Let me start by saying that I don't want to provoke anyone. This is only a personal experience and I'd like to share it because it does make me feel uncomfortable.
So, I have recently realized that I'm experiencing a mild attraction to women. It's something that had never happened before, and I'm not happy about it mainly because I really like being gay. The thing that annoys me the most is that it comes and goes (it doesn't happen that frequently), but when it arrives it can be pretty intense, and it has occurred increasingly frequently over the course of the last few months.
I have thought that maybe it has to do with hormonal changes brought about with age (I'm in my early thirties), and I wonder how to "correct" it, not because I have anything against women, but because I've always been happy as I was and this isn't a welcome change. I don't really have any interest in women at all sexually or romantically, but on some days I see a particular woman and I get the same feeling of excitement and lust that I normally get when I see a guy I really like.
What surprises me the most is that it had never happened in the past (maybe two or three times over the last two years or so), and I never really minded because it wasn't intense at all, and we all react to beauty. But these feelings have become slightly more frequent over the last year, and since I am rather unhappy about them, I do notice them more when they come, and this just makes me feel really annoyed.
As I have said before, I don't mind women - they are OK. I have two sisters and female friends and I get along really well with them, but it was never sexual at all. Now, I occasionally surprise myself checking out co-workers and a few random women on the street, and it's weird and unsettling. My attraction to men hasn't diminished at all, by the way. It's just that it seems to have "extended" to a territory to which I'd never gone before, and it kinda sucks.
To add some context, I have been single for the last three years and I really crave a stable relationship, but all the guys I meet appear to be assholes and I have had problems with cheating boyfriends in the past. There's also a co-worker I really like who is also gay (and obviously, a guy), but I'm weary of pursuing anything with someone at work and he is really promiscuous, so I'm not sure I should pursue anything with him...
So yes. Is it hormonal? Is it that I'm just desperate for affection and looking for it where I don't really want, or need to find it? Could it be that I find women more relatable emotionally, because they are easy to communicate to and always talk about monogamy?
I don't know. I certainly don't want a relationship with a woman because I just see them as friends and the sort of people with whom you can have a "sisterly" relationship with (in the brother/sister kind of way), but as I said before the attraction is more physical, and it disappears for long periods, but then comes back very strongly for a couple of days before going away again.
More than anything, it's annoying, because as I have said before, I am happy as a gay man in spite of all the relationship drama I've been through in the past.
So, I would really welcome constructive comments and well, a solution of sorts, because as I have said before, this is an annoyance.
Thanks.