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Let's talk about Personal Trainers: What's Their Value To You?

This thread is dedicated to talking about the Personal Training profession and those who are Trainers. Share your experiences!

Do you find having a trainer a luxury, or a necessity? Do you feel that you receive your money's worth? Or, do you consider such a service a waste of money? Did you meet your objectives? If not, why not? For gay people; is having a gay trainer more optimal rather than a straight trainer? After all wouldn't a gay male/female trainer know what they would like to see in another male/female?

Give all the positives and especially the negatives, (if any), of your experiences! Hopefully we'll all learn a little something! It would be great too if there are Personal Trainers who would contribute to this discussion. What are some of the troublesome things about clients? Who would be an optimal client for you, etc?

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by Anonymousreply 206March 22, 2020 12:06 AM

blah blah blah blah blah.... Give all the positives and especially the negatives, (if any), of your experiences! blah blah blah blah....

Jeezaz the OCD on display.

by Anonymousreply 1September 20, 2015 6:54 PM

How can that actually be a career?

by Anonymousreply 2September 20, 2015 7:12 PM

It's mostly a career if you're a male stripper or porn performer.

by Anonymousreply 3September 20, 2015 7:15 PM

Or bouncer

by Anonymousreply 4September 20, 2015 7:16 PM

Total scam.

by Anonymousreply 5September 20, 2015 7:16 PM

$55,579 For example the median expected annual pay for a typical Personal Trainer in the United States is $55,579 so 50% of the people who perform the job of Personal Trainer in the United States are expected to make less than $55,579. Personal Trainer Salary | Salary.com

So, I guess it's part time for most people. However, I know a few who do it full-time in NYC. WOW! That's not much...

by Anonymousreply 6September 20, 2015 7:17 PM

I think some people want (need, as far as some are concerned) a trainer the same way they want a tax person to do their taxes or a mechanic to fix their car.

We could all go out and get Turbo Tax and go to mechanics school and learn these things, but we many of us don't.

Personally, I found a great trainer; he was cheap, he was motivating (in his words 'just enough of an asshole' to get me to work hard) and I wasn't trying to build any kind of relationship outside of the sessions. (That lesson had been learned.)

I was seeing tons of progress; alas, it ended prematurely for reasons beyond both our controls...now I'm back to doing it on my own.

Longer, harder, lonelier, but attainable, perhaps.

Time will tell.

by Anonymousreply 7September 20, 2015 7:21 PM

I find that I need a trainer because I'm afraid of weights. I'm not secure at all in lifting very heavy weights and feel that I will drop them on my chest, head, or foot. It's good to know that there is someone there to catch the weight before I end up hurting myself.

I also had two different trainers that "hit the spot" so to speak. I remember one trainer telling me; "We're going to build your chest to the point that you will be able to wear a wrinkled shirt without ironing it." Another told me; "It's my job to give you that "fuckable" body." Both lines worked and I was sold! They both accomplished their job too!

What was interesting is that both of them only wanted a 12 week commitment with my working with them 3 times a week. After the 12 weeks were over they sent me on my merry way. From what I have seen, and heard, the mission of a lot of Personal Trainers is to bleed the client's wallet dry. They know that most clients will only see minimal results because the client is unwilling to do a lot of the work on their own. You definitely need more than 2-3 hours a week to see dramatic change.

by Anonymousreply 8September 20, 2015 7:37 PM

I definitely get my money's worth. My trainer pushes me far more than I would working out by myself. When we started, he asked me what my goals were. He totally changed my diet and restructured my workouts. I went from a 38 waist pant to 31. I have near perfect bloodwork when I get my yearly physical. So for me, yes, a trainer is essential, However, like my trainer says, the results are really up to me. He just provides the framework.

by Anonymousreply 9September 20, 2015 8:13 PM

Have lost 80lbs with my trainer. Off all high blood pressure and cholesterol meds. I have stamina and tons of self esteem. I have been doing almost 2 years, twice a week and one day a week on my own in the gym.

I am still overweight but absolutely nothing like I was, and now becoming toned. I gave myself a year to lose 40lbs and have met those goals. I have a lot of respect for my personal trainer. It's as cheap and more personalized than one of these "big box gyms".

by Anonymousreply 10September 20, 2015 8:41 PM

Wowee! Some very impressive results and stories shred so far.

by Anonymousreply 11September 20, 2015 9:12 PM

Don't get me wrong, it's like buying a buddy, in a sense. As long as you keep it under control though it can work.

Should anyone 'need' a trainer. Maybe not.

But they're there and if you can afford one more power to you.

by Anonymousreply 12September 20, 2015 9:13 PM

[quote]You definitely need more than 2-3 hours a week to see dramatic change.

Not if you're a beginner, your diet is in order and you're serious.

Note: I'm talking about weight gain. Don't know about losing.

by Anonymousreply 13September 20, 2015 9:18 PM

[quote]It's as cheap and more personalized than one of these "big box gyms".

Really? Do you work outside?

by Anonymousreply 14September 20, 2015 9:28 PM

More experiences!

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by Anonymousreply 15September 21, 2015 12:56 PM

woe, doing squats on a balance ball

by Anonymousreply 16September 21, 2015 2:26 PM

PUSH!

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by Anonymousreply 17September 23, 2015 6:05 PM

I have had three trainers and all were invaluable. For some who are in okay shape already, they are paying to get that "fuckable" body or to look awesome. But for many of us, it's about getting exercise and building muscle in a safe way.

In order to expand capacity and endurance, it's important to push yourself. The problem is that when the body gets tired, proper form goes out the window. It's invaluable to have someone who knows what they're doing to watch and make sure your body is in proper alignment. Also crafting the workouts is important--my bootcamp trainer switches up the workout every ten weeks. Often, at the start, I am literally doing movements that my brain and muscular system do not understand. While doing kettlebell training, I learned some of the muscles weren't firing... The trainer would figure out what muscles weren't working and would either change the reps, help assist with the lift, and sometimes add MORE weight. He'd occasionally sit there and poke the muscle with his fingers to prompt it into action. Kettlebell training was amazing but I can't afford it anymore. I have tried it on my own and usually end up injured within a few weeks. I never had an injury in six months with the trainer. It's very dangerous and I can't be responsible for my own form while swinging around heavy weights.

One thing I've learned--get a trainer who will push you. They are not your buddy. My first trainer ever was this Russian asshole. We did not chat about our personal lives. The guy got married and had a kid and I found out many weeks later. That's how little chit chat we did. He was great as a trainer.

by Anonymousreply 18September 23, 2015 7:03 PM

So... has anyone been "hit on" or tried to "hit on" their personal trainer?

by Anonymousreply 19September 24, 2015 5:51 PM

My trainer won't touch me I had my 2nd session today, and he wanted me to stretch at the end. He got 2 towels so he could hold my arms back without touching my skin. Then, he threw the towels in the bin & put on instant hand sanitizer. I was just about to say "uh - I don't have staph..." but then he started talking. My friend knows him & said he's a little weird - but he used to be an EMT. Every personal trainer I've ever interacted with gets right up in my business - sweaty or not. Have I already turned into a vulgar, untouchable, monstrosity by 34? He is ~ 40. I know nobody will "know" but all theories (including DL bitchery ) are welcome. He's gay too btw...my friend knows him vaguely.

by Anonymousreply 20October 1, 2015 11:30 AM

R20, didn't you have your own thread about your touch phobic trainer couple of months ago? I gather the situation hasn't changed with him? Didn't you say you have him on trial and were thinking about getting another trainer?

by Anonymousreply 21October 1, 2015 1:17 PM

My trainer (who's a straight former Russian bodybuilder) gets all up on me, touching me all over the place to get me in the right form, sweaty or whatever. I would feel weird about my form if he was afraid of touching me or something.

by Anonymousreply 22October 1, 2015 5:16 PM

If my trainer, (who is HOT as all hell), did this to me R22 there is NO WAY I could complete the movement. I'd cum without hands!

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by Anonymousreply 23October 9, 2015 12:54 PM

R23, that's quite the visual!

