Partnered straight-ish white female, 40 and liberal, here. I occasionally wear caftans, but only at home and never with pearls. I have few friends but many friendly acquaintances. I believe in astrology.
I come here not for presenting holes and soap threads, but for gossip, news, politics, entertainment, and gay perspective. Some posters are humorous, some get in the way with deep vitriol (I usually skip right by them), some are informative, and some are simply compelling writers that give me something to think about.
I like all the gays (caftans, old, young, meat heads, flamers, fashionistas, grammarians, prisspots, socially just, Darfur minders, the insecure, the monied, the poor) except the abusive ones (who worry me).
I saved the best post I've ever read here in email (back in July), because it applies to anyone, gay or not, if they hide:
"...coming out means you don't compartmentalize your life to accommodate your perception of the smallness of others. You give them the benefit of the doubt that they are rational people who are old enough to understand you as a full human being.
You're not a secret agent. You don't hide your beliefs, activities, loves, or desires from the people in your life. You expose yourself to judgment and criticism the same as any other adult.
You're no longer just a witness to heterosexual drama. You're an equal who is facing the same shit as everyone else - no better, no worse..."