, Asian and Latin guys who ONLY date white guys, so how's that work? As for me, I like hairy chests and it's the visual of the contrast between hair and skin that turns me on. that means that 90% of guys I'm into are white. But there is overlap- down with light skinned hairy black men, biracial men, middle eastern men, hairy Latins,Etc. I've yet to meet a hairy Asian, and hairless twinks of any skin color ain't my thing- so move along, aryan hitler youth, i don't want to fuck you either. A dark Chocolate hairy guy doesn't get me hard either.
I'm white, obviously. My 3 best friends are an Equadorian gay guy, a Chinese gay guy raised in the UK (whose thing is using his accent to charm white guys who aren't into Asians into sleeping with him. It's how we met) and an African-American straight woman.
So am I racist? I've slept with men of every color enough to know what turns me on. It's hairy chests. And hairy legs and hairy butts. So for sure I'm a hair-ist, but i don't see how in the hell I can be a racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 26||10/02/2015|
[quote]I know plenty of black, Asian and Latin guys who ONLY date white guys, so how's that work?
They should be hanged.
|by Anonymous||reply 27||10/02/2015|
R23 - a link was provided which will take you the study. Go ahead read it - and then come back and dispute the results. Your statement is as worthless as those who insist it is racist.
|by Anonymous||reply 28||10/02/2015|
Why don't you ask him why, and get an answer from him? Also, you're too old for him, and it's creepy.
|by Anonymous||reply 30||10/03/2015|
Racism or not, he's already asking for other tops, which inevitably means he has grown tired of your dick and you're on your way out anyway, as far as he's concerned.
Why don't you beat him to the punch? ... and delete!
|by Anonymous||reply 31||10/03/2015|
Good work OP. You managed to include so many DL triggers in your flamebait post!
My fave was the "I'm 60 and he's 25"...
|by Anonymous||reply 33||10/03/2015|
I love all the bitter angry overweight queens who are jealous of my fb and judgmental about age. I pu that there just to get at you, because I knew it would get a rise, since I got to the gym almost daily, have since i was in my 20s... and the deal abouta FB is he is here because he WANTS to be. He likes what he has. Now yell at mom to get you some more doritos and slip into a new caftan bitches... and you fraufush who cant understand male relationships, kiss my hot white ass.
|by Anonymous||reply 34||10/03/2015|
Oh damn. You ruined it with that post @ R34 OP.
You were doing so well too!
|by Anonymous||reply 35||10/03/2015|
[quote] since I got to the gym almost daily, have since i was in my 20s..
When you were 25, it was 1980. There were very few commercial gyms around in 1980.
|by Anonymous||reply 36||10/03/2015|
We had plenty of gyms in the 80's, R36. There may not have been as many commercial chain gyms but if you wanted find a gym you could find several in any average city.
|by Anonymous||reply 37||10/03/2015|
You're fucking someone young enough to be your grandson, yet your only concern is that he's a racist? My dear, you deserve each other.
|by Anonymous||reply 38||10/03/2015|
R35= embarrassed fraufish with TIRED sad transparent impotent reverse passive aggressive meme. *crickets*
|by Anonymous||reply 39||10/03/2015|
Tell him this type of thing requires the bottom to wear an eye mask. And your in charge of who will be fucking him, if it's you doing all the arranging. If the prissy bitch doesn't agree, punch and delete.
|by Anonymous||reply 40||10/03/2015|
Your physical fitness has nothing to do with your age. You're still in your 60s, and should (hopefully) have little in common with a 20-year-old. You have a very shallow view of life. A 20-year-old will not be looking for sex with a 60 y/o, unless he's a loser in his own age group or is looking for a sugar daddy.
|by Anonymous||reply 41||10/03/2015|
I call BS, its not racist. Sexual attraction is not a conscious decision. It's actually been proven that most people feel safer within their own group then going out sided of it. Why do you think so many countries dont like foreigners? You identify better with people who are the most similar to you, its just a fact not an opinion. If most of his peers are white, that is all he is going to feel comfortable with. Like others have said just because you like blue eyes, doesn't mean you hate other colors of the rainbow. Would you call someone racist because they dont like Chinese food or Mexican food or just love Italian? Stop being the PC cop in the bedroom, its a real bone killer.
|by Anonymous||reply 42||10/03/2015|
Gay guys don't want to have sex with women. Does that make them "genderist"?
Whilst not being sexually attracted to a different race CAN be due to racism, there could be more "innocent" dynamics at play. (Such as fear, inexperience.)
|by Anonymous||reply 43||10/04/2015|
R43, I'd like to introduce your second paragraph to your first paragraph.
As has been said already, people can't control whom or what they're attracted to. Not even pedophiles, serial killers, or arsonists!
|by Anonymous||reply 44||10/04/2015|
R42 -Are you really trying to use people who don't like foreigners as a justification for why something isn't racist?
|by Anonymous||reply 45||10/07/2015|
You don’t sound like much of a top getting all emotional and philosophical and indecisive over this, OP. I think your story is BS and you’re really a bottom.
|by Anonymous||reply 46||07/31/2020|
The 'gays are racist' line is another trope similar to 'people who don't want to have sex with trans are transphobes'. I think this is propaganda made to look sexual minorities look bad, and to divide them. I don't think these messages are coming from the inside, so to speak. Straight people aren't being vilified in the same manner because there would be too much pushback.
We need to find a way to counter these false arguments and to block, FF and otherwise marginalize people who keep bringing this stuff up for no reason other than to create drama. For instance, OP is concern trolling and has no concern what anybody on the Datalounge thinks. If he really did have 25-year-old ass, he'd be too busy.
|by Anonymous||reply 47||07/31/2020|
It's not the definition of racist to be limited in one's sexual tastes. Just as not enjoying women sexually doesn't necessarily make all gay men anti-women, or woman-haters. This faulty logic is madness.
One can then extrapolate if you don't lay with trans, your anti-trans, and so forth.
I don't find blonds attractive... does that mean something? I also don't dig smooth hairless blokes.
|by Anonymous||reply 48||07/31/2020|
You're 60 and can't figure this out?
|by Anonymous||reply 49||07/31/2020|
And if he says no women with a strap on, would he be misogynistic?
|by Anonymous||reply 50||07/31/2020|
R46 loves the pre-trump threads from 2015
|by Anonymous||reply 51||07/31/2020|
He likes what he likes, and you OP like creating fictional thread. Fuck off.
|by Anonymous||reply 52||07/31/2020|
Are you fucking or running a NAACP chapter?
|by Anonymous||reply 53||07/31/2020|
Oh R51, we all like anything and everything pre-Trump. Life was so much better when Trump was just a failed Manhattan real estate mob boss, a bankrupt casino owner (well, in name only since it was never his money in the first place), and a failed father, husband and now we even know he was a failure at being an uncle. I mean, seriously, how hard is uncle-ing?
|by Anonymous||reply 54||08/01/2020|