Bears are the new queens
Do these fat-ass bitches really think that 100 lbs. of extra fat-rolls and a beard makes them more "manly?"
Bears are queenier than Richard Simmons is e.ffeminate.
And mean as the day is long to any man who isn't 50 lb. overweight.
If you're a fat bear, explain yourself.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | December 29, 2021 6:36 PM
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Do bear parties consist of games that involve finding tchotchkes beneath the folds of your fat?
by Anonymous | reply 1 | June 20, 2015 9:46 AM
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Those outside the 'bear' world call them hogs.
by Anonymous | reply 2 | June 20, 2015 9:50 AM
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They call themselves "husky" and "stocky" R2. To the real world that equates to grossly obese.
And yes R1. That's exactly what bear parties consist of.
by Anonymous | reply 3 | June 20, 2015 10:02 AM
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Bears like to think that they are more "real" and more "down to earth" than non-obese gay men ---- the "lesbians" of male homosexuality, I suppose. But in reality, they're fucking worse than a WeHo or Chelsea queen!
by Anonymous | reply 4 | June 20, 2015 10:13 AM
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C'mon bears - defend yourselves.
by Anonymous | reply 5 | June 20, 2015 10:22 AM
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R4, why not? When someone pointed out on DL that straight men are much more likely to be obese than gay men, the tone of the responses was that that was due to straight men being less superficial, that they're sophisticated book readers, not aging gym rats. Why should that not be true of gay men who allow themselves to grow fat?
by Anonymous | reply 6 | June 20, 2015 10:30 AM
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Bears - please explain why you are physically, emotionally or morally superior than non-obese gay men?
by Anonymous | reply 7 | June 20, 2015 10:32 AM
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This is the funniest thread ever, thanks OP.
by Anonymous | reply 8 | June 20, 2015 10:36 AM
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how about skinny bears? yes they do exist!
by Anonymous | reply 9 | June 20, 2015 10:46 AM
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C'mon bears --- you're "in." You're so much more superior than the mainstream gay world --- why not defend yourselves?
by Anonymous | reply 10 | June 20, 2015 10:47 AM
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R10 they are sleeping now, heavy slumbers.
by Anonymous | reply 11 | June 20, 2015 10:51 AM
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Surely, some of these fat fucks are feasting on a midnight sack...
by Anonymous | reply 12 | June 20, 2015 10:55 AM
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Does a bear shit in the woods?
by Anonymous | reply 14 | June 20, 2015 11:14 AM
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I'm amazed by how laconic these manly bears are.... really, nothing to add?
by Anonymous | reply 15 | June 20, 2015 11:25 AM
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Perhaps they're hibernating.
by Anonymous | reply 16 | June 20, 2015 11:38 AM
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[quote]the tone of the responses was that that was due to straight men being less superficial, that they're sophisticated book readers, not aging gym rats.
WTF?! The straight worship is clearly going out of hand. A lot of straight men are just pigs who let themselves go and don't look after their appearance. It has nothing to do with them being more cultured. On average gay men are.
by Anonymous | reply 17 | June 20, 2015 2:27 PM
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Also I love actual bears. Big masculine bodies and personalities.
Fat queens who try to call themselves bears are a joke to me.
by Anonymous | reply 18 | June 20, 2015 2:28 PM
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Worse than Hitler? Fat, obese bears making a "career" out of bartending at the local gay leather/western bar and pretending they're at the top of the gay food chain.
by Anonymous | reply 19 | June 20, 2015 2:41 PM
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r10 Nothing to defend, friend. We're here, we're queer, we're older and we have more insurance.
by Anonymous | reply 21 | June 20, 2015 6:50 PM
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Bear has nothing to do with manliness. Bear means big and hairy. Bear community is about accepting fat people. Nothing to do with masculinty.
by Anonymous | reply 22 | June 20, 2015 7:24 PM
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I have a friend who is apparently a hottie in the bear-world. He's got an attractive face and good personality but is probably 150 lbs overweight. Every time he posts a picture on Facebook, there are at least a dozen fatties lined up to give a "woof" to their leader. It's embarrassing, really. This guy is obese to an unhealthy level but he has these fetishists who reinforce that it's ok to be that big.
by Anonymous | reply 24 | June 20, 2015 9:15 PM
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Bears are like guys who work out to be super masculine and ruin the image by looking like Tarzan and sounding like Jane.
by Anonymous | reply 25 | June 20, 2015 9:29 PM
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I love the bears. I have always found the bear community to be very warm and inviting.
by Anonymous | reply 26 | June 20, 2015 11:19 PM
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Every clique is full of horrible people. They are horrible in different ways of course. Painting everyone of a similar body type with the same brush is lazy, stupid and tellingly bitter. Anyway, it seems like you are describing the people who are highly visible in your community so you're not really taking into account the majority who aren't interested in the bars, pride parades or putting themselves on display in public. You could describe every clique of barflies with scathing, mean terms and be fairly accurate.
by Anonymous | reply 28 | June 21, 2015 1:41 AM
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I have a bear friend from college. Sometimes if I'm in town visiting family it coincides with some birthday party or social event he's throwing and i go along.
