Do you enjoy rough trade?

it's what I like best. so many times I've decided "no" because it just seemed too dangerous, but when I've said, "Yes" it's been the best sex ever.

OP, do you have ANY self-respect?

I would have been angry and humiliated after that encounter, and I most definitely wouldn't have jerked off because of it.

Some people, I swear...

go away, priss pot,

R3 = sissy fag who likes being shit on, literally.

Open wide, R3.

I don't get the being spit on and slapped around crap

MARY!

That was me OP, and rearranging your Precious Moments figurines was not "Trashing your bedroom" but tidying up a little so I could get out. You live in a pigsty.

LOL R7!

Once I met a guy who was into all the S&M and bondage stuff. I figured I'd try it. It was more about acting it out than really being hurt.

It was fun for those few hours. Don't think I need to try it again. Sort of like when had that fisting phase.

I got really scared doing a bondage scene in college. The guy became so crazed and wild-eyed and mean. Never again.

R9, fisting isn't a phase, because anal prolapse is forever.

I had a guy bite my dick clean off while he was sucking me -- it was so hot!

I like those triga pornos with those kinds of guys... in reality, it freaks me out because I don't know how far they are going with it. And, sometimes it's annoying. I had one guy like that...super hot shaved head, blue eyes, 6'3 solid beef... just wanted to fuck my face for half an hour - but his dick was so thick it was nearly impossible & I was gagging half the time. He was so hot as fuck - but he wouldn't even kiss or do anything else...so it just kinda ended up being lame. I had a nearly identical experience with a construction worker. They both kinda make me semi-hard right now because they were HOT but the sex wasn't that fun.

I love it when they get rough, rough makes it fun.

I've always been on the top side of these hookups. Bondage is a lot of work though, like having a 2nd job. I just want to get head and fuck them for a couple hours.

Slapping the shite outta them is for dessert

Rough is better, it's healthier

I really shouldn't read this...

I saw a therapist once because I can never seem to bring myself to get into a relationship. I just like really rough sex with guys. He basically said I'm fucked up.

I don't like kissing. Sure fire way to kill my boner. I was picked on by my dad for being a sissy and later, in high school, by this group of totally hot guys. It was my freshman year, and they were a group of seniors. I was scared of them and attracted to them at the same time. The 3 of them beat the crap out of me after school one day. They took turns slapping my face and punching me in the stomach.

Then they made me suck their dicks, and I loved it. Two of them held me down and the 3rd one fucked my ass. It hurt like hell, but it was so hot. I guess that's what started it.

Oh yeah ..........

Do rough trade guys usually stink like b.o. and sweat?

I imagine that they do. Yuck.

Sweat is sexy

R19/OP, your story about your high school experience sounds almost exactly like this short story I read once called "Brad's Head Revisited, '94." Like almost exactly the same. Have you, by any chance, read it? It was in a UK-based literary journal called Glitterwolf Magazine.

There's this really skinny gay guy in the early 80s who is tormented by this group of hot dudes who eventually gang-rape him in a locker room. The story is told in two parts that alternate throughout: one part is through the eyes of one of the hot guys who rapes the kid and the other is from the point of view of a power bottom porn star (kind of Joey Stefano-esque) who you eventually find out is the skinny fag from the beginning. It was really good.

I love it when they get rough.

Rough me up!

OP's scenario has no appeal. Neither as an observer or a participant. Spitting is gross. I don't need violins or roses during sex, but I don't want my ass kicked or to be abused either. That scene is all yours, OP ....Enjoy.

I prefer Spitting And Violins!

Roses and ass kicking for me, please!

OP's scenario never happened.

Yes I can enjoy rough trade. But I'm 52 now and its too humiliating. I am a slut so have enjoyed all kinds of different lovers. You have to sample everything at the buffet, no?

R28, I'm in love

R20 Yum

He's hot.

What was that odd porn site bukbuddies? Mainly just photos and Liam videos here and there but All of the guys were rough trade types.

YES!

Old Reliable is your go to for rough trade images

I like regular looking blue collar types but the idea of getting abused and slapped around by a guy just sounds like you have damage.

I love getting roughed up

It sounds like he invented the story.

I like rough guys who do mutually agreed upon role playing of rough trade. There's a difference. Spitting and slapping was quite a trend at least in Europe for a number of years. Latin rough trade will slap you and insult you, too.

You are not supposed to fear for your life. Its role-play. What the OP described, if it really happened, I doubt he would have whacked off after the guy left. Also he doesn't say that he tried to get the trade off him and out the door. Which is what any mentally healthy person would do.

People are so weird...I'd rather be a robot.