I had two trainers in my early- to mid-twenties who were worth much more than their requested fee. The first trainer -- a female -- was so strict yet inspiring. I actually wanted to do what she asked of me, because despite her body more feminine and model-esque than muscular, my body transformed so quickly that my friends accused my of doing steroids. I was (in hindsight) heartbroken when she moved away post-graduation, but the next trainer -- male, and quite attractive -- definitely benefitted from her foundation. Both were fearless regarding body contact, which was a non-issue for me after studying dance. And I knew absolutely nothing about their lives. Despite being friendly, I reached the point of nearly silent training sessions, which rocked. R18's advice is spot-on: get a trainer who will push you, not one who's trying to be your buddy.

Even stranger, I remember catching the attention of a completely different group of gay guys (has anyone else experienced this?), sizing-up from guys I assumed were straight, and near-constant eye-flirting from women right under their boyfriend's nose. The unexpected side-effect of such great results for me, was an increase in insecurity, and obsessive concern for maintenance borne from a skinny-kid image set during grade school. If you don't deal with those psychological issues by the time you see your body changing, they will only become worse.

These days, I am not obsessed about muscle, but when dating, I do get guys whose insecurity appears for not having similar fitness once we've reached the point of displaying our birthday suits. I remember that same fear, saying to guys "oh, I'm not as muscular as you are," waiting to finally be rejected by someone who triggered a such strong physical attraction on top of chemistry. So now I have to express that my own attraction to them is just as valid without indirectly stating that I'm not looking for a body twin, or offering advice about how to improve their bodies. Such sentiment may be received as an insult exacerbated by their vulnerability. On the other side, there are the guys that are similarly fit -- from the neck down -- and expect mutual attraction based on that criteria alone. In my experience, these guys are almost always overconfident and become quite aggressive rather than graciously accept that the attraction is not mutual. C'est la vie...

by Anonymousreply 24October 9, 2015 2:55 PM

I want to work with a trainer, but body shame and shitty self-esteem keep me from it. I've never been athletic and I'm totally uncoordinated -- was one of those kids from the Gender-Non-Conforming thread who hated and sucked at sports. Not fat, but flabby and weak. Can't do a single push-up -- I have the muscle tone and upper-body strength of a veal calf.

I get the need to be pushed and motivated, but I'm afraid of being judged.

by Anonymousreply 25October 9, 2015 4:25 PM

R23 How much would that trainer charge to let me eat his ass?

by Anonymousreply 26October 9, 2015 4:41 PM

Like right, R26!!! He's sort of like my current trainer--except my trainer is a Black guy, and is a FUCKING beast!!! I have worked with a number of trainers over many years, (I get bored easily), and the one I have now is probably the best trainer I have ever had! ...I'd like to have him in another way though. My guy isn't a narcissist but he is quite aware that he is noticed and wanted. He is hit on all the time by lots women and tons of men. He admits that he is very conscious about what he wears and how he looks. As he says, he wakes up everyday and when he looks in the mirror, he asks himself; "Would you want to fuck me? " I'm still trying to figure out what he likes and his preferences. He's not money hungry or materialistic--as he said; "I've been there and done that." and he works very, VERY, hard, but I have noticed that he acts very different--as if he is nervous... almost school girlish giddy, when he is around older men. The jury is still out. He texts me like about 2-3 times a day just to see how I'm doing, and says that he alwasy has fun during our sessions. Ah.... I suppose we'll see how this develops, but WHEW!!!

by Anonymousreply 27October 9, 2015 5:02 PM

[quote]I want to work with a trainer, but body shame and shitty self-esteem keep me from it. I've never been athletic and I'm totally uncoordinated

You may have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince R25, but there are plenty trainers out there that will jump to help you! You just have to be sincere and willing to put in the work. A couple of suggestions:

-If you use a gym, talk to the training manager and tell him/her exactly what you wrote here. That way they can match you with a proper trainer.

-If you place an ad, use Craig'slist but be careful, state exactly what you wrote here. You WILL get responses.

-Finally, IMMERSE yourself with as much positive and goal setting imagery that you can--such as the example below.

Others may have more suggestions.

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by Anonymousreply 28October 9, 2015 5:26 PM

I've always had a trainer since I find it motivates me to go to the gym because someone is expecting me, plus I'm not good at coming up with good workout routines. I've found that it's actually the straight male trainers who are more hands on with their gay clients, probably to drum up business. I had one Latino trainer who was short but had an insane body and hot face who was very hands on with me. He used to slap my ass (literally) when I was slacking or hadn't finished my reps. My hottest moment with him was one day I was doing chin up reps and got very tired when he suddenly opened my legs, rested them on his shoulders and told me to keep going as high as I could bring my body up. His face about an inch away from crotch was very stimulating.

by Anonymousreply 29October 9, 2015 5:36 PM

[He used to slap my ass (literally) when I was slacking or hadn't finished my reps. My hottest moment with him was one day I was doing chin up reps and got very tired when he suddenly opened my legs, rested them on his shoulders and told me to keep going as high as I could bring my body up.]

TISSUE! Clean up in my pants...

by Anonymousreply 30October 9, 2015 5:40 PM

R29....Um what gym is this!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Anonymousreply 31October 9, 2015 6:08 PM

What your personal trainer is really thinking*

What is the lamest excuse you've ever heard from a client who canceled?

"A client texted me at 3am saying not to come for our 9am session because he was up playing poker." "'I'm still drunk.'" "'I can't sweat today because I don't want to mess up my hair.'" "'I want to make sure the help isn't stealing laundry detergent.'" "The dude who had no clean socks, so he canceled." "'Sorry, I'm still high on coke from the night before.'"

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by Anonymousreply 32October 9, 2015 6:48 PM

I use one when I get in a rut and need to change my routine. It helps me get motivated and focused again. 8-12 weeks is more than enough time with a personal trainer.

by Anonymousreply 33October 9, 2015 6:58 PM

Motivate

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by Anonymousreply 34October 9, 2015 8:56 PM

Bump!

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by Anonymousreply 35October 11, 2015 9:34 PM

Personal Trainer Massage

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by Anonymousreply 36October 11, 2015 10:12 PM

Does anyone remember a trainer named Alicia at American Fitness on 8th Avenue in Chelsea? She later showed up as a contestant on Survivor. She was a horror.

by Anonymousreply 37October 11, 2015 10:38 PM

I did this!

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by Anonymousreply 38October 16, 2015 11:31 AM

"Your own personal trainer"

by Anonymousreply 39October 16, 2015 11:44 AM

Inevitable when talking about the gym, personal trainers, muscles, the sex/erotic element is inseparable :P

by Anonymousreply 40October 16, 2015 12:12 PM

I have trainer because it guarantees that I'll get an extensive workout at least twice week. I have zero initiative outside of those sessions.

by Anonymousreply 41October 16, 2015 12:18 PM

[quote]It helps me get motivated and focused again. 8-12 weeks is more than enough time with a personal trainer.

I agree. I think you have to have some type of end objective to it. 8-12 weeks is more than enough time to make significant improvements with any trainer.

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by Anonymousreply 42October 17, 2015 2:06 AM

Not that you will have a personal trainer for sex, but it is undeniable that the activity goes hand in hand with sexuality in termos of sexual attractiveness.

by Anonymousreply 43October 19, 2015 11:05 PM

They make you realize how incredibly stupid Grade A beef would be if it could talk.

by Anonymousreply 44October 19, 2015 11:13 PM

If find gay trainers only want to work with fit gay clients. They will work with the fat and out of shape, but I feel a bit sorry for them, paying to hear so many 'eeeew's in the session.

by Anonymousreply 45October 19, 2015 11:14 PM

They are like any profession. there are some really good ones and not so good ones. I found a great one and go in 3 month cycles with him a couple of times a year. The difference in my body in the on cycles is very noticeable. He doesn't let me get away with shit in our sessions . Str8 guy but not at all unfortable with gay guys. He doesn't have an issue touching etc when it's needed and gives the best post workout stretching i've ever had. He's very well trained and isn't scared of the human body dude or not. I'm had some really uptight ones in the past when it comes to touching another dude and that's not him at all. Great at his job and takes pride in it and very comfortable in his own skin.

by Anonymousreply 46October 19, 2015 11:34 PM

And then when personal trainers finish their job they gather together with their collegues and tell them the same things their clients tell their friends: wow, she's so fucking hot. She wanted to touch my biceps all the time" and that stuff.