Last time, all his bear friends were there. Some are so fat they have to sit around the dining table because they can't get up off the couch or an occasional chair without straining and groaning. All the talk is of cheesecake, snacks, Science Fiction, they like Dr. Who, and they are extremely queeny, one of them put on some Nina Simone one time and one of them started tearing up.
by Anonymous | reply 29 | June 21, 2015 1:48 AM
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Bears aren't such uptight bitches as you fucks.
by Anonymous | reply 30 | June 21, 2015 1:53 AM
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R30 = chubby chaser who feeds his bear fuck buds giant pizzas in bed
by Anonymous | reply 31 | June 21, 2015 2:04 AM
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I know a former svelte twink, he was very popular due to his looks, and very much a clothes horse and preening himself. Then he hit 40 and developed middle aged spread. He disappeared for a while and one day I saw two bears on the street laughing and joking around and I thought, oh, a bear couple, they look fun. And as I got closer I saw it was this former twink guy I knew, he was now fat and so he;d grown a beard and become a bear. He would't meet my eye thought I know he saw and recognised me.
by Anonymous | reply 32 | June 21, 2015 2:07 AM
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I suspect all of this emotional damage done by these apparently Satanic chubby bears who refuse to hate themselves, and their bodies is a bit overblown.
I mean, after 40 or so, who gives a shit what other people do, or enjoy? I am simply not overly concerned anymore, as I just stay busy living my own life!
by Anonymous | reply 33 | June 21, 2015 2:11 AM
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Seems more like "fraus" of the gay world, to read your description.
But I'm just playing along and I'm not entirely convinced of your theory.
by Anonymous | reply 34 | June 23, 2015 1:49 AM
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What R4 wrote. They are extremely cliquey, snobby, and more effeminate than twinks and drag queens.
by Anonymous | reply 35 | December 2, 2018 4:00 PM
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R33 a lot of bears have overeating/weight issue problems, and extremely poor body images and self esteem.
by Anonymous | reply 36 | December 2, 2018 4:02 PM
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OP hates fat men so much I would not be surprised if he were a childhood fatty himself practicing a fascism against himself.
by Anonymous | reply 37 | June 5, 2020 2:11 PM
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The thing with bears is, if you refuse their advances because you don’t like their weight they go all crazy on YOU and try to throw it back on you and make it seem like you are the one with the issue. Look I’d love to lose 10 pounds as much as the next bitch and have the chest I had in my 30s and even 40s but I’m in my mid 50s and I can just be settled with “it’s over” and be fine with that. I’m not that desperate that I need to go out and let some whale that doesn’t have the decency to shave his goddamn back lay on top of me.
by Anonymous | reply 38 | June 5, 2020 2:25 PM
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Anyone who thinks that muscle bros can be exclusionary and elitist, has never had to witness the antics of the bear "society" in SF.
by Anonymous | reply 39 | June 5, 2020 2:25 PM
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I've just always found the self-segregation bit sort of bizarre.
Like "I'm fat and hairy and I'm only going to hang out with other fat hairy guys even though being fat and hairy may be the only thing we have in common!"
TBH, most self-identified "bears" I've met are very emotionally damaged. It's not easy being hetero and fat and hairy and unattractive your whole life. Throw in gay and you've got a lifetime of therapy appointments to look forward to.
They also want everyone else to self-segregate in a similar manner and are peeved that "twinks" and "otters' and "wolves" don't all hang together and that "otters" don't go to "Otter parties" and "Otter weekends" and whatnot.
by Anonymous | reply 41 | June 5, 2020 2:29 PM
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All these years I pictured Bronze Age Gay as a Mr. Rogers-esque character.
by Anonymous | reply 42 | June 5, 2020 2:32 PM
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OMG, this thread really is hysterical. How Dare You not be a gym bunny! How dare you not worship me for being thin and fit! You must be so emotionally damaged to not think being a twink is the ideal!!!
by Anonymous | reply 43 | June 5, 2020 2:34 PM
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This thread is an experiment run by the Russian Discord Sowing Task Force ahead of the election.
