R47, you have reading comprehension issues.
Here is what I said
[quote]And no, I'm not saying people shouldn't have friends and should be only devoted to each other, but maintaining an intense relationship with an ex even when you have moved into something as serious as marriage, is wrong.
The second thing you did was hilariously predictable, and I called it but apparently, again you'd not read that when you said
[quote]Obviously from this board, maintaining relationships isn't for everyone--it requires a certain amount of maturity.
After I'd said
[quote]And they call it adult, when for me it seems quite immature because it's an unwillingness to give your current partner everything of you, emotionally. That's selfish, and dishonest.
Face it, if you feel the need to keep them that much in your life, rather than cut them out to avoid unnecessary confusion or (if suitable) keep contact to a healthy minimum or at least with CLEAR boundaries (i.e. not texting like you're married, not going out alone with just them, not insisting they join you and your partner for an akward non-sexual threesome) then you shouldn't have split up with them in the first place, and like 'Walter' above you're a selfish asshole who just wants to have their cake and eat it.
You think you're being mature, but I think R47 and people like you will always have a partner whose feelings are being ignored or who is too scared to bring them up and call you on your selfish bullshit.
You already have enough friends, you don't need to keep exes around for that purpose. Or maybe you don't and that's why you do?
You're emotional vampires, I suspect. Or you have an excessive ego that cannot allow you to admit you made a mistake, and so you fall back on the bullshit of 'let's be friends' and then actually do remain friends just to prove yourself right.
Like I said before, anyone that presents me with a 'present' Ex is not going the distance. As red flags go it's up there with the sudden appearance of a crack pipe.