Well, at least hetero personal trainers seem more boastful than the gay ones...

by Anonymousreply 47October 19, 2015 11:41 PM

That's dudes in general r47. Guys talk ( as do women). Goes with the territory. Every dude likes an ego boost.

by Anonymousreply 48October 19, 2015 11:48 PM

I had a few sessions with this one back when he worked at a different gym.

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by Anonymousreply 49October 20, 2015 12:07 AM

For me, having a personal trainer for 3 years is what got me fit, and has now kept me fit for 7 years. My PT gave me the confidence to do exercises I would never have dreamed of being able to do: back squats, clean and presses, snatches. I lost over 40 pounds and when I decided I was experienced enough to strike out on my own, I kept going and am now fitter than I've ever been. I now attend a gym that is all class based, and (at 51) I'm the oldest guy there, but I can outpace a few 25 year olds when it comes to push ups and thrusters (both in reps and weight), box jumps and dips. None of that would have even been remotely possible if I'd try to get fit on my own. For a start, my form would have been all over the place and I'd have been way too self-concious to go into the free weights room with all the preening muscle marys.

by Anonymousreply 50October 20, 2015 12:08 AM

[quote]If find gay trainers only want to work with fit gay clients. They will work with the fat and out of shape, but I feel a bit sorry for them, paying to hear so many 'eeeew's in the session.

Not from what I have seen. A few gay trainers that I know were fat themselves and really jump at the chance to help someone who is fat. Also, I've known quite a few straight trainers that want the challenge of a fat client too. With all of them it all came down to the client. If he or she were willing to put in the work then the trainers have gone above and beyond to help them.

I found what trainers don't like are those of us who might be lazy. We only do the gym twice a week for an hour. Our diets are shit, and we don't put in our best efforts to do a workout during the hour. I've noticed that trainers with those types of clients seem to just go throughthe motions.

by Anonymousreply 51October 20, 2015 1:35 AM

Are haterosexual personal trainers are afraid of homosexual clients?

by Anonymousreply 52October 20, 2015 1:38 AM

[quote]Str8 guy but not at all unfortable with gay guys.

I knew a trainer, (straight and I never worked with him), who was literally drop-dead GORGEOUS!!! His whole clientele was nothing but gay men. I don't think that there was anything sexual between him and his clients, but when he opened his own gym, guess where the financing came from? From what I observed he was VERY good and he wasn't cheap!

Then I was told by my trainer that there is one particular gym in NYC, (probably one of many), where all the trainers claim to be straight. However... according to my trainer from his very good friend who happens to be gay, that his friend has practically slept with them all!

by Anonymousreply 53October 20, 2015 1:44 AM

[quote]Are haterosexual personal trainers are afraid of homosexual clients?

Some of them are. The only one that I have personally encountered was a female. She wasn't afraid of gays, but she absolutely refused, and made it quite known, that she didn't like working with them. Her clientele were all male that were 40 plus.

by Anonymousreply 54October 20, 2015 1:48 AM

yes r52 some are. I've had both totally uptight about it and like my current couldnt give a shit. He's pretty damn hot but we've been working together long enough by this point is simply a non issue. He bitches about the soon to be wife and i do my husband. There are just no sexual undertones there at this point. It's much more a dymanic of two dudes interacting and relate on that level vs one is gay and the other str8. It's simply a non issue.

by Anonymousreply 55October 20, 2015 1:50 AM

It is interesting how these people try to project a strong appearance but homosexulity weakens them so much.

They aren't capable of understanding that we aren't any more sexual than they are.

by Anonymousreply 56October 20, 2015 1:57 AM

My friend is a trainer and gay. His straight clients LOVE him! They joke with him about GRINDr--they knew about it before he did. They invite him to their homes, give him tickets to stuff, etc. They have no fear in working with him and his touching them.

by Anonymousreply 57October 20, 2015 1:59 AM

yep..makes sense r57. We've evolved it's nothing unusual on either side for a lot of us.

by Anonymousreply 58October 20, 2015 2:03 AM

mine's a real sad sack story - get ready. I had this guy for four months at the beginning of the year; was affordable and made me sweat; I liked him. I felt safe with him. He wouldn't let me get away with shit but if it was really important he'd listen.

He had to drop me as a client; now he teaches a group work out class. There's no time for personal instruction. I feel like I'm doing everything wrong. A girl in class asked me what the next step was and I looked at her like 'honey, you got me!'

The class reminds me of a high school gym class...I think at any given moment a coach is going to walk out and make us do 'shirts and skins -- it's dodge ball time; remember hit (me) in the back of the head; that's the goal.'

It's like being in an orgy only the person you want to have sex with is on the other side of the room ignoring you.

I'm going to give it one more class and then tell him this just isn't for me.

Beyond sad.

by Anonymousreply 59October 20, 2015 2:04 AM

Maybe he trains privately on the side R59?

by Anonymousreply 60October 20, 2015 2:06 AM

That's more a therapy issue r59 than a trainer issue. I don't like classes myself but that wasn't the trainers fault. I'm paying for the personal attention and don't even bother with classes anymore.

by Anonymousreply 61October 20, 2015 2:10 AM

I would get turned on by a well built personal trainer, but as soon as we achieve some kind of frendship that sexual stimulus would go away.

by Anonymousreply 62October 20, 2015 2:17 AM

That's the way it worked for me r69. There is no doubt he's hot as hell but it's just not that vibe between us. That lasted a week. I kinda got over all that since he was such a taskmaster..lol. But seriously now we're causal friends but that whole vibe quickly disappeared of even thinking about sex with him. It's much more a mix of professional yet bro/ friend kinda thing . And he's a really good guy in general.

by Anonymousreply 63October 20, 2015 2:21 AM

People should be going to a personal trainer because they want to get fit, not because they want to fuck some random hot guy.

by Anonymousreply 64October 20, 2015 2:27 AM

Most of us completely agree r64 but you're not blind either. There is nothing wrong with finding them attractive either.. fact is if a hot guy is pushing you you're more likely to do vs some fat guy.

by Anonymousreply 65October 20, 2015 2:34 AM

[quote]People should be going to a personal trainer because they want to get fit

I would add that you should have some sense of what that would be. Personal training could be a absolute waste of money if you're not cognizant of what you will have to do to reach your goals--whatever those goals would be.

by Anonymousreply 66October 20, 2015 2:34 AM

And do you really think that most personal trainers don't care about them been perceived a sexually attractive?

This is not to say that the only thing they care about is physical appearance, but definitely it is an element of their whole interest in exercising.

by Anonymousreply 67October 20, 2015 2:40 AM

[quote]This is not to say that the only thing they care about is physical appearance, but definitely it is an element of their whole interest in exercising.

As my trainer says; "The object is to become more fuckable."

by Anonymousreply 68October 20, 2015 2:43 AM

It's common sense r67 why would you ever have a personal trainer that's not in better shape them yourself? They can't know what they are doing if you don't see the image you want for yourself.

by Anonymousreply 69October 20, 2015 2:45 AM

[quote]They can't know what they are doing if you don't see the image you want for yourself.

That's not necessarily true. I know 2 or 3 trainers who are not what one would consider "Mr. Fitness", but they are REALLY GOOD trainers. But, I agree with you that a trainers business card is how they look themselves.

by Anonymousreply 70October 20, 2015 2:52 AM

The best personal trainers build that trust and rapport. I know with him i can push myself and he's always got my back on what is possible and what will get me hurt. He's fully focused on that and always paying attention. That trust has been developed.

by Anonymousreply 71October 20, 2015 3:05 AM

R60, sigh, he does; but when he left one gym and started training at another he only took me with him for a while; then landed the gig teaching the group stuff; sure, his schedule isn't as flexible, but he has kept some of his other clients; me, he says, not now...maybe later; try my group class, it's cheaper.