by Anonymous | reply 44 | June 5, 2020 2:34 PM
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I'm thin, and I love bears. Many kinda of like me too. We have a lot of sweaty fun together. Opposites often attract.
by Anonymous | reply 45 | June 5, 2020 2:36 PM
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R43 that’s not it. The bears are the ones that go crazy.
by Anonymous | reply 46 | June 5, 2020 2:36 PM
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Has anyone ever been fisted by a bear? What about a black bear? What about a BLM bear? Has anyone ever been fisted by a BLM black bear?
by Anonymous | reply 48 | June 5, 2020 2:56 PM
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I’m a bear, and like every gay clique, there are A List bears and a hierarchy that would make high school mean girls proud. But most are just fine. Just like most thinks aren’t stuck up bitches. Honestly, the most annoying thing to me is when twinks and muscle bros get mad because I’m not interested. Kind of a “how dare someone of your weight not find me attractive and feel so grateful I’m hitting on you.”
by Anonymous | reply 49 | June 5, 2020 3:10 PM
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Could be me - not a queen at all and height/weight proportional. But hairy as all get out and classify myself as bear/werewolf. Of course also have the daddy thing going on too.
by Anonymous | reply 50 | June 5, 2020 3:13 PM
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[quote] They call themselves "husky" and "stocky"
Nonsense!
by Anonymous | reply 52 | June 5, 2020 5:27 PM
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Thanks for the info, R51. You are a very good hall monitor.
by Anonymous | reply 53 | June 5, 2020 5:27 PM
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R32 the twink to bear you speak of is Andrew Sullivan I'm guessing.
by Anonymous | reply 54 | June 5, 2020 5:31 PM
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Lol, r53. Thank you. So sick of these hall monitor cunts.
Offsite Linkby Anonymous | reply 55 | June 5, 2020 5:35 PM
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About a year ago I was at West Side Club in NYC. I was having sex with a MUSCLE bear. He wanted to video himself giving me a blowjob. I kept saying no. He started to give me an attitude- You're lucky I'm having sex with you. I wouldn't look at you on the street. I guess I might be insulted if he was a SLIM good looking guy. But this BEARDED MUSCLE bear was NOT my type. I told him to leave my room. I NEVER had anyone give me such an attitude.
by Anonymous | reply 56 | June 5, 2020 6:36 PM
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OP types fat, and sounds like one of those tired cliches that hates anyone he doesn't wanna fuck.
I mean, 0.00000000001 for finding a new group of gay men to bitch about, I guess.
by Anonymous | reply 57 | June 5, 2020 6:40 PM
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Each to their own. I dont find them remotely attractive at all, but I have found them no worse (or better) than anyone else.
Its the minority like R38 describes that irritate me, they dont understand that fat guys are a minority interest. And the ones that cant seem to read or comprehend what is written in dating profiles especially in the header or first sentence and message you even though you profile specifies "skinny guys wanted" are especially bloody annoying.
But most arent like that, the ones I've met in social settings have been chill. They know there are enough chasers out there that they need not go without even if they're obese, or they go with each other, either is fine by me, live and let live
by Anonymous | reply 58 | June 5, 2020 6:51 PM
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There is a handful (and I mean a SMALL handful) of men who are slightly overweight, hairy, charming, broad shouldered like a line-backer, big-dicked, well adjusted and devastatingly handsome. These men are very desirable.
The problem is every fat slob thinks he's that guy. The handful of guys I described above are very rare.
The ones falling outside that handful are a mess! Those fat slobs are mean, carry an air of superiority, and pretend to be exclusionary because deep down they know they are fat and nasty and undesirable. It is a defense mechanism. I don't fuck with those types.
by Anonymous | reply 62 | December 29, 2021 5:36 PM
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"Liz is rather pretty now. A year ago she was pretty fat." - C. Pierce
by Anonymous | reply 63 | December 29, 2021 5:40 PM
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More stereotypes, and more sweeping generalisations: as per normal on DL. I tend to find many of them attractive, as I rather like hairy big blokes with beards, I and don’t mind some extra weight. They don’t necessarily need to be über masculine either.
I can see being concerned about their weight IF it’s really in health problem territory, from the POV of loved ones, but that’s not really what any of this false concern is about.
To those who object to them hanging out together, or coming off as much too exclusive, has it ever occurred that’s exclusively what many of them happen to find attractive? I’ve been politely turned down by a few: I wasn’t hairy enough, or big enough to them. Not all are like this, but suspect many probably are, and that’s their choice. I appreciated being let down easily and politely.
by Anonymous | reply 64 | December 29, 2021 6:36 PM
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