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Why do hags think they can come to a gay AA meeting that is for men.

Watch what happens when a male tries to go to a "women's" meeting. Oh

OH MY GOD! SAFE SPACE SAFE SPACE... IM not safe with a man here!!!!

Ask him to leave... get him out. There are other meetings....

Yet, there is always one or two hags who can't stay away from a gay mens meeting.

What is their damage?

by Anonymousreply 7410/30/2013

I had a lesbian AA sponsor years ago. When she was telling her story at a womyn's meeting, she wanted me to hear her, so they had a "group conscience" to vote on whether a man could come to the meeting. She told me afterwards that the vote had almost been a "no," but ultimately I was allowed to attend.

by Anonymousreply 110/26/2013

OP, does the listing state men only or does it say it is a gay meeting? I interpret gay as including lesbians.

by Anonymousreply 210/26/2013


by Anonymousreply 610/26/2013

It is a double standard, but I like the way my specifically labeled gay men's meetings welcome anyone - lesbian, straight, schizophrenic, and/or homeless.

We have had cliques of radical lesbians blow through periodically. They share in some secret code nobody else at the tables understands. Because we have plenty of crazy regulars, nobody pays them much mind and they eventually move on.

I will say that women's meetings seem to gather and disband at a higher rate than others.

by Anonymousreply 910/26/2013

lol @ anyone over the age of 8 who says meh

by Anonymousreply 1010/26/2013

AA is like the Statue of Liberty so anyone can attend.

by Anonymousreply 1110/26/2013

you dont know shit about AA R12 or you wouldnt say something as ignorant.

by Anonymousreply 1210/26/2013

Sounds like a few of the queens on this thread are barely holding on to their sobriety.

R6 You in danger, gurl!!!

by Anonymousreply 1310/26/2013

Don't be ridiculous There are no gay alcoholics. Alcohol has too many calories.

by Anonymousreply 1410/26/2013

So, r6, when talking about getting out the 'gay vote', it doesn't include lesbians?

by Anonymousreply 1510/26/2013

They're health workers sent to observe.

by Anonymousreply 1610/27/2013

"lol @ anyone over the age of 8 who says meh"

This from someone who started a sentence with "lol" and didn't punctuate or capitalize.

by Anonymousreply 1710/27/2013

I'm amused by how petty and excluding the AA folk are.

Memo: Joining fucking ALCOHOLICS Anonymous is not like joining Pebble Beach Country Club. The classy folks aren't exactly clawing down your doors, morons.

by Anonymousreply 1910/27/2013


by Anonymousreply 2210/28/2013

R29, please pass your experience to the group conscience of the womyn only meetings. Find a group of men to go and sit there and make your righteous claim and report back the results.

by Anonymousreply 2910/29/2013


by Anonymousreply 3010/29/2013

Maybe the women that show up, want to have a sex change?

by Anonymousreply 3110/29/2013

Okay, you can have a point without misogyny. Not all women are horrible. I'm a woman, and I agree with you.

If it's specifically stated to be a gay men's group, it is poor form for straights or women to attend. I give them a pass if there is not another meeting they can reasonably attend, though. Everyone needs support and that's why they go. Gently direct them, after the meeting, to other meetings you know of that might fit better (such as ones not labeled GAY MEN ONLY).

by Anonymousreply 3210/29/2013

A.A.A.A.A. An organization for people who drive drunk.

by Anonymousreply 3710/29/2013

In my experience, most women (except maybe the clingiest hag) will shy away from male-oriented space if it is too eXXXplicitly gay (cruisy, very masculinely sexual, gay porny). A chick has to be pretty non-frauish and ballsy to hang out at a place like the Eagle or Faultline (Los Angeles). I've only ever seen chicks stay for a long time in the aforementioned bars before getting the hint that they are invisible or unwanted.

by Anonymousreply 4110/29/2013

^ I meant: I've only seen women stay in places like the Eagle for a short period of time before getting the hint.

by Anonymousreply 4210/29/2013

Oh, that's the other reason why lesbians sometimes attend men's meetings: anonymity.

If they need to vent about something personal, they might not want the rest of their clique to hear about it.

Men's Groups: just waiting for you to stop talking so we can share.

by Anonymousreply 4610/29/2013

Every time someone posts "unhinged," it makes me LOL.

by Anonymousreply 5910/29/2013

[quote]Every time someone posts "unhinged," it makes me LOL.

It's posted so often lately that it just makes me zzzzzzzzzz. It's become about as meaningful as telling someone he's "off his meds," has "mommy issues," or lives in his mother's basement, dining on Cheetos.

by Anonymousreply 6010/29/2013


But what if someone is all those things? WUT THEN?

by Anonymousreply 6110/29/2013

Let's just assume that most people who post here are all those things, r62, and start thinking of some wittier and more original ways to insult them.

by Anonymousreply 6210/29/2013

actually, the CURVES location I went to allowed men. They were called Senior Sneakers.

by Anonymousreply 6410/29/2013

banned? no. Severely mocked? yes.

by Anonymousreply 6810/30/2013

My alcoholic brain loves it when I grow resentful about who else is at the AA Meeting because the resentment exceeds in strength acceptance and serenity which are my portals to my HP.

Then,in the absence of the obstacles of acceptance and serenity, my alcoholic brain can take over, as it is wont to do, and pretty soon I can have just one...

If there is one thing I got out of repeated readings of Chapter 3 of the Big Book, is that nothing, or noone is a match for my alcoholic brain.

If you are at a meeting with me,thank you. Two recovering alcoholics in communication together with their respective higher power exceeds the strength of my alcoholic brain, reinforces serenity and acceptance and keeps that alcohol out of my body.

Still, I do see where there exists a necessity to have a meeting that can specifically target some issues that most other recovering alcoholic can't relate to because of orientation and/or gender.

I know what I write here contradicts itself but the tone of this thread is so disturbing I needed to share.

by Anonymousreply 7110/30/2013

good for you della

by Anonymousreply 7210/30/2013

[quote]Still, I do see where there exists a necessity to have a meeting that can specifically target some issues that most other recovering alcoholic can't relate to because of orientation and/or gender.

Never been an alcoholic/12-stepper, but sure, I can see why a men-only (or women-only, gay-only, etc.) meeting might be desirable and beneficial to participants. And if that's something you want from your meeting, I can understand why you'd feel distressed if people from outside the target group kept showing up and expecting to be included.

It's not the idea that somebody would want to belong to a gay-men-only AA group—or that he'd complain when women intruded— that makes this thread and its OP so revolting. It's the hateful anti-women tone that he set, and a few others gleefully continued.

There's a difference between "Why do women insist on attending my gay-men-only AA meeting? It's disrespectful, and makes it more difficult for me to work on my issues" and "Why do hags and cunts have to exist on planet Earth? I hate them all and will find a new but always tiresome way to express that on DL every five minutes." OP's thread goes in the latter category.

by Anonymousreply 7310/30/2013
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