I wish he'd just say no...

by Anonymousreply 72October 20, 2015 3:10 AM

[quote]I wish he'd just say no...

I think he already has.

by Anonymousreply 73October 20, 2015 3:18 AM

I hate to dampen your spirits R72, but your trainer might be trying to tell you something.

by Anonymousreply 74October 20, 2015 3:22 AM

yeah they are telling you something ( and who knows what) if they turn down your business. Just because you are teaching classes doesn't mean you don't still have clients.

by Anonymousreply 75October 20, 2015 3:27 AM

[quote]As my trainer says; "The object is to become [bold]more fuckable[/bold].".

Hmm, one usually stereotype personal trainers as the top but some might want to be bottoms, R68

by Anonymousreply 76October 20, 2015 4:45 AM

R73 and R74, yeah, no answer is a 'no'

I get it.

I did go to another gym and looked into a trainer; they asked me when the last time I trained with someone and I tell 'em; and then they say: 'why did that end?'

And then I have to hold back the tears.

here's the thing: at the last gym, everything was fine; he even gave me a ridiculously low rate....I don't know what happened.

by Anonymousreply 77October 20, 2015 4:52 AM

Have had three personal trainers for extended periods of time:

Trainer 1 was a thirty something female. She had taught group fitness classes for years, but was just getting into personal training. She had a degree in exercise science, and lots of other certifications. She was extremely organized, and kept detailed records of everything I did. I learned a lot from her, and had good results.

Trainer 2 was a twenty something female. I guess you could say that she did her job well enough, but was completely uninvolved with her clients. I was just another appointment to her. My results were fine, but without some sort of personal connection or even friendship, I lost interest in continuing to train with her.

Trainer 3 was a thirty something gay male. He wasn't particularly fit himself, and seemed very unorganized -- we would just kind of drift from one exercise to the next with no regular plan. At first I thought he was an awful trainer, but then to my surprise I got incredible results. I think the fact that we had no regular routine made a huge difference for me, and in the end, it was more interesting than sticking to a set course of exercises. And it was nice that he was gay -- he was very chatty, and it kept me from getting bored with the whole thing.

Overall, I would recommend a trainer if you have problems getting motivated, or if you are new to the gym. But don't be afraid to try different trainers until you find one that is a good fit for you. And it's probably not a great idea to choose trainers on their looks -- that's not a good indicator of their skills.

by Anonymousreply 78October 20, 2015 6:23 AM

Is there any difference between hiring a certified personal trainer and hiring a bodybuilder? I have seen that many bodybuilders seem to work as personal trainers on the side, but you never know if they have actually studied and received a certificate that valiates them as personal trainers or if they are just doing it to make money but lack the required knowledge and experience..

by Anonymousreply 79October 20, 2015 6:40 AM

I'm sure there are good trainers who don't have degrees or certifications, but personally I would opt for someone with some education in the field. You should never hire a trainer without asking about their professional background. It's very easy to get injured and discouraged in the gym -- a trainer who knows what they're doing will know when to push someone, and when to go easy. Someone who just trains on the side may not have this kind of experience or knowledge.

by Anonymousreply 80October 20, 2015 7:03 AM

[quote]Is there any difference between hiring a certified personal trainer and hiring a bodybuilder?

I don't think you can really generalize like that. Just because one is a bodybuilder does not mean that it translates into being a good personal trainer. From my experiences a lot of bodybuilders do not make good personal trainers because they don't have the patience to work with those who are not as developed, (as far as exercise), as they are.

I used to be rather cynical of many personal trainers until I found good ones. I always thought that these were people who just liked being in the gym and really had no interest in anyone else. Maybe it was never them but me!

I think that being a personal trainer is like a teacher. You really have to enjoy what you do and enjoy teaching others.

by Anonymousreply 81October 20, 2015 12:35 PM

A lot of work! But, this is like 85% diet

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by Anonymousreply 82October 20, 2015 12:43 PM

Watching for proper form.

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by Anonymousreply 83October 20, 2015 12:53 PM

R81 That and personal trainres are supposed to know a bit about nutrition too, right?

by Anonymousreply 84October 20, 2015 5:24 PM

An interview with Will Torres, (he's spoken about in this thread), with some very good advice and tips about personal training...

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by Anonymousreply 85October 20, 2015 10:47 PM

[quote]That and personal trainres are supposed to know a bit about nutrition too, right?

No. Personal Training is still a "profession" that is still be legitimized. At one time, (and maybe it still is to a degree), a person who is as qualified as the trainer in the link--who I did know, was no different than a big muscled guy who came out of prison. All you have to do is pass some easy test to get your license. I do recall how this bugged John to no end and he was working really hard to change this.

Now, a lot of gyms DO require, or are moving toward, making all PTs have a degree. But, even Equinox still has a PT track that all you have to do is take their in-house course for whatever length of time, pass the national test, and then voila! you're a trainer.

I do know that at one time a MAJOR chain, NY__, hired A LOT of people who had had "prison experience" at one time. You can imagine why they did that too. However, once the word got out about that they stopped. In some ways I think that's unfortunate because there are those who ARE REALLY good at it, and could make at least some sort of living. Ex-convicts have a really hard time gettiing any other type of job.

With the increase of sports medicine, bio-engineering, etc., it is becoming more of a requirement to have a professional degree. That includes learning and knowing about nutrition--not just what you read about in magazines; heard on the street; or what worked for you. I think there are now Associate Degrees for PT. This is all relatively new.

But, if you're interested in a PT for nutrition, you should ask them about their qualifications in that area.

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by Anonymousreply 86October 21, 2015 1:59 AM

How much about working out is driven by superficial motivations (physical appearance) and how much is driven by health reaosns?

by Anonymousreply 87October 24, 2015 7:23 PM

I had a personal trainer who was in prison who would come to my house. Mostly all of my progress was made using my own body weight and it never got boring. Also used things like tires and ropes. Of course I was out in the country and had a huge yard and lots of deserted roads and trees to climb. It was great. I'd hate to be trapped in a gym to stay in shape.

by Anonymousreply 88October 24, 2015 7:43 PM

I think it's more about looking good R87. However, people quickly realize the health benefits ie breathing better; walking better; etc.

by Anonymousreply 89October 26, 2015 12:43 PM

The Role of a Personal Trainer

Personal trainers typically become personal trainers out of a passion for being healthy, fit and active. They're not normally the type of people who could stomach a desk job or sit alone in a cubicle ”paper pushing“. It's a job that starts out with heart, motivation and a love for all things fitness...the trick is, keeping it that way!

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by Anonymousreply 90October 26, 2015 12:45 PM

My very hawt personal trainer is great. He also gives me expert dietary advice and sells a full line of nutritional powders.

by Anonymousreply 91October 26, 2015 1:03 PM

Personal Trainer Brady Bloom

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by Anonymousreply 92October 26, 2015 4:28 PM

R92 And then they wonder why people say bodybuilding is homoerotic, hehe!

by Anonymousreply 93October 31, 2015 11:45 AM

R77, here; just to update anyone who may have been wondering; I gave the old trainer one last try...and here's the thing, I CAN take no for an answer, but he wasn't giving it. He was not now; or later; or after the summer...I suggested a few xs a month at an increased rate/whatever he thought was fair...and he kind of deflected the request; again, wouldn't say no, wouldn't say yes...I give up.

I bought another package of sessions from a trainer at another gym. He's great. It's going great. I'll never know what happened, but people will surprise you every time.

by Anonymousreply 94November 1, 2015 5:15 AM

Don't worry about it r94. He actually did you a favor by turning you down if he just wasn't into it. Who knows why but you never want to employ someone who just doesn't want to work with you. You do better going elsewhere with someone who is more than happy to work with you.

by Anonymousreply 95November 1, 2015 3:02 PM

They're just a different type of whore.

by Anonymousreply 96November 1, 2015 3:46 PM

Well, I'm glad you gave up R94 if nothing but for your own sanity. For whatever reason your former trainer doesn't want to work with you. Don't take it personally. Just move on.

by Anonymousreply 97November 1, 2015 10:28 PM

R92 is both hot to death and horrifying -- I would die of embarrassment if I popped a boner in that scenario.

by Anonymousreply 98November 1, 2015 10:33 PM

[quote]I would die of embarrassment if I popped a boner in that scenario.