I would rather be roughed traded.

that doesn't make sense, R39

A few months ago I ran into a Wawa (gas station) in Delaware and noticed this cute guy standing outside with a roller bag. He was clearly a meth head or heroin addict and his eyes lit up when I looked at him and smiled. On my way out he subtly grabbed his crotch while looking at me, but I didn't want him to become my problem for the night. Yeah, the sex would've been cool...however, there was no way I was going to let him crash at my hotel (paid for by the government).

He was fundamentally my type too...tall, dark hair, mid-30s...

Rough trade just seems hot in theory, not reality.

You brought some guy home and got off on him assaulting you, calling you slurs and trashing your place? You've got some issues, bub.

Yeah, he needs a new housekeeper

I like to see it in porn, but not real life.

Only on a sunday

I was with a guy once; he was much bigger and way stronger than I am; at one point, we're in his bed in the dark and I was starting to get sleepy after we'd messed around a lot; he put his hands around my neck and started talking dirty; it was this incredible turn on in some ways, but I was scared b/c he was so strong. I said at one point: 'please...accidents happen so easily...' and then he let go and somehow I knew he wouldn't try it again.

I can't fully explain how I felt. But I'd prefer never to dance around that stuff again; accidents do happen easily.

R18 LOL

Well, I never.

To me rough trade implies something more along the lines of Andy Warhol’s Blow Job, more than rough sex. A guy who will let you blow him for money because he’s hard up, rather than someone who’s looking to be a nasty dom.

Was at a large party in my late 20s. Shirts off. This creepy older guy kept fucking with my nipples. I’d swat him away and he’d be back in two minutes. This six two, muscular and blond white trash dude came out of nowhere and hit the creep in the jaw so hard I heard it. My white trash hero then said only, “leave him alone.” Yeah, we fucked that night.

HOT, R50! I have always wanted to be rescued by a prince charming.

I once brought home a 6'3" musclehead state trooper who looked like he was drawn by Tom of Finland. Knee high boots, jodhpurs, tight short sleeved uniform shirt, mirrored Aviator sunglasses, motorcycle helmet... the works.

When i took him home, he then gave me a vicious face-slapping, and then told me he would ruin my reputation all over town!

R51 It was SO hot, for an hour or so. I had to take him home, because he got kicked out of the party. A lot of hot making out and climbing on each other, but he started saying, “so, this is how the other half lives,” over and over. I said, “nah, we are the same half. This is just where I live. Stop being weird.” And we got naked and fucked around, but never completely serious. He was just too freaked out. Never saw him again but have fantasized about him a thousand times.

I sat on a full tube of Clarins moisturizer after sex, it popped open and ruined his brand new Laura Ashley bedspread.

Literal violence.

[quote] All while calling me filthy names - faggot, freak, sissy, bitch, cunt.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

My God the faggotry here is endless.

Keep them coming, please!

I fucked a guy once who wanted me to punch him, I eventually did it, very half-heartedly, but I could tell he wanted me to go harder, on his pecs and abs. I definitely wasn't rough enough for him though as we fucked 3 times but I never saw him again.

I have liked rough sex. And I have like rough trade. I’m sure it has to do with growing up in a homophobic environment/world - but eventually it’s just not worth overanalyzing stuff. As long as there is no long term damage, whatever gets your rocks off. But usually the fantasy is better than the reality. Which is why I’ve just done porn lately - easier, safer, quicker, cleaner and cheaper.

One guy wanted me to hit him, slap him, force him in a mock rape, but I didn't want to be too assertive because i was worried that as part of the role play he would fight back and hit ME instead.

A few times. I used to enjoy it rough like that but I kind of knew I was working through some issues. Being bullied in school and not accepting myself and the anger I had fueled my deep hunger sexually. So sex became cathartic. So for a long time, yeah call me a worthless fucking faggot while you pound my hole. I’m gonna try to piss you off some you be mad enough to pound me harder.

I eventually let go a lot of toxicity and thus my need for that kind of thing went away for the most part.

I like rough trade sex but learned to do without after age 50. It's dangerous! I thought it might be safer to hire well known long working escorts to deliver the thrill. But even they can blur the line between roleplaying and abuse. When I was younger I had some older gay friends and 2 of them were killed by rough trade, which they had no sense seeing in their 60s!

R49 makes an important distinction

Mary OP, please make use of the services of a qualified mental health provider.

Good point R60. In general I’ve tried to avoid escorts once I passed 50. It’s a black hole of money - for a few minutes thrill. Thankfully my sex drive is declining. I’ve known 2 older guys in my neighborhood who were killed by rough trade in their 70s. Not worth it. Save the money and avoid the real risk. I see the scene in Wilton Manors - like Johnson’s - and I can see how it’s an attractive indulgence. But none of those guys seem happy. Bars and hookers is not my ideal,regiment.