And you know R98, he would probably just slap your face (not too hard) in order to get you to focus, then laugh it off. Some men realize that we are men and erections will happen for whatever reason. It's just part of being a man. The difference is that we can think--well, some of us anyway, and choose what we will do, or what we won't do.

by Anonymousreply 99November 1, 2015 11:06 PM

WHta do they call it, platonic love?

You let yourself be completely captivated by the muscular look of the personal trainer and combined with that sort of intimacy that training a client personally implies one might end up romanticising the whole thing...

by Anonymousreply 100November 1, 2015 11:13 PM

Experienced personal trainers are not unaccustomed to a dude popping a boner. It happens sometimes that has nothing to do with the attraction to the person. A great workout in guys ( i can't speak for women) triggers all the hormones part of the sex drive. Add physical touch if you're doing the post workout stretching it can happen. It's a purely physical response with all the chemicals pumping in your system. Happened to one of my best friends and he totally freaked and called me worried he was a closet case etc.. It was funny as hell. No dude come down and he's the type if he wanted dick he's go get it it was just a totally new experience for him. First time in his life a dude could get him hard.

by Anonymousreply 101November 1, 2015 11:17 PM

R100, most personal trainers recognize this. They realize that they are working with people who are half clothed, and being touched in ways and in areas where they normally aren't. Also, the time you spend with a trainer brings a closeness. Many people spend a more dedicated time with their trainer than they do with many of their personal friends. It's very natural for a platonic intimate relationship to develop.

by Anonymousreply 102November 2, 2015 12:09 AM

Weighted bench dips...

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by Anonymousreply 103November 2, 2015 12:40 AM

I guess the older the personal trainer the less muscular and more focused on the health part because h's years of experience speak of his work so he doesn't have to amaze anybody with his body whereas the younger the more muscular because when you're a young personal trainer you're expected to be big and you sell yourself out more by the way you look since you lack experience.

by Anonymousreply 104November 2, 2015 12:53 AM

Not so much r104. The guy i use is just a bit younger than i am he's probably 42 43 at this point and still in top shape. One of the reasons it works between us is he can advise on the whole aging thing and fitness since we are of a similar age within 5 years. He's all about fighting aging in not a really vain way . He's more about how you feel as you age.

by Anonymousreply 105November 2, 2015 12:59 AM

R105 I was speaking from a generalising perspective without brushing aside the nuances since nothing is absolute in life but older personal trainers tend to be less muscular because the "I want to look sexy" phase is a scondary thing for them.

by Anonymousreply 106November 2, 2015 1:09 AM

And a regimented exercise program along with a good diet does help with that R105.

Ernestine Shepherd: Bodybuilder and Personal Trainer--80 years old.

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by Anonymousreply 107November 2, 2015 1:15 AM

[quote]but older personal trainers tend to be less muscular because the "I want to look sexy" phase is a scondary thing for them.

I disagree with that. People want to look sexy at any age. Those days are pretty much gone that after a certain age you should look like "X". But, generally Personal Trainers are those who have had a love for exercise for all, if not most, of their lives. They know the value of exercise and love it. For many of us getting involved with exercise starts out as a fad, moving on to vanity, then to health...if we make it that far. Look at some of the examples such as SOS Kerry; President George Bush, Jr.. etc Heck! There are even threads right here on DL of men in their 40's and 50's who look hot and are very sexy. But yes, it's very much about health too!

by Anonymousreply 108November 2, 2015 2:01 AM

you explain it well r108. There is always the element you want to look good to some degree but the older you get the more you balance that with health and feeling good. I have certainly learned in my mid 40s that if i still want to feel great i have to take care of myself with the both exercise and diet. you just can't get away with what you did 20 years earlier. Its also good motivation for me i have a ginger hubby 10 years younger in great shape i can't slack off. That's not his pressure and in my own mind but gotta keep up you know. It's actually a healthy dynamic between us to keep ourselves in good shape.

by Anonymousreply 109November 2, 2015 2:09 AM

What happens if you exercise too much

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by Anonymousreply 110November 4, 2015 4:03 AM

Last week I had my 2nd and last date with a guy. I decided not to date him anymore because he mentioned during the date he has moved his trainer into his guest house for free in exchange for training sessions. The guest house would probably rent for a grand a month. Must be some good training.

by Anonymousreply 111November 4, 2015 4:23 AM

[quote]What happens if you exercise too much

I don't think most of us have to worry about that, R110. When you become obssessive like that it just means that there are other issues such as anorexia, bigorexia, etc involved However, everyone should try to make of goal of doing an hour of exercise daily. You do differnt things. A couple of days you walk. The other days you do the gym.

by Anonymousreply 112November 4, 2015 2:58 PM

It might be true R111. Maybe he's helping the guy get on his feet.

by Anonymousreply 113November 4, 2015 3:07 PM

My trainer and I have been together for 20 years. Usually thats not good. But, he and I have a serious freindship that is a great way to start my day. He's a sweet heart of a straight guy. I have seen him through several girlfriends and one wife. I admit I don't get the maximum workout from him. But, the relationship has been really nice.

I originally hired him because he was the hottest trainer in town with blue eyes and longish blond hair. That was my impetus to get up and go to the gym. And, I got to blow him on my birthdays and bank holidays. But now, I just blow my pool guy and have dinner with my older trainer.

by Anonymousreply 114November 4, 2015 3:16 PM

R111 perhaps you're still single because you're so distrusting. You're mind immediately went to the place that there is more going on. Perhaps perhaps not. I also don't believe for a second that was the reason you didn't proceed. Maybe that 1000 a month is immaterial to this guys finances. Past a certain age and level of success it really does become that. Yes there are people out there that will use you, but there are also people that if we can help you out we will. You simply didn't have enough information to make that call in this situation.

by Anonymousreply 115November 4, 2015 3:20 PM

R114 you're not helping the credibility of the profession in your story. Essentially you describe a prostitute you're paying.

by Anonymousreply 116November 4, 2015 3:24 PM

Think of it like this R111. A guest house is available. It's just simply easier to barter than to do a financial transaction. You don't have the headache of trying to collect money every month and play the landlord. A PT for an hour, in NYC, averages $100/hr. Therefore, 3 days a week for an hour, is over $1K/month. That seems like a fair exchange to me.

by Anonymousreply 117November 4, 2015 3:35 PM

Exactly r117. You don't have to jump to place to assume there is sex coming with it. And if the guy is already paying that and has a guest house he could rent for 1000 a month money obviously just isn't a big issue here.

by Anonymousreply 118November 4, 2015 3:40 PM

Personal trainers are the gateway drug to lifestyle coaches.

by Anonymousreply 119November 4, 2015 3:44 PM

R114, Yep- my accountant said the same thing.

by Anonymousreply 120November 4, 2015 3:46 PM

[quote]Personal trainers are the gateway drug to lifestyle coaches.

Maybe so R119, but some of us could REALLY use a lifestyle coach! Look...make no mistake... being a PT offers a lot of opportunity to meet various types of people. My friend, who is a PT and who happens to be gay....AND LOVED by his straight clients, have been offered a trip to Japan to train his client and wife; He's now a PA and one of his clients paid for his school books in exchange for his services while he was in school; on and on...

However, when his clients need him, he's there for them too! One of his clients who was well-off ran into a lot of financial difficulty. My friend trained him free of charge and did not complain one bit or bat an eye as if something was wrong. When that client got back up on his feet...it all came back to my friend ten-fold!!!

So, sincere relationships are indeed built and nurtured. I don't know about the one like R114... but who am I to judge?

by Anonymousreply 121November 4, 2015 4:09 PM

Spotting.

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by Anonymousreply 122November 4, 2015 4:36 PM

Here's what's creepy about the rent-for-training thing:

1. People deserve to make a wage for their work. Not barter. Particularly when you have enough money that you have empty houses sitting around, you can and should pay people to work for you. It's offensive to me when people with means try to create 3rd world scenarios in order to make even more money. 1a. The state we live in expressly forbids barter-for-rent because the state gets neither income taxes nor rental taxes. Our state is low-tax enough that I actually think that people should pay their share of taxes. 2. That a person would want to engage that much personal training suggests a shallow vanity that is unappealing. I prefer people who are unassuming, and had I known there was any personal training going on at all, I would not have bothered with the first date. As it is, he was probably interested in me only for my looks, and that shit gets old fast. We're both too old for that. 3. He's certainly not getting much training bang for the buck, because he doesn't look very buff. I seriously doubt that there is much training going on. I'm far more muscular swimming fewer than 4 hours a week. 4. Personal training services here go for $25 to $40 an hour (advertised at the local YMCA). He's not using 25 to 40 hours of training a month. I'm going to guess 5 to 10 hours. There is an element of decadent braggadocio when you move your "trainer" onto your property.

Of course you Ayn Randites will shriek like free market Mary about how people are entitled to do what they want with their money. But other people see what you do with your means and how you treat others, and they make judgements about your character based upon those observations. My dick will remain unsoiled from his arrogant tongue and greedy asshole that probably needs more squat reps anyway.

by Anonymousreply 123November 4, 2015 4:47 PM

OH, LAWD! R111/123!!! Gurl, I need a minute...

by Anonymousreply 124November 4, 2015 4:54 PM

Concentration curls

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by Anonymousreply 125November 4, 2015 9:50 PM

Halloween. Just one of the many reasons to hit the gym.

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by Anonymousreply 126November 6, 2015 12:07 PM

[quote]People deserve to make a wage for their work. Not barter.

Bartering has been around since the beginning of man, R123. There's nothing wrong with exchanging services if both parties are agreeable.

[quote]That a person would want to engage that much personal training suggests a shallow vanity that is unappealing.

3x's a week? I wouldn't consider that vanity, but lucky someone could afford that or reach an arrangement that makes a situation like that happen! You said you would not have been bothered with the person because he had a PT? It sounds as if you have issues or personal jealousies going on.

[quote]He's certainly not getting much training bang for the buck, because he doesn't look very buff. I seriously doubt that there is much training going on.

Not everyone goes for the buff look. Many just want to get out of bed without feeling any pain, or simply be able to touch their toes--you would be surprised by how many who can't.

[quote]There is an element of decadent braggadocio when you move your "trainer" onto your property.

Could be, or that's how you are perceiving it.

by Anonymousreply 127November 6, 2015 12:17 PM

There are jobs that have been highly eroticised. Personal training, because of its obvious nature is one of those.

by Anonymousreply 128November 7, 2015 3:38 AM

Helping hands!

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by Anonymousreply 129November 8, 2015 5:05 PM

Bump...

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by Anonymousreply 130November 9, 2015 4:59 AM

R97, others, thanks...yeah, my therapist is thrilled I moved on to someone else; he's a good guy, I know I'm not going to fall for him and he's just playful enough to get me out of my head and into the work out. I'm already feeling results again.

I'm moving on, but damn TV for making me think the old one will come back into my life. We had a rapport, or so I thought, that was special.

I'm afraid he'll call or text and I'll be like Valene running back to Gary at the drop of a hat, telling the police "I killed Ciji!"

by Anonymousreply 131November 11, 2015 2:22 AM

All in a day's work.

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by Anonymousreply 132November 11, 2015 6:48 PM

today, my new trainer said he'd had an organ removed

which one?

'spleen' he said

Oh, my last trainer had one removed too.

'which one?'

His heart.

by Anonymousreply 133November 12, 2015 4:24 AM

[quote]There are jobs that have been highly eroticised. Personal training, because of its obvious nature is one of those.

It can be, but a lot of these trainers are simply exercise fanatics! They could live in the gym if you let them.

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by Anonymousreply 134November 12, 2015 7:49 PM

Taking care of a pulled muscle.

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by Anonymousreply 135November 12, 2015 8:26 PM

Bump

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by Anonymousreply 136November 20, 2015 3:11 PM

6 Reasons Why Hiring a Personal Trainer Is Worth the Money Why a trainer is a good investment and how to choose one.

Do you want to hire a personal trainer to help you get in shape, but wonder if you should spend the money?

Working with a trainer can push your fitness level forward much more quickly than working out on your own.

Here are six reasons why hiring a skilled personal trainer is a great investment.

1. Trainers provide accountability and motivation

Do you want to face your trainer and tell her that you didn’t work out yesterday? Sure, you can get this accountability from a dedicated friend who works out with you, but this is the trainer’s job. He or she has a vested interest in seeing that you complete your workouts.

2. Trainers provide expertise

A good personal trainer will watch closely to ensure that you are doing the exercises properly to maximize your result and target the intended muscle group.

My trainer carefully watches me and corrects minor mistakes in form as I make them. She assures me that sometimes the smallest tweak of an exercise will change the muscle that is targeted, and I can tell the difference when I follow her instructions.

This is something I could never do on my own, or even from watching a video. Usually, I’m not even aware of a mistake in form. Consistently doing an exercise incorrectly can lead to injury.

3. A trainer will push you just enough

A trainer will push you harder than you will push yourself but keep you from rushing ahead too quickly.

If you are like me, you work out until you feel uncomfortable, and then you modify the movement or stop altogether. A good trainer knows how to push you beyond your comfort zone and when to stop before pain or injury sets in.

Expert trainers know alternative exercises if you have difficulty with one or if you have an injury to work around. Sometimes a modified version of an exercise is necessary, depending on your fitness level. A good trainer will expertly shape an exercise for you.

4. A trainer helps you identify and reach goals

As I set my goals, she helps me to attain them. She encourages me by noticing improvements that I wouldn’t even think about. This is helpful when discouragement tries to set in.

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5. A trainer will personalize your workout

Quality trainers know how to customize a workout based on your individual strengths, weaknesses and goals.

Mine helps me to increase my cardio endurance with a running interval plan. Since one of my short-term goals is to do more mens push-ups, my trainer is including several types of difficult push-ups in my sessions that are quickly enabling me to build my strength and move toward more mens push-ups.

6. Trainers can reduce the possibility of injury

An injury can derail a workout program and cause so much discouragement that you could lose momentum and determination to continue. A good trainer will help you to do exercises properly so that you won’t injure yourself.

When my knee began to act up, my trainer had me cut back on my running intervals and ride an exercise bike on some days. She also pointed out that I may be developing an imbalance between my quadriceps and hamstring muscles, which can lead to knee injuries. Since my quads are stronger than my hamstrings, she began targeting hamstring strength. These are things I would not have known to do.

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by Anonymousreply 137December 9, 2015 10:37 PM

I know for me, I can be lazy. Even though I was a jock in HS and college, I was never one of those jocks who hit the gym outside regular/required training - unlike my roommate (still swoon over him and he still hits the gym regularly). So when I joined a gym after college - more times than not I'd skip. Finally, I hired a trainer thinking "If I'm paying him, I have to go" and that did the trick. I went, met with him 3 days a week, got in a schedule, dropped weight, firmed up, added muscle - even started playing again. I thought he was a great trainer - pushed when I needed it, wouldn't let me slack, could joke around and check out guys together (he was gay as well) so the gym went from being an "ugh" chore to something I looked forward to. Haven't had a trainer in a couple of years now, and I have seen myself slacking. Yes, I've fallen back into familiar patterns. Oh well. I figure after the excesses of the holidays, I'll bite the bullet and hire one again to get back into a regular schedule. Unfortunately, my trainer moved to Miami - I may hit him up for recommendations and see what he says.

by Anonymousreply 138December 9, 2015 10:50 PM

The personal trainers are so fucking hot at my gym I couldn't see myself being productive around them. Then I would undoubtedly fall in love with them. I know it would go it would go nowhere. Then I would fall deeper for them. Then I would have to find a new gym to avoid the pain. That's just how I roll.

by Anonymousreply 139December 9, 2015 10:53 PM

At first, being around personal treainers or muscle men in general may be the most sexually arousing thing in the world, but as time goes by and you get to see them almost everyday you get accostumed to it so the arousal gets to calm waters.

by Anonymousreply 140December 10, 2015 12:24 AM

That's very true r140. It's like that with my personal trainer i've had for a couple of years now. He's hot as fuck and was certainly smitten at first but he's hopelessly str8 so i quickly got over it. Just don't really think of him sexually anymore 95 % of the time any more. He's totally cool with gay guys so we work well together and he's not all uptight about touching etc when it's required and gives the best post workout stretching.

by Anonymousreply 141December 11, 2015 4:37 AM

Happy New Year!

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by Anonymousreply 142December 31, 2015 10:55 AM

Summer bodies are built in the winter!

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by Anonymousreply 143December 31, 2015 11:08 AM

It's summer down here and there is so much physical culture in my country today. Bodybuilding seems to be a massive trend world wide.

by Anonymousreply 144December 31, 2015 3:34 PM

I'm completely clueless in the gym and very lazy, so a personal trainer is great motivation to go, and reassuring. To the overweight people, I'm a string bean and I feel very uncomfortable/out of place in gyms so grass isnt always greener. I feel waaaaay too self conscious ever be turned on by hot trainer or etc. Reading you guys talk about makes it sound like it's a much more sexual experience at the gym.

by Anonymousreply 145December 31, 2015 3:55 PM

That totally depends, but it is not uncommon to hear stories of some form of same-sex interaction at the gym. It is mainly muscle men who experience that; average men not so much.

Like an acquaintance of mine who goes to the gym, he has big legs and butt like really big, like a bodybuilder and he says that other muscle men usually approach him to tell him how big his legs are and they take advantage of the moment to feel his legs and compliment him in a disguised but telling way. He is bisexual and he totally knows what's going on in the minds of those men and he enjoys all that attention :)

by Anonymousreply 146December 31, 2015 11:15 PM

A personal trainer dating site! LOL!!!!

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by Anonymousreply 147January 1, 2016 3:01 PM

I'm starting the year off no trainer, no job ... Lost my trainer last year in April; my job in November

I'll check back with this thread in May and we'll see where I am

Say a prayer

by Anonymousreply 148January 1, 2016 3:26 PM

Watch who you hire. My first and last trainer was charging me by the hour, and he put me on the treadmill for the fist and last fifteen minutes of the one hour session. My friends, who have used trainers for years, told me I was getting ripped off. The treadmill comes before and after your one hour paid session. Some of them are worse than rent boys with their tricks. Ask for references in the gym from current or former clients.

by Anonymousreply 149January 1, 2016 5:51 PM

R148, a prayer has been said for you! Go to YouTube. Lots of trainers with good advice there...and, it's free!

by Anonymousreply 150January 1, 2016 6:17 PM

My workouts with my trainer are 10x more productive than my solo without. He does the tiniest little things, like pushing my elbows in during hammer curls, that changes the entire exercise (and makes it much harder - and actually works the bicep vs. whatever I was doing). He'll change my grip on an exercise - which then entirely takes out the wrong muscle group that I was previously using. He reminds me to go slow in the negative motion - which always is hard to remember on my own. He'll spot me on exercises I don't like doing alone (decline press or general bench) at high weight.

It's a huge huge benefit to work with him. He's in his 50s and has been doing this for ages. Plus, his body is insane...so he knows what he's doing . He's also a really nice guy, so it just makes it easier to go through the whole thing. A ton of people around here see him - and we all start looking similar too... he has a very specific way of getting your body defined. He's not really into big bulky muscles, though...which I kind of am - but still nowhere close to that.

by Anonymousreply 151January 1, 2016 6:38 PM

R137 I really want to just dive right in there.

by Anonymousreply 152January 1, 2016 6:58 PM

Spotting.

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by Anonymousreply 153January 7, 2016 3:13 PM

You raise a good point R149. I've personally dealt with a number of trainers over the many years, but I have yet to have a bad trainer. I have seen them though.

A lot of people are attracted to their trainers because of how he or she look, and their respective body. Many clients hold an illusion that by working with that particular trainer that they will achieve the same, or nearly the same type of body. That's not a problem thinking that way. But, there are some trainers that are downright abusive, and you wonder why a client puts up with it. My thought is that people don't really like confrontation and they really want to give their trainer a chance.

I've seen some trainers stroll into a session a half hour late (they gave the client a full session, but...). I've seen trainers more concerned about what was happening on their cell phones rather than paying attention to the client; I've also seen trainers who seem to have no interest in their job and/or client, and just look as if they are following a boring routine.

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by Anonymousreply 154January 7, 2016 3:34 PM

Here's another article which i think offers A LOT of good advice.

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by Anonymousreply 155January 8, 2016 2:11 PM

Don't most porn stars end up becoming personal trainers?

by Anonymousreply 156January 9, 2016 1:24 AM

half of them end of dead before 40 r156..see other threads

by Anonymousreply 157January 9, 2016 1:35 AM

57 years old here. Lost almost 100lbs with my trainer. Between eating the right foods (I now actually eat 3 meals a day as opposed to 2) and my twice weekly training I feel 100% better. Had cancer and it was my fitness that helped me through it and am cancer free now. At my age, little problems pop up more frequently. I now have issues with bursitis of the heels and dam it's a real pain.

I've had my trainer for almost 2 years and I enjoy it. It's hard and he's demanding, but, as a cancer survivor, he gives me results. I will never be in the shape I was 30 of 40 years ago, but am happy and content right now. I seem to be in maintenance level right now until this bursa issue is resolved.

by Anonymousreply 158January 9, 2016 4:27 PM

It means Lance Angel, trainer extraordinaire and rumored former gay porn actor.

by Anonymousreply 159January 9, 2016 5:30 PM

I'd love it if there were gyms with personal trainers around here but I live in the middle of nowhere.

by Anonymousreply 160January 9, 2016 5:46 PM

Sometimes I think I would like to try bodybuilding at least once, but not because I have a passion for it, no, I just would like to try it once only because I want to experience first hand all the homoerotic thing that surrounds and characterises the activity, I want to see how people react to my eventual muscular body, especially other bodybuilders just to see if it's true that there is a lot of disguised flirting and sexual compliments coded so that no one perceives them as sexual. And then, when getting on stage I would like to see if I see people in the audience hungry for muscle.

I am also a bit shy and then I would have to work on semi-nudity which makes me a bit uncomfortable. Bodybuilding is so much about breaking taboos and pushing (sex) boundaries because of what demands in order to put your body on a stage. A bodybuilder basically becomes a soft version of a male stripper.

by Anonymousreply 161January 9, 2016 8:56 PM

Thanks for sharing that R158

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by Anonymousreply 162January 12, 2016 3:12 PM

I live in NYC and don't know even the first place to start to get a reliable trainer.

Where should I go?

by Anonymousreply 163January 12, 2016 3:29 PM

I'd suggest that you ask people that you know, R163. Really have a clear sense of what your objectives and goals are before engaging a trainer. If you belong to a gym, observe various trainers that you feel you may relate to. A LOT of trainers will offer a free session, but honestly you can't tell too much after one session. Try to pay as little as possible, and until you find someone that you like, take advantage of offers like those provided in the link.

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by Anonymousreply 164January 12, 2016 3:39 PM

People have goals. I get up early to help them.

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by Anonymousreply 165February 12, 2016 7:38 PM

my guy had a life change and had to drop me; well, he didn't have to, but he did

I was more attached than I realize and now I've become a fat fuck again

time to turn to a woman: Jenny Craig

by Anonymousreply 166February 12, 2016 8:36 PM

Isn't that the muslim guy who got his trip to US Disneyland rejected by the US? R162

by Anonymousreply 167February 13, 2016 6:30 PM

I'm seeing A LOT of this outside in the park now that it is getting warmer. It seems as if the fitness craze, (and it should be life and not a craze), is really growing.

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by Anonymousreply 168March 31, 2016 2:14 PM

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by Anonymousreply 169April 5, 2016 11:08 AM

There are legitimate trainers of course, but I was so naive when I started my job at a country club. I had no clue why the male personal trainers (looked like models) oozed sleaze no matter how clean-cut. I'm the last person alive that doesn't know that rich ladies like to screw the help, and their country club knows it. And so do some of the trainers. And tennis pros...

by Anonymousreply 170April 5, 2016 11:33 AM

I've never had one, but I see them at the store shopping with women and their newborns. I guess in my area they'll go grocery shopping with you.

by Anonymousreply 171April 5, 2016 11:35 AM

The PT I hired was great. He was a recent college grad who was into health and fitness. In darn good shape. He de-mystified the gym, and walked me through it all. I learned so much from him. I am no longer afraid to walk into a gym and no longer clueless. He has since moved on and has started his career. So, yes, having a PT accomplished a great deal for this formerly out of shape guy. I never did figure out if he was gay or straight. He claimed to have a girlfriend, but I wondered. Oh, and he was HOT!

by Anonymousreply 172April 5, 2016 1:05 PM

Nude training

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by Anonymousreply 173May 15, 2016 10:23 PM

Except for one who is tall and lean, the look for personal trainers at my gym, has morphed into muscle gut, big chest, and big arms. Kind of short. High and tight hair with big beards. Out of their gym clothes they all wear these skinny leg, tight sweat pants and really tight shirts. It's weird. Unattractive. I hope I described the look enough so you know what I'm talking about. The clean and lean one is hot as hell though.

by Anonymousreply 174May 15, 2016 10:30 PM

At times, personal trainers look like a luxury although I'm aware many of them don't make much money this way.

by Anonymousreply 175May 22, 2016 12:45 AM

My personal trainer recently admitted that more than one of his female clients pay him to fuck them as well as train them. They must love his big dick you can never miss in his shorts. Doesn't even try and hide it.

by Anonymousreply 176May 22, 2016 12:56 AM

Ineteresting. Heterosexual sex is always glorified so no one (or most) wouldn't call a personal trainer of this kind a whore, but when one of them has sex with men he is a whore and has no morals.

Such double standards.

by Anonymousreply 177May 22, 2016 1:08 AM

R177 i asked him if he ever did that with male clients( and no i wasn't making an offer since i'm settled down) and he said he'd thought about it but doubted he could do it since other dudes just are not his thing sexually. i Just laughed and said yeah it would probably be a deal breaker if you can't get and keep it up. Hes refreshingly honest about the whole thing. Helping him meet his financial goals and pussy is pussy he said

by Anonymousreply 178May 22, 2016 1:20 AM

There are some who are very good and others who aren't. The "fitness" "models" I would avoid. These guys usually compete or aspire to compete in the WBFF or IFBB and you can't get to this level without drugs. You will not achieve their physique unless you use (which you can if you want). And, don't be fooled by their work out plans, diets or genetics when they tell you this is how they achieve their look. It's drugs. It is impossble to achieve their look without drugs.

by Anonymousreply 179May 22, 2016 1:28 AM

Avoid trainers and people at the gym who write epic long philosophies about "life" on their Instagram. They get real "deep" about working out and the meaning of life -- with selfies all over their account.

Have you seen these guys? Good lord.

by Anonymousreply 180May 22, 2016 1:39 AM

That's a very open personal trainer, R178

But gym culture which has been hijacked by heterosexual men celebrates and rewards these practices. The more a man can confirm heterosexuality the better.

by Anonymousreply 181May 22, 2016 1:49 AM

According to the site Englishlads.com many of their guys are PT.

by Anonymousreply 182May 22, 2016 3:39 AM

Does anybody think sexuality (sex drive/desire, etc) plays a role to some extent in the motivation to pursue jobs/careers so linked to or based on muscular appearance?

by Anonymousreply 183May 31, 2016 7:44 AM

it might be just a personal view, but in my opinion, one should be sexually attracted to one's personal trainer. and one hopes that increasingly he is to you too. surely an ideal personal trainer is a live-in trainer who controls all training and nutrition, etc. you live together, and are good friends, and have sex together too on occasions when both feel it is right.

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by Anonymousreply 184August 7, 2016 4:34 AM

I don't see why you should feel attarcted to your personal trainer; I can understand though that if he has an appealing appearance you may feel attracted to him, I don't see the need to feel attracted to one of them.

by Anonymousreply 185August 8, 2016 4:13 PM

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by Anonymousreply 186August 10, 2016 8:46 PM

Almost any guy with some muscle mass call themselves "personal trainers".

by Anonymousreply 187August 11, 2016 1:25 AM

Or "coaches". Or "online coach".

by Anonymousreply 188August 11, 2016 1:50 AM

People use their bodies if they can in order to make some money.

by Anonymousreply 189August 19, 2016 12:45 AM

What is YOUR, (MY), excuse???

This made me cry...

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by Anonymousreply 190October 4, 2016 7:56 PM

[quote] My personal trainer recently admitted that more than one of his female clients pay him to fuck them as well as train them. They must love his big dick you can never miss in his shorts. Doesn't even try and hide it.

Do you live in a Lifetime movie?

by Anonymousreply 191October 4, 2016 10:02 PM

I worked with a PT in the early 90s in West Hollywood, at Todd Tramp's Fitness on LaCienega. My expectations were way too high; I thought he'd turn me into a muscleguy. He did not. But I learned a lot from him about working out that I still remember to this day, and these days I am happy w the shape I'm in.

Like someone upthread said, I wanted a PT that I had some degree of attraction to, and with this guy I did not. And he was not bad looking; he did a few naked guy greeting cards and also ended up in a spread in BlueBoy or one of those mags.

He also put me on a low fat/high protein diet that basically eliminated anything that had any flavor. That was tough.

by Anonymousreply 192October 5, 2016 1:03 AM

This level of honesty is very uncommon to hear from men who engage in bodybuilding, but recently, I found a video where a man admits that the majority of heterosexual men who engage in this activity do so mainly because they want to increase their chances to go to bed with women, good-looking women. He then talks about how to please them sexually in order to keep them around them for ever.

Most deny that their interest in muscularity has a lot to do with sex because there's the fear that admitting will give their activity a bad reputation.

by Anonymousreply 193October 5, 2016 1:26 PM

I love how he pats my ass when I squat. gives it a little squeeze

I spend at least fifteen minutes on my knees too

by Anonymousreply 194October 5, 2016 1:28 PM

Wilton Manor

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by Anonymousreply 195December 12, 2016 12:27 AM

I want one like this bro

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by Anonymousreply 196January 13, 2017 1:05 AM

But you already know, no one is gay in the world of muscle. Even when they do hay porn they are not gay, just g4p... R196

by Anonymousreply 197January 13, 2017 2:28 PM

But many are bi or fluid !!!

by Anonymousreply 198January 13, 2017 8:46 PM

[quote]But many are bi or fluid !!!

Ohhhhhh.... that's SO true!

by Anonymousreply 199January 13, 2017 9:03 PM

Fluid?

That's a Tumblr joke.

by Anonymousreply 200January 14, 2017 12:55 AM

In the muscle world heterosexuality is compulsory.

by Anonymousreply 201February 24, 2017 12:09 AM

You can do things with bros, but you can't take on a gay identity or label

by Anonymousreply 202February 24, 2017 12:24 AM

The same thing people say about muslims, that they have sex with the same sex, but it is forbidden to identify as gay/homosexual.

by Anonymousreply 203February 24, 2017 12:50 AM

What do DLers commonly pay for a PT? I think I would enjoy having one to learn how to do things properly and efficiently. I could definitely stand to lose a few.

by Anonymousreply 204March 21, 2020 6:57 PM

At better Toronto gyms, it's usually $90-$100 (Canadian) per session.

by Anonymousreply 205March 21, 2020 7:09 PM

Speaking as a professional, the best clients are the ones who buy all the gear I sell on commission.

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